{"id":50587,"date":"2020-09-05T16:51:21","date_gmt":"2020-09-05T16:51:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=50587"},"modified":"2022-12-05T16:58:58","modified_gmt":"2022-12-05T16:58:58","slug":"nao-esta-preparado-para-uma-relacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-esta-preparado-para-uma-relacao\/","title":{"rendered":"Os 10 principais sinais de que voc\u00ea n\u00e3o est\u00e1 pronto para um relacionamento no momento"},"content":{"rendered":"

Encontrar o amor e ser de facto pronto <\/i> para abordar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e9ria s\u00e3o duas coisas completamente diferentes.<\/p>\n

A vida tem formas misteriosas de nos atirar bolas curvas nas piores alturas poss\u00edveis e de nos fazer sofrer imenso desgosto, precisamente quando pens\u00e1vamos estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1vel e saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

I’m sure that after your last relationship you swore to yourself that next time, it vontade <\/i> ser diferente. Chega de rela\u00e7\u00f5es pouco saud\u00e1veis e de se contentar com as pessoas erradas.<\/p>\n

You’ll no longer date complete losers, and your new relationship will be a complete shift from all your previous, toxic ones.<\/p>\n

You won’t be oblivious to all the red flags and warning signs , and your senses will be in full-on detect mode.<\/p>\n

E, mais uma vez, enganou-se a si pr\u00f3prio.\u00a0 <\/i><\/p>\n

You didn’t dedicate enough time to your healing, and you jumped into a new relationship , hoping you’d finally found your true love .<\/p>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Mas o que aconteceu foi que substituiu a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o anterior por um novo erro.<\/p>\n

Your self-esteem took a severe hit and now you’re wondering if you’re ready to date ever again.<\/p>\n

How is one supposed to stumble upon a decent, kind person who’s mature enough to handle a <\/i><\/b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o de compromisso<\/i><\/b> e permanecer leal at\u00e9 ao fim nos dias de hoje?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que \u00e9 suposto <\/i><\/b>encontrar o amor<\/i><\/b> num mundo em que os engates e os valores superficiais superam a bondade e o respeito?\u00a0<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Lasting love isn’t built on great looks and a hot body.<\/p>\n

Uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o bem sucedida \u00e9 feita de dois indiv\u00edduos adultos e maduros que t\u00eam as suas coisas bem organizadas e est\u00e3o prontos e dispostos a resolver os seus problemas quando a merda bate no ventilador.<\/p>\n

You can’t expect to have a great relationship if all you ever do is replace one bad mistake with another and refuse to own up to this troubling pattern. And unfortunately for you, that’s the kind of people you’re familiar with ( os que s\u00e3o errados para si <\/i> ).<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 8 problemas de relacionamentos \u00e0 dist\u00e2ncia (e como faz\u00ea-los funcionar) <\/a><\/p>\n

How To Be Sure You’re Ready?<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

This dating game has become torture, and maybe, for now, you’re just not ready for a relationship\u2014not when all you ever do is reminisce about your past relationships instead of focusing on yourself and what you actually necessidade <\/i> agora mesmo.<\/p>\n

Not when you’re still unsure what a real relationship even is, as you’ve never experienced such a thing if you’re being honest with yourself.<\/p>\n

Conhecemos um rapaz (ou uma rapariga) fant\u00e1stico e largamo-lo assim que as coisas come\u00e7am a tornar-se reais.<\/p>\n

Your last significant other (the one you just ended things with) insinuated that maybe you’re just not relationship material , and that shook you to your core.<\/p>\n

Poder\u00e3o ter raz\u00e3o? Ser\u00e1 que \u00e9 simplesmente incapaz de formar uma <\/i> rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura <\/i> ? <\/i><\/p>\n

One thing I can tell you is that if you feel like you’re not ready for a relationship right now, you\u2019re probably right.<\/p>\n

And guess what? That’s a mature, brave and genuine thing to be able to say. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Poucas pessoas admitem isto, mas \u00e0s vezes \u00e9 preciso fazer uma pausa e perceber-se a si pr\u00f3prio antes de entregar o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o numa bandeja de prata.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Sometimes, you need to get your ducks in order before you invest in someone who’ll inevitably prove to you that you’re, in fact, n\u00e3o est\u00e1 preparado para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>\u2014at least not right now.<\/p>\n

And that’s okay. That’s a sign of a person who’s ready to take control of their life; a person who’s unwilling to keep going from one stranger to another, hoping to find something that right now feels so evasive.<\/p>\n

A serious relationship isn’t something that just magically pops up in your life.<\/p>\n

S\u00e3o necess\u00e1rios dois indiv\u00edduos fortes para o construir em conjunto e depois perseverar para evitar que se desmorone.<\/p>\n

If a healthy relationship is your end goal, be sure that you’re in the right frame of mind for finding it and then nurturing it.<\/p>\n

You either need to get rid of your savior complex (when you’re perpetually trying to fix or save your partner from themselves) or heal your soul from the previous relationship that has left a bitter taste in your mouth.<\/p>\n

But one thing is for sure. You’re going to end up thanking yourself later for taking the time to find yourself agora <\/i> .<\/p>\n

We’ve all been there. We’ve all reached a point in our life where we questioned everything and doubted ourselves more than we probably should. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

That’s all part of becoming the person you’re supposed to be.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Nobody has it all figured out. And if it doesn’t feel right, then give yourself a breather and think about why this might be happening in the first place.<\/p>\n

Heartbreak sucks, but it can point you in the right direction when you’re finally ready to see what you truly need.<\/p>\n

If at this very moment, you can relate to these 10 signs, then you’re simply not ready for a relationship right now, and you shouldn’t force it until you work on your issues. <\/i><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Devo dizer-lhe que gosto dele? 7 raz\u00f5es pelas quais voc\u00ea definitivamente deveria (e como) <\/a><\/p>\n

You’re still dwelling on your previous relationship<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

You just find it inexplicably difficult to let go of your last love. You’re rehashing every little thing that happened, and you’re trying to make sense of it all.<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que passaste dois anos da tua vida com algu\u00e9m que acabou por te causar tanto desgosto?<\/p>\n

And moreover\u2014how the fuck do you still want them back after everything that went on between you two?<\/p>\n

It’s a mystery you just aren’t equipped to handle, but one thing’s for sure. You’re still living in the past while your present is desperately trying to pull you to the right side.<\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 que alguma vez vais conseguir esquecer o teu ex? Ser\u00e1 que alguma vez poder\u00e1s dizer Eu amo-te <\/i> a outra pessoa e que o diga a s\u00e9rio?<\/p>\n

Whenever you feel like you’re starting to get the hang of this whole love thing, it just blows up in your face.<\/p>\n

And now, you’re less ready than you’ve ever been to enter a new relationship because your self-esteem is at an all-time low.<\/p>\n

You’re chasing misery instead of happiness<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

If nobody has said this to you yet, let me be the first one. You’re just too busy being miserable to actually try and make a change in your life.<\/p>\n

You’ve gotten so used to this jaded person you’ve become that you\u2019ve stopped making an effort to get your joy back.<\/p>\n

It’s so much easier being perpetually angry and resenting yourself and everyone around you for your inability to find what you’re looking for than taking matters into your own hands and putting an end to this misery.<\/p>\n

So far\u2014no such luck. You live in your little bubble of sadness, and you’re not letting anyone in.<\/p>\n

Why? Because you’re afraid that they might actually push you to become better and get your shit together.<\/p>\n

And you’re just not ready for that. Being sad is easy. Feeling sorry for yourself is almost second nature.<\/p>\n

But making an effort and deciding to find reasons to hold your head high\u2014now that’s a mission you’re just not ready to embark on.<\/p>\n

For as long as that’s your state of mind, you know you’re not ready for a relationship.<\/p>\n

Be ready to embrace joy and find that spark in your life. End this miserable chapter, and decide it’s time to move on from it!<\/p>\n

Tu \u00e9s o \u00fanico que pode mudar a tua mentalidade. Rebenta essa bolha triste e vem para o mundo real.<\/p>\n

There’s actual happiness here. When you’re ready to embrace it, you’ll start being ready to share it with someone special.<\/p>\n

Teme o julgamento externo<\/h2>\n

\"a<\/p>\n

What will your crew think about this new person you’ve started seeing? What will your peers think of them, and how accepted will your new squeeze be?<\/p>\n

Those are all the questions running through your mind as you’re giving way too much power to people who don’t deserve it.<\/p>\n

You want to get the hottest date. You want to be seen with someone so hot that both genders are instantly jealous of you. It’s a sad reality, but it’s just how things are.<\/p>\n

What everyone else thinks is far more important than how this person makes you feel and if they’re relationship material in the first place.<\/p>\n

This dating game has become impossible to win, and that’s why you secretly prefer being alone right now because that way, you at least don’t have to worry about being with someone your friends won’t approve of.<\/p>\n

But there’s one thing you should ask yourself. Who is the person in this relationship\u2014you or the rest of the world?<\/p>\n

And when you answer that question, it’ll become clear whose opinion is the only one that truly matters.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Sexo com amigos? Os 10 maiores segredos que ningu\u00e9m lhe vai contar <\/a><\/p>\n

A sua fasquia \u00e9 demasiado alta<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You’re not ready for a relationship if you’ve set the bar so high that almost nobody can measure up.<\/p>\n

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself how many amazing people you’ve let go simply because they didn’t check all of your unattainable boxes?<\/p>\n

Finding love isn’t about finding a flawless human being.<\/p>\n

It’s about finding somebody whose imperfections go perfectly with yours and navigating this thing called life together in the same direction, toward a joint future.<\/p>\n

That’s the only way you’ll ever have a chance of making it work with another person.<\/p>\n

For as long as you keep setting standards way too high and putting everyone you come across into boxes that don’t allow them to ever be good enough for you, you’ll never be ready for a relationship.<\/p>\n

Let go of your high expectations, and give people a chance. You never know\u2014the person you thought was assim <\/i> que n\u00e3o \u00e9 o seu tipo pode acabar por ser a \u00fanica pessoa que o compreende verdadeiramente.<\/p>\n

A impaci\u00eancia \u00e9 o seu nome do meio<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Sometimes, you’re your own worst enemy.<\/p>\n

I know too many people who expect the almost impossible, and when that doesn’t pan out, they’d rather just be swallowed into the ground than give it a chance for things to work out.<\/p>\n

You know what I’m talking about here. If you’re not married by a certain age and with no kids within a few years\u2014you’re a failure.<\/p>\n

E isso \u00e9 a coisa mais dolorosa que se pode fazer a si pr\u00f3prio. D\u00e1-lhe tempo! O amor pode encontrar-te no momento mais peculiar!<\/p>\n

Just because you’re still single at 30, doesn’t mean you won’t find the love of your life before your next birthday!<\/p>\n

O tempo \u00e9 vosso amigo, n\u00e3o <\/i> your enemy. Let it do its thing. When it’s supposed to happen, it’ll happen.<\/p>\n

You’ll never be mentally ready for a relationship while you’re giving yourself ultimatums.<\/p>\n

That’s every relationship’s worst nightmare. It’s an organic process that you can’t rush.<\/p>\n

Either it’s there or it isn’t. But things will happen when and how they’re supposed to happen.<\/p>\n

Relax your mind and give yourself a break. You’ll be ready for a relationship when you finally realize that love is not a competition, and you’re in no rush.<\/p>\n

You’re too hard on yourself<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

It’s tough to admit this, but you don’t see yourself as a catch anymore.<\/p>\n

You don’t think you’re good enough and whenever you’re out with your crew, you can’t imagine anyone hitting on you as you’re clearly the least attractive person of the bunch.<\/p>\n

Your own mind is playing tricks on you by convincing you that you’re less worthy than everyone around you.<\/p>\n

Your mindset is anything but ready for a relationship because with that attitude, you’re not being kind to yourself.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, como \u00e9 que se deve ser gentil com a pessoa amada?<\/p>\n

How do you expect to make another person happy if you can’t make voc\u00ea mesmo <\/i> happy? That’s right\u2014it’s a mission impossible.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 por isso que precisa de dar uma volta de 180\u00ba. Mude a sua perspetiva. Olhe-se ao espelho e decida encontrar pelo menos tr\u00eas coisas que gosta em si.<\/p>\n

Abrace os seus defeitos. Aceitem as vossas peculiaridades.<\/p>\n

Deal with your tough exterior, and work on becoming kinder, softer and more accepting of yourself. That’s the only way to a serious, healthy relationship .<\/p>\n

Continuas a gravitar em torno do mesmo tipo de pessoa<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

When you become accustomed to being around a certain type of person, it subliminally becomes a habit to keep going for the same type every time you enter the dating pool. And that’s what’s stopping you from finding true love .<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que podemos encontrar a nossa alma g\u00e9mea se continuamos a procurar o mesmo tipo de pessoa?<\/p>\n

This all comes down to the fact that you believe that’s what you deserve.<\/p>\n

This type of person who’s clearly not good for you is all you know, so you can’t imagine deserving someone better.<\/p>\n

It’s easier that way. You know your way around this specific behavior, and it becomes second nature to keep coming back for it. And then you wonder why you’re not ready for a relationship.<\/p>\n

It’s obvious! You’re not giving yourself a chance to experience a real, happy union.<\/p>\n

You keep ignoring the red flags and denying what you know deep down (that it’s doomed from the start), hoping it ends up differently this time.<\/p>\n

Mas isso nunca acontecer\u00e1 enquanto continuar a recusar-se a reconhecer os seus pr\u00f3prios m\u00e9todos de auto-sabotagem. Procura algu\u00e9m melhor e melhor receber\u00e1s!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 7 sinais de uma esposa emocionalmente distante e por que ela se tornou assim <\/a><\/p>\n

Precisa de um parceiro para se sentir realizado<\/h2>\n

\"o<\/p>\n

Deixem-me dizer-vos uma coisa: um parceiro rom\u00e2ntico n\u00e3o \u00e9 respons\u00e1vel por vos fazer sentir realizados.<\/p>\n

They’re here to make you feel comfortable no matter how you feel (sad, happy, anxious, angry… etc.). If you don’t feel whole on your own, don’t expect anyone to fill that void\u2014that’s your job.<\/p>\n

You’re not comfortable being alone, and you necessidade <\/i> um parceiro para mudar isso. Mas adivinha?<\/p>\n

That’s not going to happen because nobody is in charge of your inner happiness but you!<\/p>\n

Make yourself happy. Find that thing that makes you feel alive, and reinvent yourself if that’s what it takes.<\/p>\n

Mergulhe fundo na sua alma e encontre uma forma de sair da sua rotina.<\/p>\n

Only after figuring out why you’ve been feeling so empty and distant will you find a way to change that and take your love life into your own hands.<\/p>\n

You’re not ready for a relationship because you’re too scared to face your inner demons. But the sooner you do\u2014the greater your chances of finding that happiness you’ve been dreaming of.<\/p>\n

You’ve got a savior complex<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Algumas pessoas desenvolvem um complexo de salvador devido a uma necessidade de saciar o drama na sua vida. Em vez de procurar uma pessoa cujo cora\u00e7\u00e3o esteja \u00e0 altura do seu, continua \u00e0 procura de um projeto que precise de ser resolvido. E continua a encontr\u00e1-los.<\/p>\n

You need drama because you can’t function differently.<\/p>\n

You’re so used to things being chaotic and needing fixing that you’ve turned something as pure as love into something complex and draining.<\/p>\n

P\u00e1ra de tentar salvar as pessoas e come\u00e7a a salvar-te a ti pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

A lasting love will never thrive if based on a need for constant saving and fixing. People aren’t perfect, but it’s also not your job to make them so.<\/p>\n

You might think that this is what you need, but it’s far from it. You’ll end up inviting trouble into your life, and one day, you’ll simply realize you’ve bitten off more than you can chew.<\/p>\n

You’ll find yourself a true project. But is that really what you want?<\/p>\n

Of course, it isn’t. You’re just scared to admit it because you don’t feel you deserve a person who can stand on their own two feet.<\/p>\n

But you do. You may not be ready for a real, intimate, committed relationship yet, but when you start changing your ways, you’ll start getting much closer to that goal.<\/p>\n

You keep trying to accommodate everyone’s needs<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

You know this to be the case when you notice your behavior changing depending on who you’re with.<\/p>\n

You can never be your true self because you don’t think that person will be good enough for a potential partner.<\/p>\n

So you change how you dress, talk, and behave in ways that accommodate the needs of the person you’re with.<\/p>\n

You’re ignoring the red flags that are so clear, and you keep going against yourself to make someone else accept you.<\/p>\n

Mas o que precisa de fazer \u00e9 reconhecer os sinais de aviso e deixar de se comprometer para fazer outra pessoa feliz.<\/p>\n

Pergunte a si pr\u00f3prio quando foi a \u00faltima vez que se sentiu feliz consigo pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Quando foi a \u00faltima vez que fez algo porque era o que tu <\/i> procurado?<\/p>\n

If you find that the answer is not for a long time, then you’ve got a real problem.<\/p>\n

Not only are you not ready for a relationship, but you’re in serious need of making yourself happy with who you s\u00e3o <\/i> , as opposed to who you think you’re supostamente <\/i> ser!<\/p>\n

What you are doing is emotionally unhealthy and draining. You’ll never do right by yourself if you keep trying to please others.<\/p>\n

Be who you are and don’t try to hide that person. When you accept yourself fully and completely, the other people will do that too!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Esconder-se do mundo: 5 maneiras de o fazer e como ser visto <\/a><\/p>\n

When You Know You’re Ready…<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

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      You stop comparing the past with your present, and you’re focused on what the future might bring. You’ve made peace with how your last relationship ended, and you’re healed from that heartbreak . Yes, it’ll take time to be fully recuperated, but you’re taking all the right steps.<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      You don’t care what your friends, colleagues, and irrelevant people might say. You’re in this thing because tu <\/i> want to be with that person, and nobody can tell you otherwise. You’re the one who knows them, and everything else is just white noise.<\/p>\n

      You stop rushing love and no longer put impossible limitations on yourself. When it happens, you’ll embrace it whole-heartedly. But if you’re still single at 30, you’ll be just as happy because you’d rather be happy and alone than with someone who’s only ok <\/i> .<\/p>\n

      You’re completely happy with who you are as a person. You love your flaws and you don’t judge yourself for gaining those 10 extra pounds. You know you’re only human, and as cliche as it may sound, it’s what’s on the inside that truly matters.<\/p>\n

      You don’t need anyone to save you, and you’re open to dating people outside your comfort zone. So far, your type has brought you no luck, so it’s time to test the waters and explore what else is out there. And frankly, you’re kind of excited to find someone you’d never imagine being with! It just might end up being that one thing missing from your life.<\/p>\n

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