{"id":55359,"date":"2020-03-19T20:59:54","date_gmt":"2020-03-19T20:59:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55359"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:22:39","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:22:39","slug":"nao-se-pode-forcar-a-deixar-de-se-preocupar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-se-pode-forcar-a-deixar-de-se-preocupar\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00e3o podes for\u00e7ar-te a deixar de te preocupares, mas podes dizer a ti pr\u00f3prio que mereces melhor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Diz-se que as pessoas s\u00e1bias conhecem o segredo de uma vida feliz: s\u00e3o capazes de controlar as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t always blindly follow their heart\u2019s desires, nor do they listen to it when they know it\u2019s wrong.<\/p>\n

According to this, you\u2019re anything but wise.<\/p>\n

In fact, you\u2019re the world\u2019s biggest fool because you\u2019ve never managed to master the art of going against your feelings.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In fact, for as long as you can remember, you\u2019ve thought that love is the most important thing in the whole wide world.<\/p>\n

Considera-a como uma for\u00e7a omnipotente que est\u00e1 sempre em primeiro lugar, antes de tudo, incluindo a tua raz\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Para si, o orgulho e o ego n\u00e3o existem quando se trata de amor verdadeiro.<\/p>\n

Once you start caring for someone, you go all in, without considering the possible consequences of your actions and without wondering if you\u2019re doing the right thing.<\/p>\n

Quando se coloca numa balan\u00e7a o c\u00e9rebro e o cora\u00e7\u00e3o, este \u00faltimo ganha sempre, sem qualquer concorr\u00eancia.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That is something you simply can\u2019t change about yourself, as much as you try.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And God knows you\u2019ve given your best.<\/p>\n

As tuas emo\u00e7\u00f5es j\u00e1 te conduziram ao inferno mais do que uma vez e, basicamente, n\u00e3o te trouxeram nada de bom.<\/p>\n

Por isso, em primeiro lugar, esfor\u00e7ou-se por reprimi-los.<\/p>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

Tentou levantar a guarda, manter toda a gente a uma dist\u00e2ncia segura e desligar todos os seus sentimentos.<\/p>\n

Na verdade, estava convencido de que a \u00fanica maneira de proteger o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> from being broken again was to pretend that you don\u2019t have one.<\/p>\n

When that didn\u2019t work, you proceeded to accept your feelings, rationalize them and try to have the strength to overcome them.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, you\u2019ve never succeeded.<\/p>\n

Yes, you play the role of this tough girl who can\u2019t be moved but the truth is quite different.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve never succeeded in emotionally walking away from someone you love, even if it was something you should have done.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve never managed to give your brain the chance to take over the steering wheel of your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

However, I\u2019m not here to tell you that this is something you must do, in order to be happy.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not here to force you into making any moves you\u2019re clearly not ready for.<\/p>\n

In fact, I\u2019m here to tell you I get you.<\/p>\n

I completely understand that you can\u2019t work against yourself, as much as you want to.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yes, you\u2019re a mulher forte<\/b><\/a> que consegue vencer qualquer obst\u00e1culo que apare\u00e7a no seu caminho.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No entanto, quando tentamos lutar com o nosso pr\u00f3prio cora\u00e7\u00e3o, acabamos sempre por perder.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

So no, don\u2019t force yourself to stop caring because that is impossible and your efforts will be in vain.<\/p>\n

Work on kicking this man who doesn\u2019t deserve you out of your heart, but don\u2019t expect him to be wiped out of it overnight.<\/p>\n

You see, there is no way that you\u2019ll stop loving him the moment you order yourself to do so.<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t forget all about him the moment you decide to close this chapter of your life.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should accept your fate.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that you should start thinking that you deserve this kind of treatment and that you should spend the rest of your life settling for less just because you\u2019re afraid to make some changes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Instead, tell yourself that you\u2019re entitled to much better.<\/p>\n

Be realistic about the situation you\u2019re in and face the truth: that you\u2019re currently too weak to deixar de se preocupar<\/b><\/a> sobre este homem, mas que n\u00e3o \u00e9 assim que quer que a sua vida seja no futuro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Be honest enough to admit that he doesn\u2019t treat you right, that he doesn\u2019t give you what you need and ultimately, that he doesn\u2019t love you the way he should and the way you love him.<\/p>\n

Stop deceiving yourself by thinking that this is the furthest you can go and that he is the best man who\u2019ll ever lay his eyes on you.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Deixe de aceitar esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica como uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o permanente e veja-a como algo tempor\u00e1rio, que durar\u00e1 at\u00e9 se tornar um pouco mais forte.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Most importantly – stop devaluing yourself by thinking that you can\u2019t do any better.<\/p>\n

Because you can – and that better will come along when you least expect it.<\/p>\n

\"N\u00e3o<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

They say that wise people know the secret to a happy life: they are able to control their emotions. They don\u2019t always blindly follow their heart\u2019s desires, nor do they listen to it when they know it\u2019s wrong. According to this, you\u2019re anything but wise. In fact, you\u2019re the world\u2019s biggest fool because you\u2019ve never…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":55446,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29644],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-55359","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29644,"label":"self-love"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/you-cant-force-yourself-to-stop-caring-but-you-can-tell-yourself-that-you-deserve-better.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29644,"name":"self-love","slug":"self-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29644,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","parent":29643,"count":290,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29644,"category_count":290,"category_description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","cat_name":"self-love","category_nicename":"self-love","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55359","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=55359"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55359\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/55446"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=55359"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=55359"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=55359"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}