{"id":49009,"date":"2019-12-02T21:06:11","date_gmt":"2019-12-02T21:06:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=49009"},"modified":"2022-01-21T12:43:32","modified_gmt":"2022-01-21T12:43:32","slug":"4-consequencias-de-seguir-em-frente-antes-de-curar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/4-consequencias-de-seguir-em-frente-antes-de-curar\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Consequ\u00eancias de seguir em frente antes de se curar"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando se est\u00e1 a passar por uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o dolorosa, o seu principal desejo \u00e9 recuperar e continuar a sua vida o mais rapidamente poss\u00edvel. <\/span><\/p>\n

Queres esquecer tudo o que aconteceu, apagar todas as tuas mem\u00f3rias dolorosas, levantar-te e tornar o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido inteiro outra vez.<\/span><\/p>\n

And that\u2019s perfectly normal. After all, who enjoys being overwhelmed by sadness and having their life put on standby?<\/span><\/p>\n

Your desire to move on is actually a good thing \u2013 it means you still have hope for a better tomorrow and optimism to go back to your old self. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, it\u2019s dangerous to believe that things will be fixed and you\u2019ll recover overnight.<\/span><\/p>\n

Seguir em frente demasiado depressa e tentar faz\u00ea-lo sem se curar primeiro pode causar mais danos do que benef\u00edcios.<\/span><\/p>\n

De facto, eis as consequ\u00eancias mais comuns que da\u00ed podem advir.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. You complicate your life by jumping into a rebound relationship\u2026<\/h2>\n

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O erro n\u00famero um que a maioria das pessoas comete logo ap\u00f3s passar por uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o dolorosa \u00e9 <\/span>entrar numa nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o demasiado cedo<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sim, h\u00e1 situa\u00e7\u00f5es em que substituir o seu antigo parceiro rom\u00e2ntico por algu\u00e9m novo \u00e9 o melhor rem\u00e9dio para o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o destro\u00e7ado e, por vezes, pode ser a forma mais eficaz de ultrapassar o seu ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, in most cases, people only deceive themselves, thinking they\u2019re completely ready to step into a new relationship, when they\u2019re actually nowhere near it. <\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, this kind of arrangement can only complicate your life further on and this is the last thing you need at this point \u2013 you already have too much weight on your back.<\/span><\/p>\n

As long as you don\u2019t care who your new boyfriend will be and are only concerned with getting yourself involved in a fresh relationship, it\u2019s more than an obvious sign that you\u2019re not in a search of a new love \u2013 you\u2019re looking for a rebound. <\/span><\/p>\n

Before you know it, you\u2019ll find yourself in a situationship you haven\u2019t thought through and have trouble getting out of.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of putting your entire focus on making yourself feel better and getting over your ex, whether you like it or not, you\u2019ll simply have to invest some energy in your new relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

This relationship can\u2019t have a future because it isn\u2019t built on a healthy foundation, which means a breakup is inevitable. <\/span><\/p>\n

E isso \u00e9 algo de que precisa realmente neste momento?<\/span><\/p>\n

2. …which can be toxic<\/h2>\n

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However, what\u2019s even worse than getting yourself involved in a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o de ricochete<\/span><\/a> that has no future is the fact that you lower your standards when you\u2019re trying to seguir em frente demasiado depressa<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quer encontrar um novo parceiro a todo o custo e a \u00fanica coisa que lhe interessa \u00e9 n\u00e3o estar sozinho, o que nunca pode trazer nada de bom \u00e0 sua vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

This way, you can easily find someone who\u2019ll take advantage of your vulnerabilities and deepen your emotional wounds even more. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can find yourself stuck with a man who\u2019s wrong for you in more ways than one, but you\u2019ll fail to see that in time because your desire to move on right away has blindsighted you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, a bagagem emocional que carrega para esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o torna-a t\u00f3xica. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can never give your entire heart to this new person if you still have feelings for your ex. You can\u2019t give him your trust if you still have issues from your past. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t give him your undivided attention if your thoughts are elsewhere. You can\u2019t give him your entire self if parts of you are still trapped in the past.<\/span><\/p>\n

Besides, this kind of arrangement is unfair towards your new boyfriend, who doesn\u2019t have a clue what he\u2019s facing but has to deal with your emotional baggage. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re leading him on and by doing so, you\u2019re becoming just like your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. You try healing in all the wrong ways\u2026<\/h2>\n

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A pior consequ\u00eancia de tentar <\/span>seguir em frente<\/span><\/a> in an unhealthy way lies in all the things you actually do while you\u2019re subconsciously trying to heal. <\/span><\/p>\n

You engage in meaningless affairs, one night stands, in potentially dangerous sexual behavior\u2026 Not only that \u2013 there are some people who get themselves involved with drugs or other addictions.<\/span><\/p>\n

You might think that piling on the work or hitting the gym can\u2019t be bad, but that\u2019s also a form of destructive behavior if you overdo it and do it for all the wrong reasons. <\/span><\/p>\n

Manter-se ocupado durante o processo de cura \u00e9 o conselho n\u00famero um que todos os especialistas em encontros lhe dar\u00e3o, mas tamb\u00e9m tem de reservar algum tempo para processar os seus sentimentos em vez de fugir deles.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s clear that you\u2019re trying to repress your emotions and act like they don\u2019t exist. And we both know that\u2019s never a solution.<\/span><\/p>\n

De facto, este tipo de comportamento pode causar mais danos a longo prazo do que se possa pensar, podendo provocar depress\u00e3o grave, ansiedade e outros problemas de sa\u00fade mental.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. …but your pain gets to you sooner or later<\/h2>\n

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What everyone moving on without healing forgets is that you can\u2019t expect the pain and the <\/span>bagagem emocional<\/span><\/a> to magically disappear just because you decided to pretend it\u2019s not there. <\/span><\/p>\n

You won\u2019t erase them by burying them \u2013 in fact, you\u2019re just digging them deeper and with time, they\u2019ll become a part of you and start defining you as a person.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, the point is that all of these issues and feelings will reappear on the surface when you least expect them to, after you think they\u2019re long gone. <\/span><\/p>\n

One day, they\u2019ll hit you out of nowhere and you won\u2019t know what happened.<\/span><\/p>\n

O pior \u00e9 que as emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas se multiplicam com o tempo se as ignorarmos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Basically, the pain that\u2019ll catch up to you in the future will be much more intense than it is now.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sooner or later, your past demons will come knocking on your door to remind you of the things you owe them \u2013 to destroy the happiness it took you so long to build.<\/span><\/p>\n

And when that happens, they\u2019ll be so strong and so close that there\u2019ll be no point in trying to escape them.<\/span><\/p>\n

In a nutshell, there\u2019s no need for you to play all tough because repressing your emotions actually only makes you a coward. <\/span><\/p>\n

Em vez disso, lidar com elas a tempo e fazer as coisas de forma saud\u00e1vel, um passo de cada vez, \u00e9 o que faz de si uma pessoa madura e forte.<\/span><\/p>\n

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