{"id":44573,"date":"2019-10-08T13:22:19","date_gmt":"2019-10-08T13:22:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=44573"},"modified":"2022-02-11T10:59:17","modified_gmt":"2022-02-11T10:59:17","slug":"4-coisas-estupidas-que-fiz-quando-estava-quase-numa-relacao-mas-queria-mais","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/4-coisas-estupidas-que-fiz-quando-estava-quase-numa-relacao-mas-queria-mais\/","title":{"rendered":"4 coisas est\u00fapidas que fiz quando estava quase numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o mas queria mais"},"content":{"rendered":"

Todos n\u00f3s fazemos coisas loucas quando estamos apaixonados e especialmente quando n\u00e3o temos a certeza se os nossos sentimentos s\u00e3o rec\u00edprocos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, we don\u2019t see our mistakes until we stop making them.<\/span><\/p>\n

I was the same\u2014I kept making some stupid moves in my <\/span>quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/a> e s\u00f3 me apercebi deles quando as coisas se desmoronaram.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Teve problemas de relacionamento apesar de n\u00e3o estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Uma das coisas mais dolorosas e devastadoras que eu fazia enquanto estava numa quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o era agir como se estivesse comprometida, enquanto o meu ex vivia a vida de solteiro. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, now I know that he didn\u2019t do anything wrong because technically we both were single and he didn\u2019t owe me much.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, os meus sentimentos por ele impediram-me de me colocar no mercado dos encontros. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca olhei para outros homens e nunca dei a ningu\u00e9m novo a oportunidade de entrar na minha vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

O facto \u00e9 que eu tinha <\/span>problemas de relacionamento<\/span><\/a> with a man I wasn\u2019t officially dating. <\/span><\/p>\n

The whole package was there: the jealousy, the arguments, the worrying\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, I didn\u2019t have the good things every relationship should bring. <\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o tinha amor, n\u00e3o tinha seguran\u00e7a, n\u00e3o tinha o direito de pedir nada, n\u00e3o tinha o direito de me queixar e n\u00e3o tinha o direito de planear um futuro.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Agiu como se isso fosse suficiente para mim<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Desde o primeiro dia, fingi que este acordo era perfeitamente aceit\u00e1vel para mim. <\/span><\/p>\n

I acted as if I wouldn\u2019t change a thing, even if I had the chance to and as if this was exactly what I wanted.<\/span><\/p>\n

Fingi que era uma rapariga que gostava dos encontros modernos e de tudo o que eles traziam consigo. <\/span><\/p>\n

That I didn\u2019t need a label to make me happy and that making things official wouldn\u2019t mean much to me.<\/span><\/p>\n

I was saying all of this to my ex and to everyone around me. Not only that\u2014I kept lying to myself that this was more than enough.<\/span><\/p>\n

Deste ponto de vista, acho que era mais f\u00e1cil para mim agir como se esta quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o fosse algo que eu queria do que admitir que s\u00f3 a estava a aceitar porque era a \u00fanica forma de ter na minha vida o homem que eu tanto amava.<\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, what I didn\u2019t know was that I actually never had him for real.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, julgava-me satisfeita com fragmentos dele e com migalhas do seu amor e aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Esperava secretamente que as coisas mudassem<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

No entanto, a verdade era completamente diferente. Na verdade, durante todo este tempo, esperei secretamente que as coisas acabassem por mudar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Passei muitas noites a sonhar com este homem a tornar-se completamente meu. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even though I knew I shouldn\u2019t, I kept planning our future together.<\/span><\/p>\n

Estava sempre \u00e0 espera que chegasse o dia em que este homem viesse ter comigo, dizendo-me o quanto me amava e pedindo-me para tornar as coisas oficiais. <\/span><\/p>\n

I kept seeing the two of us holding hands in public, going to important events together and celebrating our anniversary, Valentine’s Day and all the other holidays next to each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

I kept hoping that I would grow old with this man, even though that was never likely to happen. That sooner or later, we\u2019d have our happy ending.<\/span><\/p>\n

Agora percebo que desperdicei anos \u00e0 espera de uma mudan\u00e7a que nunca viria.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Mas sem nunca fazer nada a esse respeito<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

De todos os erros que cometi em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a minha quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>O pior foi calar os meus desejos e vontades. <\/span><\/p>\n

The truth is that I don\u2019t have the right to hate my <\/span>quase ex<\/span><\/a> por n\u00e3o levar a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o para o n\u00edvel seguinte, porque nunca lhe disse que era isso que queria. <\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t have the right to blame him for never giving me a real chance because I never asked for one.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, I expected him to read my mind. I hoped that he\u2019d miraculously know that I wanted to become his girlfriend without actually ever making a move on it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Passado algum tempo, apercebi-me que tinha ficado em sil\u00eancio por medo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Preferia pensar em todas as coisas que poderiam acontecer e sonhar com todo o potencial que poder\u00edamos ter do que ter de enfrentar a sua rejei\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

Because let\u2019s face it\u2014if he had told me that he didn\u2019t want to label things, my pride wouldn\u2019t have allowed me to stay next to him. <\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o teria tido outra op\u00e7\u00e3o sen\u00e3o afastar-me e isso \u00e9 algo que n\u00e3o tive for\u00e7a nem coragem de fazer.<\/span><\/p>\n

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All of us do insane things when we\u2019re in love and especially when we\u2019re not sure whether our feelings are reciprocated. Of course, we don\u2019t see our mistakes until we stop making them. I was the same\u2014I kept making some stupid moves in my almost relationship and I only became aware of them once things…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":44586,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-44573","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/shutterstock_552635749.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44573","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44573"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44573\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/44586"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44573"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44573"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44573"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}