{"id":55912,"date":"2020-03-24T13:18:02","date_gmt":"2020-03-24T13:18:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55912"},"modified":"2022-09-14T08:19:10","modified_gmt":"2022-09-14T08:19:10","slug":"como-resolver-uma-relacao-desfeita","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-resolver-uma-relacao-desfeita\/","title":{"rendered":"Como consertar um relacionamento quebrado: 10 maneiras de consertar as coisas"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you’re wondering how to fix a broken relationship and make it last, know that you’ve just landed in the right place!<\/p>\n

As rela\u00e7\u00f5es desfeitas tornaram-se uma epidemia na sociedade moderna e, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 muito tempo, eu encontrava-me na mesma situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Estava numa encruzilhada em que me debatia para decidir se queria lutar pela minha rela\u00e7\u00e3o falhada ou simplesmente seguir em frente.<\/p>\n

And now I’m glad that I didn’t just give up because today I couldn’t be happier and I can say that I’m finally in a healthy, successful relationship.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

E tu tamb\u00e9m podes ser!<\/p>\n

O primeiro passo para resolver uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o desfeita \u00e9 saber o que aconteceu exatamente e qual foi o motivo que a desencadeou, de modo a compreender melhor toda a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

So, let’s get started!<\/p>\n

You see, at its beginning, every relationship goes through the “honeymoon phase” where everything seems magical because you can’t wait to see your partner and spend time together, can’t stop thinking about each other, you laugh, you cuddle, and everything’s just perfect.<\/p>\n

But, unfortunately, this “honeymoon phase” doesn’t last for long.<\/p>\n

After three to four months, your relationships enters another phase that is more realistic \u2013 one where you face various relationship problems and relationship issues.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

In this phase, you either continue building a healthy relationship or you lose yourself and end up being in a bad relationship that’s toxic for both you and your partner.<\/p>\n

Quando isso acontece, h\u00e1 duas op\u00e7\u00f5es: Pode conserte a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o destru\u00edda<\/a> ou desistem e seguem caminhos diferentes.<\/p>\n

But, since you’re here, I assume that you’ve already made a choice and you decided to take things into your hands and look for ways that will help you fix your broken relationship.<\/p>\n

E fizeste uma coisa boa!<\/p>\n

Mas h\u00e1 algumas coisas que \u00e9 preciso saber antes de fazer qualquer coisa.<\/p>\n

To be more precise, there are some questions that you need to ask yourself in order to be one hundred percent sure that fixing your relationship is exactly what you want and that it\u2019s worth saving.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

E s\u00e3o as seguintes:<\/p>\n

\u2022  Do both of you want the same thing?<\/p>\n

\u2022  Is there enough energy left in the relationship that will give you the needed strength in the process of fixing?<\/p>\n

\u2022  Are there some hidden issues that are preventing you from reconnecting again?<\/p>\n

\u2022  Are both of you still willing to try?<\/p>\n

Reserve algum tempo para refletir sobre estas quest\u00f5es e responda-lhes com honestidade, porque a resolu\u00e7\u00e3o de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o desfeita depende da vontade e do esfor\u00e7o m\u00fatuos.<\/p>\n

It’s not something one partner can do (even though you can always try).<\/p>\n

\"mulher
\nPara reparar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura ou um casamento desfeito \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio muito tempo, paci\u00eancia e for\u00e7a de vontade.<\/p>\n

As with everything else, a broken relationship cannot be fixed overnight. It’s a process.<\/p>\n

It’s a process that requires insight into what exactly happened in the relationship, understanding, patience, and a strong will when it comes to making your relationship work.<\/p>\n

HOW TO FIX A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP BEFORE IT\u2019S TOO LATE<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Now that we\u2019ve gone through the list of the most common causes of broken relationships, it\u2019s time to learn how to fix a broken relationship.<\/p>\n

Aqui est\u00e3o algumas formas \u00fateis de ajudar a reparar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o num instante:<\/p>\n

1. Fazer um esfor\u00e7o consciente de ambas as partes<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

When it comes to fixing broken relationships, the first thing you need to do is make a conscious effort from both sides (that’s exactly what every marriage counselor would say to you).<\/p>\n

You need to make sure that both sides are equally invested in and willing to save the relationship \u2013 because it takes two to tango.<\/p>\n

S\u00e3o precisos dois indiv\u00edduos para cometer erros, para quebrar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o e tamb\u00e9m para a consertar.<\/p>\n

If one partner is unwilling to cooperate, then it means he\u2019s not interested in saving anything.<\/p>\n

E n\u00e3o estar interessado significa n\u00e3o dar a m\u00ednima.<\/p>\n

E n\u00e3o se importar com algo significa n\u00e3o estar disposto a progredir e a corrigir as coisas.<\/p>\n

2. Identificar e analisar a causa da rutura da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

O passo seguinte \u00e9 identificar e analisar a causa da rutura da rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

A lista acima pode ajud\u00e1-lo com isso, por isso tudo o que precisa de fazer \u00e9 concentrar-se nos problemas que reconhece na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, como a perda de aten\u00e7\u00e3o, a incompatibilidade no quarto, as discuss\u00f5es sobre coisas triviais, os ressentimentos, ou qualquer que seja o caso.<\/p>\n

Encontrar a raiz da sua disfun\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9, basicamente, metade do seu trabalho, porque, para consertar algo, primeiro precisa de saber o que precisa de ser consertado.<\/p>\n

3. Comunicar<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Se quer aprender a reparar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o desfeita, a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 a ferramenta mais poderosa que tem \u00e0 sua disposi\u00e7\u00e3o, por isso, porque n\u00e3o utiliz\u00e1-la?<\/p>\n

Tenha sempre em mente que as palavras n\u00e3o ditas, o ressentimento e a constru\u00e7\u00e3o de muros s\u00e3o os maiores inimigos de qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

E a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 o que impede esses inimigos de penetrarem e de a partirem em peda\u00e7os.<\/p>\n

So, if there\u2019s anything on your mind that bothers and that you would want to talk out with your partner, make sure to do so.<\/p>\n

4. Ouve o teu parceiro<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

As already said, many couples over time become deaf to their partner\u2019s words, needs, and wishes. Because of that, it\u2019s important to remind yourself to listen to your partner, absorb their every word, and act accordingly.<\/p>\n

A corre\u00e7\u00e3o da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o consiste basicamente em dois princ\u00edpios: Falar e ouvir.<\/p>\n

But, I have to say that listening is more important than talking because when both partners are focused on listening, they\u2019re being focused on the other partner and not only themselves.<\/p>\n

5. Trabalhe para se mudar a si pr\u00f3prio antes de tentar mudar o seu parceiro<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Pela minha experi\u00eancia pessoal, posso confirmar como \u00e9 f\u00e1cil ficar estagnado numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e deixar de trabalhar em si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Por isso, \u00e9 preciso prestar muita aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Trabalhe sempre em si pr\u00f3prio antes de tentar mudar o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

Afinal, no final do dia, a \u00fanica pessoa que pode mudar \u00e9 voc\u00ea mesmo.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Lembre-se do que dissemos acima: A mudan\u00e7a vem de dentro de n\u00f3s!<\/p>\n

Esforce-se sempre por se tornar a melhor vers\u00e3o de si pr\u00f3prio e isso motivar\u00e1 o seu parceiro a fazer o mesmo.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the best indirect way of bringing changes into your relationship without forcing or nagging.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 13 maneiras poderosas de mudar a sua vida despertando o seu Divino Feminino<\/a><\/p>\n

6. Aprender a esquecer e a perdoar<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Em vez de guardar ressentimentos e erguer muros quando algo de mau acontece, esteja aberto ao perd\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Aprenda a perdoar, porque, caso contr\u00e1rio, a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o ficar\u00e1 cheia de toxicidade e de palavras negativas e n\u00e3o ditas, que s\u00e3o verdadeiros destruidores de qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

7. Assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Since change comes within yourself, it\u2019s important to take responsibility for your own actions.<\/p>\n

Em vez de se concentrar apenas nos erros e nas coisas m\u00e1s cometidas pelo seu parceiro, deve tamb\u00e9m concentrar-se nos seus pr\u00f3prios erros e assumir a responsabilidade por eles.<\/p>\n

Reconhe\u00e7a os seus pr\u00f3prios erros, trabalhe para melhorar e corrigir as coisas, procure o perd\u00e3o e espere pelo melhor.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the only way to establish a healthy balance and make changes in a relationship.<\/p>\n

8. Certifique-se de que d\u00e1 espa\u00e7o e tempo ao seu parceiro<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Um dos erros mais comuns numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 passar demasiado tempo com o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

Por isso, em vez de passarem cada segundo do vosso tempo livre com eles, d\u00eaem espa\u00e7o e tempo um ao outro para recarregarem as baterias, para manterem liga\u00e7\u00f5es com os vossos amigos e familiares e para continuarem a fazer coisas que gostavam de fazer antes de entrarem numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

9. Quebrar a rotina<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Para evitar que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o caia numa rotina ou para corrigir a mesma, introduza algumas mudan\u00e7as e coisas excitantes na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

For example, don\u2019t go to the same restaurants, don\u2019t do the same activities more than once or twice a week, and every once in a while go wild and introduce some new activity that you haven\u2019t tried before.<\/p>\n

Pode ser qualquer coisa!<\/p>\n

10. Rebobinar momentos felizes<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o desfeita significa cair no labirinto da negatividade.<\/p>\n

Por isso, para encontrar uma sa\u00edda, \u00e9 preciso concentrar-se em manter-se positivo.<\/p>\n

And rewinding to happy moments you\u2019ve spent together will help you with that.<\/p>\n

Preparem as vossas bebidas favoritas, acendam algumas velas e comecem a falar de todos os momentos felizes e aspectos positivos da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

O n\u00edvel de positividade que esta pr\u00e1tica traz \u00e9 dez vezes mais forte do que qualquer negatividade.<\/p>\n

AS CAUSAS MAIS COMUNS DAS RUPTURAS DE RELA\u00c7\u00d5ES<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Para corrigir algo ou curarmo-nos de algo, a primeira coisa que precisamos de fazer \u00e9 compreender a(s) verdadeira(s) raz\u00e3o(\u00f5es) ou causa(s) por detr\u00e1s disso.<\/p>\n

Tal como nada pode ser reparado de um dia para o outro, tamb\u00e9m nada pode avariar de um dia para o outro.<\/p>\n

Little things, body language, nourishing good qualities, boosting each other\u2019s self-esteem, rebuilding trust if broken, spicing up your love life, and making your loved one feel special are all things we need to pay attention to in every relationship.<\/p>\n

Quando qualquer uma destas coisas se torna um fardo ou simplesmente inexistente, os la\u00e7os da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o come\u00e7am a enfraquecer.<\/p>\n

Para o compreender melhor, eis uma lista das raz\u00f5es mais comuns para o fim de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o:<\/p>\n

1. Paredes de edif\u00edcios<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Uma das coisas mais problem\u00e1ticas numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 retrair-se durante as discuss\u00f5es, construir muros ou qualquer tipo de comportamento passivo-agressivo.<\/p>\n

Construir muros significa n\u00e3o estar disposto a falar com o seu parceiro, tentar compreender a situa\u00e7\u00e3o e, em conjunto, tomar medidas para encontrar uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o para a mesma.<\/p>\n

Withdrawal (especially during arguments) is one of the most toxic things that can seriously affect both partners\u2019 mental health and seriously damage the relationship.<\/p>\n

Porque quando nos recusamos a falar de certas coisas, quando nos recusamos a dizer um ao outro o que realmente sentimos, recusamo-nos a deixar de lado todas as coisas negativas que, quando acumuladas, podem ser realmente prejudiciais para o nosso bem-estar e para a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Building walls can also cause trust issues over time because when you’re not familiar with what is really going on in your partner’s head, it gets hard to trust them.<\/p>\n

E quando isso acontece, em vez de tentar resolver o problema, acabar e sobreviver a um cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido torna-se a sua preocupa\u00e7\u00e3o di\u00e1ria.<\/p>\n

A sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o perde valores fundamentais como a confian\u00e7a, o respeito e o esfor\u00e7o m\u00fatuo, que s\u00e3o pr\u00e9-requisitos para estabelecer uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7a-se a passar por uma fase dif\u00edcil e a \u00fanica coisa que pode salvar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o entre os dois \u00e9 reconhecer o problema, estar disposto a reconstruir a confian\u00e7a abrindo-se com o seu parceiro e fazer um esfor\u00e7o m\u00fatuo.<\/p>\n

2. N\u00e3o estar na mesma p\u00e1gina<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A segunda raz\u00e3o mais comum para as rela\u00e7\u00f5es chegarem ao ponto de rutura \u00e9 n\u00e3o estarem na mesma p\u00e1gina. O que \u00e9 que isto significa?<\/p>\n

Muitos parceiros entram numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou num casamento sem nunca terem falado com o seu parceiro sobre as suas expectativas e o que realmente querem.<\/p>\n

They don’t talk about their dreams, wishes, and things they find important when it comes to maintaining a relationship.<\/p>\n

And that’s where clashes occur.<\/p>\n

Ao fim de algum tempo, a aus\u00eancia de afinidade come\u00e7a a manifestar-se.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

And that’s where you start fighting about things like whether you want to start living together (or where), if you want to have kids in the future, about your own ideas of romantic gestures, the importance of little things, making each other special, and overall expectations in a relationship.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o estar em sintonia com o seu parceiro significa n\u00e3o partilhar os mesmos valores ou a mesma perspetiva sobre determinadas coisas e\/ou n\u00e3o estar disposto a fazer ced\u00eancias.<\/p>\n

E isto n\u00e3o tem nada a ver com o amor.<\/p>\n

Your love can be as strong as ever, but differing viewpoints can still damage your relationship (no matter how long you’ve been in one).<\/p>\n

3. Normas irrealistas<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

There\u2019s no such thing as a perfect relationship, nor a perfect partner \u2013 and that’s just how it should be, but we often forget that.<\/p>\n

Making mistakes in a relationship is a natural occurrence and it’s a part of the bonding process, so expecting from our partner to never make a single mistake and to always act in a perfect manner is crazy.<\/p>\n

When we let that feeling of perfection overwhelm us, we dive into the world of unrealistic standards that forces us to act in certain ways \u2013 blaming our partner for everything, and pinpointing and judging their every mistake and move.<\/p>\n

And by doing all of that, we’re creating an imbalance in the relationship where one partner feels superior and the other like a subordinate.<\/p>\n

Quando um dos parceiros faz todas as coisas certas e o outro \u00e9 o ep\u00edtome dos erros e a causa da rutura da rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Mas a verdade \u00e9 que s\u00e3o precisos dois para quebrar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Pensar que o seu parceiro deve agir sempre de forma imaculada, tal como voc\u00ea imaginou, coloca uma enorme press\u00e3o sobre ele e ele come\u00e7ar\u00e1 a sufocar.<\/p>\n

Once they feel suffocated, they also pull you with them \u2013 and that’s where the real issues begin (if not dealt with on time).<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 7 Sinais de que deves lutar para salvar a tua rela\u00e7\u00e3o falida<\/a><\/p>\n

4. O medo de estar sozinho<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Como j\u00e1 dissemos, o maior culpado de rela\u00e7\u00f5es desfeitas \u00e9 a constru\u00e7\u00e3o de muros, mas o medo de estar sozinho \u00e9 bastante semelhante a isso. Como?<\/p>\n

When you’re in a relationship and you have the medo de estar sozinho<\/a>, this can prevent you from acknowledging certain relationship problems and issues just because you don’t want to fuck things up and end up being on your own.<\/p>\n

So, you rather choose to turn a blind eye to everything that’s going on or pretend that it\u2019s all just perfect and your relationship doesn’t need fixing.<\/p>\n

The fear of being alone is a powerful feeling that can prevent you from seeing things clearly, and it\u2019s one of the most dangerous things that can happen to you in a relationship.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When you don’t see things as they are or refuse to do so, you’re just letting the situation continue developing at its own negative pace.<\/p>\n

The longer you do it, the more you\u2019re damaging your relationship without even being aware of it.<\/p>\n

If you’re in a relationship just to fill the void of feeling lonely, you’re not in it for the right reasons.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso ultrapassar esse sentimento de vazio e pensar no que realmente quer e como pode melhorar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

5. Falta de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o aberta<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

A comunica\u00e7\u00e3o aberta \u00e9 a alma de qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Ser capaz de partilhar os seus sentimentos, falar sobre as coisas que acontecem nas suas vidas, a sua perspetiva sobre certas coisas, os seus desejos, etc., s\u00e3o coisas que criam um la\u00e7o mais forte numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

S\u00e3o estas coisas que vos aproximam e mant\u00eam mais pr\u00f3ximos um do outro.<\/p>\n

And when there’s a lack of open communication, you’re no longer connected to each other.<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7amos a separar-nos e perdemos o sentido de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios como parceiros.<\/p>\n

Unsaid words are one of the most powerful destroyers of every relationship and that’s why we should always make sure to say what we really mean and let our partner be a part of our life.<\/p>\n

6. Comparar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com a dos outros<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Many people have this tendency to compare their relationship to others because they think that theirs should look like someone else’s.<\/p>\n

Muitas pessoas pensam que os outros s\u00e3o mais felizes do que elas e que devem implementar as suas estrat\u00e9gias e copiar o seu comportamento.<\/p>\n

E quanto mais tempo comparam, mais miser\u00e1veis se tornam.<\/p>\n

But, the truth is, every relationship is unique with its own ups and downs, so there’s simply no point in thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.<\/p>\n

Your grass (relationship) can also be greener than that of others only if you’re willing to roll up your sleeves and work on it instead of only compare it.<\/p>\n

Tal como em todas as outras coisas na vida, quanto mais se investir numa coisa, maiores ser\u00e3o as hip\u00f3teses de ela dar frutos.<\/p>\n

7. Recusa de compromisso<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

In every relationship, there are certain things that partners simply don’t agree on and in these cases, there are two possible outcomes: They either agree to disagree and come to a compromise, or they start building walls and focus only on themselves.<\/p>\n

Quando os parceiros se recusam a chegar a um compromisso, basicamente recusam-se a reconhecer todas as diferen\u00e7as que os separam enquanto indiv\u00edduos.<\/p>\n

They don’t accept each other’s different perspectives, wishes, and mindset, which is the number one reason for arguments and withdrawal.<\/p>\n

O compromisso \u00e9 um intermedi\u00e1rio entre duas pessoas numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e nem todos n\u00f3s sabemos como o fazer.<\/p>\n

We learn to compromise through life in general. And when we don’t have that compromising compartment in our brain activated, it’s hard to really understand the need for it and act accordingly.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

It’s hard to understand other people’s needs, wishes, and dreams when we haven’t learned to respect and value it.<\/p>\n

And that’s why compromising is of the utmost importance in every relationship out there.<\/p>\n

Cria equil\u00edbrio, compreens\u00e3o e aceita\u00e7\u00e3o de outro ser humano.<\/p>\n

Diz ao seu parceiro: Compreendo porque \u00e9 que queres fazer isto e, apesar de eu ter planos diferentes em mente, podemos encontrar um meio-termo em que ambas as nossas necessidades e desejos sejam satisfeitos.<\/p>\n

8. Quest\u00f5es de confian\u00e7a<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

A confian\u00e7a \u00e9 uma das coisas mais dif\u00edceis de estabelecer numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e, ao mesmo tempo, uma das mais importantes.<\/p>\n

If one of the partners or both of them have been hurt in the past, it’s really difficult to trust again.<\/p>\n

E com a confian\u00e7a vem o ci\u00fame.<\/p>\n

When we don’t trust our partner, we tend to overthink and imagine all the worst scenarios in the world, and usually for no reason.<\/p>\n

When we don’t trust our partner, we slowly but surely start killing our relationship.<\/p>\n

The worst is, we’re often not even aware of any of it because we always think that the problem is in our partner, that they are giving us motives to misinterpret their actions, and that the universe is against us.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

We think all that just because we’re afraid to lift those blinds that are preventing us from seeing things as they really are.<\/p>\n

We’re afraid to trust again out of fear that we’ll get hurt again. But, if we want to be in a healthy relationship, that’s exactly what we need to do.<\/p>\n

Both partners need to make an effort and help each other with trust issues, instead of neglect the matter and act as if it\u2019s nothing serious.<\/p>\n

9. Assumir coisas erradas<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

This one is in close connection with the previous sign and it’s another important factor of a broken relationship.<\/p>\n

Assumir as coisas erradas antes de perguntar ao nosso parceiro o que realmente se est\u00e1 a passar \u00e9 uma verdadeira receita para o desastre.<\/p>\n

E isto parece-se com o seguinte:<\/p>\n

Your partner doesn’t call you or text you for some time and you assume that something terrible happened to them, that they’re cheating on you, or that they’ve been abducted by aliens.<\/p>\n

And the first thing you do is send multiple texts telling them to call you ASAP and explain what is going on, that you will not tolerate their ignorant behavior, that you’re about to break up with them and so on.<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

And when your partner finally reaches you, you realize that the reason why they haven’t texted or called you back is perfectly valid and that you overreacted because you assumed the worst.<\/p>\n

Agora imagine o n\u00edvel de stress nesta situa\u00e7\u00e3o, tanto para si como para o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

Assumir o pior pode transform\u00e1-lo num lun\u00e1tico controlador e fazer com que o seu parceiro se sinta pressionado a mant\u00ea-lo constantemente informado at\u00e9 sobre as coisas mais est\u00fapidas, como ir \u00e0 loja.<\/p>\n

When that happens, it’s hard to retrieve the lost balance in a relationship if both partners don’t talk about the real issue behind these assumptions.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como resolver uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica em 8 passos simples (e 7 sinais de que est\u00e1 numa)<\/a><\/p>\n

10. Falta de respeito<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Outra parte fundamental de qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o feliz \u00e9 o respeito.<\/p>\n

Respeitar o seu parceiro significa respeitar os seus desejos, passatempos, sonhos, personalidade, mas tamb\u00e9m significa respeitar as suas peculiaridades e defeitos.<\/p>\n

Significa respeit\u00e1-lo como um ser humano \u00fanico e imperfeito que tamb\u00e9m precisa de espa\u00e7o e tempo para si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Um dos maiores erros que muitos parceiros cometem numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 pensar que quanto mais tempo passarem com o seu parceiro, mais forte ser\u00e1 a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Mas isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 de todo verdade.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Ambos os parceiros precisam de algum espa\u00e7o e tempo para si pr\u00f3prios numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, para que possam adquirir perspectivas diferentes, recarregar energias e manter as suas paix\u00f5es, passatempos e liga\u00e7\u00f5es com outras pessoas fora da rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Both partners need to respect each other’s needs for constant development outside the relationship because that’s the only way to establish a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

When partners don’t respect each other’s need for space and privacy, the relationship becomes a huge burden where you start dreaming about being single again and discarding your broken relationship.<\/p>\n

11. Falta de gratid\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If you’re familiar with a lei da atra\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>, then you’ve probably heard about the power of gratitude.<\/p>\n

The more grateful we are for the things we have, the more positive things we’ll receive in the future.<\/p>\n

Summarized, the more we show gratitude to the universe, the more good things we’ll receive in return.<\/p>\n

E onde h\u00e1 falta de gratid\u00e3o, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 espa\u00e7o para emo\u00e7\u00f5es positivas e coisas positivas em geral.<\/p>\n

O mesmo se pode aplicar \u00e0s rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Uma das raz\u00f5es pelas quais as nossas rela\u00e7\u00f5es falham \u00e9 a falta de gratid\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Quando ignoramos deliberadamente todas as coisas boas que o nosso parceiro faz por n\u00f3s e nos recusamos a mostrar gratid\u00e3o, enviamos-lhe a mensagem de que, independentemente do que ele fa\u00e7a por n\u00f3s, n\u00e3o ser\u00e1 suficientemente bom.<\/p>\n

Ao n\u00e3o reconhecermos os seus esfor\u00e7os, estamos a diminu\u00ed-los.<\/p>\n

E quando isso acontece, o nosso parceiro j\u00e1 n\u00e3o est\u00e1 disposto a fazer nada na rela\u00e7\u00e3o porque se sente desvalorizado.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Lack of gratitude makes them feel confused and unwilling to keep trying in a relationship because there’s no feedback.<\/p>\n

Many people only pay attention to what’s bad in a relationship, and neglect all the positive aspects of it because they think that it should be so.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, dever\u00edamos prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o a ambos.<\/p>\n

Devemos estar gratos por todas as coisas boas, mas tamb\u00e9m devemos reconhecer as coisas m\u00e1s para criarmos o equil\u00edbrio necess\u00e1rio na rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

12. Discutir sobre coisas triviais<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

A discuss\u00e3o \u00e9 uma parte inevit\u00e1vel de qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o e a diferen\u00e7a entre rela\u00e7\u00f5es saud\u00e1veis e rela\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00f3xicas\/rompidas<\/a> est\u00e1 no tipo de argumenta\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Discutir sobre coisas que parecem importantes para ambos \u00e9 saud\u00e1vel e recomendado, porque construir muros e ignorar um ao outro em tais situa\u00e7\u00f5es pode ser realmente t\u00f3xico.<\/p>\n

E o mais importante \u00e9 que essa discuss\u00e3o \u00e9 ocasional.<\/p>\n

But, arguing over trivial things becomes a part of the couple\u2019s everyday life and gradually leads to a rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica<\/a>. <\/p>\n

Trivial things like who\u2019s going to the store, when one partner forgets to do something (that\u2019s not really important), arguing over groceries, choice of movie or TV show, or road trip destination can significantly influence the quality of your relationship.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

When two partners are constantly annoyed by each other\u2019s words and actions, when they\u2019re not willing to compromise and no longer respect each other, constant arguing becomes a way of dealing with all the frustrations that have accumulated over time.<\/p>\n

And gradually, the relationship starts losing its elasticity and initial charm because the more couples are arguing over trivial things, the more they\u2019re destroying their relationship and what they have been building so far.<\/p>\n

13. N\u00e3o fazer as coisas de que costumavam gostar juntos<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

No in\u00edcio de cada rela\u00e7\u00e3o, fazer coisas em conjunto \u00e9 natural para todos os casais, porque tudo o que fazem, fazem-no pela primeira vez juntos, o que o torna ainda mais excitante.<\/p>\n

Going to the movies, romantic date nights, long walks at midnight, and even going to the grocery store all fit the category of being fun activities for every couple because as long as two persons are together, it doesn\u2019t really matter what they\u2019re doing.<\/p>\n

With time, this initial excitement vanishes, but only if you don\u2019t continue doing things you used to enjoy together.<\/p>\n

Depois de repetirem as mesmas actividades vezes sem conta, muitos casais aborrecem-se e come\u00e7am a pensar que j\u00e1 n\u00e3o gostam da companhia do seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Quando isso acontece, a rela\u00e7\u00e3o come\u00e7a a deteriorar-se e a \u00fanica coisa que a pode salvar \u00e9 apimentar as coisas.<\/p>\n

Independentemente do n\u00famero de vezes que repete certas actividades, elas podem continuar a ser igualmente aliciantes se pensar apenas em formas de tornar as coisas interessantes.<\/p>\n

Use your creativity to incorporate some new elements that will refresh your relationship and remind you why you\u2019ve fallen in love with each other in the first place.<\/p>\n

14. Procurar a valida\u00e7\u00e3o constante do seu parceiro<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

A procura constante de valida\u00e7\u00e3o por parte do parceiro est\u00e1 intimamente ligada a baixos n\u00edveis de auto-confian\u00e7a e a um certo grau de car\u00eancia.<\/p>\n

For example, let\u2019s imagine a couple where the woman is suffering from low self-confidence and the man is the one who\u2019s obliged to constantly give her validation.<\/p>\n

So, whichever outfit she tries, the first thing she does is ask her partner, \u201cDo I look nice?\u201d or \u201cDo I look fat in this new dress?\u201d<\/p>\n

Even though the woman is probably aware of the fact that she truly looks nice in that outfit, she still has this need to seek validation from her partner because she doesn\u2019t really trust herself.<\/p>\n

And when her partner says things like, \u201cYes, you look okay, honey,\u201d there\u2019s a high possibility that the woman will feel insulted because he didn\u2019t say that she looks awesome or something along those lines.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

O mesmo se aplica \u00e0 segunda pergunta.<\/p>\n

If a woman assumes that she looks fat in her dress, in 90% of cases it\u2019s true, and asking her partner to lie to her that she doesn\u2019t is another way of seeking validation \u2013 or better said \u2013 fake validation from her partner.<\/p>\n

This is just a banal example, but I\u2019m sure you get the point.<\/p>\n

A procura constante de valida\u00e7\u00e3o por parte do parceiro pode criar uma enorme press\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o em que um dos parceiros se torna emocionalmente demasiado carente e o outro \u00e9 pressionado a trabalhar constantemente para encontrar formas de o equilibrar e fazer com que o outro se sinta melhor consigo pr\u00f3prio, negligenciando assim as suas pr\u00f3prias necessidades emocionais.<\/p>\n

15. Tentar mudar o outro<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

O conceito de mudan\u00e7a pode ser muito complicado e dif\u00edcil de compreender nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

But, the truth is that every couple comes to the point where they want to change certain things about their partners because they think that when they do so, they\u2019ll be happier.<\/p>\n

But, trying to change each other doesn\u2019t necessarily make things better in a relationship.<\/p>\n

De facto, a necessidade de uma mudan\u00e7a dr\u00e1stica \u00e9 apenas uma indica\u00e7\u00e3o de que h\u00e1 algo mais grave a acontecer no fundo.<\/p>\n

When couples just start dating, they embrace each other\u2019s differences and quirks and flaws because these are the reasons why we fall in love with that one specific person.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

We don\u2019t fall in love because they\u2019re perfect, but because they\u2019re perfectly imperfect for us.<\/p>\n

E, ao fim de algum tempo, quando ficamos presos numa rotina, passamos demasiado tempo juntos ou ficamos frustrados com outras coisas, pensamos que o problema est\u00e1 no nosso parceiro e o nosso parceiro pensa que o problema est\u00e1 em n\u00f3s.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s when the game of change begins.<\/p>\n

But, the truth is that change comes within ourselves, which means we can never change our partners if they\u2019re not willing to work on themselves.<\/p>\n

Por isso, este jogo de mudar o outro s\u00f3 pode prejudicar a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o em vez de trazer algo de bom.<\/p>\n

16. Guardar ressentimentos<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Holding resentment is a silent killer of most relationships and many couples don\u2019t pay attention to it.<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que significa guardar ressentimentos?<\/p>\n

Significa n\u00e3o estar disposto a esquecer ou a perdoar, que s\u00e3o dois elementos essenciais de qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

We all know that there isn\u2019t a perfect relationship and there will be times when both partners will make a mistake.<\/p>\n

And when that happens, it\u2019s important to explain the situation, apologize, and convince your partner that you\u2019ll never repeat the same mistake again.<\/p>\n

And the other partner\u2019s duty is to forgive them (if it\u2019s something forgivable and if they\u2019re being genuinely sorry for it) instead of holding resentment.<\/p>\n

Because holding resentment means creating barriers between you and your partner where you\u2019re not even willing to try to forgive or forget.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Guardar ressentimentos significa enterrar toneladas de palavras t\u00f3xicas no fundo da alma, em vez de as apagar e criar espa\u00e7o para um novo come\u00e7o.<\/p>\n

E quando isso acontece, a rela\u00e7\u00e3o come\u00e7a a sofrer.<\/p>\n

Quando uma pessoa est\u00e1 ressentida, a rela\u00e7\u00e3o fica estagnada porque n\u00e3o pode progredir devido a toda a negatividade e toxicidade acumuladas.<\/p>\n

Torna-se um lugar de discuss\u00f5es constantes, onde j\u00e1 n\u00e3o nos sentimos felizes e onde come\u00e7amos a pensar em ir embora de vez.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Expectativas n\u00e3o satisfeitas s\u00e3o a causa mais comum de relacionamentos rompidos<\/a><\/p>\n

17. Cair na rotina<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Com base na minha experi\u00eancia pessoal e na experi\u00eancia das pessoas que me s\u00e3o pr\u00f3ximas, posso dizer que cair na rotina \u00e9 uma das coisas mais perigosas numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e tamb\u00e9m uma das coisas mais dif\u00edceis de combater.<\/p>\n

When you just start dating, there\u2019s not a chance that you\u2019ll fall into a rut because everything\u2019s new, exciting, and you simply can\u2019t get enough of it.<\/p>\n

Com o passar do tempo, muitos casais esquecem-se de que essa fa\u00edsca inicial n\u00e3o durar\u00e1 para sempre e, se quiserem salvar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o e mant\u00ea-la excitante, t\u00eam de procurar formas de manter a fa\u00edsca viva e a paix\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Por esse motivo, come\u00e7am gradualmente a cair numa rotina sem sequer se aperceberem.<\/p>\n

J\u00e1 n\u00e3o saem para encontros ou passeios longos.<\/p>\n

J\u00e1 n\u00e3o gostam de longas sess\u00f5es de car\u00edcias.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Deixam de demonstrar afeto um pelo outro, de se surpreenderem mutuamente e de prestarem aten\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0s pequenas coisas.<\/p>\n

A sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o torna-se desprovida de todas as partes necess\u00e1rias para manter o romance e a paix\u00e3o, e evitar cair numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o sem vida.<\/p>\n

A rela\u00e7\u00e3o entre os dois est\u00e1 a ficar estragada.<\/p>\n

And if you\u2019re wondering how to fix a broken relationship, keep in mind that you need to keep doing things that you used to enjoy together instead of just being couch potatoes, feeling miserable about the whole thing, and barely enjoying any time spent together.<\/p>\n

18. Incompatibilidade no quarto de dormir<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Falamos frequentemente de todos os tipos de incompatibilidades que acontecem diariamente numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, mas o que dizer da incompatibilidade no quarto?<\/p>\n

Por vezes, a incompatibilidade no quarto de dormir \u00e9 a verdadeira causa de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o desfeita, mas os parceiros ou nunca reflectem sobre isso ou recusam-se a admiti-lo.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 que nem todas as pessoas gostam das mesmas coisas quando se trata de intimidade.<\/p>\n

Algumas pessoas s\u00e3o mais exc\u00eantricas por natureza, enquanto outras s\u00e3o mais tradicionais no quarto.<\/p>\n

Tudo depende da sua personalidade, gosto e perspetiva.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Agora, imagine duas pessoas que querem coisas diferentes no quarto, numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s expected that they will be incompatible because one partner will always want more or different things than the other.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s where compromise comes in.<\/p>\n

If they don\u2019t compromise, one of the partner\u2019s needs or the needs of both of them won\u2019t be met, which creates discontent and yearning for something else more fulfilling.<\/p>\n

19. Falta de aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Quando se come\u00e7a a namorar, \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que se note um aumento do n\u00edvel de aten\u00e7\u00e3o quando se trata de ouvir o outro e de o fazer sentir-se especial.<\/p>\n

Again, it\u2019s because everything\u2019s new and you can\u2019t wait to hear all the childhood stories about your partner and all the things that have shaped them into who they are today.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re at the beginning of a relationship, it\u2019s practically impossible for your relationship to suffer from lack of attention, but after some time, partners may lose interest or get occupied with other things and thus start neglecting each other.<\/p>\n

They stop listening to each other because they think that they\u2019ve already heard everything or because they lose the need for connection.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s where \u201clack of attention\u201d syndrome starts kicking in.<\/p>\n

Ambos os parceiros come\u00e7am a sentir-se negligenciados, n\u00e3o ouvidos, incompreendidos e desrespeitados.<\/p>\n

Lack of attention is a serious destroyer of relationships and that\u2019s why it\u2019s important to acknowledge it on time and make some necessary changes to improve the situation.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 abra\u00e7ar o parceiro por tr\u00e1s<\/a> Por isso, nunca se deve subestimar o poder das pequenas coisas e dos pequenos gestos. Abrace-os e torne-os parte da sua vida quotidiana.<\/p>\n

20. Infidelidade<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

And the last, but not least \u2013 infidelity.<\/p>\n

A trai\u00e7\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9, de longe, uma das coisas mais t\u00f3xicas que podem alterar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o para sempre.<\/p>\n

Now, let\u2019s say that one partner cheated on the other and they apologized for that, swearing that it was a mistake and promising that they\u2019ll never repeat the same mistake again.<\/p>\n

And let\u2019s say the other partner accepts it as a mistake and decides to give another chance to their relationship.<\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o as hip\u00f3teses de a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o se manter intacta e sobreviver a todos os desafios que adv\u00eam das consequ\u00eancias da infidelidade?<\/p>\n

Very low. Once you destroy trust in a relationship, it\u2019s really hard to retrieve it and it\u2019s really hard to continue acting as if nothing happened.<\/p>\n

A falta de confian\u00e7a pode transformar o parceiro tra\u00eddo num man\u00edaco controlador, com medo constante de ser tra\u00eddo novamente.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

And when that happens, you know the drill: constantly asking about their partner\u2019s whereabouts, arguing about trivial things, stalking their activity on social media, and constantly looking for clues and signs of betrayal.<\/p>\n

Now, there\u2019s a possibility that through time all this will disappear, but the chances for that are very low and in some cases mission impossible.<\/p>\n

And if you decide to stay in such a relationship, you\u2019ve deliberately decided to stay in a broken relationship even though you yourself are aware of the fact that perhaps nothing will change.<\/p>\n

But, no matter the level of brokenness in a relationship, I always repeat the following: \u201cWhere there is a will, there is a way.\u201d<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 7 maneiras pelas quais a infidelidade emocional \u00e9 mais dolorosa do que a f\u00edsica<\/a><\/p>\n

EXCELSIOR!<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve watched the movie Silver Linings Playbook, then you\u2019re probably familiar with the concept Excelsior.<\/p>\n

It means taking all the negativity and using it as fuel that will help you find a silver lining:\u201cYou have to do everything you can, you have to work your hardest and if you stay positive, you have a shot at a silver lining.\u201d<\/p>\n

O mesmo se pode aplicar a uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou casamento desfeito.<\/p>\n

Both partners have to be willing to do everything they can, work their hardest and if they stay positive, they have a shot at a silver lining \u2013 establishing the balance that will salvar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o\/casamento.<\/a><\/p>\n

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