{"id":55815,"date":"2020-03-24T08:54:55","date_gmt":"2020-03-24T08:54:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55815"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:25:42","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:25:42","slug":"como-deixar-de-ser-um-narcisista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-deixar-de-ser-um-narcisista\/","title":{"rendered":"Como deixar de ser um narcisista: Um processo de 12 passos para quebrar os seus padr\u00f5es de comportamento"},"content":{"rendered":"

As long as you’re trying to figure out how to stop being a narcissist, congratulations\u2014you’re one step ahead.<\/p>\n

It means you’re at least becoming aware of your problem, which can’t be said for most of your peers who are narcissists.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t matter whether you recognized the symptoms of perturba\u00e7\u00e3o da personalidade narc\u00edsica<\/a> se por si pr\u00f3prio ou se um profissional de sa\u00fade mental lhe disse que sofre de NPD, ler todas estas coisas sobre si pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 assustador.<\/p>\n

Por isso, deixem-me dar-vos um pouco de esperan\u00e7a; podem ser curados e podem mudar, apesar do que as pessoas ignorantes vos possam dizer.<\/p>\n

No, it won’t be easy but it can be done. If you just read on, we’re offering you the answer to the question: \u2018How to stop being a narcissist?\u2019<\/p>\n

1. Admitir que tem um problema<\/h2>\n

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O problema n\u00famero um da maioria das pessoas com tend\u00eancias narcisistas e das que sofrem de qualquer doen\u00e7a mental em geral \u00e9 o facto de negarem que t\u00eam um problema.<\/p>\n

Everyone around them keeps telling you that you should get some treatment and that it\u2019s about time to make some changes to your character but you simply can\u2019t get it in your head.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, justifica o seu comportamento t\u00f3xico e culpa todo o ambiente que o rodeia pelas suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

In fact, even when you notice that something is off, you observe it is as an episode and refuse to face the truth\u2014that you\u2019re suffering from a serious NPD and that something has to be done about it.<\/p>\n

Yes, saying: “I’m a narcissist,” for the first time is hard work but you have to do it. However, you can’t ask yourself: “How do I stop being a narcissist?” unless you say, “I’m a narcissist,” first.<\/p>\n

Before you make any concrete moves, firstly, you have to accept this reality. Don\u2019t worry\u2014there is no shame in it and you will manage to handle your disorder if you start with healing yourself in the healthiest way possible.<\/p>\n

2. Estar disposto a aceitar a mudan\u00e7a<\/h2>\n

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They say that people don\u2019t change after a certain age, that we all basically stay who we essentially are, that we have the ability to adapt to a certain situation but that sooner or later, our true colors will swim back to the surface, as much as we try to control them.<\/p>\n

Well, there is something missing in this commonly used phrase\u2014people don\u2019t change<\/a> a n\u00e3o ser que o queiram fazer.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t do it to please someone else or under any kind of pressure\u2014they only do it when they feel it\u2019s the right thing to do.<\/p>\n

So, that\u2019s the difference between you and anyone else and that\u2019s why you\u2019ll succeed\u2014you\u2019re the one who really decided to change your ways.<\/p>\n

Therefore, you have to be willing to change. You have to be open to this new you who will arise from this process; you\u2019ll have to love and accept yourself like never before.<\/p>\n

3. Chegar \u00e0 raiz do seu narcisismo<\/h2>\n

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Now that you\u2019ve made up your mind and are certain about sticking to your decision, it\u2019s time to start exploring your narcissistic personality disorder a little bit deeper.<\/p>\n

I warn you\u2014you’ll have a hard time doing so; after all, nobody likes digging through their old emotional wounds but it has to be done if you expect any kind of progress.<\/p>\n

The main question here is: \u201cWhat made you become a narcissist and have these narcissistic tendencies?\u201d No, you weren\u2019t born with the narcissistic traits you have today; your true self was turned into this toxic person.<\/p>\n

First and foremost, let\u2019s go back to your early childhood.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m sure your parents did the best they could do to raise you properly but sometimes, they can be the ones who caused your narcissistic personality disorder.<\/p>\n

Sentiu-se suficientemente amado durante a sua educa\u00e7\u00e3o? Ou sentiu-se demasiado amado?<\/p>\n

Sim, uma educa\u00e7\u00e3o insens\u00edvel ou demasiado sens\u00edvel pode ser a raz\u00e3o pela qual algu\u00e9m se torna narcisista.<\/p>\n

Outras causas podem ser demasiadas expectativas ou cr\u00edticas constantes. Talvez nunca tenha desenvolvido a sua autoestima da forma correcta e tenha tentado fugir para o narcisismo.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, qualquer tipo de abuso, incluindo emocional ou verbal, pode estar na origem da perturba\u00e7\u00e3o da personalidade narc\u00edsica.<\/p>\n

Seja o que for que esteja em causa, quando chegar ao fundo da sua traumas<\/a>Desta vez, pare de fugir delas. Para variar, fa\u00e7a o seu melhor para as processar e tente deix\u00e1-las no passado, onde elas pertencem.<\/p>\n

4. Aprender o que o despoleta<\/h2>\n

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The next step also includes a lot of introspection, self-help and self-awareness because this is when you\u2019ll learn about your triggers.<\/p>\n

What has to happen for you to become like this because you certainly don\u2019t display your narcissistic behavior all the time? What makes you react the most and what turns you into a toxic person?<\/p>\n

Alguns pessoas narcisistas<\/a> are triggered by people telling them, \u201cNo,\u201d and some react negatively when they feel threatened or intimidated or when their confidence is shook, while others can\u2019t stand criticism.<\/p>\n

Therefore, it\u2019s your job to get to the bottom of your personality and see what concerns you the most. This way, you\u2019ll have a better understanding of your actions and you\u2019ll be able to control them more.<\/p>\n

Tenha em conta que todas as pessoas t\u00eam determinados factores de desencadeamento.<\/p>\n

However, the difference between you and the rest of the world is that you stop being in charge of yourself the moment you are \u2018provoked\u2019, you shut off completely and your narcissistic self appears on the scene.<\/p>\n

5. Enumere os seus comportamentos narc\u00edsicos<\/h2>\n

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Once you\u2019ve finished with the root of your issue and your triggers, go on and list the types of behaviors you connect with narcissism as well.<\/p>\n

Por vezes, pode nem se aperceber desses comportamentos, pelo que talvez a sua lista deva incluir as coisas a que as pessoas mais pr\u00f3ximas t\u00eam prestado aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Como reage quando \u00e9 acionado?<\/p>\n

Do you have an anger outburst the moment someone in your surroundings doesn\u2019t give you the response you expected, do you go all passive-aggressive on them, do you engage in emotional manipulation or do you just emotionally withdraw and ignore them?<\/p>\n

If necessary, observe yourself for a certain amount of time to get the real result. Get yourself a diary in which you can write about specific situations\u2014what brings you to your narcissistic behavior and how you react.<\/p>\n

6. Elaborar um plano de a\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

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The next step after writing your diary would be making a plan. You accepted your mistakes, you took full responsibility for them and now it\u2019s time to do something so they don\u2019t happen ever again.<\/p>\n

Therefore, it\u2019s your job to imagine your perfect response and reaction to a certain situation.<\/p>\n

Reveja os acontecimentos em que se comportou mal e pergunte a si pr\u00f3prio se as coisas podiam ser melhoradas, se poderia ter havido um resultado diferente se tivesse sido diferente e se h\u00e1 uma forma de construir rela\u00e7\u00f5es saud\u00e1veis com os seus entes queridos.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014you won\u2019t start acting all nice and perfect overnight. After all, this doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re not allowed to be angry or sad from time to time; these are all basic human reactions.<\/p>\n

However, it will be much easier for you to take charge of your narcissistic behavior if you have this plan somewhere in the back of your head. Trust me\u2014before you know it, you\u2019ll catch yourself acting on it.<\/p>\n

7. Trabalhar a sua baixa autoestima<\/h2>\n

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What most people don\u2019t know is that one of the symptoms of personalidade narc\u00edsica<\/a> A desordem \u00e9 um ego extremamente fr\u00e1gil.<\/p>\n

Sim, parece estar t\u00e3o cheio de si e fingir que tem uma enorme autoestima e a melhor imagem poss\u00edvel de si pr\u00f3prio, mas, na verdade, a verdade \u00e9 bem diferente.<\/p>\n

The problem with NPD is that your confidence depends on other people\u2019s opinions and you take advantage of others to get the praise you desperately need.<\/p>\n

Seeking validation is actually your narcissistic supply, something you can’t function without.<\/p>\n

Well, if you\u2019re figuring out how to stop being a narcissist, the best way to do so is to start working on your low self-esteem.<\/p>\n

However, I\u2019m talking about different kinds of self-esteem here\u2014about ones which are not related to your ego. It means improving your self image and the way you perceive yourself.<\/p>\n

Significa sentir-se bem consigo pr\u00f3prio, sem depender do que os outros t\u00eam para dizer.<\/p>\n

8. Tomar consci\u00eancia das suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h2>\n

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Para al\u00e9m da autoestima, h\u00e1 outras coisas a desenvolver: a aten\u00e7\u00e3o plena e a auto-consci\u00eancia. Isto significa estar plenamente consciente das suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es e da forma como elas o afectam a si e \u00e0s outras pessoas \u00e0 sua volta.<\/p>\n

Desde que te lembras, colocaste-te em primeiro lugar; eras egoc\u00eantrico<\/a> e s\u00f3 cuidou das suas pr\u00f3prias necessidades.<\/p>\n

Devido ao seu sentido de auto-import\u00e2ncia e \u00e0 sua tend\u00eancia para a grandiosidade, s\u00f3 se preocupa com as coisas que t\u00eam um impacto direto nos seus sentimentos ou no seu ego e nunca se preocupa com as consequ\u00eancias que o seu comportamento pode ter para os outros.<\/p>\n

Well, it\u2019s time to change that.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not saying that you should spend the rest of your life overthinking your every move before actually doing something about it but you certainly have to become more thoughtful when it comes to your actions and the way others handle them.<\/p>\n

9. Encontrar uma forma de adiar o seu comportamento narcisista<\/h2>\n

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I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014as much as you try, you can\u2019t become your true self overnight.<\/p>\n

You can have an epiphany but you won\u2019t wake up the next morning, after reading this step by step guide, with someone else\u2019s mind and heart in your yesterday body.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, that doesn\u2019t mean that you shouldn\u2019t make any progress. In fact, just take baby steps, one at a time and before you know it, you\u2019ll reach your goal and see for yourself how to stop being a narcissist.<\/p>\n

Por isso, existe esta pr\u00e1tica fant\u00e1stica com que pode come\u00e7ar a sua viagem. Em vez de matar ou apagar magicamente todos os seus impulsos narc\u00edsicos, pelo menos d\u00ea o seu melhor para atrasar o seu comportamento narc\u00edsico.<\/p>\n

Em vez de olhar sempre para o quadro geral, concentre-se numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o de cada vez.<\/p>\n

O seu objetivo \u00e9 controlar-se num determinado momento, sem pensar no que poder\u00e1 acontecer na pr\u00f3xima vez que se encontrar numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o semelhante.<\/p>\n

Sempre que sentir uma explos\u00e3o de raiva ou um epis\u00f3dio de chantagem emocional a aproximar-se, experimente inspirar e expirar lentamente durante alguns segundos e tente contar at\u00e9 dez antes de dizer qualquer coisa ou respirar mais.<\/p>\n

This way, you\u2019ll manage to calm your body, mind and heart and you\u2019ll be more in charge of yourself.<\/p>\n

10. Praticar a empatia e a bondade<\/h2>\n

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All people suffering from this disorder share one narcissistic trait\u2014they suffer from a lack of empathy and they have a hard time sympathizing with others.<\/p>\n

They think they\u2019re the only ones who matter in this world and they rarely take other people\u2019s feelings or viewpoints into account and nor do they give a damn about the needs of others.<\/p>\n

If this is something you can relate to, you\u2019re probably wondering how to stop being a narcisista dissimulado<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Bem, isso tem de mudar de uma forma ou de outra. No entanto, a boa not\u00edcia \u00e9 que a empatia, como a maioria das outras coisas, pode ser praticada.<\/p>\n

A partir de agora, antes de agir, tente pensar como se sentir\u00e1 o destinat\u00e1rio das suas palavras e ac\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter whether you are about to display your toxic behavior or you plan on being nice\u2014just put yourself in their place and see whether you\u2019d like someone treating you that way or not.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t succeed in doing this in the middle of your episode, rethink the entire situation once you get calmer and try walking a mile in the v\u00edtima do seu abuso narc\u00edsico<\/a>\u2019s shoes. It\u2019s not pleasant, is it now?<\/p>\n

Well, you\u2019re the only one who can end it.<\/p>\n

An important step toward putting an end to this lack of empathy is kindness. Instead of just perceiving other people\u2019s negative emotions, focus on the good ones as well.<\/p>\n

For a change, be kind to someone else, without expecting anything in return and without it being a part of your sneaky plan you\u2019re yet to reveal.<\/p>\n

Try figuring out how these people you treated nicely feel and focus on how being the reason for someone’s smile makes you feel.<\/p>\n

11. Deixar de deitar os outros abaixo<\/h2>\n

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Another symptom of narcissism is the grandiosity, sense of superiority and self-importance over everyone around you\u2014your coworkers, best friends and closest family members.<\/p>\n

A narcissistic trait is having this sense of entitlement and thinking you\u2019re above everyone else, which often results in narcissistic abuse.<\/p>\n

Actually, your sense of self-love comes from taking advantage of others and using your loved ones to give you compliments and make you feel like they\u2019re below you.<\/p>\n

Guess what? They\u2019re not!<\/p>\n

Even if you disagree with someone, that doesn\u2019t make you smarter or more wise.<\/p>\n

Even if you\u2019re better looking or earn more money, you shouldn\u2019t have this sense of entitlement and nor should you feel like you\u2019re the privileged one.<\/p>\n

Lembra-se de termos falado de empatia?<\/p>\n

Well, the next time you try ruining someone\u2019s self-confidence in order to get your narcissistic supply or feel that your sense of superiority is about to take over, wait a second and ask yourself how the victims of your abuso narc\u00edsico<\/a> sentir.<\/p>\n

12. Pedir ajuda profissional<\/h2>\n

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While figuring out how to stop being a narcissist, you\u2019re convinced that your loved ones, including your closest friends, coworkers and family members, are all the help you need in this self-healing process.<\/p>\n

Even though seeking support from them is a huge step toward your recovery, sometimes you need professional help with this issue\u2014and that is nothing you should be ashamed of.<\/p>\n

Existem profissionais de sa\u00fade mental com um doutoramento sobre este assunto e outros semelhantes, pelo que saber\u00e3o sem d\u00favida como o ajudar a resolver o seu problema da forma correcta.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry\u2014nobody will judge you there but nobody can do the dirty work for you.<\/p>\n

Instead, they will just show you the way, take your head through this tunnel all the way toward the light and, most importantly, give you the answer to the question: \u2018How to stop being a narcissist?\u2019<\/p>\n

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