{"id":44571,"date":"2019-10-08T13:16:25","date_gmt":"2019-10-08T13:16:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=44571"},"modified":"2022-03-07T16:19:33","modified_gmt":"2022-03-07T16:19:33","slug":"6-coisas-que-gostava-de-saber-sobre-o-abuso-antes-de-o-sofrer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-coisas-que-gostava-de-saber-sobre-o-abuso-antes-de-o-sofrer\/","title":{"rendered":"6 coisas que eu gostaria de saber sobre o abuso antes de o sofrer"},"content":{"rendered":"

Trust me when I tell you that you have no clue about abuse (whether it\u2019s physical, verbal, emotional, or sexual) and abusive relationships until you\u2019ve dealt with one.<\/p>\n

That is why you should take advice from an expert: from a woman who\u2019s been atrav\u00e9s deste inferno<\/a> e que, felizmente, escapou com vida.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that my experience can save every woman in this world from getting abused.<\/p>\n

No entanto, o que posso fazer \u00e9 dizer-vos algumas coisas que gostaria que algu\u00e9m me tivesse dito antes de me tornar a v\u00edtima.<\/p>\n

1. Tudo come\u00e7a como um sonho<\/h2>\n

\"Um<\/p>\n

Uma das ideias erradas mais comuns sobre o abuso \u00e9 que este come\u00e7a imediatamente.<\/p>\n

People think that abusers begin with their violent behavior as soon as they enter your life, so naturally, everyone wonders how the victim didn\u2019t notice the alarming red flags in time.<\/p>\n

Bem, o que ningu\u00e9m nos diz \u00e9 que as rela\u00e7\u00f5es abusivas come\u00e7am quase sempre como o sonho mais bonito e nada aponta para o que vai acontecer no futuro. <\/p>\n

You see, abusers have a way of pretending to be someone they\u2019re not until they drag you into their net.<\/p>\n

S\u00e3o muitas vezes charmosos, educados, sedutores e demasiado bons para serem verdade.<\/p>\n

2. Mas acaba por ser o teu pior pesadelo<\/h2>\n

An abuser will not start with his toxic behavior until he\u2019s certain that you\u2019ve fallen for him.<\/p>\n

He needs to be sure that he\u2019s managed to get under your skin and deep inside your heart before he shows you his true colors.<\/p>\n

Sadly, when this happens, it\u2019s usually too late for the victim to deixar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re already manipulated to the point where you wouldn\u2019t walk away from this man, no matter what he does to you.<\/p>\n

This is when the real nightmare starts \u2013 when the bitter reality hits you.<\/p>\n

No entanto, continua a agarrar-se \u00e0s suas mem\u00f3rias felizes, na esperan\u00e7a de que esta n\u00e3o seja mais do que uma fase feia e que as coisas voltem a ser como eram antes, o que, obviamente, nunca acontece.<\/p>\n

3. Pode acontecer a qualquer pessoa<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

When you hear about abuse, you always think that it\u2019s happening somewhere far away from you, to someone else.<\/p>\n

Subconsciously, you think that you could never fall into this trap because you\u2019re wiser and smarter than that.<\/p>\n

Let me tell you that this can\u2019t be further from the truth.<\/p>\n

De facto, o abuso \u00e9 muito mais comum do que se possa pensar e n\u00e3o tem nada a ver com a sua apar\u00eancia, estatuto social, educa\u00e7\u00e3o ou hist\u00f3ria rom\u00e2ntica.<\/p>\n

4. A culpa nunca \u00e9 tua<\/h2>\n

What many victims seem to forget is that they should never blame themselves for the hell they\u2019re going through.<\/p>\n

No entanto, este continua a ser o pensamento n\u00famero um de cada um de n\u00f3s quando sofremos abusos.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t help but wonder if you did something to deserve this kind of treatment. <\/p>\n

Deveria ter sabido melhor? Deveria ter escolhido com mais sabedoria?<\/p>\n

Se estas s\u00e3o algumas das coisas que lhe passam pela cabe\u00e7a, lembre-se que a v\u00edtima nunca \u00e9 a \u00fanica que se deve sentir culpada.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 a ser manipulada e maltratada por este homem horr\u00edvel e ele \u00e9 o \u00fanico respons\u00e1vel por tudo.<\/p>\n

5. Podes amar o teu agressor<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Um dos maiores tabus relacionados com o abuso s\u00e3o os sentimentos que as v\u00edtimas t\u00eam em rela\u00e7\u00e3o aos seus agressores.<\/p>\n

Apesar de a psicologia ter provado que gostar do seu agressor, apesar de tudo o que ele lhe est\u00e1 a fazer, \u00e9 bastante comum e normal, muitas v\u00edtimas t\u00eam vergonha dessas emo\u00e7\u00f5es e, por isso, recusam-se a admiti-las.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in this type of situation, you are perfectly aware that there is nothing to be loved about this guy.<\/p>\n

In fact, your mind is telling you that you\u2019re crazy for feeling this way \u2013 that something is definitely wrong with you.<\/p>\n

No entanto, a verdade \u00e9 que pode amar o seu agressor<\/a>, even after you get the courage to walk away from him, and that you need a lot of time before accepting it as something you shouldn\u2019t be ashamed of.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, este homem fez-lhe uma lavagem ao c\u00e9rebro para pensar que ele \u00e9 a pessoa certa para si e o \u00fanico homem que alguma vez poder\u00e1 amar.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, ironicamente, com o tempo, o abuso dele tornou-se a sua zona de conforto, da qual tinha demasiado medo de sair.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Um burl\u00e3o pode apaixonar-se pela sua v\u00edtima? A verdade revelada<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

6. But he can\u2019t love you<\/h2>\n

Despite what he might keep telling you, a man who abuses you in any way doesn\u2019t love you nor does he have the ability to love you.<\/p>\n

Forget about how he treats you after his violent episodes are done, forget about his sweet words and presents, don\u2019t pay attention to his false excuses.<\/p>\n

A homem que te ama<\/a> nunca pensar\u00e1 em insultar-vos, bater-vos ou fazer-vos qualquer outro mal.<\/p>\n

Even though this seems obvious to women who have never been through something like this, it can\u2019t be stressed enough to victims of abuse because it\u2019s actually one of the most common reasons they stay in these relationships.<\/p>\n

Muitos s\u00e3o enganados pelo facto de os seus agressores os amarem \u00e0 sua maneira estranha e usam as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es inexistentes como desculpa para n\u00e3o se afastarem deles.<\/p>\n

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Trust me when I tell you that you have no clue about abuse (whether it\u2019s physical, verbal, emotional, or sexual) and abusive relationships until you\u2019ve dealt with one. That is why you should take advice from an expert: from a woman who\u2019s been through this hell and who luckily got away from it alive. I\u2019m…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":44577,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-44571","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/shutterstock_3685265691.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44571","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44571"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44571\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/44577"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44571"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44571"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44571"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}