Hoje em dia, tudo acontece muito depressa.<\/p>\n
O mercado dos encontros \u00e9 implac\u00e1vel e sem emo\u00e7\u00f5es, e parece que j\u00e1 ningu\u00e9m procura o verdadeiro amor.<\/p>\n
J\u00e1 n\u00e3o h\u00e1 antecipa\u00e7\u00e3o antes do primeiro abra\u00e7o frontal e do primeiro beijo.<\/p>\n
Hand holding is not a big deal, and side hugs have become something you can expect while you\u2019re at the club, minding your own business.<\/p>\n
De facto, o pr\u00f3prio sexo tornou-se t\u00e3o habitual e quotidiano que, por que raz\u00e3o seria \u00edntimo dar a m\u00e3o a algu\u00e9m?<\/p>\n
Por isso, quando se ouve falar de namoro, a primeira coisa em que se pensa \u00e9 em pr\u00e1ticas antiquadas e ultrapassadas da hist\u00f3ria antiga.<\/p>\n
Perguntamo-nos quais seriam as regras do namoro nos velhos tempos?<\/p>\n
What were the rules of courtship in Othello , in the Bible, in the Victorian Age\u2026?<\/p>\n
What you don\u2019t know is that in modern times, there are a lot of people following these rules successfully.<\/p>\n
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Regras de namoro dos Duggar<\/b><\/p>\n
I\u2019m sure that you\u2019ve already heard about TLC \u2019s show \u201c19 Kids and Counting\u201d, which stars Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar , the parents of the huge Duggar family with 19 kids.<\/p>\n
The show ” Counting On ” follows this religious family and the way they respect the Christian teachings of the Lord .<\/p>\n
However, this season of the TLC ‘s show was concerned with Jim Bob and Michelle setting up strict rules regarding courting in their family, i.e. for their daughters Jessa , Jinger , Janna (who has been mainly keeping her courting a secret), and Jill Duggar with their dates (now husbands): Ben Seewald ( Jessa \u2019s husband), Jeremy Vuolo ( Jinger \u2019s husband) and Derick Dillard ( Jill Duggar \u2019s husband).<\/p>\n
They\u2019re showing us a completely different world: a world in which parents help their children choose their partners, a world in which any physical touch is prohibited before marriage,and a world in which casual dating is not an option.<\/p>\n
A fam\u00edlia Duggar vive segundo regras r\u00edgidas que todos t\u00eam de respeitar.<\/p>\n
Na fam\u00edlia Duggar, o pai Jim Bob (juntamente com a m\u00e3e, Michelle Duggar) tem de aprovar todas as escolhas amorosas que os seus filhos fazem.<\/p>\n
Nalguns casos, o pai at\u00e9 apresentou as filhas aos seus actuais maridos (por exemplo, foi ele que apresentou Derick Dillard \u00e0 fam\u00edlia).<\/p>\n
However, this doesn\u2019t mean that some exceptions didn\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n
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Por exemplo, a Jinger deu um abra\u00e7o frontal ao seu namorado Jeremy quando este lhe fez a pergunta.<\/p>\n
Al\u00e9m disso, Jessa e Ben Seewald quebraram algumas das regras, por exemplo, quando Jessa decidiu come\u00e7ar a abra\u00e7ar o namorado quando se cumprimentavam.<\/p>\n
Jessa confessou que ela e o marido trocavam mensagens de texto em privado quando estavam a namorar, sem que outros membros da fam\u00edlia lessem as suas conversas.<\/p>\n
\u00a0Regras de namoro de Bates<\/b><\/p>\n
Outra fam\u00edlia que vive segundo regras semelhantes \u00e0s dos Duggars s\u00e3o os Bates.<\/p>\n
They also have 19 children and don\u2019t engage in sexual intimacy before marriage.<\/p>\n
However, it seems that the Bates aren\u2019t as strict as the Duggars, since they allow their children to make their own choices regarding dating.<\/p>\n
Mas como \u00e9 que todas estas regras se podem aplicar aos encontros modernos?<\/p>\n
Ser\u00e1 poss\u00edvel substituir o namoro pelo cortejo?<\/p>\n
Continue a ler e descubra!<\/p>\n
A corte tem sempre um objetivo<\/h2>\n
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Uma das principais diferen\u00e7as entre cortejar e namorar reside no facto de o cortejar ter sempre um objetivo.<\/p>\n
Sabes como \u00e0s vezes pessoas data<\/a> apenas para se divertir, para ter algu\u00e9m com quem passar o tempo ou por causa de sexo sem sentido?<\/p>\n Bem, quando se trata de cortejar, algo assim \u00e9 imposs\u00edvel.<\/p>\n De facto, s\u00f3 se decide cortejar ou ser cortejado quando se est\u00e1 100% pronto para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o no futuro.<\/p>\n You\u2019re not looking for a good time, and you\u2019re not exploring your options.<\/p>\n Sabe que o seu objetivo final \u00e9 encontrar um par adequado e que o seu pessoa para sempre <\/a> , and you\u2019re only going in that direction.<\/p>\n Por muito que isto possa parecer assustador e demasiado comprometedor, a verdade \u00e9 que poupa muitas dores de cabe\u00e7a \u00e0s pessoas.<\/p>\n Young people shouldn\u2019t engage in courting unless they\u2019re mature enough to know what they want<\/p>\n However, this doesn\u2019t mean that you are obligated to say \u201c I do \u201d to the person you\u2019re courting.<\/p>\n After all, the decision is all yours, and nobody is forcing you to do anything you don\u2019t want to do.<\/p>\n Courting\u2019s purpose is to get to know the person you\u2019re about to see down the aisle on your dia do casamento <\/a> .<\/p>\n It\u2019s the same as dating\u2014you\u2019re trying to find the right one for you and the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.<\/p>\n Nevertheless, this doesn\u2019t mean that courting can\u2019t fail. You\u2019re still allowed to break up and to end paths with someone you\u2019re courting.<\/p>\n A quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que, no namoro, este tipo de coisas acontece com menos frequ\u00eancia do que nos encontros.<\/p>\n Seguem-se regras estritas e \u00e9 pouco prov\u00e1vel que uma das pessoas fique destro\u00e7ada, ao passo que nos encontros modernos isso acontece com bastante frequ\u00eancia.<\/p>\n Uma das regras fundamentais do namoro \u00e9 que tudo seja estritamente monog\u00e2mico desde o primeiro dia.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not talking about being faithful in a relationship here only (because that should be normal when it comes to dating, as well).<\/p>\n I\u2019m not talking about the fact that you\u2019re not allowed to physically cheat on the person you\u2019re seeing.<\/p>\n I\u2019m talking about the fact that following these rules means that you only court one person at a time, even if you guys haven\u2019t made things official just yet.<\/p>\n Actually, there doesn\u2019t exist such a thing as unofficial courting.<\/p>\n There doesn\u2019t exist such things as quase rela\u00e7\u00f5es <\/a> , namoros casuais ou rela\u00e7\u00f5es sem compromisso.<\/p>\n Nada como a indisponibilidade emocional ou o sexo sem compromisso.<\/p>\n Nada de aplica\u00e7\u00f5es de encontros, nada de falar com outras pessoas com quem possa ter ambi\u00e7\u00f5es rom\u00e2nticas ou sexuais.<\/p>\n You\u2019re all the way in when it comes to the person you\u2019re courting, and at that time, nobody else should exist for you.<\/p>\n This way, everyone who wants to fool around and live the life of a bachelor while they\u2019re seeing someone is out.<\/p>\n You\u2019re safe from getting led on and from getting cheated on (in any possible way) if the other person is strictly following these rules, which is a huge relief for most of you out there.<\/p>\n Al\u00e9m disso, no namoro, o homem \u00e9 sempre aquele que d\u00e1 o primeiro passo.<\/p>\n O homem persegue a mulher e faz o seu melhor para conquistar o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o, \u00e0 semelhan\u00e7a dos contos de fadas e dos filmes rom\u00e2nticos antigos.<\/p>\n O homem \u00e9 aquele que inicia a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o e o primeiro a mostrar interesse numa mulher; aquele que declara as suas inten\u00e7\u00f5es e aquele que convida a rapariga para uma primeiro encontro <\/a> .<\/p>\n Espera-se que uma mulher se mostre um pouco indecisa no in\u00edcio em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 sua proposta.<\/p>\n After all, she should be shy and not act as if she couldn\u2019t wait for this guy to make the first move.<\/p>\n Not only that\u2014it is even considered not ladylike for a woman to take the initiative and role of a man.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s face it: what woman doesn\u2019t like to be courted and chased at least once in a lifetime?<\/p>\n What woman doesn\u2019t enjoy being a princess who is patiently waiting for her knight in shining armor to come and get her?<\/p>\n Also, what man doesn\u2019t enjoy being the hunter and the hero of the story? The one who managed to win over the girl of his dreams?<\/p>\n Pois bem, seguindo estas regras, sentir-se-\u00e1 exatamente assim!<\/p>\n \u00c9 claro que isto pode ser motivo de preocupa\u00e7\u00e3o para todos os que lutam pela igualdade entre os sexos.<\/p>\n Afinal de contas, se as raparigas e os rapazes s\u00e3o iguais em todos os aspectos da vida, ent\u00e3o qual \u00e9 o problema se uma rapariga se aproximar de um rapaz?<\/p>\n Nevertheless, what you need to have in mind is that we\u2019re not talking about encontros modernos <\/a> aqui.<\/p>\n We\u2019re talking about some old fashioned tips and tricks that not everyone has to like.<\/p>\n One of the best things about courtship is that there aren\u2019t any games. From day one, you saber qual \u00e9 a sua posi\u00e7\u00e3o <\/a> e o que esperar.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have to ask yourself whether the other person is interested or not.<\/p>\n Are they not responding to your texts because they don\u2019t care about you or because they\u2019re playing hard to get?<\/p>\n Do they ignore you because they don\u2019t want to look too desperate and clingy or they\u2019re seeing someone else?<\/p>\n Are they unfaithful or they\u2019re just trying to get you jealous?<\/p>\n Quando se trata de cortejar, nenhuma destas quest\u00f5es existe.<\/p>\n There are no mixed signals, no hidden messages, no need to decode other people\u2019s thoughts, words, and actions.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t stay up all night thinking what the other person wants from you and what they meant when they said something.<\/p>\n There is no second guessing anyone\u2019s intentions, and no wondering where all of this is going.<\/p>\n N\u00e3o, ambas as pessoas envolvidas neste tipo de rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e3o completamente directas, francas e honestas.<\/p>\n Parece demasiado bom para ser verdade, n\u00e3o \u00e9 verdade? Bem, seguindo estas regras, \u00e9 a realidade.<\/p>\n The catch about courting is that the potential suitor and the girl he is interested in don\u2019t go out alone\u2014at least, not at first.<\/p>\n In fact, sometimes, these young adults don\u2019t even approach one another by themselves.<\/p>\n Em vez disso, t\u00eam um casamenteiro que os acompanha e faz o trabalho por eles, o que \u00e9 fant\u00e1stico para todos aqueles que ficam com a l\u00edngua torta quando precisam de dar o primeiro passo.<\/p>\n This matchmaker doesn\u2019t only help a courting couple get together, the\u00a0 matchmaker is usually even present on their first date which helps clear the tension.<\/p>\n Depois de terminada a fase inicial de conhecimento m\u00fatuo, o casal continua a ver-se com outros acompanhantes .<\/p>\n The potential suitor won\u2019t call his girl in the middle of the night to hang out, and he\u2019ll definitely not ask her to sleep over at his place.<\/p>\n The two of them won\u2019t meet in private places (instead of crowded ones) where they could break the rules they signed up for and where they could anything more beside hold hands .<\/p>\n No que diz respeito \u00e0s regras do namoro, ao contr\u00e1rio do que acontece com os encontros, os familiares e os amigos s\u00e3o muito bem-vindos na rela\u00e7\u00e3o e o casal em namoro conta com o seu apoio para encontrar o par ideal.<\/p>\n At first, they don\u2019t go anywhere unchaperoned , and they engage in numerous activities with their loved ones.<\/p>\n \u00c0 primeira vista, isto pode parecer desnecess\u00e1rio e completamente desatualizado.<\/p>\n No entanto, confere de facto um n\u00edvel de seriedade a toda a rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n After all, screwing over someone you met at the club and from whose life you can disappear whenever and however you want because you don\u2019t have anything and anyone in common is quite easy.<\/p>\n No entanto, \u00e9 muito mais dif\u00edcil fantasiar algu\u00e9m<\/a> (for example) whose entire family you\u2019ve met and who\u2019s become a part of your life.<\/p>\n Also, getting to know someone\u2019s closest friends and family can help you get to know them better.<\/p>\n Estas s\u00e3o as pessoas com quem passam a maior parte do seu tempo e as pessoas que os moldaram para se tornarem na pessoa que s\u00e3o hoje.<\/p>\n De facto, estas s\u00e3o as pessoas que tamb\u00e9m far\u00e3o parte da sua vida se um dia se tornarem um casal, e quer saber se consegue dar-se bem com elas ou n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Another usual thing is that in most cases, the girl\u2019s family (mainly the woman\u2019s father ) actually has to give a green light to her suitor and give the two of them permission to start seeing each other.<\/p>\n In fact, before making any moves, the suitor should go and meet the woman\u2019s father who will see if he is worthy of his daughter\u2019s attention.<\/p>\n Quando se decide iniciar um namoro, fobia de compromisso <\/a> est\u00e1 fora de quest\u00e3o.<\/p>\n This is not something you do if you\u2019re not sure that you\u2019re ready to dedicate yourself completely to one relationship and one relationship only.<\/p>\n N\u00e3o \u00e9 algo em que se envolva se tiver alguns problemas n\u00e3o resolvidos do passado ou se tiver bagagem emocional de rela\u00e7\u00f5es anteriores.<\/p>\n N\u00e3o \u00e9 algo que se fa\u00e7a se nos considerarmos emocionalmente indispon\u00edveis ou incertos quanto ao que queremos.<\/p>\n Deve entrar no namoro com todo o cora\u00e7\u00e3o e apenas se tiver a certeza absoluta de que \u00e9 capaz de se comprometer.<\/p>\n Only if you\u2019re ready to fight for this relationship, to try your hardest to make it work, and to put an effort into building it.<\/p>\n Significa que tem de estar preparado para dar prioridade ao seu parceiro e \u00e0 sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o; que tem de o tratar com o amor e o respeito que merece e faz\u00ea-lo compreender o valor que tem para si.<\/p>\n Significa que tem de ser coerente na forma como se comporta em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a eles.<\/p>\n Que tem de se certificar de que eles se sentem amados e apreciados em todos os momentos.<\/p>\n Significa que dois jovens que est\u00e3o a namorar contam um com o outro em todos os momentos.<\/p>\n That they\u2019re counting on the other person\u2019s love and support, no matter what.<\/p>\n Dois jovens adultos saem sem companhia antes de se tornarem um casal? O primeiro beijo acontece antes de dizerem \"sim\"?<\/p>\n Abra\u00e7os frontais, m\u00e3os dadas, abra\u00e7os laterais ou qualquer tipo de intimidade f\u00edsica antes do casamento? Esque\u00e7a!<\/p>\n Old fashioned courtship rules (also applicable to Biblical courtship rules and Catholic courtship rules in general which follow the teachings of the Lord ) don\u2019t allow sex before the wedding day .<\/p>\n Unlike today\u2019s dating, according to these rules, sexual compatibility is something that appears naturally between two people who\u2019ve decided they\u2019re right for each other in all other fields.<\/p>\n \u00c9 claro que as regras do namoro moderno s\u00e3o um pouco diferentes e n\u00e3o t\u00e3o rigorosas quanto a todos os tipos poss\u00edveis de contacto f\u00edsico.<\/p>\nBut it doesn\u2019t have to end up with marriage<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nS\u00f3 se concentra numa pessoa de cada vez<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nO homem corteja a mulher<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u00c9 honesto quanto \u00e0s suas inten\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nConhecer-se em locais p\u00fablicos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nAmigos e familiares est\u00e3o inclu\u00eddos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nO compromisso \u00e9 obrigat\u00f3rio<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nA intimidade f\u00edsica n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma prioridade<\/h2>\n
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