{"id":55856,"date":"2020-03-24T09:35:05","date_gmt":"2020-03-24T09:35:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55856"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:22:59","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:22:59","slug":"nao-se-pode-mudar-o-homem-amando-o-mais","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-se-pode-mudar-o-homem-amando-o-mais\/","title":{"rendered":"A verdade \u00e9 que n\u00e3o se pode mudar um homem amando-o mais"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dizem que o amor vence tudo<\/em>. Mas ser\u00e1 que \u00e9 mesmo verdade?<\/p>\n

Quando nos apaixonamos pela primeira vez, temos tend\u00eancia a ver o mundo e a pessoa que amamos atrav\u00e9s de \u00f3culos cor-de-rosa.<\/p>\n

We do things we usually don\u2019t do.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s scientifically proven that a person in love literally feels like they\u2019re high (yes, drug high) and don\u2019t feel physical pain as strongly.<\/p>\n

So, basically, when we\u2019re in love, we\u2019re out of our mind. And that explains a lot.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Sobretudo a nossa tend\u00eancia para ver o nosso parceiro de forma idealista.<\/p>\n

Quando amamos algu\u00e9m, fingimos que n\u00e3o vemos os seus defeitos.<\/p>\n

This is partly because we are infatuated and partly because we consciously or subconsciously know we are investing our time and love and making an effort to be with that person and we don\u2019t want to admit to ourselves that maybe we made a mistake.<\/p>\n

We don\u2019t want to face reality because the truth is too painful for us.<\/p>\n

Temos medo de mudar, de sofrer ou de voltar a ser solteiros.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s when we start making excuses for our partner and that\u2019s the moment our relationship becomes doomed.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019re thinking: \u2018Est\u00e3o a passar por momentos dif\u00edceis<\/em>,\u2019 which in reality probably means they\u2019re not investing in the relationship as much as you do.<\/p>\n

The truth is that everyone is going through a tough time sometimes but it\u2019s no excuse to stop making an effort.<\/p>\n

Para al\u00e9m disso, h\u00e1 desculpas mais comuns que damos na nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o por causa do amor, como por exemplo:<\/p>\n

Acreditamos nele quando diz que vai mudar.<\/p>\n

Muitos de n\u00f3s j\u00e1 ca\u00edram nesta toca de coelho. Dar segundas oportunidades \u00e9 o que fazemos por amor.<\/p>\n

Queremos mesmo acreditar que ele vai mudar por magia, apesar de vermos as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es que formam um padr\u00e3o inconfund\u00edvel, uma e outra vez.<\/p>\n

Deixar a cren\u00e7a e come\u00e7ar a ver padr\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

No fundo, sabe que as ac\u00e7\u00f5es significam muito mais do que as palavras.<\/p>\n

If he doesn\u2019t practice what he says, he simply doesn\u2019t care enough.<\/p>\n

Ele tem problemas n\u00e3o resolvidos de rela\u00e7\u00f5es passadas.<\/p>\n

This one is so easy to believe. We\u2019ve been there too.<\/p>\n

Someone has hurt us before and we need time to heal properly and that’s the obvious truth.<\/p>\n

However, if you\u2019re not healed properly, maybe you shouldn\u2019t enter a new relationship because you\u2019re not ready to face your fears and pain.<\/p>\n

Not until you\u2019re ready to make decisions despite your previous experiences are you prepared to be in a healthy relationship and that goes for other types of relationships too, not only romantic ones\u2014relationships with parents, friends and even yourself.<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

O problema n\u00e3o s\u00e3o as quest\u00f5es, mas sim evitar enfrent\u00e1-las.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t really mean what he says when he says something mean.<\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 uma das piores desculpas que se pode dar a um homem.<\/p>\n

Este tipo de comportamento n\u00e3o demonstra mais do que puro desrespeito.<\/p>\n

No one should tolerate insults, especially not from their loved one. It doesn\u2019t make sense.<\/p>\n

If someone loves us, they care for our well-being, they don\u2019t make our life miserable.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not just something said in moments of rage or annoyance.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It’s a conscious decision to make us feel smaller. He\u2019s just a man<\/em>.<\/p>\n

A aceita\u00e7\u00e3o de estere\u00f3tipos como este s\u00f3 faz aumentar as suas consequ\u00eancias nefastas.<\/p>\n

Being a man isn’t an excuse and certainly not an excuse to be disrespectful.<\/p>\n

Ele tem uma personalidade \u00fanica, vontade de mudar ou n\u00e3o mudar, o poder de escolher entre op\u00e7\u00f5es, etc.<\/p>\n

He is not programmed to behave a certain way as long as he has his free will\u2014and he does.<\/p>\n

Tudo o resto \u00e9 apenas pregui\u00e7a e falta de cuidado.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not making an effort, you\u2019re not just a man, you\u2019re simply a jerk.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Do yourself a favor and quit working harder at love if there\u2019s no mutual exchange.<\/p>\n

The fact is, you can\u2019t change a man by loving him harder.<\/p>\n

We can\u2019t change anyone if they don\u2019t want to change in the first place. It\u2019s sad, but it\u2019s true.<\/p>\n

Quanto mais cedo nos livrarmos dos \"se apenas\", mais cedo estaremos a caminho de encontrar algu\u00e9m que realmente se importe.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, talvez a nossa despedida seja exatamente o que poderia finalmente abrir-lhe os olhos para os seus pr\u00f3prios defeitos.<\/p>\n

Maybe that\u2019s something that will teach him something you already know: self-awareness is the most powerful and profound way to end suffering.<\/p>\n

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They say that love conquers all. But is it really true? When we first fall in love, we tend to see the world and the person we love through rose-colored glasses. We do things we usually don\u2019t do. It\u2019s scientifically proven that a person in love literally feels like they\u2019re high (yes, drug high) and…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":55632,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-55856","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/The-Truth-Is-You-Cannot-Change-A-Man-By-Loving-Him-Harder.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","parent":29620,"count":228,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29625,"category_count":228,"category_description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","cat_name":"toxic relationship","category_nicename":"toxic-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55856","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=55856"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55856\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/55632"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=55856"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=55856"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=55856"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}