{"id":5413,"date":"2019-07-20T12:22:19","date_gmt":"2019-07-20T12:22:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=5413"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:38:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:38:30","slug":"sobre-como-ultrapassar-o-narcisista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/sobre-como-ultrapassar-o-narcisista\/","title":{"rendered":"Como superar o narcisista"},"content":{"rendered":"

Many times I\u2019ve wondered if I am ever going to be normal again. I\u2019ve wondered if I am going to sentir-se bem <\/a>e se me vou dar outra oportunidade de amar novamente. <\/span><\/p>\n

I could never read people. I could never guess who\u2019s going to love me and who\u2019s going to use me. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sempre dei uma oportunidade \u00e0s pessoas, independentemente do que acontecesse, e acabei sempre por receber um mau neg\u00f3cio. Poder-se-ia pensar que j\u00e1 me habituei a isso, mas desta vez foi brutal. <\/span><\/p>\n

Conheci um homem que gritava problemas a uma milha de dist\u00e2ncia. E eu apaixonei-me por ele. Apesar de ter recebido sinais de aviso para n\u00e3o me aproximar dele, convidei-o para a minha vida e para o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o. Decidi dar-nos uma oportunidade. <\/span><\/p>\n

I was so stupid to believe I would be the one to change him. But you can\u2019t really tame the beast, can you?<\/span><\/p>\n

Apaixonei-me por um homem que era incapaz de amar algu\u00e9m para al\u00e9m dele pr\u00f3prio. <\/span><\/h2>\n

 <\/p>\n

Por mais que eu lhe desse, nunca era suficiente. Por mais que eu o amasse, ele nunca me amou de volta.<\/span><\/p>\n

All the \u2018feelings\u2019 he poured out to me were part of his well-practiced scheme. <\/span><\/p>\n

He knew that I\u2019d do anything for him if he gave me as much as a pinch of love. I know you can\u2019t really measure love, but when it comes in minimal doses like his did, you can.<\/span><\/p>\n

Apaixonei-me por algu\u00e9m que era extremamente ego\u00edsta. <\/span><\/h2>\n

As minhas necessidades nunca foram uma quest\u00e3o importante. A \u00fanica coisa que era importante quando est\u00e1vamos juntos era que ele fosse feliz. <\/span><\/p>\n

O pior \u00e9 que ele ficava mais feliz quando eu estava mais infeliz. Como se estivesse a alimentar-se da minha mis\u00e9ria. <\/span><\/p>\n

I tell myself all the time that I wouldn\u2019t have fallen for him if I knew how selfish he was, but that\u2019s a lie. I\u2019d have fallen for him anyway.<\/span><\/p>\n

Apaixonei-me por algu\u00e9m que pensei poder mudar. <\/span><\/h2>\n

Ningu\u00e9m me obrigou a faz\u00ea-lo. Eu fiz isto a mim pr\u00f3prio.  <\/span>Pensei que o podia mudar<\/a>. I thought that if I gave him all the love I ever had, he\u2019d change teams, and he\u2019d come to play for the good guys. <\/span><\/p>\n

Eu sabia que ele tinha tra\u00e7os negativos, mas todos os humanos t\u00eam. Nunca o tomei por um homem mau por causa dos seus defeitos. Decidi aceit\u00e1-lo como um todo, com todos os seus bens e todos os seus males. <\/span><\/p>\n

O \u00fanico problema eram os seus sentimentos. O \u00fanico problema era que ele era incapaz de amar. <\/span><\/p>\n

He is the type of guy who\u2019s unable to feel empathy towards anybody. And I was the type of girl who felt everything in thousands of different colors.<\/span><\/p>\n

Andei com um homem que me culpava por tudo. <\/span><\/h2>\n

Whenever things went bad for him, he\u2019d take it out on me. As if I were the worst thing that could\u2019ve ever happened to him, as if I wanted bad things to happen to him. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tentar confront\u00e1-lo foi a ideia mais est\u00fapida de sempre. S\u00f3 piorava as coisas. <\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o fazia ideia de como lhe explicar que eu n\u00e3o era a vil\u00e3 e que tinha pena quando as coisas corriam mal para ele. Mal sabia eu que n\u00e3o era o vil\u00e3o deste espet\u00e1culo.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Como<\/p>\n

Namorei com algu\u00e9m que me fez duvidar de mim pr\u00f3prio.<\/span><\/h2>\n

Decidi baixar a guarda e deix\u00e1-lo entrar. Esqueci-me de mim pr\u00f3pria. Esqueci-me do tipo de pessoa que sou. <\/span><\/p>\n

Esqueci-me dos meus princ\u00edpios e das minhas convic\u00e7\u00f5es. Deixei-o ir embora e voltar sempre que quisesse. <\/span><\/p>\n

I did it because he made me believe I couldn\u2019t have anybody better than him. <\/span><\/p>\n

He acted as if he was God\u2019s gift to me, even though I didn\u2019t really deserve him. It made me feel unworthy, small, and pathetic to think I deserved to be loved.<\/span><\/p>\n

Namorei com uma pessoa que me mudou completamente. <\/span><\/h2>\n

There wasn\u2019t any remaining trait of the rapariga que eu era antes de entrar nessa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/a> As rugas \u00e0 volta dos meus olhos, de tanto que me ri antes, transformaram-se em rugas das minhas l\u00e1grimas e preocupa\u00e7\u00f5es. <\/span><\/p>\n

They were the signs of my inner pain\u2014the pain I never talked about with anybody. <\/span><\/p>\n

Demorei algum tempo a aperceber-me de que fazia parte de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva. N\u00e3o fazia ideia porque n\u00e3o tinha n\u00f3doas negras no meu corpo. <\/span><\/p>\n

I had no broken bones, but I felt broken from the inside. And I didn\u2019t want to be broken. I only wanted to be happy. And loved. Was it too much to ask?<\/span><\/p>\n

It was all my fault. I started this whole nightmare alone. I fell for him hoping I\u2019d fix him, hoping I\u2019d be the one to save his soul. I ended up as the person that needed to be saved.<\/span><\/p>\n

Namorei com algu\u00e9m que me fez desistir dele.<\/span><\/h2>\n

I just couldn\u2019t do it anymore. I was never a quitter. But there is a first time for everything. <\/span><\/p>\n

If I hadn\u2019t walked away when I did, God knows what would\u2019ve happened to me. If I hadn\u2019t given up on him, I would have given up on me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Namorei com algu\u00e9m que me ensinou a ser ego\u00edsta. <\/span><\/h2>\n

I didn\u2019t become selfish in a narcissistic way. I absorbed everything from my teacher. My selfishness wasn\u2019t t\u00f3xico<\/a>. S\u00f3 fui t\u00e3o ego\u00edsta quanto precisei de ser para me salvar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Alguma vez amaste tanto uma pessoa que farias qualquer coisa por ela? Bem, eu decidi tornar-me nessa pessoa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Decidi recompensar as pessoas com o meu tempo apenas se elas decidirem dar-me o seu tempo tamb\u00e9m. Decidi amar apenas se o meu amor for apreciado. <\/span><\/p>\n

I decided to walk away from people who didn\u2019t respect me. I decided to walk away from people who destroyed my happiness and never look back. <\/span><\/p>\n

Namorei com algu\u00e9m que me fez escolher a mim pr\u00f3prio. <\/span><\/h2>\n

I made a decision to move on. Because he didn\u2019t appreciate me, I learned to appreciate myself. <\/span><\/p>\n

I knew it wouldn\u2019t happen automatically, but I hope it would happen eventually. And it did. I refused to allow him to get the best of me. I deserve so much more than him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Namorei com uma pessoa que quase me partiu. <\/span><\/h2>\n

Este homem fez as coisas mais horr\u00edveis que algu\u00e9m pode fazer a uma pessoa que o ama. Manipulou-me, deitou-me constantemente abaixo, quase me convenceu de que eu n\u00e3o era suficientemente boa.<\/p>\n

He broke my heart, but I didn’t let him broke me. Little by little I climbed up from the black hole he showed me in.<\/p>\n

Little by little I stopped talking down on me and I started l telling myself that even though I’m flawed I still don’t deserve to be treated the way he treated me.  I reminded myself that I too, deserve to be loved.<\/p>\n

Namorei com algu\u00e9m que me mostrou do que sou feito. <\/span><\/h2>\n

Hadn’t he done everything he could to hurt me, I would’ve never found out how much pain I can endure. If he didn’t choose to hate me, I would’ve never known how much I love myself.<\/p>\n

If he didn’t try to break me, I would’ve never found out how strong I am. Hadn’t I fallen for the wrong guy, could I have ever learned what the right guy looks like?<\/p>\n

Even though it was a hell of a journey, it still shaped me into who I am. And I couldn’t be more thankful than I am.<\/p>\n

Life has its way of teaching us the lessons we need to learn and even though I’m a bit bruised, I’m not broken, I’m still standing. I say I won.<\/p>\n

He was my first thought in the morning and first thought before I’d fall asleep. Now, I barely think of him.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\"Como<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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