{"id":45704,"date":"2019-10-24T17:48:10","date_gmt":"2019-10-24T17:48:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=45704"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:23:40","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:23:40","slug":"6-dicas-para-aprender-a-ser-solteiro-depois-de-uma-relacao-abusiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-dicas-para-aprender-a-ser-solteiro-depois-de-uma-relacao-abusiva\/","title":{"rendered":"6 dicas para te ensinar a ser solteiro depois de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Embora sair de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva seja, sem d\u00favida, uma das coisas mais corajosas que se pode fazer, a verdade \u00e9 que, infelizmente, os pesadelos n\u00e3o acabam no momento em que se deixa o agressor. <\/span><\/p>\n

De facto, quando isso acontece, \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio algum tempo para aprender a continuar a sua vida. <\/span><\/p>\n

You need a survival guide on how to be single again and this is exactly what you\u2019re about to get!<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Remember that you\u2019re more than someone\u2019s ex-namorada<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

O primeiro passo para voltar a ter a sua vida nas suas m\u00e3os \u00e9 olhar-se ao espelho e ver que \u00e9 suficientemente forte para o fazer sozinha, apesar de tudo o que este homem tentou convencer-lhe. <\/span><\/p>\n

This might sound like a clich\u00e9, but before taking any concrete action, you really have to remind yourself that you\u2019re not put on this earth just to be part of a couple.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re much more than someone\u2019s (ex) girlfriend. You\u2019re an individual and a woman who is in charge of her own happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n

O seu ex esfor\u00e7ou-se muito para a fazer acreditar que nunca conseguiria viver sem ele. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele fez isso porque era a melhor maneira de a manipular para que ficasse com ele e nunca tentasse ir embora. <\/span><\/p>\n

Passado algum tempo, quer queiramos quer n\u00e3o, come\u00e7\u00e1mos a acreditar nele. <\/span><\/p>\n

Well, now it\u2019s time to prove both of you wrong, to show everyone that you\u2019re a complete person on your own and that you don\u2019t need \u201cyour other half\u201d (which was clearly not him) to keep on living. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Focus on other relationships in your life\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"amigos<\/p>\n

Once you have all of this figured out, it\u2019s time to refocus all the energy you keep giving to this guy to all the other people in your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Durante muito tempo, este homem foi o centro do seu mundo e algu\u00e9m em torno de quem girava cada dia.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is exactly what he wanted \u2013 to isolate you from everyone else so it\u2019s easier for him to brainwash you into thinking that your relationship was perfectly normal and healthy. <\/span><\/p>\n

Para te prender a ele, fazendo-te perder todas as outras pessoas da tua vida. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, now, all of a sudden, you have so much time on your hands, and you don\u2019t know what to do with yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Bem, este \u00e9 o momento perfeito para reavivar algumas das suas velhas amizades e dar mais de si \u00e0 sua fam\u00edlia.<\/span><\/p>\n

You might be embarrassed to ask the people whom you\u2019ve forgotten all about because of your ex-relationship to accept you once again, but give it a try! <\/span><\/p>\n

Garanto-lhe que a maior parte deles compreender\u00e1 a sua honestidade e ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a reerguer-se.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. \u2026and especially on the relationship you have with yourself<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

No entanto, a rela\u00e7\u00e3o mais importante em que se deve concentrar \u00e9 a rela\u00e7\u00e3o que tem consigo pr\u00f3prio<\/span> because that\u2019s the most precious one. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to start taking care of yourself the same way you took care of him and to start believing in yourself the way you believed in him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mais importante ainda, este \u00e9 o momento em que tem de aprender a amar-se a si pr\u00f3pria com a mesma intensidade com que o amou.<\/span><\/p>\n

Time to finally put yourself in the place that you deserve and shower yourself with all the affection and attention you\u2019ve been giving away to this wrong guy. <\/span><\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 na altura de se mimar e de come\u00e7ar finalmente a tratar-se como a princesa que \u00e9.<\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me, after going through abuse and being convinced that you\u2019re not worthy of your own self-love, this is exactly what your mental and emotional health need in order to recover. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Tomar tempo para curar<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Another thing you need to do when you\u2019re single after getting out of an abusive relationship is to give yourself enough time to heal. <\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of repressing your emotions, get in touch with them \u2013 this is the only way to deal with them in a healthy way.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you feel like crying, cry, and if you feel like screaming, scream at the top of your lungs. Don\u2019t worry, nobody will think you\u2019re a lunatic.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019ve been through some serious trauma and it\u2019s perfectly natural that you can\u2019t get rid of all this pain, resentment, anger, and fear in a blink of an eye. <\/span><\/p>\n

Just don\u2019t call your ex in these times of despair. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t think that going back to him would ease your pain because, trust me, it would only make things worse.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t do anything you\u2019re not ready for<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

The most important rule about learning to be single again is only to do the things you\u2019re ready for, not those that others expect you to do or that would make your ex jealous.<\/span><\/p>\n

Isto aplica-se especialmente ao facto de voltar a namorar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Lembre-se que seguir em frente \u00e9 muito mais do que <\/span>saltar para uma nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

There isn\u2019t a deadline by which you have to find someone new.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 perfeitamente normal que tenha problemas profundos de confian\u00e7a depois de tudo o que viveu. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 perfeitamente normal que precise de tempo para se abrir a um novo homem e estar pronta para o deixar entrar at\u00e9 ao fim. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, if you don\u2019t feel like dating just yet, don\u2019t do it. If you don\u2019t feel like going on blind dates your friends are trying to set you up on, don\u2019t go.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s as simple as that: Do only the things you\u2019re comfortable with doing and don\u2019t let anyone dictate your pace because nobody\u2019s walked a mile in your shoes.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. But start doing everything you\u2019ve always wanted to do<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

No entanto, esta \u00e9 tamb\u00e9m a altura em que deve tornar realidade todos os seus sonhos mais loucos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Durante anos, enquanto v\u00edtima de abuso, teve de fazer tudo o que podia para fazer o seu ex feliz, sem nunca pensar nos seus pr\u00f3prios desejos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele era o dominador e o que tomava mais decis\u00f5es.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, now, all of that is a part of the past. Now you\u2019re on your own, and you can do whatever you want, however you want, whenever you want.<\/span><\/p>\n

Remember that road trip you\u2019ve dreamt of taking for so long, but your ex preferred taking a flight? <\/span><\/p>\n

That new language you\u2019ve wanted to start learning, but you were afraid you wouldn\u2019t have enough time to see him if you did?<\/span><\/p>\n

E que tal algumas coisas mais pequenas e mais parvas?<\/span><\/p>\n

That girl\u2019s TV show you planned on binge-watching, but you two always ended up watching something he liked? <\/span><\/p>\n

The way you wanted to paint your bedroom walls pink, but he wouldn\u2019t hear of it?<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, now\u2019s the time to do all of those things and enjoy each one of them! You deserve it!<\/span><\/p>\n

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Even though walking away from an abusive relationship is without doubt one of the bravest things you could ever do, the truth is that, sadly, your nightmares don\u2019t end the moment you dump your abuser.  In fact, when this happens, you need some time to learn how to continue with your life. You need a…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":45712,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-45704","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/tim-foster-xyGfJ2cKCl4-unsplash.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45704","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45704"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45704\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/45712"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45704"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45704"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45704"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}