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<\/p>\nComo conselheira de crise certificada e psicoterapeuta registada, sento-me em salas com clientes enquanto estes revelam os seus traumas mais profundos.<\/p>\n
Sometimes the person on the couch opposite of me dishes out everything they\u2019ve ever been through in their first session.<\/p>\n
Sometimes it takes months. In my case, even as a student of this field, I didn\u2019t expose myself fully to my therapist until 9 months in.<\/p>\n
Mas uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica \u00e9 diferente. Em vez de uma primeira sess\u00e3o, vai-se a um primeiro encontro. E talvez um primeiro se transforme num terceiro.<\/p>\n
You start going steady. Then you end up sitting on the couch across from your therapist asking your clinician what so many clients do: \u201cWhen should I tell them about my past?\u201d<\/p>\n
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Em primeiro lugar, tem raz\u00e3o em interrogar-se. \u00c9 justo ser cauteloso. \u00c9 corajosa por pensar nisso.<\/p>\n
My partner and I met walking the Camino De Santiago\u2014a 584-mile pilgrimage from the bottom of France across all of Spain.<\/p>\n
We were walking solo until we stumbled into each other in an old Catholic children\u2019s school converted into a hostel.<\/p>\n
Nessa noite, fomos beber um copo para o nosso primeiro encontro. Depois de eu ter pedido uma sangria, a empregada aceitou o pedido dele de uma Sprite.<\/p>\n
Quando ela se foi embora, ele n\u00e3o demorou a contar-me tudo o que havia para saber sobre ele: por que raz\u00e3o pedia uma Sprite; sobre a sua experi\u00eancia com drogas e \u00e1lcool, que inevitavelmente terminava com a partilha dos seus traumas comigo.<\/p>\n
Apenas algumas horas depois de o conhecer, eu sabia o que ele considerava ser a parte mais profunda e miser\u00e1vel de si pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong><\/p>\n E devo dizer que houve um esp\u00edrito com o meu parceiro que me disse no nosso primeiro encontro; uma vontade de se abrir comigo sem precisar que eu reagisse de uma determinada forma.<\/p>\n It was as if he didn\u2019t care if I never talked to him again because of it. He didn\u2019t mind my reactions too diligently.<\/p>\n Ele n\u00e3o se preocupava nem um pouco com o facto de nos termos acabado de conhecer.<\/p>\n The truth is\u2026 there may never be a \u2018good time\u2019 or a \u2018good way.\u2019<\/p>\n Ao escrever este artigo, pesquisei o que outros psicoterapeutas sugeriram sobre como contar o seu passado aos seus parceiros.<\/p>\n Muitos deles enumeravam perguntas preparat\u00f3rias para fazer a si pr\u00f3prio, que pareciam todas relacionadas e importantes para o tema.<\/p>\n But I feel there might not be the \u2018right questions\u2019 to ask yourself before you decide to share.<\/p>\n I feel there may not be a \u2018good formula\u2019 out there on how to start the dialogue.<\/p>\n Por isso, pode escrev\u00ea-lo primeiro, avaliar o seu n\u00edvel de confian\u00e7a com o seu parceiro, analisar definitivamente as suas reac\u00e7\u00f5es traum\u00e1ticas.<\/p>\n Do whatever you need. But the most important question you should consider before telling your partner about your trauma is\u2026<\/p>\n What is your \u2018why\u2019 for wanting to share?<\/strong><\/p>\n Because we\u2019re talking about TRAUMA. Something individual, personal, deeply intimate, and precious.<\/p>\n O meu parceiro diz que me contou naquele dia em Espanha porque estava pronto para ser radicalmente aut\u00eantico com todas as pessoas da sua vida, independentemente da sua rea\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Contei ao meu terapeuta a minha porque estava pronta para come\u00e7ar a trabalhar com as minhas reac\u00e7\u00f5es traum\u00e1ticas e os meus gatilhos.<\/p>\n Contei ao meu companheiro 5 meses depois, porque sabia que ia casar com ele e sentia-me preparada.<\/p>\n Qual \u00e9 o seu porqu\u00ea?<\/p>\n This is your story. It\u2019s sacred. And even though you probably didn\u2019t pick your past, treat the way you share it opposite of its birth\u2014with deep intentionality.<\/p>\n por Jessica White<\/strong><\/p>\n As a certified crisis counselor and registered psychotherapist, I sit in rooms with clients as they unveil their deepest traumas. Sometimes the person on the couch opposite of me dishes out everything they\u2019ve ever been through in their first session. Sometimes it takes months. 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