{"id":48719,"date":"2019-11-28T02:32:44","date_gmt":"2019-11-28T02:32:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=48719"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:35:05","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:35:05","slug":"5-razoes-pelas-quais-esse-homem-quebrado-nao-e-seu-para-consertar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-razoes-pelas-quais-esse-homem-quebrado-nao-e-seu-para-consertar\/","title":{"rendered":"5 raz\u00f5es pelas quais aquele homem destro\u00e7ado n\u00e3o \u00e9 seu para o consertar"},"content":{"rendered":"

J\u00e1 alguma vez esteve numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que conheceu um <\/span>homem emocionalmente afetado<\/span><\/a> que tinha toneladas de bagagem e problemas? <\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, em vez de fugir dele e de o deixar resolver os seus problemas sozinho, decidiu fazer exatamente o contr\u00e1rio: fez com que a sua tarefa fosse resolv\u00ea-lo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se isto \u00e9 algo com que te identificas, aqui est\u00e3o 5 raz\u00f5es pelas quais esta foi a pior decis\u00e3o da tua vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. You\u2019re not a superwoman<\/h2>\n

\"Um<\/p>\n

Quando se encontra pela primeira vez um homem emocionalmente afetado ou perturbado, v\u00ea-se a ele e \u00e0 sua situa\u00e7\u00e3o como um desafio. <\/span><\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019ve achieved things that seemed way more impossible than this one.<\/span><\/p>\n

You are not a quitter, and you know how capable you are, so why couldn\u2019t you <\/span>consertar este homem<\/span><\/a> tamb\u00e9m? <\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, you convinced yourself that you\u2019re the only one who can open his heart to love, the only one who has the ability to chase away his demons, and the only one who can help him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, let me break your bubble\u2014you\u2019re not. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re a strong, powerful girl\u2014nobody can argue with that. However, that doesn\u2019t give you superpowers, and it doesn\u2019t make you omnipotent when it comes to others.<\/span><\/p>\n

You probably don\u2019t want to give up on this guy because you would see that as your personal defeat. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, instead of looking at things this way, remember that you can\u2019t do everything you set your mind to.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. You weren\u2019t the one who damaged him<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Todos n\u00f3s devemos assumir a responsabilidade pelos nossos actos e erros. Este homem est\u00e1 quebrado por uma raz\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

He was probably hurt by a woman from his past or he has some traumas, issues and emotional baggage he keeps carrying around and can\u2019t seem to get rid of.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, o que deve perguntar a si pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 se foi voc\u00ea que o levou a sentir-se assim. <\/span><\/p>\n

Foste tu que lhe esmagaste o cora\u00e7\u00e3o e o mudaste para sempre?<\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, the answer is NO! You\u2019re not responsible for his wounds, so how can it be your duty to cure them?<\/span><\/p>\n

Remember: you can\u2019t repair what you didn\u2019t break. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, you can give him a hand in the process, but you can\u2019t be the one who does the healing instead of him.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. You can\u2019t save anyone<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

A dura verdade que muitos se recusam a encarar \u00e9 que <\/span>you can\u2019t save<\/span><\/a> anyone, especially if they don\u2019t want to be saved. <\/span><\/p>\n

Eu sei que isto \u00e9 dif\u00edcil de compreender, mas h\u00e1 pessoas que se habituaram \u00e0 sua dor. Tornou-se uma parte t\u00e3o insepar\u00e1vel delas que deixaram de a reconhecer como m\u00e1.<\/span><\/p>\n

There are people whose toxicity became their comfort zone and who actually don\u2019t have the desire to get rid of it. <\/span><\/p>\n

If your man is one of those people, sorry, but there is no point in trying to do his dirty work for him because you\u2019ll achieve nothing.<\/span><\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, se este tipo, por exemplo, precisa de uma conclus\u00e3o, tem de a obter da rapariga que o fez sentir-se assim. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se ele precisa de tempo para processar algumas coisas e para se afastar da sua dor, \u00e9 ele que tem de o fazer, com ou sem si na vida dele.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t take over his burden, as much as you want to, and you can\u2019t magically erase his scars. Well, technically you can try, but that would only be temporary.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. He\u2019ll only pull you down with him<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Quando come\u00e7ou a pensar em formas de ajudar este homem, provavelmente imaginou o melhor cen\u00e1rio poss\u00edvel. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your love, honesty, and devotion would soften his heart. He\u2019d get rid of the shields which kept him guarded, and he\u2019d show you his true, vulnerable self.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se conseguires, vais pux\u00e1-lo para a luz, e todos os seus dem\u00f3nios e traumas far\u00e3o parte da sua mem\u00f3ria distante. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sounds great, I know\u2014almost too great to be true.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, what you didn\u2019t take into consideration is for things to happen the other way around. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 que h\u00e1 sempre a possibilidade de ele a arrastar consigo e de ficar danificada, tal como ele.<\/span><\/p>\n

There\u2019s a very real possibility for his negativity and toxicity to overweigh your positive energy and the love you\u2019re bringing to the table; a possibility for you both to end up completely messed up.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. \u00c9 preciso concentrar-se em si pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

\"A<\/p>\n

For as long as you can remember, you\u2019ve been a selfless person who has taken care of other people\u2019s needs. <\/span><\/p>\n

You were everyone\u2019s shoulder to cry on, the wind to their wings, and the person who never gave up on her closest ones.<\/span><\/p>\n

And that is an awesome quality. You\u2019re obviously an <\/span>emp\u00e1tico<\/span><\/a> que est\u00e1 pronta a mover montanhas pelas pessoas que ama.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, instead of taking over someone else’s problems, it is about time for you to focus on yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is about time to give yourself the place which belongs to you\u2014a place on the top of your own priority list.<\/span><\/p>\n

E n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de ego\u00edsta nisso. Pelo contr\u00e1rio, \u00e9 a \u00fanica forma de as coisas funcionarem.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not advising you to become an egocentric maniac who only cares for her own wellbeing. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, I\u2019m begging you not to get yourself in a situation where you\u2019ll drain all of your energy on trying to help others and end up with no strength to lift yourself up when you need it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Please, redirect all of the effort and time you\u2019ve been giving to this man to yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Certifique-se de que se torna a melhor vers\u00e3o poss\u00edvel de si pr\u00f3pria e da mulher que sabe que est\u00e1 destinada a ser antes de se concentrar nos outros.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sounds kind of ruthless, I know. Nevertheless, it is the only way in which your own life won\u2019t suffer because of others.<\/span><\/p>\n

Because the truth is that no matter how deeply you care for another person, you have to put yourself first because you\u2019re the one who matters the most. <\/span><\/p>\n

E temos sempre de nos amar a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios antes de amarmos os outros.<\/span><\/p>\n

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