{"id":55366,"date":"2020-03-19T19:57:58","date_gmt":"2020-03-19T19:57:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55366"},"modified":"2022-03-24T01:58:38","modified_gmt":"2022-03-24T01:58:38","slug":"o-meu-namorado-traiu-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-meu-namorado-traiu-me\/","title":{"rendered":"O meu namorado traiu-me: 21 coisas que deves e n\u00e3o deves fazer"},"content":{"rendered":"

O meu namorado traiu-me, o que devo fazer?<\/p>\n

Se esta frase ou uma semelhante j\u00e1 lhe passou pela cabe\u00e7a, sabe como esta experi\u00eancia \u00e9 devastadora e desoladora.<\/p>\n

When you first find out that someone you could have sworn would do you no harm went behind your back and deliberately wounded you emotionally, you feel lost and don\u2019t know what to do.<\/p>\n

Tudo o que voc\u00eas tinham era uma grande e gorda mentira? Ele alguma vez te amou?<\/p>\n

O seu namorado traidor<\/a> alguma vez pensou em si enquanto o fazia? Porque \u00e9 que ele o fez em primeiro lugar?<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Estas e muitas outras perguntas est\u00e3o a passar-lhe pela cabe\u00e7a e n\u00e3o tem respostas.<\/p>\n

In this state of shock, it is expected of you to make some moves that don\u2019t look like you. You don’t know what the right thing to do is and you need guidance. Well, that\u2019s why we\u2019re here.<\/p>\n

I wish that not a single woman has to read this but if you\u2019re in a similar situation and if your boyfriend cheated on you, we\u2019ll help you play your cards right and make the best of it all.<\/p>\n

Here are some things you should do and the things you shouldn\u2019t do when you\u2019re the victim of his infidelity.<\/p>\n

11 Things You Should And Shouldn’t Do When Ele faz batota<\/a> Sobre ti<\/h2>\n

1. Ter certezas sobre o assunto<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Before finding ways to deal with your partner\u2019s infidelity, firstly, you have to be sure that it really happened.<\/p>\n

Uma coisa \u00e9 o facto de ele ter confessado que a traiu, porque, nesse caso, tudo \u00e9 mais do que claro e sabe qual \u00e9 a sua posi\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

However, if these are your doubts only based on your gut feeling and if the sentence \u2018I think my boyfriend cheated on me\u2019 has gone through your mind, it is time to do some more investigating.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not advising you to go all crazy and dig up all the details from his other relationships just to break your heart even more.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I\u2019m telling you to get all the intel you can so you have all the proof you need in case your cheating boyfriend starts denying it or presenting it as much different than it actually is.<\/p>\n

Por exemplo, se encontrou algumas mensagens de texto incriminat\u00f3rias ou actividades suspeitas nos perfis das redes sociais dele, guarde as provas para mais tarde ou continue a espi\u00e1-lo at\u00e9 chegar ao fundo dessas mensagens de texto e ver se h\u00e1 algo mais escondido por detr\u00e1s disso.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso saber se ele tinha uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e9ria paralela ou se se tratava de um caso isolado.<\/p>\n

Era algu\u00e9m que ele estava mensagens de texto<\/a> durante algum tempo ou o caso foi f\u00edsico?<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Sim, a trai\u00e7\u00e3o n\u00e3o tem desculpa e \u00e9 uma das piores coisas que se pode fazer \u00e0 pessoa amada, mas h\u00e1 uma diferen\u00e7a entre o facto de ele ter tido um caso que durou algum tempo e que estava conscientemente a esconder enquanto vivia uma vida dupla e o facto de ter sido apenas um momento de fraqueza enquanto estava b\u00eabado, o que arrependeu-se logo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You see, it would be much easier for you to believe that this was just your imagination and that your boyfriend didn\u2019t cheat on you at all.<\/p>\n

Assim, se ele come\u00e7ar a mentir ou a acus\u00e1-la de exagerar, o seu subconsciente f\u00e1-la-\u00e1 confiar nele, simplesmente porque quer apagar este epis\u00f3dio e continuar com a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

However, if you present him with the evidence of his infidelity, he won\u2019t have any choice but to confess everything.<\/p>\n

2. Aceitar<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Sadly, the worst thing many women do after they realize they\u2019ve been cheated on is pretend it didn\u2019t happen and avoid entering the realm of recupera\u00e7\u00e3o de casos<\/a>. <\/p>\n

Bem, se queres fazer tudo bem, tens de escapar a este padr\u00e3o t\u00f3xico de comportamento e aceitar a dura verdade.<\/p>\n

There is no point in trying to dig into this as deeply as possible, no point in repressing your emotions, pretending that you\u2019re not hurt or heartbroken or acting like the entire affair didn\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n

Sim, \u00e9 provavelmente mais f\u00e1cil para si lidar com a situa\u00e7\u00e3o desta forma agora, mas a longo prazo, esta abordagem ir\u00e1 trazer-lhe muitos mais problemas do que pensa.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let your boyfriend\u2019s moves define you and remember that you are and will always be much more than a girl who got cheated on.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, you need to embrace it because it is the truth you can\u2019t run away from and which won\u2019t magically disappear if you choose to ignore it.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t expect to move on or to heal unless you face reality first.<\/p>\n

Quer queiramos quer n\u00e3o, temos de ter a for\u00e7a para o aceitar e encontrar a melhor forma de lidar com ele.<\/p>\n

3. Confront\u00e1-lo<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t give your boyfriend the silent treatment or go all passivo-agressivo<\/a> on him, expecting he\u2019ll realize you know about his infidelity.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t waste your time and lose more of your patience by waiting for him to bring the subject up because that won\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n

This man has been able to keep a secret from you and go behind you back, so he certainly won\u2019t start the topic by himself.<\/p>\n

Instead, he\u2019ll pretend to be innocent for as long as possible.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

That is why you\u2019ll be the one to put a stop to this agony and start this conversation.<\/p>\n

Fale-lhe das suas d\u00favidas e espere pela sua rea\u00e7\u00e3o e resposta.<\/p>\n

Se o seu namorado tentar negar o caso e come\u00e7ar a convenc\u00ea-la de que foi completamente insignificante, ataque-o com todas as provas que tiver.<\/p>\n

Show him that you\u2019re not a fool he can keep on playing with!<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t take it personally<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

After you get cheated on, you think that you\u2019re the only one who didn\u2019t see what was happening right in front of your eyes.<\/p>\n

You analyze your relationship and can\u2019t help but wonder where things went wrong and how it was possible for the two of you to get to this stage.<\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m here to beg you to put an effort into not taking it so personally. First of all, trust me\u2014you\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, cheating happens all the time and there are many more women around you who have been through something similar; you just don\u2019t know it since they chose to stay quiet about it.<\/p>\n

Em segundo lugar, o seu namorado \u00e9 um traidor e isso n\u00e3o tem nada a ver consigo.<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

A natureza traidora dele n\u00e3o tem qualquer correla\u00e7\u00e3o com a sua apar\u00eancia, personalidade ou com a forma como o tratou; \u00e9 um problema que ele tem e algo que tem de corrigir em si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

I know you\u2019ll probably start replaying your entire relationship back and forth in your mind. Were you not enough?<\/p>\n

Podias ter sido mais bonita, mais inteligente, mais interessante? Devia ter reparado mais cedo que algo se estava a passar?<\/p>\n

He probably cheated on his exes and it is very likely that he\u2019ll continue with his behavior patterns regardless of whether he remains next to you or moves on to his next victim.<\/p>\n

And there is absolutely nothing you can do about it; you couldn\u2019t have prevented it and nor could you have predicted it.<\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t let him put the blame on you<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Quando as pessoas traem, normalmente puxam o seu parceiro para o jogo da culpa<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Em vez de assumirem toda a responsabilidade pelos seus actos horr\u00edveis, alguns homens tentam inverter a situa\u00e7\u00e3o e fazer com que se sinta culpada por ter sido tra\u00edda.<\/p>\n

Parece rid\u00edculo, eu sei.<\/p>\n

However, when your low self-esteem kicks in and when you feel humiliated and betrayed, it is way easier for you to be manipulated into believing that you\u2019re guilty as well.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow him to tell you that he did all of this because you weren\u2019t giving him enough attention, because you refused to experiment under the sheets, because you don\u2019t look the way you did at the beginning of your relationship, because you stopped giving him butterflies, because your relationship had fallen into a rut or something like that.<\/p>\n

\"namorada<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t believe his empty excuses because there is absolutely no justification for what he did.<\/p>\n

After all, if he wasn\u2019t content with your committed relationship or if you weren\u2019t making him happy anymore, he should have tried talking things through and put an effort into rebuilding and reviving your romance.<\/p>\n

Depois, se nada resultasse, tinha sempre a op\u00e7\u00e3o de se ir embora como um cavalheiro.<\/p>\n

No entanto, ele escolheu a pior de todas as op\u00e7\u00f5es; escolheu tra\u00ed-la e apunhal\u00e1-la pelas costas, sem pensar duas vezes e sem se preocupar com as consequ\u00eancias que o seu caso poderia ter para si.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Please remember\u2014you\u2019re the victim here and the victim is never guilty.<\/p>\n

Se ele teve a coragem de fazer batota, fa\u00e7am-no ser homem suficiente e assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos como um adulto.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014by accusing you for his misdeeds and engaging in these blame games, he is just trying to make things easier for himself.<\/p>\n

Ele est\u00e1 apenas a tentar limpar a sua consci\u00eancia e privar-se da culpa.<\/p>\n

And you shouldn\u2019t allow him to do that at any cost.<\/p>\n

6. \u2026but don\u2019t blame the other girl either<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

\u00c0 primeira vista, \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que comece a amaldi\u00e7oar o dia em que nasceu a rapariga com quem o seu namorado a traiu.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll aim all of your disappointment and hate toward her. This man loved you and respected you until she came along, right?<\/p>\n

She must have seduced him into cheating and manipulated him into believing she\u2019d give him what you couldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

E estes pensamentos n\u00e3o s\u00e3o invulgares.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, \u00e9 muito mais f\u00e1cil culpar uma rapariga qualquer de quem n\u00e3o se sabe nada do que perceber que passou anos ao lado de algu\u00e9m que lhe faria uma coisa dessas.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It is easier to come up with different scenarios in which she\u2019s the bad guy, while he is a naive boy who did everything by accident and didn\u2019t know better.<\/p>\n

Mais f\u00e1cil, mas n\u00e3o \u00e9 verdade.<\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m espera que se torne o melhor amigo desta mulher ou que sinta pena dela, mas alguma vez lhe passou pela cabe\u00e7a que ela tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 a sua v\u00edtima?<\/p>\n

That she didn\u2019t even know you existed? Or maybe she did but he kept lying to her?<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest\u2014your boyfriend probably didn\u2019t tell her that ele ama-te<\/a> very much and that he doesn\u2019t plan on leaving you.<\/p>\n

Even though being the third wheel to someone\u2019s serious relationship is not something anyone should be proud of, have in mind that she is not guilty of ruining your relationship.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Se o teu homem \u00e9 um batoteiro<\/a>Se ele a trair, se n\u00e3o for com ela, ser\u00e1 com outra pessoa.<\/p>\n

After all, she is not the one who made any commitment toward you. She didn\u2019t make any promises and nor did she break any vows.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o era ela que lhe devia fidelidade e n\u00e3o era ela que tinha o dever de respeitar o seu amor e os sacrif\u00edcios que fez.<\/p>\n

She is not the one who should have thought of you\u2014he is.<\/p>\n

7. Falar com ele honestamente<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Sim, este homem causou-lhe muito mal. Partiu-te o cora\u00e7\u00e3o e traiu a tua confian\u00e7a da pior maneira poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not justifying his actions at all but this event doesn\u2019t nullify your entire rela\u00e7\u00e3o de compromisso<\/a> e tudo o que partilharam, tiveram e passaram antes de a infidelidade acontecer.<\/p>\n

Este continua a ser o homem com quem tem uma hist\u00f3ria e algu\u00e9m que considerava o seu melhor amigo e alma g\u00e9mea at\u00e9 h\u00e1 pouco tempo.<\/p>\n

Por isso, ambos merecem ter uma conversa honesta sobre tudo o que aconteceu.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t spare him anything, tell him exactly how you feel and face him with the consequences of his actions.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to put a brave mask on and pretend that you\u2019re completely unharmed because that couldn\u2019t be further from the truth.<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t see yourself as a victim either (even though you are his victim) and don\u2019t feel sorry for yourself.<\/p>\n

Falem com sinceridade sobre tudo o que aconteceu, sobre todas as coisas que vos levaram a este terr\u00edvel acontecimento.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014talk about your plans for the future and be honest about whether it is possible to rebuild your relationship or not.<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que ele quer? Est\u00e1 a implorar-lhe que o aceite de volta ou quer acabar com tudo?<\/p>\n

8. Dar a si pr\u00f3prio tempo para fazer o luto<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

What you\u2019ve been through is not the end of the world or the end of your life. However, it is not easy either.<\/p>\n

A constata\u00e7\u00e3o de que o seu ente querido foi infiel \u00e9 devastadora para todas as mulheres.<\/p>\n

So, please don\u2019t feel the need for some heroic acts and don\u2019t pretend like everything is in perfect order.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, d\u00ea-se tempo para lamentar<\/a>. Chorem e gritem se sentirem necessidade.<\/p>\n

Se poss\u00edvel, tire alguns dias de f\u00e9rias e cancele todas as suas obriga\u00e7\u00f5es para poder ter algum tempo para si.<\/p>\n

Processa tudo o que aconteceu antes de estares pronto para voltar ao mundo.<\/p>\n

9. Faz o teu melhor para o perdoar<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

After the initial shock has passed and after you accept the fact that your boyfriend cheated on you, the first emotion you\u2019ll probably have is hate.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll feel repulsed by this man and you\u2019ll curse the day he was born.<\/p>\n

Please, don\u2019t feel bad about it since it is completely normal and a phase all of us have gone through.<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t let these negative emotions get the best of you and overwhelm your entire being either.<\/p>\n

You see, hatred and resentment won\u2019t do any damage to the guy who cheated you.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t feel it and nor will it make him regret his decision, if he hasn\u2019t already.<\/p>\n

Por outro lado, vai comer-te vivo e vai partir-te ainda mais o cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Mudar\u00e1 a ess\u00eancia da pessoa que era e transform\u00e1-la-\u00e1 numa mulher amarga, negativa e sem qualquer amor.<\/p>\n

Por isso, por favor, encontre a for\u00e7a em si mesmo para eventualmente perdoar<\/a> o teu namorado traidor.<\/p>\n

Of course, your forgiveness is a process that takes time, otherwise it wouldn\u2019t be honest.<\/p>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

What is important is for you to try as hard as you can, even if he doesn\u2019t ask you to.<\/p>\n

Remember\u2014you\u2019re not doing it for his sake, you\u2019re doing it to liberate yourself of all the toxic waste he left behind.<\/p>\n

Naturally, forgiving your boyfriend doesn\u2019t have anything to do with whether you\u2019ll take him back or not.<\/p>\n

By accepting his apology (even if you didn\u2019t get one), you\u2019re letting go of everything bad that has happened, you\u2019re getting rid of the emotional baggage this affair put on your shoulders and you\u2019re minimalizing the possibility of carrying some past traumas into your future.<\/p>\n

10. Don\u2019t wait for closure<\/h2>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

Como mulher tra\u00edda, \u00e9 perfeitamente natural que exija uma explica\u00e7\u00e3o do seu traidor.<\/p>\n

You want to know all the details of his affair and most importantly\u2014you want to know why he did all of this.<\/p>\n

Well, I have to disappoint you and tell you that it is unlikely that you\u2019ll ever get the answers you crave.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o importa o que este tipo te diga, a sua explica\u00e7\u00e3o nunca te satisfar\u00e1 o suficiente.<\/p>\n

Por outro lado, h\u00e1 tamb\u00e9m a possibilidade de ele transformar toda esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o numa luta, s\u00f3 para evitar falar sobre o assunto.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

De qualquer forma, \u00e9 preciso parar de esperar pelo encerramento<\/a> e \u00e9 preciso seguir em frente com ou sem ele.<\/p>\n

Even if you don\u2019t get an apology, if you never find out exactly what happened, if he doesn\u2019t show signs of remorse, none of it is your concern.<\/p>\n

A sua \u00fanica obriga\u00e7\u00e3o neste momento \u00e9 ultrapassar tudo isto de uma forma saud\u00e1vel e sair desta situa\u00e7\u00e3o com o m\u00ednimo de consequ\u00eancias poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

After all, there is no valid explanation for cheating. He is an asshole who couldn\u2019t keep it in his pants\u2014simple as that.<\/p>\n

11. Demora o tempo necess\u00e1rio para tomar uma decis\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It is crucial for you to have one significant thing in mind\u2014this is your life and you\u2019re the only one who has the right to make decisions regarding it.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, you\u2019re the one who will suffer the consequences of your choices and the one who has to live with them.<\/p>\n

So when you decide whether you\u2019ll recuperar o seu namorado traidor<\/a> or not, don\u2019t listen to anyone.<\/p>\n

Sim, os seus entes queridos s\u00f3 lhe desejam o melhor, mas n\u00e3o est\u00e3o na sua pele e n\u00e3o t\u00eam nada a dizer sobre isso.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Uma coisa \u00e9 decidir voltar a estar com este homem ou n\u00e3o, mas \u00e9 completamente diferente fazer tudo isto por causa de outras pessoas.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014dumping a cheater is never a wrong choice.<\/p>\n

Homens como ele raramente mudam e \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que repitam o erro, mesmo que consiga ultrapassar o que ele fez desta vez.<\/p>\n

No entanto, se acha que ele merece uma segunda oportunidade, ningu\u00e9m a julgar\u00e1 por isso.<\/p>\n

Just be aware you\u2019ll both have to invest a lot of time and energy before your relationship starts functioning all over again.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Deixar de amar depois da infidelidade: 12 maneiras f\u00e1ceis de o fazer<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

5 coisas a fazer se decidir aceit\u00e1-lo de volta<\/h2>\n

For some people, their partner’s infidelity is not a deal breaker and they want to give their relationship another shot.<\/p>\n

If you’re one of these people, here are the steps you should follow.<\/p>\n

1. Don\u2019t expect your relationship to ever be the same\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

As much as you try doing so, be aware that you can\u2019t magically erase the affair which happened.<\/p>\n

A \u00fanica coisa que pode fazer \u00e9 juntar-se a si e ao seu parceiro, apanhar os cacos e tentar col\u00e1-los de novo.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, don\u2019t expect things to be the way they were.<\/p>\n

Just because you forgave him, it doesn\u2019t mean that everything is back in order and that you’ll manage to have uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a> durante a noite.<\/p>\n

In fact, you\u2019re up for many more fights, grudges and arguments.<\/p>\n

No entanto, a pior coisa que pode fazer \u00e9 manter todas as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es engarrafadas e fingir que nada aconteceu.<\/p>\n

Por isso, sim, a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o ser\u00e1 diferente em muitos aspectos.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

After all, something clearly wasn\u2019t right about how it worked before, otherwise the affair wouldn\u2019t have happened, so don\u2019t see this change as something necessarily bad.<\/p>\n

However, it is completely up to you whether you\u2019ll be able to make the best out of this painful situation or you\u2019ll make things even worse and break your relationship to the point of no repair.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014very few couples succeed in doing this.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o s\u00e3o muitos os que v\u00eaem este facto como um aviso final de que algo n\u00e3o est\u00e1 bem e o encaram como um ponto de viragem na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

No entanto, todos os casais s\u00e3o diferentes e ningu\u00e9m pode dizer o que vai acontecer entre si e o seu namorado.<\/p>\n

You can just hope for the best, since you\u2019ve already chosen to take things in this direction.<\/p>\n

2. \u2026 but don\u2019t bring up the cheating constantly<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Nobody expects you to ever forget what you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, you can\u2019t order your heart to heal until it\u2019s fully ready so don\u2019t even try doing so.<\/p>\n

No entanto, h\u00e1 uma diferen\u00e7a entre esquecer e perdoar<\/a>. E tu escolheste a segunda op\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Be honest about yourself\u2014are you really ready to forgive your boyfriend for cheating on you?<\/p>\n

Ainda o amas verdadeiramente, apesar de ele ter feito esta coisa horr\u00edvel?<\/p>\n

Do you believe that your story deserves another sequel? Are you certain that you\u2019re not doing this just to heal your ego?<\/p>\n

If the answers to most of these questions are negative, then it\u2019s time to let go of every thought of reconciliation and tell this man your final goodbye.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It is pointless to try and rebuild something if you\u2019re sure that you\u2019ll never be able to fully forgive him and if you don\u2019t hope you\u2019ll manage to work things out..<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you think that you have the capacity to leave his affair in the past, you\u2019ll make no progress if you continue bringing it up every time you have the chance to.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t use it as an excuse for your toxic behavior and don\u2019t see it as permission to be a bitch to your boyfriend.<\/p>\n

Remember\u2014he didn\u2019t force you to let him back into your life, it was your choice.<\/p>\n

3. Apoiar a sua decis\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/h2>\n

E \u00e9 uma escolha que deve ser apoiada a todo o custo.<\/p>\n

Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should forgive him for another affair but changing your mind every few days is not acceptable and nor is it healthy for either of you.<\/p>\n

So, please don\u2019t listen to people telling you that you should have done things differently. Don\u2019t second-guess your decision, now that you\u2019ve already made it, and don\u2019t think of all the what-ifs.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re a mature, grown woman who has the right to make her own choices so please don\u2019t compare yourself with other girls either.<\/p>\n

Lembrem-se que cada casal \u00e9 uma hist\u00f3ria em si mesmo e tenham f\u00e9 que fizeram o que estava destinado para voc\u00eas.<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t seek revenge<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I\u2019m warning you\u2014one of the first impulses you\u2019ll have when you find out you\u2019ve been cheated on is to make your boyfriend pay for his affair.<\/p>\n

Mesmo quando decide perdoar-lhe, a ideia de vingan\u00e7a<\/a> pode ocasionalmente voltar \u00e0 sua mente.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t feel bad about these thoughts because it is completely natural for you to have them.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 \u00e0 procura de mecanismos de defesa e de formas de curar o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido e o seu ego.<\/p>\n

Por isso, presume que dar a este tipo o gosto do seu pr\u00f3prio rem\u00e9dio seria o ideal.<\/p>\n

Desta forma, os dois sentir\u00e3o o mesmo e estar\u00e3o em posi\u00e7\u00f5es semelhantes. Al\u00e9m disso, acha que isso o ajudar\u00e1 a recuperar a sua dignidade.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

You pay him back and he will get what he deserves for the humiliation he\u2019s put you through. Well, let me tell you that none of this is true.<\/p>\n

Even though I\u2019m not some kind of pacifist, trust me that seeking revenge will get you nowhere and that it is one of the worst things you could do to your relationship, which you decided you wanted to try and recover.<\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar, nunca se sabe quais foram as raz\u00f5es que levaram o seu namorado a agir nas suas costas.<\/p>\n

Estaria ele realmente apaixonado por essa outra mulher durante algum tempo?<\/p>\n

Even if he wasn\u2019t, the fact is that she attracted him enough to forget about his loyalty and commitment.<\/p>\n

So, no matter what you do to pay him back, you\u2019ll always have these doubts.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

On the other hand, he\u2019ll forever be aware that you didn\u2019t cheat because you wanted to\u2014you only did it to hurt him. Knowing that, your affairs will never have the same echoes in your relationship.<\/p>\n

Another argument against revenge is the fact that by doing this, you\u2019ll be the same as your boyfriend.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll have succeeded in pulling you down to his level and you\u2019ll get the label of a cheater as well, when you both know that you\u2019re not one in the essence of your being.<\/p>\n

Also, it is completely unnecessary to pull yet another person into your drama. You might break some other guy\u2019s heart in the process and you of all people know how painful that is.<\/p>\n

5. Pedir ajuda<\/h2>\n

\"duas<\/p>\n

O processo de recupera\u00e7\u00e3o de uma trai\u00e7\u00e3o nunca \u00e9 f\u00e1cil ou de curta dura\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

After some time of attempting to make things right, many couples realize that, in spite of all of their desires, they aren\u2019t capable of doing it by themselves.<\/p>\n

E isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 motivo de vergonha.<\/p>\n

De facto, procurar ajuda profissional \u00e9 exatamente o que voc\u00ea e a sua cara-metade devem fazer se quiserem ultrapassar esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o da forma mais saud\u00e1vel poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

5 coisas a fazer se optar por seguir em frente sozinho<\/h2>\n

On the other hand, if you see this cheating as a serious deal breaker you can’t surpass (after all, the two of you weren’t in an open relationship) and you decide to romper<\/a> com este tipo para sempre, h\u00e1 algumas coisas de que te deves lembrar:<\/p>\n

1. Don\u2019t rush your healing<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

A primeira coisa que tem de fazer se decidir seguir em frente sozinho \u00e9 tomar o m\u00e1ximo de tempo necess\u00e1rio para se curar corretamente<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve had a massive emotional blow and it is completely natural that you can\u2019t get it off your shoulders in a matter of days.<\/p>\n

So please, don\u2019t pretend like if you\u2019re okay when you\u2019re not. Don\u2019t feel embarrassed about your sadness and embrace it as a natural part of your healing process.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014ignore everyone who is telling you that you should have gotten over this by now.<\/p>\n

Yes, they\u2019re right\u2014your ex isn\u2019t worthy of your tears but if you feel like crying, it is always better to get it out of your system than to pile it up inside of you.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Of course, you shouldn\u2019t let your grief get the best of you but you shouldn\u2019t rush yourself into doing something you\u2019re not ready for just to meet other people\u2019s expectations.<\/p>\n

You loved this guy for a very long time and it will take you a while to forget what he\u2019s done to you.<\/p>\n

The point here is that you\u2019re not only trying to fix your heartbreak, you\u2019re also dealing with your crushed ego, low autoestima<\/a>As inseguran\u00e7as e as d\u00favidas em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 sua autoestima que surgiram com esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

So, healing under these circumstances is even harder than recovering from a \u2018standard\u2019 breakup. However, it can be done and I promise that you will do it!<\/p>\n

2. Don\u2019t jump into new relationships<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Um dos maiores erros que se pode cometer \u00e9 saltar imediatamente para os bra\u00e7os do primeiro homem que se cruza no seu caminho.<\/p>\n

Going from one rebound relationship to the next won\u2019t make you forget your past\u2014it will only be toxic for your present and future.<\/p>\n

Your best friends and family may keep telling you that it\u2019s best to fight fire with fire but trust me, in your case, this is not the way to go.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Besides involving some new boyfriend in your drama, this relationship will make you feel more miserable and it certainly won\u2019t help you leave your traumas behind.<\/p>\n

You see, moving on isn\u2019t just about finding a new boyfriend. It\u2019s about finding yourself again before you\u2019re ready for a nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not saying that you should remain single forever.<\/p>\n

Just don\u2019t do anything you don\u2019t truly want to do and don\u2019t put yourself back in the dating pool until you resolve all of your issues.<\/p>\n

3. Take it as a lesson\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Em vez de lamentar o seu passado e de o ver como a pior coisa que lhe poderia ter acontecido, tente aprender com ele.<\/p>\n

I know it sounds like a clich\u00e9 but trust me when I tell you that you ought to be grateful for the way things turned out.<\/p>\n

After all, you got rid of a man who clearly didn\u2019t love you enough, otherwise he wouldn\u2019t have enganou-o<\/a>.<\/p>\n

As much as you might refuse to admit this, you two weren\u2019t meant to be and this is actually God\u2019s way of saving you from more misery that would come in the future, if you had stuck by his side.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, esta foi uma oportunidade para compreenderes o qu\u00e3o forte e poderoso \u00e9s. Uma oportunidade de conhecer o seu verdadeiro eu e de ver todas as suas capacidades.<\/p>\n

Estes acontecimentos ensinaram-lhe que nem toda a gente \u00e9 quem finge ser.<\/p>\n

It showed you that there are some bad people out there who will hurt you without a second thought and that you shouldn\u2019t trust just anyone, even if that someone is your romantic partner.<\/p>\n

4. \u2026 but don\u2019t punish all men out there<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

However, this doesn\u2019t mean that all men are to blame for the mistake one made.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re finally ready to start dating again, don\u2019t let this one experience burden you or convince you that you’ll never have a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

It is perfectly fine if you\u2019re a little bit more careful now, that you need time to open up and that you\u2019re picky about the ones who you let into your life.
\nNevertheless, please don\u2019t become guarded.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t punish every guy who crosses your path for your ex\u2019s sins. Yes, people cheat but not all men are the same.<\/p>\n

Nem todos o far\u00e3o passar por um desgosto de amor e nem todos s\u00e3o traidores.<\/p>\n

Por favor, d\u00eaem a um tipo simp\u00e1tico a oportunidade de provar que est\u00e3o errados.<\/p>\n

When he comes into your life, give him an opportunity to show you that he\u2019s different and don\u2019t chase him away just because of your emotional baggage.<\/p>\n

5. Concentrar-se em si pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

O mais importante aqui \u00e9 colocar toda a sua energia em si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Para come\u00e7ar, mesmo que volte a sair, concentre-se em fazer-se feliz.<\/p>\n

Lembre-se do seu autoestima<\/a>, understand that you\u2019re the most important person in this world and that you don\u2019t need anyone to complete you.<\/p>\n

Sim, \u00e9 \u00f3timo se por acaso encontrar um homem digno do seu tempo<\/a> and effort but even if you don\u2019t, I promise you that you will make it on your own.<\/p>\n

\"O<\/p>\n

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