{"id":50301,"date":"2019-12-26T19:30:50","date_gmt":"2019-12-26T19:30:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=50301"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:33:11","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:33:11","slug":"6-coisas-a-ter-em-conta-quando-se-quer-desligar-o-coracao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-coisas-a-ter-em-conta-quando-se-quer-desligar-o-coracao\/","title":{"rendered":"6 coisas para lembrar quando se quer desligar o cora\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

J\u00e1 alguma vez se fartou de desilus\u00f5es, humilha\u00e7\u00f5es, falsas promessas, rela\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00f3xicas, fantasmas, separa\u00e7\u00f5es devastadoras, jogos mentais e, finalmente, m\u00e1goas?<\/p>\n

J\u00e1 alguma vez chegou a um ponto de rutura e n\u00e3o viu outra sa\u00edda sen\u00e3o desistir completamente do amor?<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve been trying your best to find the love of your life for so long but without any success.<\/p>\n

So, after all those failed attempts, you started believing that you\u2019re n\u00e3o foi feito para ser amado<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Para o dizer de forma simples: Decidiu que j\u00e1 era altura de come\u00e7ar a agir sem cora\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/p>\n

If this is something you can relate to, I\u2019m here to ask you to reconsider your decision.<\/p>\n

Actually, I\u2019m here to remind you of a few things you shouldn\u2019t forget if you think that shutting your heart off is the thing to do.<\/p>\n

1. He\u2019s not worthy<\/h2>\n

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Let\u2019s be honest. You\u2019re disappointed in love thanks to a certain douchebag who broke your heart and tore you to pieces. So, wasn\u2019t that more than enough?<\/p>\n

Haven\u2019t you given this guy enough importance? Hasn\u2019t he impacted your life enough?<\/p>\n

Bem, como \u00e9 que podes sequer pensar em dar-lhe mais aten\u00e7\u00e3o? Achas mesmo que ele merece mais do teu tempo?<\/p>\n

Se decidir privar-se da possibilidade de alguma vez encontrar o amor, isso ser\u00e1 um sinal de que ele ganhou.<\/p>\n

Significa que ele era t\u00e3o importante para si que conseguiu mudar a ess\u00eancia da sua personalidade e remodelar toda a sua vida.<\/p>\n

And no matter how much you cared for this man, he\u2019s not worthy of all of this. At least not after everything he\u2019s put you through. <\/p>\n

In fact, the only way for you to defeat him and overcome everything he did to you is to show both of you that you\u2019re capable of moving on with your life, as if nothing happened.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s to show him that just because he broke your heart, it doesn\u2019t mean he broke you. <\/p>\n

2. You\u2019ll be sorry<\/h2>\n

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Another thing you need to keep in mind is that you\u2019ll regret your decision of shutting down your heart forever.<\/p>\n

Even though at this moment you\u2019re probably convinced that this is the best decision you can make, trust me: After a while, you\u2019ll actually start seeing it as the worst mistake of your life.<\/p>\n

Whether you believe me or not, love is beautiful and it\u2019s a pity to consciously kick it out of your life forever, especially because of some jerk. <\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong. There\u2019s nothing wrong with ending up alone, if things happen that way. In this case scenario, you wouldn\u2019t have anyone to blame but destiny.<\/p>\n

However, if you make this choice, you\u2019re going to be the only one responsible for your numbness, lack of emotions, and all other negative consequences shutting your heart off will bring you.<\/p>\n

I assure you that once you get old, you\u2019ll be sorry for not playing your cards differently and for not at least giving love a shot.<\/p>\n

3. It won\u2019t protect you\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

The only reason you made the choice of shutting down your emotions for good is because you think it\u2019s the only way to protect yourself.<\/p>\n

Conseguiu convencer-se de que n\u00e3o tem outra op\u00e7\u00e3o sen\u00e3o deixar de deixar entrar toda a gente como medida de precau\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

After many failures, you concluded that you obviously have bad judgment skills and don\u2019t know how to choose right.<\/p>\n

Por isso, decidiu desistir do amor<\/a> para se poupar a dores de cabe\u00e7a e m\u00e1goas desnecess\u00e1rias e para deixar de dar aos outros a oportunidade de o continuarem a magoar.<\/p>\n

However, I have to disappoint you and tell you that this won\u2019t protect you.<\/p>\n

Pode agir sem cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> as much as you want, but that doesn\u2019t mean that you don\u2019t have a heart that beats on its own.<\/p>\n

Despite all your attempts, you can\u2019t control your destiny and you never know what\u2019ll happen next.<\/p>\n

Therefore, all of your efforts will be pointless and if it\u2019s meant to be, someone will hurt you again.<\/p>\n

…but it will change you<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

No entanto, a pior parte \u00e9 que tentar fazer tudo isto vai mudar-nos para sempre.<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t only lose the ability to love the way you used to \u2013 which, that alone, is sad enough \u2013 you\u2019ll also lose your kindness, optimism, and happiness overall.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s nothing wrong in building and updating yourself over time.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, this has to happen on your own terms and when you want it to, not as a consequence of someone else\u2019s actions and behavior towards you.<\/p>\n

4. Privar-te-\u00e1 da felicidade<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

You see, you can\u2019t decide on what kind of emotions you want to stop feeling.<\/p>\n

Sim, a vida seria perfeita se oferecesse a possibilidade de escolher sentir apenas alegria e outras emo\u00e7\u00f5es boas, e de desligar a tristeza, a raiva, o ressentimento e todas as outras negatividades.<\/p>\n

On the contrary, even if you succeed in this mission of shutting your heart down, it will kill all emotions you have, including the ones you don\u2019t want to get rid of and would rather keep.<\/p>\n

Ficar\u00e1s completamente indiferente e entorpecido.<\/p>\n

It will make it impossible for you to open up to those who deserve it, have honest relationships, and fall in love ever again. The worst part is that it\u2019ll deprive you from happiness.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you keep putting yourself out there \u2013 I won\u2019t lie to you \u2013 there\u2019s a chance of your heart being broken once more.<\/p>\n

But, there\u2019s also a chance of you ending up happier than you\u2019ve ever been.And I assure you that this is a risk worth taking.<\/p>\n

5. Other people aren\u2019t to blame<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

The thing many forget is that other people from their future shouldn\u2019t suffer for the actions of those from their past.<\/p>\n

What I\u2019m trying to say is: there\u2019s no point in you punishing the men you\u2019re yet to meet and expect the worst from them, just because some douchebag didn\u2019t treat you right.<\/p>\n

Lembre-se que nem toda a gente \u00e9 como o teu ex<\/a>. There are plenty of other men out there who are the opposite of him, who\u2019d give you what you want and deserve.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, queres mesmo que este rapaz simp\u00e1tico sofra as consequ\u00eancias dos teus traumas passados, com os quais ele n\u00e3o tem nada a ver.<\/p>\n

6. O amor vir\u00e1 at\u00e9 ti<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Even though you probably don\u2019t believe me now, I\u2019m begging you not to give up because love will come knocking on your door.<\/p>\n

Even though it\u2019s the last thing on your mind at this point, I assure you that it will appear when you least expect it.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, queres mesmo receb\u00ea-lo com o cora\u00e7\u00e3o fechado? Queres que ela te encontre ressentido e amargurado?<\/p>\n

Aposto que n\u00e3o!<\/p>\n

\"6<\/p>\n

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