{"id":55111,"date":"2020-03-17T12:29:40","date_gmt":"2020-03-17T12:29:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55111"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:49:59","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:49:59","slug":"as-mulheres-magoadas-tem-dificuldade-em-estabelecer-relacoes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/as-mulheres-magoadas-tem-dificuldade-em-estabelecer-relacoes\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c9 por isso que as mulheres magoadas t\u00eam dificuldade em se relacionar com algu\u00e9m depois de sofrerem abusos"},"content":{"rendered":"

Se \u00e9s uma mulher que sofreu qualquer tipo de abuso, quero aplaudir-te pela tua coragem e por nunca desistires.<\/p>\n

Encarou o medo de frente, ultrapassou a dor e continuou a faz\u00ea-lo todos os dias da sua vida.<\/p>\n

When it happens once, it\u2019s never really over. You need to reinvent yourself.<\/p>\n

Descobre quem \u00e9s de novo e vive esse processo apenas com uma f\u00e9 cega e dando \u00e0 vida mais uma oportunidade.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re a silent heroine. And your superpower is that you\u2019re unbreakable<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

After everything you\u2019ve been through, you\u2019re standing strong, examining your pain and vulnerability, and turning them into strength and wisdom.<\/p>\n

Quero recordar-lhe que deve sempre dar tempo a si pr\u00f3prio e colocar-se como uma prioridade.<\/p>\n

With that in mind, here are some things explaining why it is so hard to make connections \u2013 let alone romantic connections \u2013 after abuse, that you might relate to.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not sure who you are anymore<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Ap\u00f3s o abuso, a v\u00edtima fica despojada do seu sentido de identidade.<\/p>\n

After manipulation, gaslighting, blackmailing, and conditioning, you\u2019re left with always second-guessing your thoughts and decisions.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not sure which part of you is real anymore.<\/p>\n

O seu agressor queria que se sentisse perdida, assustada e sozinha para a poder controlar.<\/p>\n

And now you\u2019re left in that mess, not knowing how to start improving your self-confidence.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re left thinking you\u2019re crazy. Everything you\u2019d said was always “overreacting” or “irrational.”<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

E depois revelou-se verdade, mas sempre depois de j\u00e1 acreditarmos que est\u00e1vamos a exagerar e a ser irracionais.<\/p>\n

Dear women, you\u2019re allowed to take life in your own hands and write your own story.<\/p>\n

Podes voltar a ser o que eras antes ou o que sempre quiseste ser.<\/p>\n

The great strength lies in every one of you. If that wasn\u2019t true, you wouldn\u2019t be reading this!<\/p>\n

Precisa de tempo para recuperar a confian\u00e7a<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Every lie is poison and there have been so many lies told to you. And some of them you\u2019ve even continued to say to yourself.<\/p>\n

After breaking an abuser\u2019s power over you, you might have realized you spent so much time (months, years, half of your life!) believing something that was never real.<\/p>\n

E isso afectou muito a sua capacidade de confiar, a sua sa\u00fade mental e o seu estado geral.<\/p>\n

You need time to start trusting people again and that\u2019s perfectly normal.<\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t force anything or pursue something you\u2019re not comfortable with. You can heal, you just need time.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re scared of being hurt again<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Ap\u00f3s o abuso, \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio redefinir os limites.<\/p>\n

With re-drawing boundaries \u2013 placing your own limits \u2013 you start seeing which people you want in your life and which people you\u2019re better off without.<\/p>\n

Aqueles que ultrapassam os limites n\u00e3o s\u00e3o necess\u00e1rios na sua vida.<\/p>\n

O que precisa \u00e9 de limites saud\u00e1veis, estabelecidos atrav\u00e9s de uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o significativa que demonstre compaix\u00e3o e compreens\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Qualquer coisa menos do que isso est\u00e1 a causar-lhe medo de ser magoado novamente.<\/p>\n

Precisa de tempo sozinho<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t connect, maybe it\u2019s not time to connect. Maybe you need to connect with yourself again.<\/p>\n

Talvez precise de reconhecer as suas pr\u00f3prias necessidades e assumi-las como sua responsabilidade.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Isso significa que pode estar sozinho, mas n\u00e3o solit\u00e1rio. Por vezes, tudo o que precisa \u00e9 de ser o seu melhor amigo.<\/p>\n

Deixe-se ser o que precisa de ser nesse momento.<\/p>\n

You can be angry, sad, overwhelmed. Let yourself feel everything and then forgive yourself for all the times you\u2019ve been hard on yourself.<\/p>\n

Release any shame, guilt, or thinking that everything that happened was somehow your fault. It wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t feel understood<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Nem toda a gente passou pelo que tu passaste. Algumas pessoas, felizmente, n\u00e3o fazem a m\u00ednima ideia.<\/p>\n

E isso, por vezes, faz-nos sentir que ningu\u00e9m nos compreende.<\/p>\n

Not many people are vocal about their abuse and it\u2019s not the first thing they will talk about.<\/p>\n

It could be the same case with you. It\u2019s not unusual to feel like you don\u2019t belong.<\/p>\n

Building new friendships and relationships means investing a lot of time, strength, will, and emotions. And it\u2019s hard if you\u2019re a survivor.<\/p>\n

A sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com o seu agressor \u00e9 complicada<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

As pessoas tendem a pensar que os agressores s\u00e3o pessoas que as v\u00edtimas podem eliminar de uma vez por todas.<\/p>\n

But what if he\u2019s the father of your child, your work college, your family member, or just a person you used to care about a lot?<\/p>\n

Feelings are not an on-and-off thing. We can\u2019t just stop loving someone in a day, even if it\u2019s an abuser.<\/p>\n

It is possible to love someone and realize that they aren\u2019t a safe person to be around.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s also possible to learn through painful experiences and love again.<\/p>\n

Lembra-te apenas que mereces estar sempre em seguran\u00e7a, ser respeitado e amado.<\/p>\n

\"\u00c9<\/p>\n

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If you\u2019re a woman who\u2019s suffered any type of abuse, I want to applaud you for your courage and never giving up. You looked fear in the face, pushed through the pain and you continued to do that every single day of your life. When it happens once, it\u2019s never really over. You need to…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":55119,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-55111","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/This-Is-Why-Hurt-Women-Have-A-Hard-Time-Connecting-With-Someone-After-Abuse.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55111","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=55111"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55111\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/55119"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=55111"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=55111"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=55111"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}