{"id":50284,"date":"2019-12-26T18:24:39","date_gmt":"2019-12-26T18:24:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=50284"},"modified":"2022-07-15T09:48:29","modified_gmt":"2022-07-15T09:48:29","slug":"10-perguntas-a-fazer-a-si-proprio-se-suspeitar-que-a-sua-relacao-e-abusiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/10-perguntas-a-fazer-a-si-proprio-se-suspeitar-que-a-sua-relacao-e-abusiva\/","title":{"rendered":"10 perguntas a fazer a si pr\u00f3prio se suspeitar que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 abusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

What many don\u2019t know is that there are numerous forms of abuse besides physical: <\/span>emocional<\/span><\/a>, verbal, sexual\u2026 However, these types of mistreatment are often hard for the victims to identify.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, se se questiona se a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 abusiva, eis 10 perguntas que deve fazer a si pr\u00f3prio para ter a certeza.  <\/span><\/p>\n

1. A culpa \u00e9 sempre minha?<\/h2>\n

\"Mulheres<\/p>\n

Todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o uma via de dois sentidos. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, this doesn\u2019t only mean that both of the people involved have to put in the <\/span>a mesma quantidade de esfor\u00e7o<\/span><\/a> to make it work\u2014it also means that both parties have to take responsibility for its problems. <\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, quando se trata de si e do seu namorado, as coisas s\u00e3o muito diferentes. De facto, de alguma forma, acabamos por ser culpados por tudo o que acontece entre os dois, mesmo quando nada \u00e9 culpa nossa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mesmo quando este indiv\u00edduo pede desculpa e aceita os seus erros, consegue inverter a situa\u00e7\u00e3o e dizer que foi voc\u00ea que provocou o seu mau comportamento. <\/span><\/p>\n

Portanto, seja como for, ele \u00e9 a v\u00edtima. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Ele intimida-me?<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

O meu parceiro aproveita todas as oportunidades para me deitar abaixo, quando estamos sozinhos e, sobretudo, \u00e0 frente dos outros? Ele usa piadas inapropriadas para disfar\u00e7ar os seus insultos?<\/span><\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 que sinto que o sentido de humor dele \u00e9 depreciativo? Ser\u00e1 que ele me trata como as raparigas m\u00e1s tratam o mi\u00fado impopular nos dramas do liceu?<\/span><\/p>\n

If the answers to most of these questions are affirmative, let\u2019s be honest and call things by their real name: he is not joking, he is ridiculing you. And there is a huge difference between these two things. <\/span><\/p>\n

Na verdade, o seu namorado est\u00e1 a intimid\u00e1-la, o que tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 uma forma de abuso emocional. <\/span><\/p>\n

He is trying to convince you that you\u2019re not enough and to make fun of you because that is the only way for him to feel better about himself and to seemingly increase his own worth. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. O nosso sexo \u00e9 sempre consensual? <\/h2>\n

\"Foi<\/p>\n

Is he forcing me to sleep with him even when I\u2019m not in the mood? Am I doing some things in the bedroom I\u2019m not comfortable with?<\/span><\/p>\n

Independentemente do que algu\u00e9m lhe possa dizer, a viola\u00e7\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou num casamento \u00e9 uma coisa real e acontece \u00e0 nossa volta. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sexual abuse is quite common among partners and if this is something you can relate to, you\u2019re not exaggerating for feeling bad about it; you\u2019re a victim here. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Ele est\u00e1 a tentar controlar-me?<\/h2>\n

\"Problemas<\/p>\n

Ele \u00e9 demasiado ciumento? Est\u00e1 constantemente a dizer-me o que devo fazer?<\/span><\/p>\n

Estar\u00e1 ele a tentar determinar a forma como gasto o meu dinheiro e o meu tempo livre ou com quem saio? Est\u00e1 a controlar as minhas ac\u00e7\u00f5es, palavras e pensamentos?<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, relationships are all about compromises. You\u2019re a part of a couple and it is not OKAY to make big life decisions without consulting your partner first. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, that doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re in a cage or that you\u2019re required to listen to everything he has to say. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re not a little kid and he is not your parent, so you don\u2019t need him guiding or raising you. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Estar\u00e1 ele a enganar-me?<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Is he constantly convincing me that something didn\u2019t happen, even though I know the truth very well? Does he try to twist all situations which don\u2019t go in his favor? <\/span><\/p>\n

Is he making me feel crazy most of the time? Does he have a habit of telling me that I\u2019m imagining or misinterpreting things, even though I\u2019m certain of what I heard and saw?<\/span><\/p>\n

Estar\u00e1 ele a brincar com a minha mente e perce\u00e7\u00e3o da realidade?<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, if this is the case, don\u2019t worry, you\u2019re not a lunatic; he is <\/span>ilumina\u00e7\u00e3o artificial<\/span><\/a> tu.<\/span><\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 uma t\u00e1tica comum utilizada pela maioria dos narcisistas e abusadores para os ajudar a ter um maior controlo sobre a sua v\u00edtima e para se safarem mais facilmente dos seus actos il\u00edcitos.  <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Posso exprimir-me?<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Posso dizer sempre a minha opini\u00e3o em alto e bom som? Posso discordar deste homem e das suas atitudes? <\/span><\/p>\n

Tenho a liberdade de o criticar pelos seus actos? De o insultar de volta, se ele o fizer primeiro? <\/span><\/p>\n

Or do I always back out and eventually end up nodding my head to everything he says? Am I always quiet about what I think because I don\u2019t want to oppose him?<\/span><\/p>\n

Even though you might not see it now, these are all symptoms of abuse and things that you shouldn\u2019t keep on tolerating any longer if you want to preserve your mental health. <\/span><\/p>\n

7. Somos parceiros iguais?<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Tomamos todas as decis\u00f5es em conjunto? Temos de estar ambos de acordo antes de tomarmos qualquer decis\u00e3o que tenha impacto na nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/span><\/p>\n

Temos os mesmos direitos e deveres? Partilhamos obriga\u00e7\u00f5es e tarefas? <\/span><\/p>\n

Uma pessoa manda e a outra obedece? Ele \u00e9 dominante e eu sou submissa? <\/span><\/p>\n

Esque\u00e7a a vis\u00e3o tradicional de que o homem \u00e9 o chefe de fam\u00edlia. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you are in a healthy relationship, you two are completely equal and there doesn\u2019t exist a scenario in which one person is above the other. <\/span><\/p>\n

O dom\u00ednio s\u00f3 \u00e9 poss\u00edvel no quarto e, mesmo a\u00ed, tem de acontecer nos termos de ambos. <\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, o seu parceiro trata-a como se fosse dele <\/span>esposa submissa<\/span><\/a> ou namorada na vida real \u00e9 definitivamente um abuso. <\/span><\/p>\n

8. Ele respeita-me sempre?<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Interrompe-me quando estou a falar? Fala mal dos meus amigos e da minha fam\u00edlia?<\/span><\/p>\n

Incentiva os meus passatempos ou goza com eles? Ele diminui as minhas rela\u00e7\u00f5es passadas? <\/span><\/p>\n

Humilha-me por ganhar menos do que ele? Insulta a minha educa\u00e7\u00e3o, escolha de carreira ou decis\u00f5es? <\/span><\/p>\n

Este homem respeita-me como pessoa, como mulher e como sua namorada? <\/span><\/p>\n

And does he do it all the time, even when we\u2019re arguing, even when he is angry at me and even when he disagrees with me? <\/span><\/p>\n

O respeito \u00e9 n\u00e3o negoci\u00e1vel numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> e tem de existir em todas as situa\u00e7\u00f5es poss\u00edveis.<\/span><\/p>\n

Um homem que a respeite de verdade nunca faria nada para a magoar intencionalmente e nunca pensaria em abusar de si de forma alguma. <\/span><\/p>\n

9. Tenho medo dele?<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Am I afraid of my boyfriend\u2019s reaction? Am I always worried about what he might say?<\/span><\/p>\n

Am I trembling before I tell him something he probably won\u2019t like? Am I afraid that he\u2019ll leave me the moment I do something he considers a mistake? <\/span><\/p>\n

When someone asks you whether you\u2019re scared of your partner, you automatically assume that you\u2019ve been asked whether you expect him to hit you when you don\u2019t do something his way. <\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, tamb\u00e9m existem outros tipos de medo e se sentir algo remotamente semelhante, \u00e9 altura de fazer as malas e perceber que esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o n\u00e3o \u00e9 o que precisa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your life doesn\u2019t depend on this man, even though he is convincing you otherwise. <\/span><\/p>\n

There is absolutely no reason for you to be afraid of him; he is not your master, he doesn\u2019t own you and you can live without him. <\/span><\/p>\n

10. Ele j\u00e1 foi fisicamente violento?<\/h2>\n

\"Os<\/p>\n

Has he even grabbed my hand while we\u2019re fighting? Has he ever yelled at me in a manner that made me think he might kick me? <\/span><\/p>\n

Veja, <\/span>abuso f\u00edsico<\/span><\/a> isn\u2019t only about him actually punching you in the face. <\/span><\/p>\n

Na verdade, \u00e9 muito mais do que isso; \u00e9 n\u00e3o respeitar o seu espa\u00e7o pessoal, falar diretamente na sua cara ou agarr\u00e1-lo pelo queixo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest\u2014if something similar has ever happened to you, can you swear that it wouldn\u2019t have escalated to something bigger and more serious if you hadn\u2019t backed out in time? I guess not.<\/span><\/p>\n

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