{"id":49533,"date":"2019-12-10T14:01:42","date_gmt":"2019-12-10T14:01:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=49533"},"modified":"2022-02-10T12:25:21","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T12:25:21","slug":"7-habitos-de-relacionamento-toxicos-que-confundimos-como-normais","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/7-habitos-de-relacionamento-toxicos-que-confundimos-como-normais\/","title":{"rendered":"7 h\u00e1bitos de relacionamento t\u00f3xicos que n\u00f3s confundimos com o normal"},"content":{"rendered":"

When it comes to other people\u2019s relationships, we are all experts on the subject, but when our own relationship is at stake, we have no idea what to do about it.<\/p>\n

Somos completamente ignorantes e cegos. <\/p>\n

Someone else\u2019s relationship is displayed to you so clearly.<\/p>\n

Pode ver todos os sinais de alerta, mesmo aqueles que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o perigosos, mas que o s\u00e3o potencialmente.<\/p>\n

Tem a capacidade de detetar tudo, por mais insignificante ou pequeno que seja. <\/p>\n

This is actually very fascinating because the same people who point out other people\u2019s mistakes in a relationship don\u2019t see their own.<\/p>\n

Pelo contr\u00e1rio, pensamos que o nosso comportamento e a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e3o perfeitos. <\/b><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o fazemos ideia de que a nossa a rela\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 a gritar com a toxicidade <\/a>e a morrer lentamente.<\/p>\n

Tudo isto por causa das coisas que pensamos serem normais.<\/p>\n

Porque optamos por ignorar os problemas e esperar que eles desapare\u00e7am.<\/p>\n

Esta loucura vai at\u00e9 ao ponto em que come\u00e7amos a acreditar que estes h\u00e1bitos t\u00f3xicos<\/a> s\u00e3o de facto boas para a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

A ilus\u00e3o apodera-se completamente da rela\u00e7\u00e3o e, com o tempo, a rela\u00e7\u00e3o cede sob press\u00e3o. Porque nada de podre pode durar para sempre. <\/p>\n

Comunica\u00e7\u00e3o excessiva<\/h2>\n

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A comunica\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 uma das partes mais importantes de qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Mas, verdade seja dita, h\u00e1 que estabelecer um limite entre o saud\u00e1vel e o possessivo.<\/p>\n

A linha \u00e9, de facto, muito t\u00e9nue e \u00e9 f\u00e1cil deixarmo-nos levar, especialmente no in\u00edcio da rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/p>\n

In that honeymoon phase, it\u2019s more than natural to want to spend every possible second with the person you\u2019re madly in love with.<\/p>\n

O problema surge quando esta comunica\u00e7\u00e3o excessiva se torna num comportamento obsessivo. <\/p>\n

Ao fim de algum tempo, um dos dois parceiros ficar\u00e1 certamente farto de ter de falar constantemente com o outro e de lhe dizer os seus planos e o seu paradeiro.<\/p>\n

Tornar-se-\u00e1 uma obriga\u00e7\u00e3o que conduzir\u00e1 ao desprezo. <\/p>\n

Evitar conflitos<\/h2>\n

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Depois da fase de lua de mel, come\u00e7a a fase em que se v\u00eaem certas coisas e padr\u00f5es de comportamento com mais clareza.<\/p>\n

Maybe some of them don\u2019t suit you, or you want to change them, but because you\u2019re avoiding conflict to keep the peace and the lovey-dovey phase of your relationship alive for as long as possible, you\u2019re avoiding confrontation. <\/p>\n

By doing what you think is best for the relationship, you\u2019re only making it worse.<\/p>\n

By saying nothing, your partner will keep on doing what really bothers you because they have no idea it\u2019s driving you crazy. <\/p>\n

But in the long run, it\u2019s better to say what is bothering you right away than to try to put up with it.<\/p>\n

Guardar dentro de si as coisas que o incomodam vai fazer com que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o acabe lentamente.<\/p>\n

Isso \u00e9 um vulc\u00e3o dentro de si \u00e0 espera de entrar em erup\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

The longer it\u2019s calm, the worse the eruption will be. <\/p>\n

Manter a pontua\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

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You and your partner aren\u2019t able to let go of the past.<\/p>\n

Therefore, you\u2019re actually keeping score of who screwed up more in your relationship.<\/p>\n

Quem fez menos asneiras \u00e9 obviamente o vencedor.<\/p>\n

Isto \u00e9 errado a muitos n\u00edveis para a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

First of all, you\u2019re never going to resolve your current issues if you keep on going back to the past.<\/p>\n

When one of you makes a mistake, the other one shouldn\u2019t gloat or think that you\u2019re even.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, a pessoa que comete o erro nunca deve come\u00e7ar a defender-se atacando o seu parceiro e trazendo \u00e0 baila algo que fez mal h\u00e1 muito tempo. <\/p>\n

If both of you keep up with this behavior, you\u2019re only going in circles that will make your relationship hopelessly toxic.<\/p>\n

And secondly, by acting like this, you\u2019re only creating more pain.<\/p>\n

In other words, you\u2019re manipulating your partner into feeling guilty about their mistakes.<\/p>\n

Agir assim n\u00e3o \u00e9 justo nem bom a longo prazo.<\/p>\n

O seu parceiro acabar\u00e1 por perder a autoestima se continuar a deit\u00e1-lo abaixo e a faz\u00ea-lo sentir-se mal de prop\u00f3sito. <\/p>\n

Comparing them to your \u2018old love\u2019<\/h2>\n

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Maybe your partner will find this funny or cute in the beginning, especially if you\u2019re mentioning them in a good or better way than their ex.<\/p>\n

Com o tempo, isto pode ficar velho, aviso-o.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s one thing to talk about your ex only in the beginning, but if you keep mentioning them later on, too, you\u2019re going to have a problem.<\/p>\n

Even if you\u2019re remembering your old love in a bad way, enough is enough.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time your relationship moves on to another level, in which no one will mention any other person than the two of you.<\/p>\n

Um n\u00edvel em que s\u00f3 voc\u00eas os dois importam e mais ningu\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

Just a heads-up; on that level there is no place for a third person\u2014not even in memory. <\/p>\n

Ser passivo-agressivo<\/h2>\n

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Pessoas que s\u00e3o passivo-agressivo numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o <\/a>t\u00eam claramente medo de ser francos com o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

They are scared to say what\u2019s on their mind and terrified to speak clearly. <\/p>\n

O que as pessoas passivo-agressivas fazem numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 manipular o parceiro para que este compreenda o que elas est\u00e3o a tentar dizer, em vez de o dizerem em voz alta.<\/p>\n

A pessoa que se sente segura e protegida com o seu parceiro nunca o manipular\u00e1 com a sua pr\u00f3pria opini\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

A person in a healthy relationship won\u2019t feel that insecure, nor they will drop hints about what they want.<\/p>\n

Eles simplesmente pedem-no. <\/p>\n

Revestimento de a\u00e7\u00facar<\/h2>\n

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If you or your partner have to walk around on eggshells with each other, scared to say something wrong\u2026 that\u2019s not a relationship.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s BS, pardon my French!<\/p>\n

It\u2019s one thing that we have to do that shit every day with different people, strangers in a way, but do we have to do it with our partner as well?<\/p>\n

Of course we don\u2019t!<\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t be completely honest with your partner, then your relationship is toxic from the beginning.<\/p>\n

It has no future, so don\u2019t even try to create one.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t beat around the bush, speak what\u2019s on your mind.<\/p>\n

If they seem bothered by your honesty, then it\u2019s them who have a problem and not you. <\/p>\n

Ci\u00fame disfar\u00e7ado de amor<\/h2>\n

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Surpreendentemente, muitas pessoas definem este comportamento como amor.<\/p>\n

O que mais me impressiona \u00e9 o facto de estarem a ignorar voluntariamente um comportamento potencialmente muito perigoso que pode facilmente transformar-se em abuso emocional. <\/p>\n

If your partner starts exhibiting strange behavior such as getting pissed when you talk to someone else, especially someone of the opposite sex, that\u2019s a very alarming sign indicating that more serious problems are about to emerge. <\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be surprised if they cross over from \u2018just being pissed\u2019 to start following you around the city and checking your phone or your emails.<\/p>\n

O ci\u00fame \u00e9 uma doen\u00e7a grave, capaz de se propagar muito rapidamente ao ponto de destruir uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o outrora feliz. <\/p>\n

Como quebrar h\u00e1bitos t\u00f3xicos disfar\u00e7ados de normais?<\/h2>\n

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It\u2019s easy to start a relationship, anyone can do that.<\/p>\n

A parte complicada \u00e9 manter essa rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel e viva; isso exige muito trabalho \u00e1rduo e, mais importante, nunca se deve deixar de tentar.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in a happy phase, it\u2019s easy to be happy and keep things positive.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to have faith in someone when everything is running smoothly. <\/p>\n

Mas a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o sobreviver\u00e1 a tudo e a todos se ambos continuarem a tentar quando tudo \u00e0 vossa volta se desmorona.<\/p>\n

When things are going south, it\u2019s a real challenge to remain positive. <\/p>\n

It\u2019s too easy for a relationship to turn into a toxic one.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t take much for things to go to shit. <\/p>\n

A resposta definitiva \u00e0 quest\u00e3o de como acabar com os h\u00e1bitos t\u00f3xicos \u00e9..: <\/p>\n

1. P\u00e1ra de mentir a ti pr\u00f3prio<\/p>\n

2. Compreender-se a si pr\u00f3prio primeiro e depois a rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/p>\n

3. Maturidade<\/p>\n

Aqui est\u00e1.<\/p>\n

As tr\u00eas principais respostas \u00e0 pergunta acima.<\/p>\n

Podem parecer simples e f\u00e1ceis de alcan\u00e7ar, mas requerem muito trabalho. <\/p>\n

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