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<\/p>\nJ\u00e1 alguma vez esteve numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o em que nada do que faz \u00e9 suficientemente bom?<\/p>\n
Where you\u2019re the only one guilty for all of your problems and where somehow, you always end up taking responsibility even for the things you didn\u2019t do?<\/p>\n
If you can relate your romance with all of the above, you\u2019re probably dealing with a narcissistic boyfriend who constantly puts all the blame on you.<\/p>\n
Naturally, you can\u2019t help but wonder what makes him do that.<\/p>\n
Read on and you\u2019ll find the answers you need!<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014the last thing I\u2019m trying to do is blame you for falling into the hands of a narcissist.<\/p>\n
You\u2019re this awful man\u2019s v\u00edtima<\/span><\/a>, he is the only one responsible for the way he\u2019s treating you and nothing you did makes you guilty for his toxic actions.<\/p>\n However, the fact is that a narcissist won\u2019t attack just anyone and they don\u2019t choose their targets randomly, without any reason whatsoever.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t take this as an insult but a narcissist searches for weak women he can mentally and emotionally abuse without much trouble.<\/p>\n Estas pessoas s\u00e3o manipuladores h\u00e1beis e t\u00eam capacidades psicol\u00f3gicas extremamente boas.<\/p>\n Andam \u00e0 espreita, \u00e0 procura da v\u00edtima mais adequada.<\/p>\n It is possible that you\u2019re dealing with some deeply rooted emotional traumas even you\u2019re not aware of, that you display sinais de uma mulher insegura<\/a> or that you\u2019ve been taught that you\u2019re always to blame ever since your childhood.<\/p>\n Either way, the point is that this guy would probably never chase a woman he knows he couldn\u2019t manipulate and sadly, you\u2019re not her.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re wondering why narcisistas <\/span><\/a>never take the blame for their behavior, the answer is pretty simple\u2014they can\u2019t admit to anyone that they\u2019re guilty, including themselves.<\/p>\n Of course, this doesn\u2019t justify them because deep down, a narcissist knows exactly what he\u2019s doing.<\/p>\n The first thing you need to know about this type of person is that they\u2019re driven by their desire to be flawless.<\/p>\n A sua prioridade \u00e9 que todos \u00e0 sua volta os vejam t\u00e3o perfeitos quanto poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n Assim, se um narcisista alguma vez admitisse que estava errado, isso significaria que ele tem a sua quota-parte de imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es, tal como qualquer outra pessoa no mundo.<\/p>\n In fact, that would make him average and that is something he couldn\u2019t stand.<\/p>\n Este tipo quer ser visto como melhor do que todos os outros.<\/p>\n This is especially the case with his romantic relationships\u2014he wants to convince you that he is above you in every way possible and that it is literally impossible for him to make any kind of a mistake.<\/p>\n You and most people have no trouble admitting that you\u2019re just human beings made of flesh and blood and that you\u2019re prone to making wrong moves from time to time.<\/p>\n No entanto, este homem prefere morrer a permitir que deixes de o ver como superior ao resto do mundo.<\/p>\n Contrariamente ao seu comportamento, a verdade \u00e9 que este homem est\u00e1 perfeitamente consciente de que \u00e9 ele o culpado pelo facto de a sua relationship isn\u2019t working<\/span><\/a> and that you\u2019re nothing but his victim.<\/p>\n He doesn\u2019t think you\u2019re responsible for your relationship problems\u2014he is just doing his best to make you believe that you\u2019re the sinful one.<\/p>\n Por favor, tenham isto em mente da pr\u00f3xima vez que come\u00e7arem a procurar desculpas para este homem.<\/p>\n Stop thinking that he is a poor soul, that his narcissism is stronger than him and that he can\u2019t do anything to successfully control it.<\/p>\n Sim, ele est\u00e1 a lidar com um grave dist\u00farbio de personalidade.<\/p>\n However, his mental and emotional conditions don\u2019t make him unaware of his actions.<\/p>\n Outra raz\u00e3o pela qual o seu parceiro narcisista lhe atribui todas as culpas \u00e9 o facto de ele ver nisso uma sa\u00edda para a sua consci\u00eancia pesada.<\/p>\n He sees all of his wrongdoings and knows that he is responsible for the hell your relationship is in but he chooses to ignore that tiny voice in the back of his head that\u2019s telling him to take responsibility and instead, decides to put all the blame on you.<\/p>\n There is actually not much philosophy needed here; it is way easier to accuse someone else for your own misdeeds than to confront them and admit to yourself and to the rest of the world that you\u2019re the bad guy in the story.<\/p>\n \u00c9 mais f\u00e1cil manipular<\/span><\/a> a outra pessoa a acreditar que \u00e9 culpada do que enfrentar os seus padr\u00f5es de comportamento t\u00f3xicos e aceitar o facto de que tem uma perturba\u00e7\u00e3o de personalidade e que precisa de ajuda para a tratar.<\/p>\n A trait common to all narcissists out there is that they can\u2019t stand being surrounded by people who love and respect themselves.<\/p>\n Afinal de contas, como \u00e9 que ele joga<\/span><\/a> com a cabe\u00e7a se sabes o quanto \u00e9s digno?<\/p>\n Este homem est\u00e1 constantemente \u00e0 procura de admira\u00e7\u00e3o. Ele precisa de se sentir superior a si para obter a verifica\u00e7\u00e3o do seu pr\u00f3prio valor.<\/p>\n Por isso, um narcisista far\u00e1 sempre o poss\u00edvel para o fazer pensar menos em si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n If he manages to convince you that you keep making one mistake after another and that you\u2019re the one ruining your relationship, after a while, you\u2019ll start to think of yourself as good for nothing.<\/p>\n According to this guy, you\u2019re incapable of being a boa namorada<\/span><\/a>O que mais se pode esperar de si?<\/p>\n No other man would put up with you and your constant failures, so you\u2019re much better next to him\u2014the only guy who would ever agree to love you.<\/p>\n Colocar toda a culpa em si n\u00e3o passa de uma t\u00e9cnica de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o atrav\u00e9s da qual ele tenta desvaloriz\u00e1-la e impedi-la de ver o seu pr\u00f3prio valor.<\/p>\n Afinal, um narcisista s\u00f3 se sente bem consigo pr\u00f3prio quando o p\u00f5e em baixo e s\u00f3 quando est\u00e1 acima de si.<\/p>\n \u201cYou\u2019re too weak. You\u2019re overly emotional. You\u2019re exaggerating. It isn\u2019t that big of a deal.\u201d<\/p>\n Quantas vezes j\u00e1 ouviste estas frases dirigidas a ti pelo teu namorado?<\/p>\n Aposto que isso aconteceu mais vezes do que gostarias de admitir.<\/p>\n Even when this guy has the decency to admit that he did something he shouldn\u2019t have, he\u2019ll find a way to turn the tables and accuse you of provoking him and making him do it.<\/p>\n Parece-me familiar, certo?<\/p>\n Bem, ele est\u00e1 a fazer tudo isto como uma tentativa de minimizar os seus sentimentos e, eventualmente, de a fazer questionar a sua pr\u00f3pria sanidade mental.<\/p>\n After you spend some time under his influence, you\u2019ll start wondering whether you really are taking everything too personal.<\/p>\n Ele tem raz\u00e3o? Est\u00e1 a exagerar e a fazer uma confus\u00e3o por nada?<\/p>\n Estes e outros pensamentos semelhantes est\u00e3o a dar-lhe luz verde para continuar com o seu comportamento.<\/p>\n They give him the chance to keep on treating you badly and the best part is that you won\u2019t be saying a word about it anymore.<\/p>\n Every dating expert will advise you to tell your partner about what\u2019s bothering you, to point out the things you don\u2019t like in his behavior and if you two have healthy communication, you\u2019ll sort everything out in no time.<\/p>\n However, when you\u2019re dating a narcissist, this is utterly impossible.<\/p>\n Mesmo quando tentamos chamar a aten\u00e7\u00e3o deste homem para as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es, ele transforma a discuss\u00e3o num jogo de culpas e acaba por nos fazer esquecer a raz\u00e3o da discuss\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Not only that\u2014when he finds a way to accuse you of being guilty of whatever he did, somehow, you end up being the one who apologizes.<\/p>\n Em vez de resolverem o problema inicial, os dois acabam por discutir sobre quem \u00e9 o culpado.<\/p>\n Por isso, passado algum tempo, evita come\u00e7ar qualquer tipo de problema com ele porque sabe como tudo vai acabar.<\/p>\n You let him get away with his behavior because you know that if you open up the topic you want to resolve, you\u2019ll just end up trapped in an endless circle of trying to prove who is guilty instead of coming up with the solution to your problem.<\/p>\n![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/crying-stressed-woman-with-her-boyfriend-at-the-table.jpg\")
<\/p>\n2. A sua necessidade de ser perfeito<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Ele sabe que a culpa \u00e9 sua<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Ele justifica o seu comportamento t\u00f3xico<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Ele quer desvalorizar-te<\/h2>\n
![\"homens](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/angry-men-yelling-on-the-girl-in-the-house.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-blue-couch-and-thinking.jpg\")
<\/p>\n6. Ele tenta minimizar os seus sentimentos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n![\"jovem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-couple-sitting-on-the-couch-and-arguing.jpg\")
<\/p>\n7. Ele quer que esque\u00e7as a raz\u00e3o inicial de uma discuss\u00e3o<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-on-the-floor-thinking.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"jovem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-apologizing-to-her-boyfriend.jpg\")
<\/p>\n8. D\u00e1-lhe poder sobre ti<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n
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