{"id":45576,"date":"2019-10-22T15:13:42","date_gmt":"2019-10-22T15:13:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=45576"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:33:10","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:33:10","slug":"um-lembrete-de-que-pode-perdoar-lhe-sem-o-aceitar-de-volta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/um-lembrete-de-que-pode-perdoar-lhe-sem-o-aceitar-de-volta\/","title":{"rendered":"Um lembrete de que podes perdoar-lhe sem o aceitar de volta"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando o homem a quem pens\u00e1mos que pod\u00edamos confiar a nossa vida e com quem plane\u00e1mos o nosso futuro nos trai de alguma forma, uma coisa dessas deixa-nos de rastos. <\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter whether this guy cheated on you, if he abused you or if he abandoned you when you needed his support more than anything\u2014betrayal is betrayal and it is never something you can easily get over.<\/span><\/p>\n

Independentemente do que algu\u00e9m lhe possa dizer, a dura verdade \u00e9 que uma coisa destas deixa um sabor amargo na boca. <\/span><\/p>\n

Deixa-nos desiludidos com o amor e com as pessoas em geral e causa-nos profundos problemas de confian\u00e7a, traumas emocionais e <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o PTSD<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not only that\u2014it also changes the essence of your personality. <\/span><\/p>\n

Torna-o uma pessoa negativa e ressentida que espera sempre o pior das pessoas.<\/span><\/p>\n

No in\u00edcio, depois de tudo o que este idiota lhe fez, tudo o que quer \u00e9 vingar-se e dar-lhe a provar o seu pr\u00f3prio rem\u00e9dio. <\/span><\/p>\n

Queres que ele sofra e que sinta exatamente o que tu sentes.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, todas as pessoas com quem fala aconselham-na a encontrar a for\u00e7a em si pr\u00f3pria para o perdoar.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"M\u00e3e<\/p>\n

As pessoas est\u00e3o sempre a dizer-lhe que tem de esquecer toda a dor que ele lhe causou e que a \u00fanica forma de o fazer \u00e9 deixar de lado a amargura, os rancores e os pensamentos de vingan\u00e7a.<\/span><\/p>\n

After a while, after the initial anger goes away, you realize that they\u2019re absolutely right, despite whatever you\u2019re feeling right now. <\/span><\/p>\n

Compreendemos que o perd\u00e3o \u00e9 realmente libertador e que \u00e9 algo que temos de fazer, para nosso pr\u00f3prio bem.<\/span><\/p>\n

You figure out that you don\u2019t want all these negative emotions to keep eating you alive and to haunt you for the rest of your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Assim, depois de muita reflex\u00e3o e luta interior, decide perdoar-lhe todos os seus erros.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should justify this man\u2019s actions. <\/b><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that you should put in any effort to understand him or to <\/b>inventar desculpas<\/b><\/a> pelo seu comportamento de merda.<\/b><\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014it doesn\u2019t mean you should forget about everything he\u2019s done to you.<\/b><\/p>\n

Basta aceitar que as coisas aconteceram exatamente como estavam destinadas a acontecer. <\/b><\/p>\n

Accept that he probably didn\u2019t know better and that you\u2019re lucky that you got rid of someone who obviously never appreciated you.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Perdoe-se a si pr\u00f3pria pelas suas m\u00e1s escolhas e perdoe-o por lhe ter partido o cora\u00e7\u00e3o, porque \u00e9 a \u00fanica forma de recupera\u00e7\u00e3o total, a \u00fanica forma de afastar os seus dem\u00f3nios do passado e a \u00fanica forma de seguir realmente em frente com a sua vida, sem qualquer bagagem emocional a pesar-lhe.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, always remember that forgiving someone doesn\u2019t mean it is OK to take them back.<\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that this person is worthy of having a place in your life and it certainly isn\u2019t equal to giving them your unlimited trust once again.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lembre-se que ser uma boa pessoa e a pessoa mais importante \u00e9 uma coisa, mas ser tolo ou ing\u00e9nuo \u00e9 outra completamente diferente. <\/b><\/p>\n

Having the capacity to accept the apologies you never got and forgiving the ones who didn\u2019t deserve it are not the same as giving them the green light to keep on hurting you.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Convic\u00e7\u00e3o<\/p>\n

When you forgive a man for treating you badly and for crushing you, it doesn\u2019t magically erase all the pain he caused you. <\/b><\/b><\/p>\n

O teu perd\u00e3o<\/b><\/a> doesn\u2019t annul the fact that he is still an asshole who didn\u2019t care about how he\u2019d make you feel, it doesn\u2019t erase any of the sleepless nights you spent because of him and it certainly doesn\u2019t wipe away all of the tears you cried for him.<\/b><\/p>\n

I know that you two had some beautiful memories together as well and that he didn\u2019t always act like this toxic man he turned out to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know that once you forgive him, deep down, you\u2019ll start hoping that he won\u2019t repeat his mistakes.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll hope your heart will soften up and that you\u2019ll start missing him. <\/span><\/p>\n

That you\u2019ll want to believe his lies and empty promises and that you\u2019ll probably want to give your relationship another chance.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, voc\u00eas os dois separaram-se por uma raz\u00e3o que ainda existe. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, trust me when I tell you that your forgiveness doesn\u2019t change the fact that he is not the guy for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Um<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When the man you thought you could trust with your life and the man you planned your future with betrays you in any way, something like that leaves you devastated. It doesn\u2019t matter whether this guy cheated on you, if he abused you or if he abandoned you when you needed his support more than…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":45580,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-45576","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/shutterstock_196923761.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45576","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45576"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45576\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/45580"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45576"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45576"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45576"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}