{"id":45814,"date":"2019-10-28T16:09:37","date_gmt":"2019-10-28T16:09:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=45814"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:18:34","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:18:34","slug":"ela-nao-acabou-por-ficar-com-o-amor-da-sua-vida-mas-eis-porque-nao-faz-mal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ela-nao-acabou-por-ficar-com-o-amor-da-sua-vida-mas-eis-porque-nao-faz-mal\/","title":{"rendered":"Ela n\u00e3o ficou com o amor da sua vida, mas n\u00e3o faz mal"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019ve never been the type of girl who fantasized about a grandiose love story or pined after her one <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/9-sinais-de-amor-verdadeiro-homem\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">amor verdadeiro<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m not sure if that\u2019s because I subconsciously felt I could never find it or if I simply didn\u2019t care to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quanto a mim, sempre gostei da cultura do engate e de rela\u00e7\u00f5es que nunca duraram mais do que o meu emprego tempor\u00e1rio. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I didn\u2019t have much time to focus on love, because my life was complicated enough as it was.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But that\u2019s when it happened.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><i>No momento mais imperfeito que eu nunca poderia ter previsto. Quando eu estava menos preparado para o conhecer, l\u00e1 estava ele.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Aparece como se fosse uma cena de um filme em que o homem entra, diz algo absolutamente ador\u00e1vel, arrebata-a e beija-a como se estivesse a falar a s\u00e9rio.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That\u2019s at least how it felt at the time. And I was just standing there, slightly hesitant to admit to myself that what I was about to experience would take me for a spin and leave me forever changed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Like I said, I never really yearned for that move type of love that happens once in a lifetime, but that doesn\u2019t mean I didn\u2019t get to have it. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">E foi uma grande altura.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-45815\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/olia-nayda-oAY0IeaUcFg-unsplash.jpg\" alt=\"mulher no terreno \" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/olia-nayda-oAY0IeaUcFg-unsplash.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/olia-nayda-oAY0IeaUcFg-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/olia-nayda-oAY0IeaUcFg-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Por muito estranho que seja admitir, tive a oportunidade de experimentar o tipo de amor sobre o qual escrevem os filmes. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O tipo de amor que os artistas anseiam experimentar para terem material cru e profundo sobre o qual escrever. O amor que se v\u00ea na televis\u00e3o e se pensa como \u00e9 irrealista.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At\u00e9 que isso aconte\u00e7a consigo.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Este tipo acabou por ser <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/encontrei-o-amor-da-minha-vida-mas-tu-nao\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">o amor da minha vida<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. He showed me that everything I was so scared of wasn\u2019t that bad after all. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He showed me that it\u2019s possible to find a person who worships the ground you walk on.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Era como se eu estivesse fora deste reino. Como \u00e9 que <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> de todas as pessoas, apanhar este tipo? O eterno pessimista. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A eterna rapariga desiludida que nunca durou mais de 3 meses com o mesmo tipo.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Como \u00e9 que tive tanta sorte?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Este amor acabou por mudar a minha vida em mais do que um sentido. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>E, por muito mal preparada que estivesse para o conhecer (o que acabou por ser a minha maior b\u00ean\u00e7\u00e3o), foi ainda pior quando fui <\/i><\/b><b><i>acabou por partir sem ele.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-45816\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/dmitry-schemelev-h5xANSOT2qY-unsplash.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste junto \u00e0 janela\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/dmitry-schemelev-h5xANSOT2qY-unsplash.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/dmitry-schemelev-h5xANSOT2qY-unsplash-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/dmitry-schemelev-h5xANSOT2qY-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was a tough blow, I won\u2019t lie. I couldn\u2019t eat, couldn\u2019t sleep, and was about to lose my damn mind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A rapariga que nunca esperou por este tipo de hist\u00f3ria de amor conseguiu-o, mas perdeu-o pouco tempo depois. Qual era o objetivo?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">E por mais disparatado que possa parecer agora, havia um objetivo para isso. Um que eu n\u00e3o estava preparado para ver na altura, mas que acabou por fazer sentido.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Apercebi-me de que ter experimentado aquele amor era algo que levaria comigo para o resto da minha vida. Isso mudou-me. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fez-me ver o mundo com outros olhos. Ajudou-me a libertar-me do meu pessimismo e ceticismo e restaurou a minha f\u00e9 no amor.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Why would I choose to make myself so miserable over losing this guy? Shouldn\u2019t I be grateful that I got to experience something so profound, rare, and mind-blowingly beautiful?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Afinal de contas, muitas pessoas passam pela vida sem nunca terem o privil\u00e9gio de conhecer aquela pessoa que as faz sentir t\u00e3o vivas como eu me sentia com o meu homem. Tanta gente nunca aprende o que significa experimentar a vida com <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/so-a-sua-alma-gemea-nao-tera-medo-destas-7-coisas-sobre-si\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">a sua alma g\u00e9mea<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">E eu tinha-o. Eu tive isso. E escolho ser grato por essa experi\u00eancia. Escolho olhar para ela como a maior b\u00ean\u00e7\u00e3o da minha vida.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ele fez-me sentir viva. Ele amou-me mais do que eu alguma vez senti que merecia. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ele adorava todos os meus defeitos e fazia quest\u00e3o de me dizer como eu o fazia feliz todos os dias.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Foi um verdadeiro conto de fadas enquanto durou.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But here\u2019s what nobody tells you about the fairytale romance \u2013 in real life, you don\u2019t always get to keep the guy.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-45817\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/gokil-I_p6V-AAqhU-unsplash.jpg\" alt=\"rapariga triste \u00e0 mesa\" width=\"800\" height=\"574\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/gokil-I_p6V-AAqhU-unsplash.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/gokil-I_p6V-AAqhU-unsplash-300x215.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/gokil-I_p6V-AAqhU-unsplash-768x551.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Por vezes, a vida tem outros planos e prega-nos uma partida cruel.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the real world, love isn\u2019t something that is sure to last a lifetime. In real life, with real people, things happen and great loves get lost.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As pessoas v\u00e3o-se embora e acabamos por ficar com <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/7-sinais-subtis-de-que-o-seu-homem-esta-a-esconder-o-seu-coracao-partido\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">um cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. But the thing is, it\u2019s not always a bad thing. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As pessoas seguem os seus sonhos e, por vezes, esses sonhos levam-nos para longe de n\u00f3s.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><i>That doesn\u2019t make the love any less real. It doesn\u2019t mean what you had wasn\u2019t amazing and genuine.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Tudo o que significa \u00e9 que veio com uma data de validade e agora pode escolher entre estar grato por ter tido a oportunidade de a experimentar ou chorar at\u00e9 adormecer todas as noites.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Escolho ser feliz por o ter tido na minha vida, por muito curta que tenha sido. Escolho deixar que esse amor me ajude a florescer e a crescer para aprender a ser feliz com algu\u00e9m novo.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Para meu bem, tenho de passar ao cap\u00edtulo seguinte.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I will carry this man and what he did for me in my heart for the rest of my life. But it\u2019s time to find new happiness and prove to myself that this isn\u2019t the end of me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was exquisite and it was profound. But now, it\u2019s time to keep going. This loss made me that much more willing to keep searching for my happily-ever-after.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It may not be with the love of my life\u2026 but I will damn sure love again.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-45819\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Conquering-Designers-Block-1-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Ela n\u00e3o ficou com o amor da sua vida, mas n\u00e3o faz mal\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Conquering-Designers-Block-1-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Conquering-Designers-Block-1-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Conquering-Designers-Block-1.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ve never been the type of girl who fantasized about a grandiose love story or pined after her one true love. I\u2019m not sure if that\u2019s because I subconsciously felt I could never find it or if I simply didn\u2019t care to. For me, I was always into the hook-up culture and relationships that never&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":45818,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-45814","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/alex-iby-LaHo9Set3bI-unsplash-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45814","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45814"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45814\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/45818"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45814"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45814"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45814"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}