{"id":55862,"date":"2020-03-24T10:16:45","date_gmt":"2020-03-24T10:16:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55862"},"modified":"2022-02-28T11:29:44","modified_gmt":"2022-02-28T11:29:44","slug":"bandeiras-que-sofrem-de-toc-de-relacionamento","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/bandeiras-que-sofrem-de-toc-de-relacionamento\/","title":{"rendered":"5 sinais de alerta de que sofre de TOC numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

Basicamente, a perturba\u00e7\u00e3o obsessivo-compulsiva \u00e9 o estado em que temos pensamentos indesejados que n\u00e3o conseguimos controlar ou afastar, por muito que tentemos.<\/p>\n

It is a type of anxiety disorder that makes you feel like you\u2019re not in charge of your brain and which makes your life much harder than it should be.<\/p>\n

Bem, o TOC relacional acontece quando todos estes pensamentos intrusivos est\u00e3o apenas relacionados com a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica, pela qual fica obcecado.<\/p>\n

E o facto \u00e9 que muitas pessoas sofrem deste problema, sem sequer terem consci\u00eancia disso.<\/p>\n

Here are the signs that you\u2019re one of them as well.<\/p>\n

1. Est\u00e1 sempre a questionar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

The first sign that you\u2019re dealing with relationship OCD is the fact that you keep on questioning your relationship.<\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 este o verdadeiro neg\u00f3cio? Ser\u00e1 que ele o \u00fanico<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Voc\u00eas est\u00e3o mesmo destinados a ficar juntos?<\/p>\n

Deveria ter come\u00e7ado este romance em primeiro lugar?<\/p>\n

Estas s\u00e3o todas as perguntas que passam pela sua cabe\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Not only that\u2014they are burdening you to a level where you can\u2019t even function properly and most importantly, where you can\u2019t enjoy your relationship with your boyfriend the way you should.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Instead of being concerned with the present moment, you\u2019re obsessing about the past and the future.<\/p>\n

Disseca tudo o que se passou entre voc\u00eas os dois no passado, incluindo as coisas que alegadamente conseguiram ultrapassar.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that you hold grudges or that you\u2019re directly resentful toward your partner\u2014you just replay all the situations back and forth in your head, as if you\u2019ll magically get a different outcome.<\/p>\n

Sim, \u00e9 completamente natural que queira saber para onde vai a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, mas a diferen\u00e7a entre si e as outras pessoas \u00e9 que tem uma vontade incontrol\u00e1vel de saber todos os pormenores de antem\u00e3o e que precisa de ter cem por cento de certezas sobre o resultado, o que \u00e9, obviamente, imposs\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

2. Procura a seguran\u00e7a dos outros<\/h2>\n

\"duas<\/p>\n

No entanto, o seu ansiedade<\/a> doesn\u2019t end there.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t only have these internal monologues regarding your relationship; you also use every possible opportunity to talk it through with everyone around you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like your only subject of conversation with your loved ones has become your romance and you can\u2019t get yourself to talk about anything else besides that.<\/p>\n

Na verdade, anda por a\u00ed a perguntar aos seus amigos mais pr\u00f3ximos, \u00e0 sua fam\u00edlia e at\u00e9 aos seus colegas de trabalho e conhecidos a opini\u00e3o deles sobre a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

It is more than obvious that you\u2019re actually looking for reassurance; you want them to confirm that things are exactly how they should be and that there is nothing to worry about, as if they know what\u2019s going on with you and your boyfriend in detail.<\/p>\n

\"amigo<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure that all of these people love you from the bottom of their heart but if you continue doing this, you won\u2019t lose only your partner\u2014you\u2019ll chase them away too.<\/p>\n

Nobody likes being the third wheel to someone else\u2019s relationship, nor can they make some important decisions regarding your life.<\/p>\n

Whether you want to hear this or not, the truth is that you\u2019re boring and overwhelming them.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure that they\u2019ve told you nothing is wrong like a million times and the last thing they want to do is repeat themselves once more.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, o que \u00e9 que eles podem dizer?<\/p>\n

Yes, you can take advice from the people whose opinions you appreciate but that doesn\u2019t mean that they can rule your relationship.<\/p>\n

3. Passa demasiado tempo a controlar os seus sentimentos<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Outro sinal de alerta perigoso de que sofre de TOC relacional est\u00e1 relacionado com as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

You can spend years next to one man but you still won\u2019t be sure whether you love him for real.<\/p>\n

Is this true love that you\u2019re feeling or is it actually some kind of obsession?<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 apaixonada por ele, ama-o mesmo? \u00c9 assim que uma mulher apaixonada se deve sentir?<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que se sentiria se perdesse este homem? Ficaria de cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido ou a sua vida continuaria, como se nada tivesse acontecido?<\/p>\n

Ficarias magoado porque o teu ego est\u00e1 ferido ou ficarias sentir a sua falta<\/a> a s\u00e9rio?<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Ele \u00e9 apenas um h\u00e1bito? Esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o tornou-se apenas na sua zona de conforto?<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1s com ele porque queres estar l\u00e1 ou tens medo de ficar solteira?<\/p>\n

You see, asking yourself these questions is nothing unusual when you\u2019re just starting a new relationship.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, queremos saber qual \u00e9 a nossa posi\u00e7\u00e3o em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios e tentamos examinar a profundidade dos nossos sentimentos.<\/p>\n

No entanto, contigo, \u00e9 diferente, porque essas d\u00favidas parecem nunca desaparecer.<\/p>\n

No matter how long you have been this man\u2019s girlfriend, you keep on having these thoughts.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Not only that\u2014you also compare the feelings you have now with the ones you had yesterday, last month, last year or at the beginning of your relationship.<\/p>\n

You wonder if anything has changed, whether you\u2019re starting to fall out of love with him or you love him more than before.<\/p>\n

De facto, isto acontece sobretudo nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es duradouras.<\/p>\n

Your butterflies are probably long gone and maybe you two have gotten into a rut so you can\u2019t help but wonder if this is how things should be.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e3o a entrar numa nova fase da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou as vossas emo\u00e7\u00f5es est\u00e3o a desvanecer-se?<\/p>\n

4. Compara a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com a de outros casais<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Quando se sofre de TOC relacional, tem-se o h\u00e1bito de comparar coisas.<\/p>\n

You compare your feelings but you also compare your romance with other people\u2019s relationships.<\/p>\n

You keep asking yourself if someone else is happier than you, whether they\u2019re more in love and if they made greater progress than you two.<\/p>\n

Not only that\u2014you also compare your current boyfriend with every other man in your life.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that you would do something about it or actually cheat on him, even if you realized that someone else is better than him in some way;you just have these obsessive thoughts you can\u2019t control, as much as you try.<\/p>\n

Basta ver um rapaz jeitoso a passar por si e o c\u00edrculo sem fim come\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7a a pensar se esse tipo \u00e9 mais bonito do que o seu homem, se \u00e9 mais inteligente, mais interessante, se tem um melhor sentido de humor ou se seria trat\u00e1-lo melhor<\/a> e torn\u00e1-lo mais feliz.<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 especialmente o caso dos seus ex e das suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es anteriores.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you try to put the emotions you have for your current boyfriend and the feelings you had for your exes on a scale.<\/p>\n

Quem \u00e9 que amava mais? Fizeste mal em terminar tudo com algu\u00e9m do teu passado e em come\u00e7ar esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/p>\n

Haver\u00e1 outra pessoa mais adequada para si?<\/p>\n

5. You\u2019re n\u00e3o \u00e9 feliz na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Com todas estas coisas na cabe\u00e7a, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 maneira nenhuma de ser feliz.<\/p>\n

A verdade \u00e9 que o seu TOC<\/a> manages to ruin every beautiful moment of your relationship because it simply doesn\u2019t let you enjoy yourself.<\/p>\n

Em vez de ter uma sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de satisfa\u00e7\u00e3o sempre que o seu parceiro a abra\u00e7a ou beija, ignora completamente a realidade e come\u00e7a a fazer a si pr\u00f3pria todas estas perguntas.<\/p>\n

Aproveita esta oportunidade para controlar os seus sentimentos e o comportamento dele e o momento passa sem dar por isso.<\/p>\n

O mesmo se aplica \u00e0s actividades no quarto.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re never completely pleased because you can\u2019t shut your mind off and relax the way you should.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014it is great that you don\u2019t follow your heart blindly and that you think things through before acting on them.<\/p>\n

However, if you really do have relationship OCD, it will prevent you from being happy and from reaching your relationship\u2019s full potential, which is a real shame.<\/p>\n

Por isso, pe\u00e7a ajuda e comece a trabalhar para controlar e, eventualmente, afastar esses pensamentos obsessivos, porque \u00e9 pouco prov\u00e1vel que desapare\u00e7am sem mais nem menos.<\/p>\n

Have faith that you\u2019ll succeed and once you do, you\u2019ll see it\u2019s way easier to live OCD-free.<\/p>\n

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