{"id":55256,"date":"2020-03-18T21:34:29","date_gmt":"2020-03-18T21:34:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55256"},"modified":"2021-11-03T15:18:22","modified_gmt":"2021-11-03T15:18:22","slug":"sinais-de-que-se-esta-numa-amizade-unilateral","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/sinais-de-que-se-esta-numa-amizade-unilateral\/","title":{"rendered":"12 sinais de que voc\u00ea est\u00e1 em uma amizade unilateral e como lidar com isso"},"content":{"rendered":"

Um bom amigo \u00e9 dif\u00edcil de encontrar e ainda mais dif\u00edcil de manter.<\/p>\n

And to be honest, I don’t know a single individual who hasn’t had a hard time with toxic friendships or amizades \u00e0 dist\u00e2ncia<\/a> e a pensar como lidar com elas.<\/p>\n

As amizades unilaterais s\u00e3o as piores, certo?<\/p>\n

You’re so sure that you’ve got a good friend by your side who knows how to make you feel good about yourself and the amount of time you spend together is truly a sign of a real friendship.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Quer dizer, quem \u00e9 que passa cinco dias por semana com o outro sem se aborrecer? S\u00f3 os melhores amigos podem fazer isto e continuar a ter saudades uns dos outros!<\/p>\n

But when difficult times arise and you don’t have as much time for a decent social life, you start seeing a lot of people for who they truly are.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As amizades desequilibradas come\u00e7am a tornar-se evidentes e os verdadeiros amigos tornam-se uma raridade.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you pay attention to the red flags you’d love to be able to ignore (but shouldn’t!) you see bad friends from good friends.<\/p>\n

You see who’s able to get together last-minute because they miss you and who starts having less and less time for a healthy friendship that you seek.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

As amizades s\u00e3o uma via de dois sentidos! \u00c9 suposto aumentarem a tua autoestima, ajudarem-te na tua jornada para o amor-pr\u00f3prio e estarem l\u00e1 para ti desde o liceu at\u00e9 ao teu \u00faltimo suspiro.<\/p>\n

But that’s easier said than done. Even people with whom we have forged the strongest bonds tend to disappear on us during our difficult times.<\/p>\n

As pessoas mais pr\u00f3ximas tendem a tornar-se meros estranhos, como se nunca tivessem partilhado as vossas vidas.<\/p>\n

Uma das coisas mais dolorosas do mundo \u00e9 ver algu\u00e9m que significava o mundo para n\u00f3s tornar-se frio ou indiferente.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Amigos falsos vs. amigos verdadeiros: 12 maneiras de identificar os falsos<\/a><\/p>\n

Sinais de uma amizade unilateral<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

As amizades unilaterais tornam-se normalmente assim devido a novos amigos com quem as pessoas come\u00e7am a passar mais tempo, a fim de encontrarem um amigo melhor do que tu.<\/p>\n

Publicar fotos nas redes sociais das suas novas aventuras com pessoas que acabaram de conhecer, deixando-o completamente para tr\u00e1s, torna-se a nova norma.<\/p>\n

As amizades unilaterais tendem a fazer-nos sentir sozinhos, sem sermos ouvidos, sem import\u00e2ncia e sem sermos amados.<\/p>\n

D\u00e3o cabo da nossa sa\u00fade mental e dificultam-nos a realiza\u00e7\u00e3o das tarefas mais simples.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 consegues pensar no que aconteceu. Para onde foi o seu bom amigo e como \u00e9 que as coisas se tornaram t\u00e3o complicadas?<\/p>\n

Are their new friends really there to replace the bond you’ve shared for so long or are there other factors playing a role?<\/p>\n

\"amigas<\/p>\n

Here, I’ll delve deeper into the intricacies of one-sided friendships and help you gain a better understanding of your issues in order to help you find a solution. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Perhaps your problem can be salvaged and the toxic friendship that has started messing with your mental health isn’t as one-sided as it seems.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Os verdadeiros amigos valem sempre a pena o inc\u00f3modo.<\/p>\n

Let’s find out if your unbalanced friendship has any characteristics of a one-sided friendship and if there’s a way to move forward to a healthier place with your once good friend.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 10 verdades sobre a raz\u00e3o pela qual as pessoas falam nas suas costas (e como lidar com isso)<\/a><\/p>\n

1. S\u00f3 telefonam quando lhes conv\u00e9m<\/h2>\n

\"amigas<\/p>\n

Um dos principais sinais de uma amizade unilateral \u00e9 quando o seu amigo s\u00f3 lhe telefona quando precisa de alguma coisa.<\/p>\n

Preste aten\u00e7\u00e3o a isto, pois dir-lhe-\u00e1 muito. As amizades t\u00f3xicas caracterizam-se pela falta de interesse e por s\u00f3 telefonarem quando precisam de um favor.<\/p>\n

Por vezes, em qualquer boa amizade, chega uma altura em que um amigo passa por um momento dif\u00edcil que se manifesta no facto de lhe telefonar e se apoiar em si com muito mais frequ\u00eancia do que o normal.<\/p>\n

And that’s a major difference from a one-sided friendship.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

When this is the norm and you never get called by them unless it’s for their own selfish purposes, you know you’re in a toxic friendship.<\/p>\n

A good friend makes sure to call and check in on you no matter what they’re going through.<\/p>\n

Recognize this toxic pattern and don’t let them give you a hard time if they never make an effort around you apart from when they have an agenda.<\/p>\n

2. They don’t respect your time<\/h2>\n

\"amigas<\/p>\n

Os bons amigos valorizam o seu tempo. Fazem quest\u00e3o de cumprir os seus planos e de aparecer a horas.<\/p>\n

When you have plans to get together, they don’t show up last minute or even worse, hours late, because they respect you as a person and know your time is valuable.<\/p>\n

Bad friends, on the other hand, don’t give a rat’s ass about your time.<\/p>\n

Aparecem sempre que querem e, se tivermos algum problema com o seu atraso, eles simplesmente ignoram-no.<\/p>\n

A sua vida social tornou-se um caos porque nunca pode contar com o seu amigo para aparecer a horas, se \u00e9 que aparece!<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

As amizades desequilibradas come\u00e7am exatamente assim.<\/p>\n

A complete disregard of one’s time, not caring to show up at a designated hour and making difficult times that much more difficult.<\/p>\n

They just don’t care that real friendships are a two-way street.<\/p>\n

Quando encontram um melhor amigo, passam menos tempo a preocupar-se consigo e mais tempo com o seu novo melhor amigo.<\/p>\n

3. Quase n\u00e3o te deixam falar<\/h2>\n

\"amigas<\/p>\n

Lately, you’ve been feeling muzzled around them. Whether in a group of friends or just the two of you, it’s always their turn to speak.<\/p>\n

Uma pessoa que costumava ser um bom amigo para si come\u00e7ou agora a fech\u00e1-lo em mais do que uma forma.<\/p>\n

You’re having a hard time getting your voice heard and you don’t really know how to deal with that.<\/p>\n

Do you let them know you’ve been feeling left out? Do you express your worries or do you silently hope for a better turn of events?<\/p>\n

I can’t speak about your particular situation but I do know a little bit about one-sided friendships and this issue.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When you’re being denied your voice and made feel unheard, you speak up and you fight for your place in your friendship. Never let toxic friendships win.<\/p>\n

Se essa pessoa quiser fazer com que te sintas indigno de ter uma opini\u00e3o, mostra-lhe o qu\u00e3o alto e orgulhoso podes ser.<\/p>\n

It can result in them realizing the error of their ways or in you realizing that they’ve never truly appreciated you. Either way, it’s a win for you.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Beleza interior: O que significa realmente e 7 maneiras de a alcan\u00e7ar<\/a><\/p>\n

4. They don’t listen to you either<\/h2>\n

\"amigos<\/p>\n

Um verdadeiro amigo \u00e9 um bom ouvinte. As verdadeiras amizades prosperam com uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o boa e honesta e com transpar\u00eancia.<\/p>\n

Mas numa amizade unilateral, um amigo nunca se d\u00e1 ao trabalho de ouvir.<\/p>\n

They pretend to hear what you’re saying but they’re really just waiting for their turn to talk.<\/p>\n

Even when you do get to speak (which is rare, as mentioned above) it’s as if you’re talking to a wall.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

There’s no rapport between you anymore. Even if they’ve always been a chatterbox and you not so much, that still doesn’t give them the right to be so cold.<\/p>\n

Um bom amigo far\u00e1 sempre com que se sinta ouvido e compreendido.<\/p>\n

When you’re having a hard time being heard by someone you used to consider one of your best friends, ask yourself what went wrong.<\/p>\n

Why are they icing you out like this? There’s no point sticking around with someone who keeps giving you the cold shoulder.<\/p>\n

5. They keep \u2018borrowing\u2019 your belongings<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Friends borrow things from each other, that’s a given. I’ve lent things to my best friends millions of times and vice versa.<\/p>\n

Mas numa amizade unilateral, raramente recebemos as nossas coisas de volta. E tamb\u00e9m nos sentimos um pouco mal por as pedirmos de volta.<\/p>\n

How many times has your friend borrowed something and then accidentally forgotten to give it back?  Pay attention to this as it’s a huge red flag.<\/p>\n

Sabes melhor do que ningu\u00e9m o que emprestas aos teus amigos e com que frequ\u00eancia eles te emprestam algo deles.<\/p>\n

It’s only fair that you get to borrow something from them if you keep letting them wear your stuff. But does it happen?<\/p>\n

Quando foi a \u00faltima vez que pediste algo emprestado a este amigo? Pensa nisso.<\/p>\n

It needs to go both ways or it’s nothing but a one-sided friendship where you keep getting used.<\/p>\n

6. They’re deeply ungrateful<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Real friends never take each other for granted! Being grateful in a friendship is a must and you should never feel like you’re being used or taken advantage of.<\/p>\n

But in a one-sided friendship, you never hear, ”Thank you.”<\/p>\n

Your efforts are never appreciated and it’s as if they keep expecting your kindness without ever reciprocating being appreciative.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t even have to be anything big but if you keep paying for drinks or if you’re always the one hosting your get-togethers, you never hear a word out of them.<\/p>\n

It is expected that you’ll be at their beck and call and anytime you suggest someone else take your place, they make you feel guilty about it, as if hosting them should be some kind of privilege.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It’s important to be thankful at all times. What would your family members say if they knew how you were being treated?<\/p>\n

Pense na sua m\u00e3e e em como ela ficaria desiludida se soubesse que deixa que as pessoas tomem a sua bondade como garantida.<\/p>\n

Ela criou-te para seres melhor do que isso, por isso p\u00e1ra de oferecer o teu melhor a algu\u00e9m que continua a mostrar-te o seu pior e fecha a porta \u00e0s amizades unilaterais de uma vez por todas.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Sente-se derrotado e perdido? Estas 10 coisas v\u00e3o ajud\u00e1-lo a lidar com isso<\/a><\/p>\n

7. If you don’t make plans, you don’t get invited anywhere<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

The sad truth is that if you think that you’d never get invited anywhere unless you took the initiative, you’re probably in a one-sided friendship.<\/p>\n

Os amigos que gostam de si e que gostam de passar tempo consigo fazem quest\u00e3o de o incluir nos seus planos.<\/p>\n

Nenhum amigo novo pode fazer com que se esque\u00e7am de si.<\/p>\n

If you love someone, you make an effort to be around them whenever it’s possible but in a toxic friendship, you’ll often feel like the black sheep of the group, as you never get invited unless you ask if there are plans to meet up.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

I know it’s really difficult admitting this to yourself (I’ve been there and I honestly know the pain of realizing this tough truth) but when a person keeps proving to you that you mean so little to them, believe them!<\/p>\n

You’re better off without them anyway.<\/p>\n

There are so many kind people in this world and you’re stuck on this toxic friend who keeps disregarding your feelings.<\/p>\n

Move away from them and open your eyes to a life without them. Soon, you’ll see how colorful life can be when you weed out a bad friend.<\/p>\n

8. They’re apathetic toward you<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Numa amizade desequilibrada, um amigo est\u00e1 a conduzir o volante enquanto o outro est\u00e1 muito menos interessado em manter-se na estrada.<\/p>\n

Basically, they just don’t care about you anymore. You’re the one keeping things going while they’re dragging you down.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, there’s not much to do other than accept this brutal reality.<\/p>\n

If you keep trying to salvage something that’s no longer there, you’re hurting yourself in the long run.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Conhe\u00e7o a dor de ser afastado de algu\u00e9m que se considerava o melhor amigo. Nunca consegui fechar o meu ciclo e nunca obtive respostas.<\/p>\n

Deixaram-me simplesmente sem uma palavra e tive de fazer as pazes depois de ter derramado tantas l\u00e1grimas.<\/p>\n

A vida segue em frente, os amigos merdosos quebram-nos e aprendemos a recompor-nos.<\/p>\n

It’s tough, it’s inexplicably sad but you pull through because that’s your only choice. Life will be okay at some point again. Not today but someday.<\/p>\n

9. Esperam demasiado de si<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

A sua cabe\u00e7a bondosa e a sua natureza altru\u00edsta levam-no muitas vezes a fazer coisas pelas pessoas sem esperar nada em troca.<\/p>\n

It’s simply in your nature to be there for your friends, be that emotionally, physically or even financially.<\/p>\n

As amizades unilaterais s\u00e3o um jogo completamente diferente.<\/p>\n

If there was ever an instance where you offered to cover the tab or pay for your friend’s dinner because they were tight in the money department, now, it’s become the norm.<\/p>\n

Quando o cheque chega, todos os olhos est\u00e3o postos em si.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

They are always in a worse situation than you, so it’s expected that you’ll keep paying. That’s called emotional manipulation.<\/p>\n

You’re made to feel obligated to keep doing things of this nature because they think you have it better than them.<\/p>\n

Mesmo que fosse esse o caso, isso \u00e9 errado a muitos n\u00edveis. N\u00e3o \u00e9s respons\u00e1vel pelo teu amigo.<\/p>\n

You do not have to keep being there for them in whichever capacity they need you to if you’re made to feel obliged to do it.<\/p>\n

That is not a friendship; it\u2019s a toxic environment where you’re being manipulated and used.<\/p>\n

Veja tamb\u00e9m: Manifestar uma pessoa espec\u00edfica usando a lei da atra\u00e7\u00e3o<\/p>\n

10. They’re flaky and undependable<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Nesta altura, n\u00e3o podes depender do teu amigo nem para as coisas mais pequenas.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o s\u00e3o de todo fi\u00e1veis e j\u00e1 vos abandonaram em muitas ocasi\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

J\u00e1 n\u00e3o se pode contar com a sua prontid\u00e3o e autenticidade.<\/p>\n

A principal qualidade de uma amizade equilibrada \u00e9 a consist\u00eancia. Dizer algo e saber que o seu amigo \u00e9 bom para isso.<\/p>\n

Promising to pick you up at the airport and knowing they’ll be there.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Walking your dog when they say they would and not forgetting to show up after your doctor’s appointment.<\/p>\n

When consistency stops being a factor, it is highly likely that you’re in an unbalanced friendship.<\/p>\n

Preste aten\u00e7\u00e3o a quem o abandona e a quem aparece mesmo nos momentos dif\u00edceis. Isso dir-lhe-\u00e1 mais do que as palavras alguma vez dir\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

One-sided friendships are difficult to deal with but the sooner you rip off the Band-Aid, the sooner it’ll stop hurting.<\/p>\n

11. You’re always the designated driver<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

This pertains to those with a driver’s license. With good friends, you’re never made to feel like you’re nothing but a chauffeur.<\/p>\n

Even if you’re one of the few in your group who can actually drive, they know better than to keep expecting you to drive them everywhere.<\/p>\n

But in one-sided friendships, you’re basically their own personal Uber.<\/p>\n

Be that a night out or a groceries run, they’ll always happily point out how lucky they are to have you to drive them.<\/p>\n

But they’ll never stop to see how selfish it is to keep expecting you to just stop your life and be their driver as if your time is not important.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Pior ainda \u00e9 quando nos obrigam a conduzir nas sa\u00eddas nocturnas; nunca conseguimos beber um \u00fanico copo enquanto eles continuam alegremente a beber at\u00e9 se fartarem.<\/p>\n

Don’t be anyone’s doormat! Just because you drive, it doesn’t mean you always have to!<\/p>\n

Os bons amigos encontrar\u00e3o uma forma de participares em aventuras de bebedeira sem seres o motorista s\u00f3brio designado.<\/p>\n

Os verdadeiros amigos preocupam-se mais em passar tempo consigo do que em ter os seus servi\u00e7os de condu\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

12. Fazem-nos sentir exaustos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 a parte mais triste.<\/p>\n

Por muito que queiras salvar essa amizade ou por muito pr\u00f3ximos que tenham sido, agora, depois de estares com eles, s\u00f3 sentes um profundo cansa\u00e7o.
\nThat’s what an unbalanced friendship does to a person.<\/p>\n

Estar com algu\u00e9m que est\u00e1 sempre a usar-nos, a aproveitar-se de n\u00f3s e a ser ego\u00edsta e antip\u00e1tico para connosco esgota-nos e destr\u00f3i a nossa sa\u00fade mental.<\/p>\n

After getting home, all you can think about is how peaceful and nice it is to be not surrounded by them and as horrible as it may sound, you’re kind of glad they’re no longer there, at least for the remainder of the day.<\/p>\n

My advice is listen to your gut. If someone makes you feel drained and used, they’re not your friend.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

They probably never were. It may have taken you a bit longer to see it but now you get to decide that it’s time to say your goodbyes.<\/p>\n

After discarding toxic, bad friends from your life, for a while, you’ll be feeling lost and a little bit broken.<\/p>\n

But one day, you’ll simply wake up with a brand new perspective that will help you turn over a new leaf.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Sexo com amigos? Os 10 maiores segredos que ningu\u00e9m lhe vai contar<\/a><\/p>\n

And Finally…<\/h3>\n

Come\u00e7amos a ver as coisas como elas realmente s\u00e3o e n\u00e3o como quer\u00edamos que fossem.<\/p>\n

Os maus amigos come\u00e7am a mostrar-se e apercebemo-nos de como s\u00e3o raros e inestim\u00e1veis os bons amigos.<\/p>\n

A pessoa tem uma nova perspetiva da vida e decide abandonar a sua amizade unilateral para bem da sua sa\u00fade mental.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

No more fake friends and wasted time. Unbalanced friendships are a toxic waste of time and yours is simply too valuable for anyone who doesn’t see the value of being around you.<\/p>\n

Knowing your worth is the key to finding people whose company will make you feel good about yourself. It isn’t selfish putting yourself first. <\/p>\n

It isn’t wrong to want to find a deep, genuine connection with somebody who will appreciate what you bring to the table.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Mereces ser amado pelo teu intelecto e pela tua bondade.<\/p>\n

Moving on is never easy but when you know it’s the right thing to do, you never look back.<\/p>\n

Decide deixar o mal no passado e concentrar-se no bem no seu presente.<\/p>\n

E, quando damos por isso, come\u00e7a a saber t\u00e3o bem depois de ter sido t\u00e3o mau durante demasiado tempo.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como viver em paz e harmonia com a ajuda destes 5 passos<\/a><\/p>\n

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