{"id":47026,"date":"2020-11-11T16:47:42","date_gmt":"2020-11-11T16:47:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=47026"},"modified":"2021-12-21T10:04:21","modified_gmt":"2021-12-21T10:04:21","slug":"a-regra-das-tres-semanas-de-separacao-que-deve-seguir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-regra-das-tres-semanas-de-separacao-que-deve-seguir\/","title":{"rendered":"A regra das tr\u00eas semanas de separa\u00e7\u00e3o que deve seguir"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Okay, so in the past few weeks, I\u2019ve been thinking a lot about doomed relationships and the necessary amount of time before you actually start feeling like yourself again post-break-up.<\/p>\n<p>Since we all know break-ups absolutely suck and there\u2019s no magic cure to fix you, I\u2019ve started analyzing my previous relationships in order to see if there\u2019s a pattern or anything I can hold on to for some type of enlightenment, if you will.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m just so tired of being so helpless and broken and thinking that the feelings of doom and gloom will never go away that I just needed to find a way to make the process easier for myself.<\/p>\n<p>And I\u2019ve come up with this really awesome theory that actually made me see that there IS a pattern after each shitty break-up I went through and it finally gave me the morale boost I desperately needed.<\/p>\n<p>Querem saber do que me apercebi?<b> Depois de cada uma das minhas separa\u00e7\u00f5es, demorei nem mais nem menos do que exatamente <\/b><b>tr\u00eas semanas<\/b><b> para come\u00e7ar a sentir que podia respirar novamente.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Tr\u00eas semanas at\u00e9 que os sintomas de abstin\u00eancia finalmente abandonassem o meu corpo e me fizessem ver que, na verdade, eu PODIAVA ultrapassar aquela dor de cabe\u00e7a de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Deixem-me explicar melhor.<\/p>\n<p>Firstly, I\u2019m aware that everyone goes through their own predicament and that there\u2019s no cure to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/135-citacoes-inspiradoras-para-ajudar-a-curar-o-seu-coracao-partido\/\">curar o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/a> em poucos minutos. As pessoas s\u00e3o demasiado diferentes para que isso seja plaus\u00edvel.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-119585\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/attractive-woman-at-a-modern-office-desk.jpg\" alt=\"mulher atraente numa secret\u00e1ria de escrit\u00f3rio moderna\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/attractive-woman-at-a-modern-office-desk.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/attractive-woman-at-a-modern-office-desk-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/attractive-woman-at-a-modern-office-desk-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/attractive-woman-at-a-modern-office-desk-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/attractive-woman-at-a-modern-office-desk-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/attractive-woman-at-a-modern-office-desk-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/attractive-woman-at-a-modern-office-desk-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/attractive-woman-at-a-modern-office-desk-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>What I\u2019m talking about here is something different.<\/p>\n<p><b>I\u2019m talking about resisting that primal urge to go back and get another fix (of your ex).<\/b><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m talking about the ability to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/4-coisas-que-acontecem-quando-se-deixa-de-ter-contacto-com-um-narcisista\/\">n\u00e3o entrar em contacto<\/a> and actually go through with it. I\u2019m talking about not calling, texting or asking about them.<\/p>\n<p>And if you\u2019re seriously in need of some good advice on how to manage that, this is for you.<\/p>\n<p>Tr\u00eas semanas foi o tempo exato de que precisei para deixar de ter necessidade de voltar para ele.<\/p>\n<p>Three weeks is how long it took me to realize I DON\u2019T need to text him and that I\u2019m fine on my own. Truth be told, I couldn&#8217;t text him even if I wanted to because <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ele-bloqueou-me-o-que-e-que-isso-significa\/\">ele bloqueou-me<\/a> que foi a melhor coisa que me aconteceu desde h\u00e1 algum tempo.<\/p>\n<p><b>No dia 22, acordei uma nova pessoa.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>All the shit I went through, all the sleepless nights, wanting to call or text and barely restraining myself from doing so\u2026 all that finally took a back seat.<\/p>\n<p>Ao fim de tr\u00eas semanas, tudo desapareceu do meu sistema e consegui funcionar corretamente e lidar com as minhas emo\u00e7\u00f5es como a cabra durona que sou.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-119586\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-in-the-green-coat-is-sitting-back-on-the-bench.jpg\" alt=\"a mulher de casaco verde est\u00e1 sentada no banco\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-in-the-green-coat-is-sitting-back-on-the-bench.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-in-the-green-coat-is-sitting-back-on-the-bench-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-in-the-green-coat-is-sitting-back-on-the-bench-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-in-the-green-coat-is-sitting-back-on-the-bench-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-in-the-green-coat-is-sitting-back-on-the-bench-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-in-the-green-coat-is-sitting-back-on-the-bench-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-in-the-green-coat-is-sitting-back-on-the-bench-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-in-the-green-coat-is-sitting-back-on-the-bench-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>No, I wasn\u2019t suddenly healed and the emotions never did just go away.<\/p>\n<p>The changes that occurred were with regards my perspective on things and my mental health. And that\u2019s been such a revelation.<\/p>\n<p>For the first three weeks, it\u2019s all tears, a hole in your stomach and a constant feeling of dread. It\u2019s whining to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/10-sinais-de-que-o-teu-namorado-e-na-verdade-o-teu-melhor-amigo\/\">o teu melhor amigo<\/a> e a chorar para a tua m\u00e3e. Ningu\u00e9m consegue contornar isso.<\/p>\n<p><b>But the good news here is that after three simple weeks, there\u2019s a huge likelihood of a switch going off in your head and you waking up on day 22 refreshed and like a new you.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Yes, you\u2019ll still have residual emotions but you\u2019ll be able to mentally handle it so much more easily.<\/p>\n<p>Even if it was a tough break-up and regardless of who initiated it, after three short weeks, you\u2019ll gain a new, healthy outlook that will completely transform the way you handle things from then on.<\/p>\n<p>Os sintomas de abstin\u00eancia desaparecer\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll have rid your body and mind of the incessant need for a fix and you\u2019ll be able to wake up in the morning not needing to go see him or hear him.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-119588\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-sitting-alone-looking-at-the-river.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sentada sozinha a olhar para o rio\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-sitting-alone-looking-at-the-river.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-sitting-alone-looking-at-the-river-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-sitting-alone-looking-at-the-river-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-sitting-alone-looking-at-the-river-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-sitting-alone-looking-at-the-river-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-sitting-alone-looking-at-the-river-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-sitting-alone-looking-at-the-river-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/woman-sitting-alone-looking-at-the-river-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I know it sounds strange and I\u2019d probably feel that way too if I didn\u2019t personally experience it on more than one occasion.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t know what it is about that exact number but for me, it\u2019s always three weeks. And hey, I\u2019m not complaining.<\/p>\n<p>Finalmente, saber que existe uma luz ao fundo do t\u00fanel d\u00e1-me muita esperan\u00e7a.<\/p>\n<p><b>Isn\u2019t it reassuring and comforting to know that all you really need is to endure those three short weeks before things finally start getting better?<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Isn\u2019t it worth a shot just believing this to actually be true and having something to hold on to as you\u2019re going through the ordeal?<\/p>\n<p>For me, it\u2019s a saving grace. It\u2019s the hope that pushes me forward when I\u2019m about to crack mid week two.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s the answer to my question on day 18 that I\u2019ll inevitably ask myself\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\"<i>When the fuck am I going to stop feeling like I\u2019m getting kicked in the stomach every goddamn day?\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-119589\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/depressed-woman-sitting-alone-at-home.jpg\" alt=\"mulher deprimida sentada sozinha em casa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/depressed-woman-sitting-alone-at-home.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/depressed-woman-sitting-alone-at-home-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/depressed-woman-sitting-alone-at-home-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/depressed-woman-sitting-alone-at-home-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/depressed-woman-sitting-alone-at-home-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/depressed-woman-sitting-alone-at-home-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/depressed-woman-sitting-alone-at-home-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/depressed-woman-sitting-alone-at-home-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>S\u00f3 mais tr\u00eas dias. Faltam tr\u00eas dias para que a minha mente esteja de novo num lugar melhor e o meu corpo j\u00e1 n\u00e3o sinta dores por ele.<\/p>\n<p>Saber que posso marcar no meu calend\u00e1rio a data em que as coisas v\u00e3o finalmente mudar para melhor d\u00e1-me toda a for\u00e7a de que preciso para continuar a avan\u00e7ar.<\/p>\n<p>Knowing that there\u2019s an end in sight gives me such strong motivation to hold my own when my world is falling apart.<\/p>\n<p>Tudo o que realmente precisa \u00e9 de um pouco de esperan\u00e7a nos seus piores dias e esta revela\u00e7\u00e3o revolucion\u00e1ria d\u00e1-lhe exatamente isso.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Without it, it\u2019s just like a bottomless pit with no end in sight.<\/p>\n<p>Mas o facto de saber que essas tr\u00eas semanas podem significar um novo come\u00e7o e um recome\u00e7o \u00e9 tudo o que uma rapariga precisa para se levantar todas as manh\u00e3s e continuar a aguentar os golpes (emocionais).<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Because once this short period of time passes, you\u2019ll see that this three-week rule of break-ups is an absolute game-changer and your life will never be the same again.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-119581\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/The-Three-Week-Rule-Of-Break-Ups-You-Must-Follow-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"A regra das tr\u00eas semanas de separa\u00e7\u00e3o que deve seguir\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/The-Three-Week-Rule-Of-Break-Ups-You-Must-Follow-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/The-Three-Week-Rule-Of-Break-Ups-You-Must-Follow-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/The-Three-Week-Rule-Of-Break-Ups-You-Must-Follow-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Okay, so in the past few weeks, I\u2019ve been thinking a lot about doomed relationships and the necessary amount of time before you actually start feeling like yourself again post-break-up. Since we all know break-ups absolutely suck and there\u2019s no magic cure to fix you, I\u2019ve started analyzing my previous relationships in order to see&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":119587,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-47026","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/The-Three-Week-Rule-Of-Break-Ups-You-Must-Follow-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","parent":29627,"count":263,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29628,"category_count":263,"category_description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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