{"id":5122,"date":"2020-02-16T16:22:16","date_gmt":"2020-02-16T16:22:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=5122"},"modified":"2021-11-15T15:02:45","modified_gmt":"2021-11-15T15:02:45","slug":"6-dicas-para-problemas-de-abandono-de-alguem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-dicas-para-problemas-de-abandono-de-alguem\/","title":{"rendered":"6 dicas sobre como namorar algu\u00e9m com problemas de abandono"},"content":{"rendered":"

Muito provavelmente, algu\u00e9m de quem gosta foi magoado no passado. Algu\u00e9m que amas e queres ajudar tem uma marca profunda do passado e carrega-a constantemente, mesmo agora no presente, e tu queres ajudar.<\/p>\n

You wonder how I know you want to help? If you weren\u2019t, you wouldn\u2019t be reading this article now, would you?<\/p>\n

Now that we have that covered, let\u2019s talk about the things you need to know in order to understand the state of mind of the person you\u2019re trying to help.<\/p>\n

Abandonment issues are not something that\u2019s observed as an illness, but they most definitely are huge problems we too often neglect. We don\u2019t really take them seriously until we enter a relationship with somebody and all the issues start projecting in that relationship. <\/b><\/p>\n

What many people fail to understand is the fact that abandonment issues aren’t only associated with parental abandonment.<\/p>\n

They can also be consequences of parental neglect, the death of someone really close to that person, the pain of loneliness after a best friend has moved away, and most frequently, they\u2019re consequences of being rejected by someone he or she loved.<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 o tipo de cicatrizes que usamos durante muito tempo, sem nos apercebermos de que temos problemas em primeiro lugar. <\/b><\/p>\n

We keep rushing through life without taking a minute to see if we\u2019re actually feeling fine and doing what we should be doing. <\/b><\/p>\n

No in\u00edcio, quando entramos numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, temos tend\u00eancia para ver tudo atrav\u00e9s de \u00f3culos cor-de-rosa.<\/p>\n

Somos incapazes de reparar apenas nas coisas giras que uma pessoa faz por n\u00f3s, mas quando as borboletas que nos andam sempre a voar no est\u00f4mago acabam por desaparecer, a realidade aparece.<\/p>\n

Depois de tirarmos os nossos \u00f3culos cor-de-rosa, os sinais de problemas de abandono e ansiedade na rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> might be displayed clearly, and only then we’re able to notice the behavior of the person that has a fear of abandonment.<\/p>\n

Uma pessoa com problemas de abandono ir\u00e1 muito provavelmente projetar os seus medos atrav\u00e9s de ci\u00fames extremos ou de um comportamento pegajoso numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica.<\/p>\n

(S)he will have the tendency to pretend they don\u2019t care about somebody when they, in reality, do.<\/p>\n

Also, it\u2019s common for people with abandonment issues to reject their partners before their partner rejects them.<\/p>\n

Because of the fear of being abandoned, they choose to abandon first and \u201csave\u201d themselves from another painful, life event.<\/p>\n

Outra forma de detetar a pessoa com problemas de abandono \u00e9 observar a pessoa que est\u00e1 a tentar desesperadamente fazer muitos amigos para nunca estar sozinha.<\/p>\n

A inseguran\u00e7a extrema e a subestima\u00e7\u00e3o constante ser\u00e3o tamb\u00e9m caracter\u00edsticas fortes da pessoa que tem medo de ser abandonada.<\/p>\n

The ultimate sign of one\u2019s abandonment issues are anxiety and depression, and how many people do you know who are struggling with depression and anxiety?<\/p>\n

Todas as caracter\u00edsticas da pessoa que tem problemas de abandono s\u00e3o o resultado de cuidados f\u00edsicos ou emocionais inadequados.<\/p>\n

Em algum momento, as pessoas que lutam com o medo do abandono foram deixadas sozinhas nos momentos em que realmente precisavam de algu\u00e9m para lhes segurar a m\u00e3o enquanto atravessavam as tempestades que a vida lhes enviava.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be mistaken\u2014sometimes a person with abandonment issues won\u2019t put his feelings on display.<\/p>\n

Pode ser a pessoa mais barulhenta da sala, o maior man\u00edaco de festas ou at\u00e9 a pessoa que ri mais alto no seu c\u00edrculo de amigos. \u00c9 preciso olhar para al\u00e9m da m\u00e1scara para ver a verdadeira pessoa.<\/p>\n

Sabes, podias simplesmente ir embora. Podias poupar-te e ir embora.<\/p>\n

Poupe todo o esfor\u00e7o e trabalho que \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio para entrar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o com algu\u00e9m que tem problemas de abandono.<\/p>\n

Podias acabar com isto antes de come\u00e7ar e ir viver a tua vida. Ningu\u00e9m vai usar isso contra ti ou julgar-te.<\/p>\n

A \u00faltima coisa de que uma pessoa com problemas de abandono precisa \u00e9 que a abandone logo quando se habituou a t\u00ea-la por perto.<\/p>\n

But if you\u2019re not a quitter, you really care for the person that has abandonment issues, and you want to make things work between the two of you, you need to know how what it takes to get you two comfortable around each other.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m:<\/strong> 10 sinais de que voc\u00ea est\u00e1 namorando um homem quebrado<\/a><\/p>\n

\"fotografia <\/p>\n

O primeiro passo<\/b> em ajudar algu\u00e9m com problemas de abandono \u00e9, na verdade, reconhecer o problema. Se quer namorar uma pessoa que tem medo de ser abandonada, tem de a fazer abrir-se consigo. Ela precisa de lhe contar o que realmente aconteceu na sua vida para que possa ver as ra\u00edzes originais desses medos.<\/p>\n

A segunda etapa<\/b> in helping somebody with abandonment issues is making that somebody comfortable to talk openly with you. Once the person has shared the story of what happened in his life that made him like that, you\u2019ll be able to talk about it whenever the problem between the two of you pops out.<\/p>\n

If he gets too clingy or if the jealousy starts swimming to the surface, you\u2019ll have all the freedom to mention what happened in his past and remind him not to project it on your relationship.<\/p>\n

A terceira etapa<\/b> is helping the person with abandonment issues to develop more positive reactions and realistic expectations for his life. If you\u2019re dating somebody with abandonment issues, you must know by now that they tend to see many things negatively and pessimistically. He also tends to set unrealistic expectations in his life, and this is all because he once expected something and it didn\u2019t really go as he planned.<\/p>\n

He expected somebody to be there for him. He expected the people closest to him to care, and they didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Therefore, he got lost. And you\u2019re the only one that cares enough to help him get his life back on track.<\/p>\n

A quarta etapa<\/b> is helping the person with the fear of abandonment to develop the ability to minimize the way fear controls his emotional response to the current relationship. You\u2019ll have to remind him that you\u2019re not the one he needs to be afraid of. You\u2019re not the one that left him, and you\u2019re not the one that\u2019s going to leave.<\/p>\n

O quinto passo<\/b> O objetivo de ajudar a pessoa com problemas de abandono \u00e9 p\u00f4-la \u00e0 vontade para comunicar com sucesso as suas necessidades numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00edntima. De facto, ambos ter\u00e3o de dizer um ao outro o que precisam e da forma correcta.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

This is different from the second step because in the second step, you\u2019re making each other comfortable to talk about your past in the first place, and now you\u2019re getting comfortable to share each other\u2019s needs. For example, he\u2019ll tell you when he is feeling threatened by that guy and that he needs you to stop hanging so much with him, and you\u2019ll be able to tell him that you need him to stop being so clingy in order to gain back your \u2018me\u2019 time.<\/p>\n

E o sexto passo<\/b> in helping your partner overcome his abandonment fears in order for you to have a healthy and functional relationship is building your partner\u2019s confidence. When you date somebody, you get full insights into his insecurities and as you could\u2019ve guessed, a person with abandonment issues has a lot of those.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m:<\/strong> 5 dicas fant\u00e1sticas sobre como namorar um homem emocionalmente magoado<\/a><\/p>\n

If your partner has fears of being abandoned, it means his confidence is on a really low level. He won\u2019t be able to build it up alone\u2014he is going to need your help.<\/p>\n

Tu \u00e9 que tens de lhe mostrar que ele n\u00e3o tem nada a recear.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re the one that needs to constantly remind him what an amazing and caring person he is and how he needs to trust himself a little bit more.<\/p>\n

Once you help him overcome this and build his self-confidence, it\u2019s going to be like you\u2019re dating a reborn version of your partner.<\/p>\n

There will be no more projecting his fears. There will be no more fights because he is jealous. You\u2019ll be finally able to breathe in that relationship.<\/p>\n

It won\u2019t be easy. It\u2019s going to require a lot of work. It\u2019s going to be emotional, it\u2019s going to be painful, and many times you\u2019ll think about giving up. <\/b><\/p>\n

Quando isto acontecer, em vez de desistir, tente lembrar-se porque \u00e9 que decidiu ajudar. <\/b><\/p>\n

When this happens, think about where you want to be and how far have you come. And don\u2019t give up. Because it\u2019s going to pay off in the end.<\/b><\/p>\n

Thanks to you, thanks to your care and your devotion, you\u2019re going to get both of you and your relationship to a healthy level where you\u2019ll be able to live your life to the fullest.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll get to the level where nothing will be holding back nor your love or your life. And if this final goal isn\u2019t worth your effort, I don\u2019t know what is.<\/p>\n

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