{"id":44566,"date":"2020-10-08T14:18:48","date_gmt":"2020-10-08T14:18:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=44566"},"modified":"2022-01-30T21:17:04","modified_gmt":"2022-01-30T21:17:04","slug":"quando-deixei-de-o-perseguir-ele-veio-atras-de-mim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/quando-deixei-de-o-perseguir-ele-veio-atras-de-mim\/","title":{"rendered":"Quando deixei de o perseguir, ele veio atr\u00e1s de mim"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Mas que raio aconteceu? Parecia-me que num dia est\u00e1vamos bem e no outro ele estava perdido e assustado.  Dizia que tudo estava a ir muito depressa e que era avassalador.<\/p>\n<p>Ele disse que se sentia perdido. Tinha perdido a no\u00e7\u00e3o de quem era e do que queria. Por isso, perguntou-me se eu lhe podia dar tempo para descobrir o que era.<\/p>\n<p>I said I would give him all the time he needed but everything inside of me screamed NO.&nbsp; I didn\u2019t want us to be apart.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>I didn\u2019t need any time. I knew what I wanted, he was what I wanted and I had absolutely no doubt about it. But what was I supposed to do?&nbsp; <\/b><b>For\u00e7\u00e1-lo a ficar? Isso n\u00e3o era uma op\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Teria feito qualquer coisa por ele, teria movido montanhas para o fazer feliz, estaria disposta a fazer compromissos, mas a \u00fanica coisa que nunca faria era implorar-lhe que ficasse se ele quisesse partir.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>E embora os seus desejos me tenham partido o cora\u00e7\u00e3o, n\u00e3o tive outra op\u00e7\u00e3o sen\u00e3o atend\u00ea-los.<\/p>\n<p><b>I couldn\u2019t physically stop him, I couldn\u2019t run after him, shouting how great I was, how good we had it together, about how many more amazing things lay ahead. <\/b><b>I couldn\u2019t because it made no sense; he was supposed to know that already.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-123090\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor.jpg\" alt=\"jovem mulher triste sentada no ch\u00e3o\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>And if he wasn\u2019t feeling the same way as I did, what option did I have but to let him be and hope deep down that my absence would really make his heart grow fonder. I hoped. But somehow I prepared myself for the worst.<\/p>\n<p><b>Tentei ser racional em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a toda a dor que me estava a percorrer. <\/b><b>Eu sabia que as coisas podiam correr de qualquer maneira, que ele podia nunca mais voltar e que eu podia perd\u00ea-lo para sempre.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Queria lutar por n\u00f3s. Queria telefonar-lhe. Queria enviar-lhe mensagens. Queria ir bater-lhe \u00e0 porta a meio da noite e gritar com ele por ser t\u00e3o est\u00fapido e insens\u00edvel ao deixar-me ir.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Queria que ele me abra\u00e7asse, me beijasse, me acalmasse e me dissesse que n\u00e3o ia a lado nenhum, que estava aqui para ficar. <b>Eu queria fazer isso mais do que tudo, mas decidi ser mais forte do que eu pr\u00f3prio.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Lembrei-me de todos os exemplos da vida real dos meus amigos que tinham estado em situa\u00e7\u00f5es semelhantes. Andavam atr\u00e1s dos seus parceiros como se n\u00e3o houvesse mais nada na vida. Mandavam mensagens.<\/p>\n<p>Enviaram mensagens de texto mesmo quando estas foram ignoradas. Telefonaram at\u00e9 n\u00e3o haver mais nada a fazer ou at\u00e9 os irritarem.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-123091\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-lying-and-using-her-phone.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste deitada e a usar o telem\u00f3vel\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-lying-and-using-her-phone.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-lying-and-using-her-phone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-lying-and-using-her-phone-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-lying-and-using-her-phone-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-lying-and-using-her-phone-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-lying-and-using-her-phone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-lying-and-using-her-phone-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-lying-and-using-her-phone-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Fizeram basicamente tudo o que podiam pensar para os manter na sua vida durante mais algum tempo, mas isso afastou-os ainda mais e n\u00e3o havia volta a dar.<\/p>\n<p><b>Achei que, qualquer que fosse a minha escolha, corria o mesmo risco de o perder. <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/sera-que-ele-volta-se-eu-o-deixar-sozinho-20-ways-to-succes\/\">Ser\u00e1 que ele sentiria a minha falta se eu o deixasse sozinho?<\/a> Ser\u00e1 que ele ia perceber que me amava?<\/p>\n<p>I really couldn\u2019t answer that. But I chose that path. I chose to respect his wishes and see what happened.<\/p>\n<p>I felt that if nothing else, I would at least have my dignity if things didn\u2019t work out the way I wished. I decided to behave like we had broken up and that there was nothing I could really do.<\/p>\n<p>I was so sad that words can\u2019t describe it but I knew there was no other way. I had to grieve for my lost love. I had to put my life back on track and see who I was without him, who I was when he was missing from my life.<\/p>\n<p><b>Por isso, fiz exatamente isso. <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.theodysseyonline.com\/girl-rebuild\" rel=\"noopener\"><b>Comecei a reconstruir-me<\/b><\/a><b>A minha vida, os meus sonhos.&nbsp; <\/b>Claro que n\u00e3o foi nada f\u00e1cil. Tive os meus altos e baixos.<\/p>\n<p>Havia dias em que ficava deitada na cama, bem acordada, sem o conseguir tirar da cabe\u00e7a. Havia dias em que adormecia assim que a minha cabe\u00e7a tocava na almofada.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-123092\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-lying-on-bed.jpg\" alt=\"mulher jovem deitada na cama\" width=\"1536\" height=\"1025\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-lying-on-bed.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-lying-on-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-lying-on-bed-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-lying-on-bed-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-lying-on-bed-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-lying-on-bed-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-lying-on-bed-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1536px) 100vw, 1536px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I had days when I was unable to move. I had days when I conquered the world. But that\u2019s all part of the process that is life.<\/p>\n<p><b>Quando finalmente segui em frente e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/deixar-de-o-perseguir-e-ver-o-que-acontece-6-resultados-possiveis\/\">deixou de o perseguir<\/a>, once I had made peace that we were a part of the past, a shocking thing happened\u2026<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-fazer-com-que-um-homem-te-persiga-usando-a-psicologia-masculina-24-maneiras-de-ter-sucesso\/\"> Ele come\u00e7ou a perseguir-me<\/a>. <\/b>He realized that he had just been freaking out. That he had just got scared. But at that point, I was the one who didn\u2019t know what to say.<\/p>\n<p>I was the one whose heart had been broken into millions of tiny pieces. I was the one who\u2019d had to glue all those pieces back together. I was also the one who still loved him with every broken piece.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why after some time of him being persistent and fighting to get me back, I gave him one more chance.&nbsp;To this day, I haven\u2019t regretted it and I hope I never will.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-123093\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Once-I-Stopped-Chasing-Him-He-Came-After-Me-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Quando deixei de o perseguir, ele veio atr\u00e1s de mim\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Once-I-Stopped-Chasing-Him-He-Came-After-Me-Pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Once-I-Stopped-Chasing-Him-He-Came-After-Me-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Once-I-Stopped-Chasing-Him-He-Came-After-Me-Pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What the hell happened? It seemed to me like one day, we had it great and the next, he was lost and scared.&nbsp; He said that everything was going too fast and it was just overwhelming. He said he felt lost. He had lost track of who he was and what he wanted. So he&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":123095,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29647],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-44566","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-seducing-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29647,"label":"seducing men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Once-I-Stopped-Chasing-Him-He-Came-After-Me-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29647,"name":"seducing men","slug":"seducing-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29647,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Seducing men is much more than wearing a hot outfit. 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