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Por isso, obviamente, este ser\u00e1 um texto sobre como lidar com o romance da melhor forma se fores um estudante universit\u00e1rio.<\/p>\n
However, before we start with the actual tips regarding this topic, I want to give you the most important piece of advice: don\u2019t be afraid to be single.<\/p>\n
\u00c9 claro que isto se aplica a todos os per\u00edodos poss\u00edveis da sua vida, mas \u00e9 crucial na universidade.<\/p>\n
If you feel like you\u2019re better off on your own, if you don\u2019t find anyone you like well enough to date or have a relationship with or if you simply want to focus on other things besides your love life, that is perfectly okay.<\/p>\n
Please, don\u2019t fall under the pressure of your surroundings and think of yourself as a weirdo or an outcast just because you don’t have a college relationship and are not a part of any love story.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t compare yourself to others and date just about anyone because you see couples all around you.<\/p>\n
No, you won\u2019t miss much if you remain single during your college years.<\/p>\n
Yes, romances in college can become one of your most cherished memories in your adult life, but if it\u2019s not meant to be, please don\u2019t beat yourself up about it.<\/p>\n
Em vez disso, concentre-se em si pr\u00f3prio, nos seus melhores amigos e na sua fam\u00edlia e desfrute da sua vida dentro e fora do campus da melhor forma poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n
2. You don\u2019t have to find \u201cthe one\u201d<\/h2>\n
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If you’ve ever read college romance novels (such as “Game On” by Kristen Callihan or college romance books by other Amazon or Goodreads authors such as Colleen Hoover or Abbi Glines), in which the good girl falls in love with a rock star bad boy she met during her studies and eventually, the two of them end up together, despite all the obstacles, you probably romanticized the idea of finding everlasting love on campus.<\/p>\n
The same goes with all other books about romance in college: they give you hope that this is the place where you’ll find your pessoa para sempre<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n Well, let me tell you that romance books that take place in college and real life scenarios are not the same. In fact, during college, you don\u2019t have to find \u201cthe one\u201d.<\/p>\n You don’t have to be with the same person from your first until your last year in college.<\/p>\n On the other hand, you can have one college relationship throughout your entire studies, but this person doesn\u2019t have to be someone you\u2019ll spend the rest of your life with.<\/p>\n Yes, it is important for you to find a compatible partner, but don\u2019t beat yourself up with thinking too far ahead in the future.<\/p>\n Livre-se da press\u00e3o de que todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es em que se envolve t\u00eam de resultar e acabar em casamento.<\/p>\n On the contrary, the bitter truth is that most romances in college don\u2019t last long after you both finish your studies.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not saying that yours will fail as well, but this fact is definitely something you should have in mind before even starting anything.<\/p>\n Besides, be aware of the differences between men’s and women’s ideas of a college romance.<\/p>\n While most guys are looking forward to one night stands, women’s desires are usually centered around finding a long-term partner.<\/p>\n Obviously, you came to college to study and learn new things. You\u2019re here to educate yourself academically and to make something out of yourself in the future.<\/p>\n No entanto, h\u00e1 um outro tipo de aprendizagem que tamb\u00e9m deve ser feito aqui.<\/p>\n Em vez de se concentrar na tentativa de encontrar a sua alma g\u00e9mea, deve encarar este per\u00edodo como uma oportunidade para aprender mais sobre si pr\u00f3prio e sobre os seus potenciais parceiros.<\/p>\n Quais s\u00e3o os tipos de raparigas ou rapazes com quem mais gosta de sair? Tem cem por cento de certeza sobre a sua sexualidade ou est\u00e1 aberto a experi\u00eancias?<\/p>\n Consegue ver-se numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura ou num casamento no futuro? \u00c9 capaz de se envolver em encontros aleat\u00f3rios e namoros casuais ou isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 do seu agrado?<\/p>\n This is the period in which you\u2019ll find out more about your quebra de acordos<\/span><\/a>, standards, sexual preferences, and the period in which you\u2019ll get to know yourself in a completely new light\u2014a period in which you\u2019ll learn some tough lessons which will prove to be the most valuable ones in the future.<\/p>\n Another important tip for college romances is to understand that there is a huge difference between the real deal and one night stands\u2014a difference between sleeping with someone, dating them, being in a relationship and finally, being fully committed to them.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re young and your hormones are going wild, it is incredibly easy to mistake the two things.<\/p>\n You hook up with a friend of a friend at a party or you meet with someone from your dating app, and the next thing you know, you\u2019re convinced that you\u2019re desperately in love with them, that you will love them for the rest of your life, and that you would die if they left.<\/p>\n The truth is that this is nothing but your body deceiving you. You\u2019re actually falling into a common trap many young people find themselves in: you\u2019re confusing lust and love.<\/p>\n Bem, este \u00e9 o momento em que vai aprender que estas duas coisas n\u00e3o s\u00e3o de todo iguais, apesar de terem muito em comum.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll learn that sharing strong chemistry and passion with someone doesn\u2019t automatically mean that they\u2019re your other half or someone you should waste all your college years on.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s be honest: this is the period of your life in which you\u2019ll probably have the most interesting sex life; the period of trying out new things and learning about your own sexuality.<\/p>\n Even though I\u2019m not judging any of these, I\u2019m here to ask you to be careful.<\/p>\n Lembre-se sempre de usar prote\u00e7\u00e3o porque a \u00faltima coisa de que precisa agora \u00e9 uma gravidez indesejada ou uma DST que apanhou de algu\u00e9m com quem dormiu pela primeira vez, o que pode mudar o curso da sua vida para sempre.<\/p>\n Also, I\u2019m begging you not do anything you\u2019re not ready for. Respect your body, and demand the same treatment from your partner(s).<\/p>\n You\u2019re not old-fashioned or a prude if you see that you\u2019re not emotionally capable for having one night stands, for not wanting to sleep with someone you texted on the dating app or if you need more time to sleep with someone for the first time than the rest of the people of your generation.<\/p>\n Also, if you’re a guy, you don’t have to try so hard to maintain a bad boy reputation if that is not something you want.<\/p>\n Besides, even if you choose to remain a virgin, that is also your choice. You shouldn\u2019t be ashamed of it, and nobody is allowed to judge you for it.<\/p>\n Remember, this is your own body we\u2019re talking about here.<\/p>\n Therefore, you\u2019re the only one who is allowed to set boundaries, and nobody has the right to invade your personal space more than you let them.<\/p>\n Outra coisa importante \u00e9 n\u00e3o permitir que ningu\u00e9m se sirva de si s\u00f3 para se apoderar das suas cal\u00e7as.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014 there is nothing wrong with sleeping with someone without any strings attached if that is what you both want.<\/p>\n No entanto, evitar ser um engate<\/span><\/a> a algu\u00e9m de quem gostamos s\u00f3 para nos misturarmos com toda esta cultura de engate.<\/p>\n Em vez disso, seja suficientemente corajoso para dizer ao objeto do seu afeto que quer mais e que ele pode receber o pacote completo, que inclui o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o, corpo e mente, ou nada.<\/p>\n Have in mind that in most cases, sex is more than sex, so be careful to whom you\u2019re giving your body.<\/p>\n Even though you shouldn\u2019t give a damn about what other people are saying, be careful about your reputation, and pay special attention to emotional consequences casual intercourse might leave on you.<\/p>\n The same goes with all other concepts of modern dating: whatever you do, don\u2019t fall under the pressures of your surroundings.<\/p>\n I know that everywhere you look, people are sleeping around, having \u2018no strings attached\u2019 relationships and not wanting to commit, but if that is not something you feel comfortable doing, don\u2019t even think of forcing yourself into anything just so you don\u2019t stand out.<\/p>\n Lembre-se que o amor e a honestidade nunca passar\u00e3o de moda, independentemente do que algu\u00e9m lhe possa dizer.<\/p>\n You\u2019re not weak or pathetic if you refuse to be a part of these practices and if you choose to be single until the right person comes along.<\/p>\n However, if you do enter a relationship, please don\u2019t make it an on and off thing, based on mind games and mixed signals.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have to play hard to get or pretend that you don\u2019t want to label things with your partner just because of these imaginary rules imposed by the engatar<\/span><\/a> culture we’re all surrounded by.<\/p>\n I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014maintaining a healthy relationship is difficult when you\u2019re a fully grown adult, let alone when you\u2019re in college.<\/p>\n \u00c9 preciso equilibrar as aulas, o tempo de estudo, o tempo para a fam\u00edlia e melhores amigos<\/span><\/a> e, acima de tudo, tempo para si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n Consequently, all of this might feel overwhelming at first, and there is a possibility that your relationship won’t be going as smoothly as you expected it would.<\/p>\n However, accept this as something completely normal, and don\u2019t beat yourself up for every little failure.<\/p>\n Pense bem nas coisas e decida se vale a pena lutar por isto. Est\u00e3o realmente apaixonados e est\u00e3o ambos prontos para fazer com que as coisas funcionem?<\/p>\n If the answer is positive, go for it. On the other hand, if you don\u2019t see this romance going anywhere, maybe it\u2019s better to call it quits in time.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t worry, you\u2019re not a chicken for giving up. Instead, see this as a sign of your maturity and your ability to list your priorities the right way.<\/p>\n A maioria dos especialistas em conselhos sobre encontros concordam numa coisa quando se trata de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica na faculdade: ir devagar.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t jump into a new relationship the moment you arrive on campus, and give yourself time to adapt.<\/p>\n Na verdade, muitas pessoas cometem o mesmo erro: durante o seu primeiro ano, encontram-se num ambiente desconhecido e procuram algu\u00e9m que as conforte, que se torne a sua pessoa e a sua zona de seguran\u00e7a.<\/p>\n So, they start dating the first person they run into, in hopes of regaining the sense of familiarity they\u2019ve lost since they left home.<\/p>\n Well, let me tell you that this is a mistake. Before even taking romance into consideration, first and foremost, you have to find your own path and figure out how to get by without anyone\u2019s help.<\/p>\n Habitua-te a novas mat\u00e9rias, materiais e professores. Procurem \u00e0 vossa volta, descubram os vossos interesses. Conhece novos melhores amigos, recupera das saudades de casa e, s\u00f3 depois, verifica se h\u00e1 pessoas com quem possas sair \u00e0 tua volta.<\/p>\n I don\u2019t care if you think you\u2019ve found the love of your life and how crazy you are about your boyfriend\/ girlfriend.<\/p>\n N\u00e3o h\u00e1 qualquer justifica\u00e7\u00e3o que permita esquecer a raz\u00e3o pela qual se veio para a universidade.<\/p>\n And that is to learn new things, to make new opportunities, and to become the person you\u2019re destined to be.<\/p>\n Sim, ouviste bem. Por muito que ir para a universidade seja uma experi\u00eancia social valiosa, a tua educa\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 sempre em primeiro lugar.<\/p>\n Por isso, se tiveres exames ou um trabalho para entregar, a tua rela\u00e7\u00e3o amorosa ter\u00e1 de sofrer. N\u00e3o pode, em circunst\u00e2ncia alguma, permitir que estas borboletas no est\u00f4mago interfiram com o seu objetivo final.<\/p>\n Sim, dormir ao lado da pessoa amada e n\u00e3o ir a algumas palestras \u00e9 fant\u00e1stico, mas esse momento de alegria \u00e9 tempor\u00e1rio e vai passar.<\/p>\n No entanto, este tipo de comportamento irrespons\u00e1vel pode ter consequ\u00eancias graves para os seus estudos, pelo que deve ser interrompido logo que o veja acontecer.<\/p>\n Muitos caloiros universit\u00e1rios esperar<\/span><\/a> continuar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com a namorada do liceu mesmo quando v\u00e3o para a universidade.<\/p>\n While I\u2019m not claiming that each one of these romances is doomed to fail, it is better not to get your hopes up when it comes to long-distance college romances.<\/p>\n Em primeiro lugar, a maioria das pessoas reinventa-se quando sai do liceu.<\/p>\n Tornamo-nos uma pessoa completamente diferente num instante e, quando damos por isso, j\u00e1 n\u00e3o temos nada em comum com algu\u00e9m que significava o mundo para n\u00f3s.<\/p>\n I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014accepting this is quite difficult and painful.<\/p>\n However, sometimes it\u2019s better to face the harsh truth and end things when they stop working instead of wasting more years on something that clearly has no future.<\/p>\n Outra das regras de ouro para um romance universit\u00e1rio \u00e9 n\u00e3o namorar com algu\u00e9m com quem tenha v\u00e1rias aulas ou com quem viva no mesmo edif\u00edcio do campus.<\/p>\n Yes, spending this much time together sounds like a dream come true in the beginning when it\u2019s all roses and rainbows.<\/p>\n No entanto, mais tarde, este tipo de acordo \u00e9 suscet\u00edvel de causar problemas na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Antes de mais, \u00e9 um terreno f\u00e9rtil para que um dos dois se torne possessivo man\u00edacos do controlo<\/span><\/a> because you\u2019re in a position to literally follow your partner\u2019s every move.<\/p>\n Besides, you two are accidentally dragged into a situation you didn\u2019t sign up for. You have practically lived together since day one, and you are definitely not ready for such a serious relationship.<\/p>\n Outra desvantagem de namorar com algu\u00e9m que \u00e9 demasiado pr\u00f3ximo de si \u00e9 a maior possibilidade de se cansarem um do outro.<\/p>\n Passam demasiado tempo juntos, ignoram as outras pessoas e, quando d\u00e3o por isso, est\u00e3o fartos um do outro.<\/p>\n Al\u00e9m disso, isto torna as coisas muito mais embara\u00e7osas se voc\u00eas se separarem.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll have a hard time getting over this person if you\u2019re sentenced to keep on seeing them every day, and you can\u2019t go full nenhum contacto<\/span><\/a>Mesmo que queiras.<\/p>\n Por isso, seria melhor encontrar algu\u00e9m fora do campus.<\/p>\n A person who is near enough so you could see each other when you want but with whom you don’t share a dorm.<\/p>\n A faculdade n\u00e3o \u00e9 apenas uma quest\u00e3o de encontrar um romance. \u00c9 tamb\u00e9m sobre a forma\u00e7\u00e3o de uma vida inteira, amizades leais<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n Trata-se de conhecer novas pessoas de diferentes culturas, vis\u00f5es do mundo e origens que nos podem ensinar muito e construir-nos como pessoas.<\/p>\n So, please, don\u2019t miss out on these valuable experiences just because you\u2019re in love.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t put all of your time and energy on this one person and forget about the others.<\/p>\n This goes for your family and friends back home, as well. Don\u2019t disregard your previous life completely because of your special someone.<\/p>\n Besides, what will you do if you two break up? I\u2019ll tell you what will happen: you\u2019ll end up all alone, without anyone to talk to, and you\u2019ll regret spending your entire college time only with them.<\/p>\n The worst thing you can do to yourself is having a partner who doesn\u2019t support your dreams, goals, and ambitions.<\/p>\n It is spending years next to someone who holds you back and convinces you that you won\u2019t succeed at anything you set your mind to.<\/p>\n Em vez disso, encontre algu\u00e9m que o inspire a tornar-se o a melhor vers\u00e3o poss\u00edvel de si pr\u00f3prio<\/span><\/a> e que ser\u00e1 o vento para as suas asas em todas as situa\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n Someone who will push you forward, who won\u2019t be intimidated by your successes, and who will be there to help you get back up whenever you fall.<\/p>\n Procure um namorado ou namorada ambicioso(a), que tenha objectivos futuros rigorosos e que saiba o que quer da vida.<\/p>\n Someone who will be both your study and romantic partner, and someone who won\u2019t take your energy off your dreams.<\/p>\n A romantic relationship shouldn\u2019t be the only source of your happiness\u2014there is no doubt about that. However, it shouldn\u2019t make you miserable either.<\/p>\n You see, life is difficult enough on its own. Therefore, you shouldn\u2019t spend the best years of your life sad, crying over someone who doesn\u2019t deserve you.<\/p>\n3. Utilizar este tempo para aprender<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Saber a diferen\u00e7a entre amor e lux\u00faria<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Ter cuidado com o sexo<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n6. Don\u2019t fall under the pressure of the hook up culture<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n7. It won\u2019t be easy<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n8. Don\u2019t rush things<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n9. Coloca a tua educa\u00e7\u00e3o em primeiro lugar<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n10. Don\u2019t expect too much from your high school romance<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n11. Avoid dating someone you can\u2019t go no contact with after the breakup<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n12. Don\u2019t forget about other people<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n13. Find someone who won\u2019t hold you back<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n14. Don\u2019t waste time on a relationship which doesn\u2019t make you happy<\/h2>\n
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