{"id":48221,"date":"2019-11-20T15:15:23","date_gmt":"2019-11-20T15:15:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=48221"},"modified":"2022-05-18T22:18:58","modified_gmt":"2022-05-18T22:18:58","slug":"deixar-de-se-comprometer-para-os-fazer-ficar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/deixar-de-se-comprometer-para-os-fazer-ficar\/","title":{"rendered":"Pare de fazer concess\u00f5es para que eles fiquem"},"content":{"rendered":"

A vida est\u00e1 cheia de compromissos, <\/span><\/i>isn\u2019t it?<\/span><\/p>\n

And if life is full of compromises, the only thing that seems fair is to split those compromises, don\u2019t you think?<\/span><\/p>\n

Sim, os encontros s\u00e3o confusos, tentar manter liga\u00e7\u00f5es neste mundo louco e r\u00e1pido exige muita energia e, por vezes, h\u00e1 coisas que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o priorit\u00e1rias e por isso desistimos delas. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s okay. <\/span><\/p>\n

Deve-se desistir das coisas que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o importantes. <\/span><\/p>\n

But you have to be careful with what you\u2019re giving up on. <\/span><\/p>\n

Please don\u2019t ever put yourself in that basket. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ever put yourself in the <\/span>n\u00e3o priorit\u00e1rio<\/span><\/i> cesto. <\/span><\/p>\n

A forma como se trata a si pr\u00f3prio abre um precedente para que os outros o tratem. Eles aprendem consigo. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re the one showing them what you\u2019re willing to tolerate and what not. Don\u2019t teach them that their choices are much more important than yours. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t teach them that their time is more valuable than yours. <\/b><\/p>\n

If you respond to their texts immediately and don\u2019t keep them waiting, you should get just as much in return. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t treat their <\/span>3 horas depois<\/span><\/i> reply as something normal. Don\u2019t be happy they decided to text back at least. No. It\u2019s not enough. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se reorganizar os seus planos para os ver e eles cancelar no \u00faltimo minuto<\/a>, don\u2019t be all thrilled and happy when they invite you out the next time. <\/span><\/p>\n

If the pattern is constantly repeated, it\u2019s not okay. Seeing them only on their terms is not okay.  No. It\u2019s not enough. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tu \u00e9s importante.<\/span><\/p>\n

Os seus planos s\u00e3o importantes.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Os seus desejos e vontades s\u00e3o t\u00e3o importantes como os deles. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your job, your ambitions, desires, hobbies are as big and as important as anyone else’s. Don\u2019t let them take that from you.<\/b><\/p>\n

A \u00fanica pessoa que deves manter na tua vida \u00e9s tu. <\/span><\/p>\n

The only person you\u2019re supposed to hold on tightly to and not let go of is yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me, you can live without them, but you can\u2019t live without yourself, and you care about yourself the least. <\/span><\/p>\n

As pessoas v\u00eam e v\u00e3o. Os amantes separam-se. Os amigos escolhem caminhos diferentes e distanciam-se. <\/span><\/p>\n

Those who swore to stay together forever suddenly change their minds and leave, and as sad as it may sound, it\u2019s okay. It\u2019s life.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 assim que acontece. Com o tempo, perdemos as pessoas. Mas, por favor, nunca te percas a ti pr\u00f3prio. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t force people to stay in your life. Staying is a choice, so be thankful for people who choose you.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

You must\u2019ve seen people leave a 5-10 year relationship, turn around and get married to someone they\u2019ve known for 6 months, and do all the things their ex always begged them to do. Stop preaching to people. Stop compromising for them. <\/span><\/p>\n

They hear you. They\u2019re never going to be the people you want them to be because you\u2019re not the one they want in their life. <\/span><\/p>\n

As pessoas mudam por quem querem. T\u00e3o simples quanto isso. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you have to start compromising yourself or your morals for the people around you, it\u2019s probably time to change the people around you. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

You are supposed to love people and compromise but only to the point where you\u2019re not choosing them over yourself, to the point where you\u2019re not compromising your happiness for their presence.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Estabele\u00e7a um equil\u00edbrio entre comprometer os seus desejos e fazer de si uma prioridade. E fa\u00e7a-o apenas por pessoas que estejam dispostas a fazer o mesmo por si. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estar apaixonado nesta gera\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 assustador. A lealdade \u00e9 t\u00e3o rara, e as pessoas s\u00e3o r\u00e1pidas a escolher um bom momento em vez de uma coisa boa.<\/span><\/p>\n

So I\u2019ll make you a deal. Hear me out.<\/span><\/p>\n

Stop letting them touch you and kiss you and take up your time if they don\u2019t want anything serious. <\/span><\/p>\n

Stop checking up on them if they\u2019re not checking up on you. Stop rescheduling your life when they can\u2019t fit you in their schedule at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

P\u00e1ra de te fazeres infeliz para os fazeres felizes. P\u00e1ra de implorar pela sua presen\u00e7a. <\/span><\/p>\n

Turn the game around. Dedicate all the time you were wasting on people who don\u2019t deserve it to yourself. Build yourself up. Talk nicely to yourself. Take yourself out. Treat yourself. Be your own privilege. <\/span><\/p>\n

E o que \u00e9 que vai acontecer? <\/span><\/p>\n

All those you were \u2018begging\u2019 to stay will slowly start disappearing from your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Because the only person who was putting in the effort for that relationship will stop and then what\u2019s left? <\/span><\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1s tu, rodeado de poucas pessoas, mas poucas dignas do teu tempo. Ser\u00e1 como se um elefante tivesse tirado uma das patas do teu peito. <\/span><\/p>\n

There will be plenty of life\u2019s battles to fight, but at least you\u2019ll know who you can count on.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Pare<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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