{"id":53658,"date":"2020-02-26T00:19:31","date_gmt":"2020-02-26T00:19:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=53658"},"modified":"2022-03-10T18:27:30","modified_gmt":"2022-03-10T18:27:30","slug":"erros-que-as-raparigas-cometem-durante-a-ausencia-de-contacto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/erros-que-as-raparigas-cometem-durante-a-ausencia-de-contacto\/","title":{"rendered":"8 erros est\u00fapidos que a maioria das raparigas comete durante e ap\u00f3s o per\u00edodo sem contacto"},"content":{"rendered":"

De certeza que j\u00e1 ouviu falar do per\u00edodo sem contacto.<\/p>\n

Basicamente, corta-se todos os la\u00e7os com o ex durante 30 dias (ou, em casos mais radicais, 3 meses) ap\u00f3s a separa\u00e7\u00e3o para que ele sinta a sua aus\u00eancia e perceba que sente a sua falta e a quer de volta.<\/p>\n

Parece perfeito, certo? Bem, h\u00e1 algumas coisas que a maioria das raparigas faz mal durante e depois deste per\u00edodo, e aqui est\u00e3o 8 delas.<\/p>\n

Remember: It\u2019s up to you to learn from other people\u2019s mistakes and not repeat them.<\/p>\n

1. Tornar tudo sobre o teu ex<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Say this out loud as many times as you need: This no contact period is not about my ex, it\u2019s about me.<\/p>\n

Sim, um dos seus objectivos pode ser tentar recuper\u00e1-lo<\/span><\/a>mas o objetivo principal \u00e9 fazer o meu melhor para me curar e consertar o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido.<\/p>\n

Infelizmente, n\u00e3o s\u00e3o muitas as raparigas que sabem isso. Por isso, em vez de usarem estes 30 dias como uma oportunidade para se reerguerem e, pelo menos, tentarem seguir em frente com as suas vidas, fazem com que tudo gire em torno dos seus ex.<\/p>\n

Estas raparigas p\u00f5em literalmente a sua vida em suspenso e passam todo este per\u00edodo \u00e0 espera que ele regresse.<\/p>\n

They focus so much on proving him a point and showing him that they can make it perfectly fine without him that they don\u2019t actually move an inch from the exact place he left them.<\/p>\n

So, what is the point of it all? If you do the no contact period this way, you haven\u2019t accomplished anything.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you just spent another month unhappily dating this guy.<\/p>\n

2. Cortar apenas a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

One of the most common mistakes almost every girl makes during the no contact period is understanding the words \u201cno contact\u201d too literally.<\/p>\n

You see, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should only stop texting, calling, or talking to this guy in person.<\/p>\n

De facto, a aus\u00eancia de contacto \u00e9 muito mais do que cortar as linhas de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o com o seu ex.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not going to the places you know you might encounter him (not even just to look at him from a safe distance), not talking to your friends about him, not asking questions about his life.<\/p>\n

Mais importante ainda, significa n\u00e3o o perseguir no ciberespa\u00e7o ou perguntar-se constantemente Ele sente a minha falta quando n\u00e3o h\u00e1 contacto?<\/a>?<\/em><\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Sim, ouviste bem. Se quiser fazer isto da forma correcta, n\u00e3o pode escrever o nome dele cem vezes por dia na sua barra de pesquisa.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t scroll through his stories, friends lists, photos, or status updates using a fake profile, and you can\u2019t spend nights rereading your old conversations.<\/p>\n

Because if you do so, you\u2019re just pretending that you\u2019re going no contact when in fact you\u2019re still obsessed with him.<\/p>\n

All of your effort is in vain if you kick this guy out of your life physically but don\u2019t try to do the same when it comes to your inner self.<\/p>\n

Se ele est\u00e1 fora da sua vida, fa\u00e7a o seu melhor para o expulsar da sua cabe\u00e7a e do seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o tamb\u00e9m durante este per\u00edodo e veja o que acontece.<\/p>\n

3. Fazer-lhe ci\u00fames<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

O per\u00edodo de aus\u00eancia de contacto n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma oportunidade para se lan\u00e7ar numa nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Of course, I\u2019m not saying that you\u2019re not allowed to start dating someone new, but you have to actually like this guy to start something with him.<\/p>\n

He shouldn\u2019t serve as a tool to fazer ci\u00fames ao seu ex<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Trust me when I tell you this: Rebound relationships never brought any good to anyone and they certainly won\u2019t help you repair your broken heart.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

In fact, a situationship like this will only make you even more miserable. And that\u2019s the last thing you need at this point.<\/p>\n

Besides, you don\u2019t want to be the bad guy here and throw an innocent man directly into your personal drama.<\/p>\n

Nobody deserves to be a puppet you\u2019ll only take advantage of until you get what you want from your true love. That is not cool and it certainly isn\u2019t fair.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, se espera recuperar o seu ex depois de este m\u00eas terminar, ser\u00e1 muito mais dif\u00edcil se ele se aperceber que entretanto andou com outra pessoa.<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que ele pode confiar no seu amor se conseguiu esquec\u00ea-lo e voltar a apaixonar-se neste curto espa\u00e7o de tempo?<\/p>\n

4. Regressar \u00e0 pessoa que costumava ser<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Tal como j\u00e1 referi, o per\u00edodo de aus\u00eancia de contacto \u00e9 (ou pelo menos deveria ser) todo dedicado a si.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about turning yourself into the best possible woman you can become, working on yourself, and taking the time to reconsider your relationship and your overall dating and relationship behavior patterns.<\/p>\n

Por isso, uma das piores coisas que se pode fazer \u00e9 voltar a ser o que era no momento em que o rel\u00f3gio bate a meia-noite e o sol nasce no 31\u00ba dia.<\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not telling you to change yourself completely and become someone else during this month.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m just begging you not to repeat the same mistakes regarding your ex.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you. There is a possibility of this man n\u00e3o voltar<\/span><\/a> para si.<\/p>\n

However, just because you managed to stay out of his life for an entire month, it doesn\u2019t mean you should stalk him after that period is over.<\/p>\n

5. Esperar resultados imediatos<\/h2>\n

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Another mistake most girls sadly fail to avoid lies in their lack of patience. You can\u2019t expect results right away, as much as you want them.<\/p>\n

No, you won\u2019t wake up the day after the no contact period is over and magically forget that your ex ever existed.<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t turn up uninvited, knocking on your door on the 31st day.<\/p>\n

Things simply don\u2019t work like that. However, just because miracles you hope for don\u2019t happen right away, it doesn\u2019t mean that results will never come.<\/p>\n

So, if you still feel like you can\u2019t live with this guy after this period is over, you can then try to reach out to him.<\/p>\n

Pode esfor\u00e7ar-se por estabelecer algum tipo de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o com ele ou mesmo dizer-lhe diretamente que quer outra oportunidade.<\/p>\n

No entanto, tudo isto deve acontecer da forma mais espont\u00e2nea poss\u00edvel. Al\u00e9m disso, \u00e9 um processo que leva tempo.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t just call him out of the blue, asking to voltar a juntar-se<\/span><\/a>a n\u00e3o ser que queiras que ele te veja como uma completa lun\u00e1tica.<\/p>\n

RELACIONADO: O poder de se afastar de um homem: Deixe-o ver o que perdeu<\/a><\/p>\n

6. Cair no desespero<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 tamb\u00e9m uma coisa que quase todas as raparigas fazem ap\u00f3s o per\u00edodo sem contacto: entrar em desespero porque nada aconteceu.<\/p>\n

Even if your ex doesn\u2019t contact you, even if he doesn\u2019t accept your attempts to get back into his life, it is n\u00e3o \u00e9 o fim do mundo<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

It is not a green light for you to get all depressed and convince yourself that you\u2019ll never find someone to love and who\u2019ll love you back.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o \u00e9 um sinal de que se deva deixar levar pela dor ou de que deva desistir do seu futuro rom\u00e2ntico.<\/p>\n

Yes, the fact that he obviously doesn\u2019t want to get back together sucks. And it hurts like hell.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Therefore, you\u2019re allowed to grieve for some time. However, stop looking at it as the biggest disaster that could strike you.<\/p>\n

Instead, see it as a valuable lesson. There are times when you do everything right and play by the book yet still don\u2019t get the result you wanted.<\/p>\n

And that is all part of life. It\u2019s not fair, I know, but you\u2019ll just have to find a way to deal with it.<\/p>\n

Just remember that you made it without this guy for an entire month, so you\u2019ll without doubt succeed and keep on living without him from this day on.<\/p>\n

7. Regressar \u00e0s edi\u00e7\u00f5es anteriores<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

No entanto, se o per\u00edodo sem contacto funciona<\/a> out for the best and you manage to get your ex boyfriend back, don\u2019t ruin this second chance you two got by going back to your old problems.<\/p>\n

Of course, you shouldn\u2019t ignore them and expect them to solve themselves, but please, don\u2019t make it the centre of your relationship.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t see this reconciliation as a chance to nag this guy about every little thing he\u2019s ever done to you.<\/p>\n

O melhor seria se voc\u00eas os dois conseguissem resolver tudo logo no in\u00edcio.<\/p>\n

Quando ambos concordam que podem e querem reconstruir a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, deixa de haver ressentimentos e rancores.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Leave the past in the past, where it belongs, and don\u2019t let it ruin your present and future.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t change what happened, so why burden both you and your boyfriend with it?<\/p>\n

Otherwise, don\u2019t expect a different outcome than the last time.<\/p>\n

If you keep on bringing up the past instead of focusing on how to make things better this time round, you\u2019ll be just dragging both of you back into this endless circle of drama, and it\u2019ll be just a matter of time before you split ways once more.<\/p>\n

Mas, desta vez, ser\u00e1 para sempre.<\/p>\n

8. Ficar amigos<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

You still have strong romantic feelings about this guy, there\u2019s no doubt about that.<\/p>\n

Mesmo assim manter a amizade com o ex<\/span><\/a> is a great thing, it\u2019s simply not possible in this scenario.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t use friendship as an excuse to stay close to him.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t lead yourself on and waste more of your precious time, waiting for something that will never come.<\/p>\n

Besides, you shouldn\u2019t settle for crumbs of this man\u2019s love and attention when you very well know it that he can\u2019t give you his heart and the type of love you want from him.<\/p>\n

Why would you even think of torturing yourself and going through this charade, when it\u2019s painfully obvious that you\u2019ll just end up more heartbroken than before?<\/p>\n

Even if he asks you to be friends, don\u2019t pretend to be indifferent and accept his proposal.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry, there is absolutely nothing desperate in coming clean about your emotions and honestly telling this guy that you two can\u2019t be friends.<\/p>\n

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