{"id":44658,"date":"2019-10-09T13:44:09","date_gmt":"2019-10-09T13:44:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=44658"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:15:20","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:15:20","slug":"5-maneiras-a-prova-de-bala-para-parar-de-namorar-fixadores","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-maneiras-a-prova-de-bala-para-parar-de-namorar-fixadores\/","title":{"rendered":"5 maneiras \u00e0 prova de bala para parar de namorar \"fixadores\""},"content":{"rendered":"

Desde que se lembra, sempre se comportou como uma super mulher nas suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es rom\u00e2nticas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por mais que tente lutar contra isso, est\u00e1 sempre a encontrar homens que precisam de ser salvos ou corrigidos de uma forma ou de outra.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, these men are called \u201cfixed-uppers\u201d and these are the steps you should follow if you finally want to stop getting yourself involved with them.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Coloca-te em primeiro lugar<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Se queres salvar-te dos tipos que precisam de ser salvos, a primeira coisa que tens de fazer \u00e9 colocar-te em primeiro lugar e concentrar-te no teu pr\u00f3prio bem-estar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tens de compreender que nenhuma outra pessoa, e especialmente nenhum homem, pode ser mais valioso para ti do que tu pr\u00f3pria.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quando nos envolvemos com os \"fixer-uppers\", eles tiram-nos toda a energia. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estar nesta situa\u00e7\u00e3o esgota-nos completamente, tanto f\u00edsica como emocionalmente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Having to take care of another human being (who is an adult and not your child) and having the entire responsibility for his life rest on your shoulders while you receive nothing in return can\u2019t be good for your mental health. <\/span><\/p>\n

Raising someone who is already a formed person is everything but easy \u2013 in most cases, impossible.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, porque \u00e9 que continua a fazer isto a si pr\u00f3prio?<\/span><\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que d\u00e1 prioridade a ajudar os outros mesmo que isso signifique destruir-se a si pr\u00f3prio? <\/span><\/p>\n

Why don\u2019t you focus on becoming the best possible version of yourself instead of trying to push some guy forward?<\/span><\/p>\n

Why don\u2019t you redirect all of this energy you\u2019re wasting on him and invest it in yourself? <\/span><\/p>\n

Why don\u2019t you start <\/span>amarmo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios<\/span><\/a> com a mesma intensidade com que ama a sua casa?<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Escolher homens maduros<\/h2>\n

\"Um<\/p>\n

The only type of guy who needs fixing is an immature mama\u2019s boy who\u2019s got used to someone holding his hand and leading him through life. <\/span><\/p>\n

This guy clearly didn\u2019t grow up on time and he\u2019s accustomed to someone else resolving his problems and living his life on his behalf.<\/span><\/p>\n

Basicamente, um dos maiores problemas reside no tipo de homens que escolhe como parceiro rom\u00e2ntico. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you find a man who knows what he wants and is capable of taking care of himself, he won\u2019t need your guidance and assistance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes,the two of you will help each other when needed, but you won\u2019t have to mother him. <\/span><\/p>\n

You two will be completely equal and he\u2019ll benefit you in the same way you\u2019ll benefit him.<\/span><\/p>\n

E \u00e9 disso que se trata a verdadeira parceria.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Deixar de se apaixonar pelo potencial<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

One of the most common problems for all girls involved with fixer-uppers is that they don\u2019t actually fall in love with the man standing in front of them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, they fall for his possibilities \u2013 for the person he might become. <\/span><\/p>\n

Em vez de se apaixonarem por um homem real, feito de carne e osso, elas <\/span>queda para o potencial<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is exactly what you\u2019re doing too, and it\u2019s the type of behavior that has to come to an end if you want to get rid of men who need fixing.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tens de parar de imaginar como \u00e9 que este tipo seria se o pudesses modificar e se ele deixasse de ter alguns dos seus defeitos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Em vez de amar a vers\u00e3o melhorada dele e pensar no que poderia ser, encare a realidade e veja-o como ele realmente \u00e9.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Remember that you can\u2019t change anyone<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

O erro n\u00famero um que a maioria das mulheres numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o comete \u00e9 convencer-se de que pode mudar o homem de quem gosta. <\/span><\/p>\n

Acreditam que o seu amor \u00e9 t\u00e3o forte que pode inspirar um homem a tornar-se uma vers\u00e3o melhor e actualizada de si pr\u00f3prio.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bem, deixem-me dizer-vos que isto n\u00e3o passa de um equ\u00edvoco. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sim, at\u00e9 certo ponto, as pessoas adaptam-se umas \u00e0s outras por amor, mas nunca mudam essencialmente por causa de outra pessoa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lembre-se que <\/span>you can\u2019t save a man who doesn\u2019t want to be saved<\/span><\/a> and you can\u2019t heal someone who refuses to be cured, as much as you try. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, you can give this man your hand, but if he doesn\u2019t accept it, all of your efforts are in vain.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Escolher a paz em vez do desafio<\/h2>\n

\"Fazer<\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019d like to admit it or not, men who need fixing represent a challenge. <\/span><\/p>\n

At first, they bring excitement and thrill to your life and before you know it, you\u2019re hooked.<\/span><\/p>\n

Will you be the only girl to make him change his ways \u2013 the girl who\u2019ll save him from himself? <\/span><\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1s tu aquele cuja luz derrotar\u00e1 a sua escurid\u00e3o?<\/span><\/p>\n

Will you succeed where every other woman\u2019s failed? <\/span><\/p>\n

Embora tudo isto possa parecer um desafio, acredite, normalmente traz mais dores de cabe\u00e7a do que felicidade.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por isso, em vez de se deixar arrastar pelo mesmo cen\u00e1rio vezes sem conta, por uma vez, escolha a paz em vez de tudo o resto. <\/span><\/p>\n

Choose a consistent man with whom you\u2019ll always know where you stand \u2013 a man whose behavior won\u2019t threaten your mental health.<\/span><\/p>\n

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For as long as you can remember, you\u2019ve always behaved like a super woman in your romantic relationships. As much as you try to fight it, you keep running into men who need saving or fixing in one way or another. Well, these men are called \u201cfixed-uppers\u201d and these are the steps you should follow…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":44666,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-44658","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/shutterstock_488521804.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44658","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44658"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44658\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/44666"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44658"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44658"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44658"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}