I\u2019m a grown-ass woman who is done with bulls**t.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c9 aqui que se entra em a\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Since this piece was inspired by your bullying and your crazy little manipulations, I suggest you take a seat and get comfortable because I’ve just started to take out my frustrations which I’ve been collecting for years.<\/p>\n Quase tenho pena de mim pr\u00f3prio por n\u00e3o ter percebido tudo mais cedo.<\/p>\n Porqu\u00ea quase, perguntam voc\u00eas?<\/em><\/p>\n Well, the reason I\u2019m NOT sorry is that I was fed so much bullshit that I ran out of places to store it, so it eventually started hitting me on the head with an intention to make me realize what an idiot I’ve been this whole time.<\/p>\n I know I would have never reached this blissful stage of complete enlightenment if I\u2019d kept the BS from everyone deep inside, suffering in silence and coping with it when no one was looking.<\/strong><\/p>\n That\u2019s why I\u2019m glad it happened anyway.<\/p>\n Agora, pelo menos, sei que dei o meu melhor. Sei que tentei tudo, mas nunca obtive qualquer feedback positivo da tua parte.<\/p>\n Continuaste a viver a tua vida sem compromissos, como se estivesses sozinho nela.<\/p>\n Continuou a ser ego\u00edsta, apesar de todos os avisos que lhe foram feitos de um dia para o outro.<\/p>\n Now that I’ve become indifferent, it\u2019s too late for you to fix things. There is no going back.<\/p>\n For the sake of this article and for the sake of people still storing frustrations inside themselves, I\u2019m going to write as many fundamentally stupid things as I can remember and the mistakes you made which slowly drove me away from you.<\/p>\n I know it\u2019s hard to face the truth but bear with me\u2026 it might do you good and help you become a better version of yourself\u2026 IT. JUST. MIGHT.<\/p>\n Over time, I realized that the problem wasn\u2019t me and I shouldn\u2019t take any more BS because I was in no way responsible for the problems coming our way (despite how hard you tried to manipulate me into thinking it WAS all my fault).<\/p>\n The problem was you\u2026 all along, it was you.<\/p>\n You hated yourself for the things you did or better said, for the things you didn\u2019t do and you should have.<\/p>\n Os teus arrependimentos cegavam-te e nunca conseguiste ultrapass\u00e1-los. Precisavas de algu\u00e9m em quem descarregar tudo.<\/p>\n Eu era a fonte de energia viva mais pr\u00f3xima para as vossas inten\u00e7\u00f5es venenosas se ligarem.<\/p>\n I\u2019m aware of that now and I\u2019m finally putting an end to it\u2014something I should have done a long time ago.<\/p>\n Sorrir tornou-se algo que eu fazia em raras ocasi\u00f5es. Aquelas rugas de felicidade pareciam desvanecer-se \u00e0 medida que passava mais tempo contigo.<\/p>\n Me, a girl who was always laughing and in good spirits\u2026 I became unrecognizable.<\/p>\n Houve ocasi\u00f5es em que sorri, mas todos os que me conheciam bem viam que estava a for\u00e7ar o sorriso.<\/p>\n They all saw it\u2014a big, fake smile to chase off curious snoopers dying to find out something new to gossip about.<\/p>\n Por outras palavras, lentamente, tornaste-me infeliz. Transformaste-me numa mulher cansada da vida.<\/p>\n At the age of thirty, I was tired of life. Isn\u2019t that just sad?<\/p>\n Agora at\u00e9 me pergunto se n\u00e3o terias ci\u00fames de mim? Talvez pensasses que eu tinha conseguido na vida e que tinhas ficado para tr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n But if that is true and it most definitely is not, how could have I achieved the things you wanted instead of you? I could only help you get there. I couldn\u2019t do it for you.<\/p>\n E nunca tiveste coragem de te levantar e fazer alguma coisa da tua vida.<\/p>\n Por isso, depois de eu ter conseguido, quiseste ficar com os louros do meu trabalho. Querias ser a raz\u00e3o do meu sucesso.<\/p>\n The truth is I\u2019m successful BECAUSE I had to do it all by myself.<\/p>\n I never could rely on you for anything\u2014from the smallest details to bigger commitments. I guess what I want to say to you now is\u2026 thank you.<\/p>\n It became an obsession, really. It wasn\u2019t cute anymore. Instead, it became horrific.<\/p>\n Over time, I felt like I needed to dedicate my life to you only, leaving no room for anyone else\u2014friends or what\u2019s even worse, family.<\/p>\n How could a person be jealous of the other\u2019s mother and their perfectly healthy relationship?<\/p>\n Bem, conseguiste entrar numa outra esfera de ci\u00fames, passar um outro n\u00edvel e, infelizmente, isso destruiu a nossa hip\u00f3tese de felicidade.<\/p>\n Perdeu todo o controlo e baniu-me da sua vida, para sempre.<\/p>\n A s\u00e9rio, fica velho depois de um tempo. Eu sabia exatamente quais seriam as tuas desculpas e que frases usarias depois de uma luta.<\/p>\n Sabia-as de cor porque era sempre a mesma hist\u00f3ria.<\/p>\n You were never guilty, it was always someone else\u2019s fault and you just happened to be there to take the blame.<\/p>\n It\u2019s impossible to believe that you\u2019re such a saint while everyone around you is faulty in a way.<\/p>\n It\u2019s even more impossible to believe that everyone else is stupid and wrong, only your opinion matters and only you are right.<\/p>\n C\u2019mon\u2026 seriously?! That is a load of BS listed as No. 5 on my list which I\u2019ve put up for such a long time but even that trace of love I had for you, the familiarity and warmth I used to feel around you couldn\u2019t justify your behavior and your claims.<\/p>\n Tudo era demasiado.<\/p>\n It was impossible to \u2018Always Look on the Bright Side of Life\u2019, as sung in \u2018Monty Python\u2019, with you by my side.<\/p>\n It was always about negativity. All you could talk about were some insane conspiracy theories in which every scenario ended up the same\u2014we were all going to die horrible deaths.<\/p>\n You know what?! I don\u2019t give a shit! I\u2019m going to die anyway.<\/p>\n Portanto, se Deus quisesse que eu morresse numa morte horr\u00edvel, ca\u00f3tica, do tipo fim do mundo, que assim fosse!<\/p>\n I didn\u2019t want to live my life in fear and regret something that might just happen but which you had no proof that it actually would.<\/p>\n A sua negatividade mudou-me todos os dias um pouco mais.<\/p>\n Essa treta ancorou-se no fundo da minha mente; \u00e0 medida que se instalava no meu c\u00e9rebro, comecei a ter medo dela.<\/p>\n Comecei a acreditar que todas as coisas que disseste iam acontecer.<\/p>\n Refiro-me a dias melhores contigo. A meio da nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, eu ainda tinha esperan\u00e7a de que dias melhores ainda estavam para vir.<\/p>\n Needless to say, I couldn\u2019t have been more wrong. That hope slowly vanished as you showed absolutely no intention of changing.<\/p>\n Not just that you refused to change, you didn\u2019t even notice that you had a problem. It was so much easier to blame me or anyone else.<\/p>\n Era muito mais f\u00e1cil fazer asneiras do que ser um homem, vestir um par e p\u00f4r a vida em ordem.<\/p>\n There you go\u2026 This is what you got for what you served.<\/p>\n There it is. I finally feel like I’ve got to that point in my life where I can shout from the top of my lungs to everyone who bothers me, loud and clear: \u201cFU!\u201d I’m finally at that stage where I simply don\u2019t give a damn anymore. 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\nSo yes\u2026 it\u2019s going to be a long ride.<\/em><\/p>\n![\"uma](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-by-the-window-3.jpg\")
<\/p>\nBS No. 1 – Your hidden self-loathing was not my problem<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nBS No. 2 – You made me (in one word) MISERABLE<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nBS No. 3 – You lacked any form of support imaginable<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nBS No.4 – Your jealousy was too much to handle<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nBS No.5 – Poor you, you were always the victim<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nBS No.6 – Your negativity drove me insane<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nBS No. 7 – You destroyed my hope of better days<\/h2>\n
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