{"id":53404,"date":"2020-02-22T11:43:02","date_gmt":"2020-02-22T11:43:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=53404"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:59:39","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:59:39","slug":"a-mulher-traida-tem-de-seguir-em-frente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-mulher-traida-tem-de-seguir-em-frente\/","title":{"rendered":"Quando uma mulher \u00e9 tra\u00edda, n\u00e3o tem outra op\u00e7\u00e3o sen\u00e3o seguir em frente"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ontem \u00e0 noite, recebi uma mensagem do meu ex. Claro que j\u00e1 passava da meia-noite e eu j\u00e1 estava a dormir quando a mensagem chegou.<\/p>\n<p>Provavelmente saiu e embebedou-se, e as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es levaram a melhor sobre ele. Pensou no que j\u00e1 teve e agora perdeu. Pensou em n\u00f3s.<\/p>\n<p>Ele pensou que eu responderia de imediato e que aproveitaria a oportunidade para falar com ele e dar-lhe o carinho de que tantas vezes precisou no passado.<\/p>\n<p>Drunk as he was, he imagined me running to his door and reassuring him with kind words, while I\u2019d watch him reach for my hand <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/se-ele-gostasse-mesmo-de-ti-agiria-como-tal\/\">enquanto fingia que se preocupava<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ele esperava honestidade, cuidado e empenho da minha parte depois de me ter humilhado. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>He was so confident that I\u2019d leave my pride in my bed that I woke up in this morning \u2013 just to give him all my understanding.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53407\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-support-her-husband-about-job.jpg\" alt=\"a mulher apoia o marido no trabalho\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-support-her-husband-about-job.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-support-her-husband-about-job-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-support-her-husband-about-job-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He actually thought I\u2019d beg him to tell me what\u2019s wrong?! I bet it was hilarious for him, picturing me believing every lie he told me as a reason and story behind every drink he took.<\/p>\n<p>Pergunto-me se ele alguma vez falou de mim a alguma rapariga com quem saiu, sabendo que eu estava \u00e0 espera fielmente em casa.<\/p>\n<p><strong>If he only knew how many times I closed my eyes to the truth \u2013 how many times his phone rang with an unknown number where I wished I could answer it.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>Alguma vez lhe passou pela cabe\u00e7a ser honesto? <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Did he know that he\u2019d regret losing me as much as I regretted those nights that I turned a blind eye and made excuses for him? <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Ser\u00e1 que ele sabia que perder-me o iria magoar mais do que tudo?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s such a shame that he wasn\u2019t careful with my feelings. It\u2019s a shame he didn\u2019t keep me from harm.<\/p>\n<p>Foi a sua falta de cuidado que o denunciou. Nem mesmo o meu amor conseguia ver para al\u00e9m disso.<\/p>\n<p>I knew something wasn\u2019t right. I knew his words were pure lies.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53408\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/depressive-woman-sitting-on-bed.jpg\" alt=\"mulher deprimida sentada na cama\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/depressive-woman-sitting-on-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/depressive-woman-sitting-on-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/depressive-woman-sitting-on-bed-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I could almost smell every one of his secrets. I could literally smell the perfume on his jacket that wasn\u2019t mine.<\/p>\n<p>I wish I can show him how worthless his message and his \u201cI miss you\u201d looks now.<\/p>\n<p>He is not a part of me anymore and neither is that black lace dress that he loved so much on me. I\u2019m wearing the yellow one now \u2013 the one I love on me.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t matter what he likes anymore. It\u2019s all about me now.<\/p>\n<p>Once upon a time, he mattered the most, he was my number one, but he tossed it away. There\u2019s no going back.<\/p>\n<p>Now, as I\u2019m looking at my phone and his late-night message, I\u2019m wondering what he is \u2013 strong or desperate?<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m eager to ask if he knows that his mens rea is late, just like his message.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53409\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sleepless-woman-holding-phone-in-bed.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sem sono a segurar o telem\u00f3vel na cama\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sleepless-woman-holding-phone-in-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sleepless-woman-holding-phone-in-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sleepless-woman-holding-phone-in-bed-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m certain that, whatever the future holds, it will show him how powerful feeling guilt is. It makes you crawl, beg, and cry for the one whose love you didn\u2019t know how to appreciate.<\/p>\n<p>But, I\u2019m a woman. I can get through anything \u2013 even when I\u2019m in pain, even when I have <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor-proprio\/girl-power\/para-a-rapariga-com-uma-alma-cansada-e-tempo-de-te-salvares\/\">uma alma cansada<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>I know well what I\u2019m made of. I know I can do better than him. I know I <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/mereces-mais-do-que-mensagens-de-texto-de-merda\/\">merecer mais<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>I deserve more than his lies, selfish acts, mysterious phone calls he got, confessions he never made, another woman\u2019s perfume on his jacket, every secret he kept, the black lace dress, and late-night messages sent with a guilt-laced glass of wine. He can\u2019t get the best of me.<\/p>\n<p>So, I am strong enough to get up from my bed, type \u201cIt\u2019s too late,\u201d and move on with my life.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-53405\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on-pinterest-724x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Quando uma mulher \u00e9 tra\u00edda, n\u00e3o tem outra op\u00e7\u00e3o sen\u00e3o seguir em frente\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on-pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on-pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on-pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on-pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on-pinterest.jpg 1414w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Last night, I got a message from my ex. Of course, it was after midnight and I was already asleep when the message arrived. He probably went out and got drunk, and his emotions got the best of him. He thought about what he once had and now lost. He thought about us. He thought&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":53406,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-53404","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/53404","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=53404"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/53404\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/53406"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=53404"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=53404"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=53404"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}