{"id":44669,"date":"2019-10-09T14:01:33","date_gmt":"2019-10-09T14:01:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=44669"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:14:28","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:14:28","slug":"os-narcisistas-nao-mudam-de-cor-apenas-mudam-as-suas-vitimas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/os-narcisistas-nao-mudam-de-cor-apenas-mudam-as-suas-vitimas\/","title":{"rendered":"Os narcisistas n\u00e3o mudam de cor - apenas mudam as suas v\u00edtimas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando <\/span>amar um narcisista<\/span><\/a>, you never see him for who he really is, even though deep down you\u2019re perfectly aware of his flaws and toxic personality.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your feelings prevent you from truly accepting that this guy is an evil sociopath who can never give you back the love he\u2019s been getting from you, that he is manipulating you and everyone around him and that he won\u2019t hesitate to hurt you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, you perceive him as a troubled young boy who needs you to help him, as someone who has the potential of becoming better and as a vulnerable human being who isn\u2019t that bad under the surface.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, you don\u2019t walk away from him, despite knowing you should and despite everything he\u2019s doing. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t do it because you think you\u2019re the only one who can give him a helping hand and the only one who has the capacity to see underneath the layers of his toxicity.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t run for your life even when you see that he\u2019s started destroying you and even when you get scared that he\u2019ll drag you to the bottom together with him. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t turn your back on this man because for you, that would mean betraying him, abandoning him and leaving him hanging.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"belo<\/p>\n

However, you have to do something, right? You can\u2019t just sit there and watch his narcissism damage both of you to the point of no repair.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por isso, dedica todos os seus esfor\u00e7os a tentar cur\u00e1-lo. Afinal, quem seria melhor para a tarefa do que tu?<\/span><\/p>\n

Esfor\u00e7a-se por fazer com que ele esque\u00e7a os seus velhos h\u00e1bitos e obriga-o a tornar-se uma pessoa melhor e mais saud\u00e1vel. <\/b><\/p>\n

Acredita nele e tudo o que quer fazer \u00e9 ajud\u00e1-lo a curar-se.<\/b><\/p>\n

Well, let me tell you one thing you probably don\u2019t want to hear: <\/span>You will fail! It doesn\u2019t matter how much you love him or how much you think he loves you back\u2014you will not succeed.<\/b><\/p>\n

Deixem que isto se entranhe e tentem aceit\u00e1-lo porque \u00e9 a \u00fanica verdade. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to believe me but I can assure you that sooner or later, you\u2019ll see everything for yourself and you\u2019ll remember my harsh words.<\/span><\/p>\n

You see, a narcissist will never become different\u2014at least not under someone else\u2019s influence.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Confiante<\/p>\n

This man needs professional help and you\u2019re not the one who can give it to him.<\/b><\/p>\n

Sim, ele pode estar a colaborar neste momento. Pode parecer que est\u00e1 a pedir a sua orienta\u00e7\u00e3o, mas isso \u00e9 apenas tempor\u00e1rio.<\/span><\/p>\n

Acreditem em mim quando vos digo que ele n\u00e3o tem inten\u00e7\u00e3o de mudar as suas cores verdadeiras.<\/b><\/p>\n

In fact, he is thrilled because he sees how much effort you\u2019re putting in with him and that helps him feel important.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, quando ele se cansa das suas tentativas de o tornar melhor e quando se apercebe de que voc\u00ea o v\u00ea atrav\u00e9s dele, ele muda para outra pessoa. <\/span><\/p>\n

He will move on to another girl he can fool and play with\u2013to a girl who doesn\u2019t know him like you do and to a girl who will believe his lies and deceptions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Porque <\/span>narcissists never change their personality\u2014they just change their victims. <\/b><\/p>\n

Para al\u00e9m disso, <\/span>you\u2019re not the first girl he tried to crush, not the first girl who tried to help him and not the first girl who will fail in doing so.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Jovem<\/p>\n

And I can assure you that you won\u2019t be the last one either.<\/b><\/p>\n

Por muito que doa, temos de aceitar o facto de que este <\/span>man doesn\u2019t give a damn about you<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is not because of something you did or because you didn\u2019t try enough\u2014he doesn\u2019t care about anyone in this world except himself.<\/span><\/p>\n

He is not looking for a compatible life partner\u2014he is in the constant search for a <\/b>v\u00edtima adequada<\/b><\/a> e enquanto ele te considerar como tal, permanecer\u00e1 ao teu lado. <\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, <\/span>as soon as he notices that you can\u2019t satisfy his sick impulses and as soon as he notices that he has lost control over you, he will move on to someone else.<\/b><\/p>\n

I hate to break it to you but you\u2019re not special to this maniac and he won\u2019t appreciate your sacrifices and attempts to help him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Em vez disso, ele vai deix\u00e1-la da mesma forma que fez com um monte de raparigas antes de si.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Os<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When you love a narcissist, you never see him for who he really is, even though deep down you\u2019re perfectly aware of his flaws and toxic personality. Your feelings prevent you from truly accepting that this guy is an evil sociopath who can never give you back the love he\u2019s been getting from you, that…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":44673,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-44669","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/shutterstock_439431064.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","parent":22911,"count":233,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29633,"category_count":233,"category_description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","cat_name":"narcissism","category_nicename":"narcissism","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44669","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44669"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44669\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/44673"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44669"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44669"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44669"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}