{"id":47447,"date":"2019-11-13T14:50:00","date_gmt":"2019-11-13T14:50:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=47447"},"modified":"2021-08-11T08:48:38","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T08:48:38","slug":"para-a-rapariga-que-confundiu-abuso-com-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/para-a-rapariga-que-confundiu-abuso-com-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"Para a rapariga que confundiu abuso com amor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando conheceste este homem, ficaste encantada com o seu amor eterno por ti. Ou, pelo menos, por algo que via como amor, mas que nunca esteve perto disso.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest\u2014at first, <\/span>estavas mais do que feliz por finalmente teres encontrado um homem que te queria s\u00f3 para ele; <\/b>a man who was ready to do everything in his power to keep you by his side and who wasn\u2019t ready to give up on you just like that.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all those guys who couldn\u2019t make up their minds about you and refused to <\/span>colocar um r\u00f3tulo na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/a>Foi derrubado pelo homem que se orgulhava de o chamar de seu.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mesmo quando ele come\u00e7ou a tratar-te como propriedade dele, gostaste deste sentimento de perten\u00e7a que nunca tinhas experimentado antes.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all those guys who didn\u2019t give a damn whether you were seeing other people as long as you were always available to them, <\/span>ficaste encantada por encontrar um homem que agia como se fosse morrer se pusesses os olhos noutro homem.<\/b><\/p>\n

Viste os seus ci\u00fames como uma prova do seu amor profundo e como uma forma de ele te mostrar o medo que tinha de te perder.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mesmo quando ele come\u00e7ou a pedir-lhe para cortar todos os la\u00e7os com todos os seus amigos homens e colegas de trabalho, mesmo quando lhe pediu para apagar todos os seus perfis nas redes sociais e mesmo quando come\u00e7ou a fazer cenas quando voc\u00ea falava com outro homem, <\/span>you didn\u2019t see it as a <\/b>perigosamente possessivo<\/b><\/a> comportamento<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Adolescente<\/p>\n

Instead, deep down, you were actually honored by the fact that he was clearly so crazy over you and that he wouldn\u2019t stand sharing your heart and thoughts with anyone else.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all those guys who weren\u2019t interested in your life, you didn\u2019t mind him talking trash about your closest friends.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pensou que ele s\u00f3 queria distanci\u00e1-la do mau impacto deles, em vez de o ver como uma forma de a isolar do resto do mundo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Depois de todos aqueles tipos que te deram migalhas da sua aten\u00e7\u00e3o, <\/span>ficou encantada por encontrar um homem que estava completamente concentrado em si<\/b>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even when he started calling you every fifteen minutes, even when he started showing up at your doorstep unannounced, and even when he wasn\u2019t allowing you to spend a second of your free time without him, <\/span>you didn\u2019t see it as a red flag<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t see it as his way of caging you and limiting you. Instead, you couldn\u2019t believe that you were so lucky to run into a man who was so in love with you that he didn\u2019t want to spend a moment apart.<\/span><\/p>\n

Depois de todos aqueles homens que lhe eram completamente indiferentes e que nunca se preocuparam com o futuro da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, foi surpreendida por um homem que lutou por ela, mesmo que isso significasse lutar consigo. <\/span><\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t see all the arguments he provoked as a sign of violence\u2014you saw them as his way of improving your relationship, working on your issues.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t see the insults he kept telling you as his attempts to put you down\u2014you saw them as his way of inspiring you to become better.<\/span><\/p>\n

Depois de todos aqueles homens que nunca te deixaram entrar nos seus cora\u00e7\u00f5es, foi f\u00e1cil para ti ficar cega e confundir abuso com amor.<\/b><\/p>\n

Yes, the truth is that you enjoyed this man\u2019s sick behavior at first\u2014<\/span>at\u00e9 que se tornou demasiado dif\u00edcil para si.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ele f\u00ea-la sentir-se especial e \u00fanica e, em vez de fugir, sentiu-se lisonjeada e convencida de que tinha ganho o jackpot. <\/span><\/p>\n

At\u00e9 que se apercebeu da terr\u00edvel verdade: nada disto foi amor<\/b>\u2014<\/span>era <\/b>abuso emocional<\/b><\/a> a toda a hora.<\/b><\/p>\n

E, de alguma forma, conseguiu misturar as duas coisas.<\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter that he never actually hit you<\/b>\u2014<\/span>ele era controlador, possessivo, t\u00f3xico e, acima de tudo, abusivo. Mas ele nunca te amou de verdade.<\/b><\/p>\n

Even if you still don\u2019t see it, I promise you that one day, you will. <\/span><\/p>\n

Once true love enters your life, you\u2019ll see the difference.<\/span><\/p>\n

Once you experience a healthy relationship which is based on mutual respect and trust, you\u2019ll see that this man never truly cared for you because this is not the way you treat the people you care for.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Para<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When you first met this man, you were enchanted by his undying love for you. Or at least, something you saw as love but was never near that. Let\u2019s be honest\u2014at first, you were more than happy that you finally ran into a man who wanted you all for himself; a man who was ready…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":47452,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-47447","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/shutterstock_344500055.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47447","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=47447"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/47447\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/47452"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=47447"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=47447"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=47447"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}