{"id":5489,"date":"2019-09-21T09:00:05","date_gmt":"2019-09-21T09:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=5489"},"modified":"2022-02-27T12:29:06","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T12:29:06","slug":"nao-pergunte-ela-esta-bem-apenas-de-um-abraco","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-pergunte-ela-esta-bem-apenas-de-um-abraco\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00e3o perguntes se ela est\u00e1 bem, d\u00e1-lhe apenas um abra\u00e7o"},"content":{"rendered":"

N\u00e3o lhe perguntes o que se passa enquanto ela pestaneja um milh\u00e3o de vezes s\u00f3 para que as l\u00e1grimas desapare\u00e7am.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ask her why she\u2019s down and why her hands are shaking so much.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t you dare to ask her why she doesn\u2019t laugh as much as she did before or where those black circles around her eyes came from.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ask her why she doesn\u2019t bother putting on her eyeliner anymore or why she keeps wearing that one oversized hoodie all the time. Don\u2019t even think of asking her where she got it in the first place.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ask her why she bites her lower lip while she nervously glancing through the room full of people as if she\u2019s looking for something or somebody.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t you dare tell her she looks like a mess and then ask her what\u2019s wrong.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ask her why she\u2019s always alone, porque \u00e9 que ela deixou de deixar entrar pessoas<\/a>e como \u00e9 que ela evita toda a gente que amava antes.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ask why she\u2019s broken, don\u2019t ask why she prefers night over day, or if she can forget all those people who broke her.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ask her if she\u2019s fine<\/a>\u2014you know she\u2019ll lie.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you see she\u2019s about to cry, don\u2019t ask anything, it doesn\u2019t matter. Just abra\u00e7o<\/a> ela e cala-te.<\/p>\n

When you see she\u2019s nervous, she\u2019s shaking, and she\u2019s broken, pull her in your arms.<\/p>\n

When you know she hasn\u2019t laughed for a long time, make her smile, wrap your hands around her, and tell her something nice.<\/p>\n

When she looks like the biggest mess there is, don\u2019t ask questions\u2014tell her she looks perfect the way she is and hug her.<\/p>\n

When she glances through the room full of people, don\u2019t ask her who\u2019s she looking for\u2014hug whoever she\u2019s missing out of her body.<\/p>\n

When she insists on being alone, look her in the eye and tell her she\u2019s more than enough, tell her she\u2019s worthy, and she deserves to be loved. Tell her how she didn\u2019t deserve to be broken, but it doesn\u2019t matter that she is because you\u2019re there to glue her broken pieces back together.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ask stupid questions. Don\u2019t be one of those who don\u2019t know what to do. Don\u2019t try and say things that might make her feel worse.<\/p>\n

When you see a girl that hasn\u2019t been herself in a while, don\u2019t ask questions you already know the answer to. Instead, wrap your arms around her. Let her feel your warmth. Let your closeness exile her depression, her dark thoughts, her will to die.<\/p>\n

Make her feel alive again. Make her feel like she isn\u2019t alone. Faz com que ela se sinta segura.<\/a> Don\u2019t ask. Just hug her.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Don\u2019t ask her what\u2019s wrong while she blinks a million times just to make her tears go away. Don\u2019t ask her why she\u2019s down and why her hands are shaking so much. Don\u2019t you dare to ask her why she doesn\u2019t laugh as much as she did before or where those black circles around her…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":56,"featured_media":5490,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29639],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5489","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-women"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29639,"label":"understanding women"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/carly-rae-hobbins-333378.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Katie Burns","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/katie\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29639,"name":"understanding women","slug":"understanding-women","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29639,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Women are not that complicated once you learn to understand them, seduce them and treat them the way they deserve. Here you'll learn all that and much more.","parent":29638,"count":336,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29639,"category_count":336,"category_description":"Women are not that complicated once you learn to understand them, seduce them and treat them the way they deserve. Here you'll learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"understanding women","category_nicename":"understanding-women","category_parent":29638}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5489","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/56"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5489"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5489\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5490"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5489"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5489"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5489"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}