{"id":52641,"date":"2020-02-11T12:37:45","date_gmt":"2020-02-11T12:37:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=52641"},"modified":"2022-02-26T22:18:52","modified_gmt":"2022-02-26T22:18:52","slug":"amo-me-mais-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amo-me-mais-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Perdoa-me, mas eu amo-me mais"},"content":{"rendered":"

Costumava acreditar em contos de fadas enquanto crescia e via todas aquelas com\u00e9dias rom\u00e2nticas.<\/p>\n

Sonhar com o meu cavaleiro de armadura brilhante e que um dia ele vir\u00e1 salvar-me dos meus horr\u00edveis anos de adolescente. Hoje em dia isto parece ser uma explos\u00e3o do passado.<\/p>\n

Eu era uma rapariga inteligente, mas insegura, \u00e0 procura de um rapaz que preenchesse as minhas inseguran\u00e7as e me fizesse feliz.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Growing up without a father, it took me years to become aware that I was looking for him in all my men and relationships. I always had a pattern, finding the ones that were not available, just like my daddy wasn’t available for me and my mom.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I met you and that was so typical of me. I broke every textbook rule for you. I saw from the start that you couldn’t show feelings; you couldn’t express yourself verbally, in that way or be a part of an adult conversation.<\/p>\n

Queria salvar-te para mim, por isso forcei-te durante anos a tornares-te naquilo que eu queria de ti. Estava t\u00e3o apaixonada e tinha medo de te perder. Eras aquele tipo indispon\u00edvel desde o primeiro dia.<\/p>\n

But my ego and my pattern didn’t allow me to let you go. I should have, but instead I struggled in the battle that was already lost from the start.<\/p>\n

 \"a<\/p>\n

Pergunto-me muitas vezes de onde veio a minha destrutividade, porque \u00e9 que n\u00e3o me permiti cuidar de mim primeiro. Em vez disso, preocupava-me com as vossas preocupa\u00e7\u00f5es. Estava a resolver os vossos problemas primeiro. E, no fundo, estava a sofrer como nunca antes na minha vida.<\/p>\n

Today I realize that I was blaming myself for my parents\u2019 broken marriage and for the fact that I take the blame for everything that happened between them.<\/p>\n

Apenas uma pequena rapariga que tinha de tomar conta do pai, em vez de ser ele a tomar conta da filha.<\/p>\n

Boy, was I in denial, even though deep inside, I knew I was making a mistake with you. But it didn\u2019t seem like one at the beginning. Beginnings are usually the best form of denial.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

At the beginning, you are mad about each other \u2013 well, mostly, you are head over heels for him. Now, let\u2019s go back to the story of romantic comedies from the 90s.<\/p>\n

Years passed and I got so tired of making all the right choices for us. Asking you if you loved me, putting my needs aside because you have to come first in my life. And the funniest part is, you didn\u2019t even ask me to do all that.<\/p>\n

Felizmente, fui suficientemente inteligente para levar a minha educa\u00e7\u00e3o muito a s\u00e9rio, para impulsionar a minha carreira e os meus conhecimentos, para expandir os meus horizontes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

E isso trouxe-me at\u00e9 aqui, onde estou hoje.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Com os meus pr\u00f3prios p\u00e9s bem assentes no ch\u00e3o e as minhas m\u00e3os no ar, a tentar apanhar o meu pr\u00f3prio peda\u00e7o de c\u00e9u. Demorei anos a deixar-te, mas atrav\u00e9s desse processo consegui finalmente chegar a mim pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

I have started a new chapter of my life, loving myself more than anything or anyone else. And guess what? I\u2019ve let go of the past too.<\/p>\n

Loving my mom and dad, that was one thing, but holding on to their lives and the past didn\u2019t allow me to grab for my future.<\/p>\n

Eu s\u00f3 tenho uma vida e se Posso amar-me a mim pr\u00f3prio<\/a> para mim, ent\u00e3o n\u00e3o sou capaz de amar um homem por si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

I do hope that this will be the next step of my lifelong journey. But I will not hurry to get to him. Like I did with you. I\u2019ve let you go and it was the best decision of my life.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I can tell you one more beautiful thing \u2013 I didn\u2019t even suffer. I just gave myself the time to walk on the beach alone, eat chocolate, and read a good book.<\/p>\n

I put my phone away and didn\u2019t wait for your message. I decided that the only person I should wait for is me. And for the first time in my life, being alone felt good.<\/p>\n

Nesse momento, apercebi-me de que ele vir\u00e1 ter comigo e eu n\u00e3o sentirei vontade de mudar nada. Ele ser\u00e1 o \u00fanico para mim e, finalmente, eu poderei ser a \u00fanica para ele.<\/p>\n

Mas primeiro, independentemente do tempo que demorasse a l\u00e1 chegar, tinha de ser a \u00fanica e a certa para mim.<\/p>\n

\"Perdoa-me,<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I used to believe in fairy tales while growing up and watching all those romantic comedies. Dreaming about my knight in shining armor and that one day he will come and save me from my horrible teenage years. Today this seems to be a blast from the past. I used to be such a clever,…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":52642,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29644],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-52641","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29644,"label":"self-love"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/forgive-me-but-i-love-me-more.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29644,"name":"self-love","slug":"self-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29644,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","parent":29643,"count":290,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29644,"category_count":290,"category_description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","cat_name":"self-love","category_nicename":"self-love","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52641","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=52641"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52641\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/52642"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=52641"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=52641"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=52641"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}