{"id":56301,"date":"2020-03-27T13:07:58","date_gmt":"2020-03-27T13:07:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=56301"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:30:09","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:30:09","slug":"como-ultrapassar-o-seu-primeiro-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-ultrapassar-o-seu-primeiro-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"Como superar o seu primeiro amor: 13 passos para o sucesso"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Como \u00e9 que se ultrapassa a <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro amor<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">? Esta \u00e9 a pergunta a que todos n\u00f3s j\u00e1 quisemos responder pelo menos uma vez na vida.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pode ser o <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeira pessoa<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> namor\u00e1mos em <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">escola secund\u00e1ria<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> como 16 <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">anos de idade<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, algu\u00e9m com quem partilh\u00e1mos a nossa <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro beijo<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> com, o <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeira pessoa<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> we said &#8220;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Eu amo-te<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8221; to, or that special someone we thought was our <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">alma g\u00e9mea<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Quem quer que seja, perder o seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro namorado<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ou namorada nunca \u00e9 f\u00e1cil.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If this is something you\u2019re dealing with right now, we have a solution to your problem. Here are 13 steps to follow if you\u2019re trying to figure out how to get over your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro amor<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> da forma mais saud\u00e1vel poss\u00edvel.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>1. Accept that it\u2019s the end<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56425 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-sitting-on-leaves.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher triste com camisola e cal\u00e7as pretas\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-sitting-on-leaves.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-sitting-on-leaves-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-sitting-on-leaves-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O primeiro passo para ultrapassar a sua <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro desgosto<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00e9 <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">convencer-se a si pr\u00f3prio<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> it&#8217;s really over. You can\u2019t expect to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/6-maneiras-simples-de-esquecer-o-ex\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">esquec\u00ea-los<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and to kick them out of your heart if you keep hoping that they\u2019ll come back to you and that things will be the way they used to be.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That is exactly what many people do when they first break up: they\u2019re in denial and refuse to face the harsh reality.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know it\u2019s easier to keep on pretending that nothing has changed than look at the truth and the pain in your eyes, but you simply have to do it sooner or later, if you want any progress, and it\u2019s definitely better to do it right away than to give yourself more false hope.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Destiny won\u2019t magically bring you and your ex together (and even if it does, it would never be the same), this is not a phase or a test every relationship goes through. This is it-this is the end and the final goodbye.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Assim, em vez de colocar o seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">vida inteira<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> em espera enquanto espera pacientemente por este <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">uma pessoa<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> para voltar, invista toda a sua energia em super\u00e1-los.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>2. Deixar de ver a separa\u00e7\u00e3o como o fim do mundo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56432 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/emotional-woman-on-the-floor.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher triste sentada num sof\u00e1\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/emotional-woman-on-the-floor.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/emotional-woman-on-the-floor-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/emotional-woman-on-the-floor-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Esta \u00e9 outra coisa que acontece com a maioria das pessoas depois de <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro desgosto<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: they think it\u2019s the end of the world and that they won&#8217;t recover in <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">um milh\u00e3o<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> anos. Este \u00e9 o seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeira experi\u00eancia<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> when it comes to this type of emotional pain, it hits you right in the guts and it is perfectly natural that you don\u2019t know how to handle it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At first, you think you\u2019ll die. Your life is over and everything besides this person is pointless.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, this is far from the truth. The Earth will keep on spinning even though you\u2019ve lost someone you love and you will continue living, even though it doesn\u2019t seem that way now.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Por favor, deixem de ser t\u00e3o pessimistas. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As primeiras rela\u00e7\u00f5es terminam<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, people grow apart and it&#8217;s up to you to accept this as a part of life-nothing more and nothing less.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Besides, I won\u2019t lie to you-these things will continue happening. You\u2019ll make mistakes in love and you will be heartbroken again but the difference is, the next time it happens, you\u2019ll know you\u2019ll <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/como-sobreviver-a-primeira-semana-apos-uma-separacao-e-continuar-a-recuperar\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sobreviver<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>3. P\u00e1ra de romantizar o teu primeiro amor<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56479 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-kissing-outdoor.jpg\" alt=\"Silhueta de um casal a beijar-se num banco\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-kissing-outdoor.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-kissing-outdoor-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-kissing-outdoor-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want the answer to the question: \u201c<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Como \u00e9 que posso esquecer o meu primeiro amor?<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?\u201d it is actually pretty simple: you just have to stop romanticizing it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O que faz com que <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiros amores<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil de ultrapassar \u00e9 o facto de as pessoas tenderem a romantiz\u00e1-la, pois \u00e9 a sua <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeira experi\u00eancia<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> quando se trata de romance.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quantas vezes j\u00e1 ouviu algu\u00e9m dizer que nunca se esquece o <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeira pessoa<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> you ever loved? That you&#8217;ll forever remember your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/true-love\/finding-the-one\/quero-o-ultimo-primeiro-beijo\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro beijo<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> e <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeira experi\u00eancia<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> com o sexo oposto?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quantos filmes j\u00e1 viu sobre pessoas que reacendem a sua <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">escola secund\u00e1ria<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> romances quando envelhecerem?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might not be aware of this but we\u2019re surrounded by the cult of <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro amor<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Toda a gente o v\u00ea como a forma mais pura, mais limpa e mais intensa de liga\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, it\u2019s about time for you to break that myth.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Deixem-me dizer-vos uma coisa: os sentimentos que t\u00eam pelo vosso <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro amor<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> only seem to be the strongest simply because you\u2019ve never experienced anything similar. You give yourself entirely to the other person just because you still haven\u2019t learned to be careful about the way you open your heart to others.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeira vez<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> you break up with someone seems to be the most painful because you still haven&#8217;t had the chance to learn how to process it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Therefore, there is nothing special about first romance. It\u2019s actually just like any other relationship you\u2019ll have during your lifetime.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">De facto, a \u00faltima \u00e9 <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">o \u00fanico<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> que conta!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>4. N\u00e3o estabelecer contacto<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56436 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/girl-with-mobile-phone.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher loira a olhar para o iphone\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/girl-with-mobile-phone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/girl-with-mobile-phone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/girl-with-mobile-phone-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After you\u2019ve sorted out the basics in your head, it\u2019s time for some radical moves. The first step towards your complete healing is going completely no contact with your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard about the no contact rule: you block your ex\u2019s number, unfriend and unfollow them on all <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">redes sociais,<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp; e interromper qualquer tipo de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o com ele. Normalmente, as pessoas seguem esta regra para fazer com que o seu ex sinta a sua aus\u00eancia e para o ter de volta.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, even though you\u2019ll stick to the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/uma-visao-da-psicologia-masculina-durante-a-regra-de-nao-contacto\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you won\u2019t do it for these purposes. Instead, you\u2019ll do it because it\u2019s the only way to kick your ex both out of your life and heart.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sim, manter a amizade depois de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura e empenhada \u00e9 uma coisa simp\u00e1tica e civilizada a fazer. No entanto, isso s\u00f3 \u00e9 poss\u00edvel nos casos em que ambos s\u00e3o completamente indiferentes um ao outro e n\u00e3o t\u00eam quaisquer sentimentos rom\u00e2nticos.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Por outro lado, assim que come\u00e7ar a tentar descobrir como ultrapassar a sua <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro amor<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it becomes more than apparent that you haven\u2019t gotten over your ex. Therefore, the last thing you should be doing is tormenting yourself and pretending you can be <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">melhores amigos<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> just to \u201cdo the right thing\u201d.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>5. Cut all ties with &#8220;their people&#8221;<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56555 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-with-mobile-phone-1.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher loira a utilizar o telem\u00f3vel num bar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-with-mobile-phone-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-with-mobile-phone-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-with-mobile-phone-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many people don\u2019t know this but there is a difference between going fully no contact and cutting all ties with your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. However, let\u2019s be real here: is there any point in you finishing all communication with your ex if you\u2019ll continue doing some other things to be around them?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sim, isto pode ser eficaz se o seu objetivo for fazer com que eles <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/6-coisas-que-os-homens-tem-medo-de-perder\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">medo de te perder<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and if you just want for them to think that you\u2019ve moved on.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, if you really want to get over this person, you won\u2019t care what they think-what will be important is how you feel and if you\u2019re making any actual progress.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That\u2019s why your life has to stop revolving around this person. First of all, cut ties with their friends and family. I know that this is quite difficult, especially if we\u2019re talking about some mutual friends you also love and who are important to you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, when it comes to your ex\u2019s family, you are probably too shy to start avoiding them or to block them everywhere because you don\u2019t want to appear rude. After all, none of these people has ever done you any harm and it\u2019s not fair for them to pay the consequences for your ex\u2019s action.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, this is not about them-it\u2019s about you. You have to find a way to make yourself feel better and this an amazing starting point.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Besides, this doesn\u2019t mean that you have to erase these people from your life permanently. You can just explain the situation, ask them to understand and to give you some time, and I\u2019m sure most of them will.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>6. Limitar o tempo que passa a pensar nelas<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56443 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/thinking-woman.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher pensativa a olhar atrav\u00e9s de uma janela de vidro atrav\u00e9s de um vidro\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/thinking-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/thinking-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/thinking-woman-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, you\u2019ve physically removed your ex and everyone who reminded you of them. You\u2019ve narrowed down the people you can talk to about them, but despite that, this person is still constantly present in the back of your mind.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The worst part is that you\u2019ve started thinking that there is nothing more you can do about it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You\u2019ve stopped going to places where you know you could meet them, you\u2019ve cut ties with everyone they know, you\u2019re not reaching out to them, you\u2019re not stalking their profiles, you\u2019re not asking around about them\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But despite all of this, it looks like you\u2019re not going anywhere. This person is still <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">o \u00fanico<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> pensamos nisso desde o amanhecer at\u00e9 ao anoitecer e, naturalmente, sentimo-nos impotentes.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, the trick is in limiting the time you\u2019re allowed to think about your ex. Of course, it would be ideal if you could just snap your fingers and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/11-things-to-do-when-you-cant-stop-thinking-about-him\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">deixar de pensar neles<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, since that is impossible, it would be great if you could begin with some baby steps. For starters, give yourself let\u2019s say half an hour a day when this person is allowed to exist in your brain.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sempre que pensar nelas fora deste per\u00edodo de tempo, lembre-se da sua decis\u00e3o e deixe os seus pensamentos para mais tarde. \u00c9 claro que deve reduzir este tempo a cada dia ou semana que passa.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>7. Ter esperan\u00e7a&nbsp;<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56486 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-sitting-on-dock.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher loira sentada numa doca junto ao lago\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-sitting-on-dock.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-sitting-on-dock-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-sitting-on-dock-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whenever you\u2019re going through a tough time in your life, including the breakup of your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeira rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, the crucial thing is to not lose hope. Instead, try to be optimistic and to have faith in a better tomorrow, no matter the problems you\u2019re facing.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Isto \u00e9 muito importante quando se trata de ultrapassar a sua primeira <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">amor verdadeiro<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> tamb\u00e9m. Independentemente da forma como se sente agora, tem de estar consciente de que voltar\u00e1 a amar e que o <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/tenha-fe-que-deus-lhe-enviara-a-pessoa-certa-no-momento-certo\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">pessoa certa<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> vir\u00e1.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether you believe it or not, someone will come along who you\u2019ll love more than you loved your ex.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Algu\u00e9m que vos vai curar <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and help you raise you from the ashes; someone who will make you forget all of this pain you\u2019re facing now and who will help you leave all of it in the past, where it belongs.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know that hearing this now makes you think that I\u2019m just trying to comfort you and make you feel better but it really is the truth and you have to put all of your strength into believing it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nova vida<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> awaits you and sooner or later, this will be nothing but a distant memory. In fact, you\u2019ll remember your first <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">amor verdadeiro<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> com um sorriso no rosto e nada mais.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>8. Concentrar-se nos cuidados pessoais<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56452 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/girl-reading-book.jpg\" alt=\"Rapariga bonita a ler um livro em casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/girl-reading-book.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/girl-reading-book-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/girl-reading-book-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Este \u00e9 o momento em que precisa de se concentrar em <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/tirar-as-pessoas-toxicas-da-minha-vida-e-o-meu-metodo-favorito-de-auto-cuidado\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">autocuidado<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> primeiro. Para um <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">alguns anos<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Se amas essa pessoa com todo o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e lhe d\u00e1s <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro lugar<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> na sua vida e agora tem de aprender a quebrar esse ciclo.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talvez tenha mudado para se adaptar melhor a eles. Talvez tenha perdido a pessoa que costumava ser, mas agora \u00e9 a altura de recuperar a sua <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">autoestima<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> e para nos encontrarmos de novo.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of wasting entire days on thinking about your ex, focus on self-improvement. Work on your appearance, intellect, emotions, career&#8230;whatever helps.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The bottom line is that you should invest your energy into becoming the person you\u2019re destined to be. Work on personal progress, do all the things you\u2019ve always wanted to do and please all of your heart\u2019s deepest desires.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mime-se, aumente a sua <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">autoestima<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, pr\u00e1tica <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">cuidado pessoal,<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> e faz tudo o que puderes para te fazeres feliz, porque ningu\u00e9m o far\u00e1 por ti.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>9. Pedir ajuda<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56460 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/two-women-hugging.jpg\" alt=\"Duas jovens mulheres abra\u00e7am-se ao ar livre\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/two-women-hugging.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/two-women-hugging-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/two-women-hugging-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Listen carefully: there is no shame in admitting that you can\u2019t handle some life situations on your own and that you could use a hand while going through them.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No, this doesn\u2019t apply just to things like the death of a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/as-raparigas-mais-fortes-tem-um-ente-querido-no-ceu\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ente querido<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, a divorce, or job loss-you\u2019re allowed to grieve someone who is still alive and over the <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">desgosto<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeira rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> esquerda.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have the right to feel the way you do and nobody can tell you that your suffering makes you weak, immature, or that it\u2019s irrelevant.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Antes de mais, tente procurar ajuda junto do seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">melhores amigos<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> e fam\u00edlia. \u00c9 prov\u00e1vel que a maioria das pessoas que o rodeiam j\u00e1 tenha passado pela mesma situa\u00e7\u00e3o no passado, pelo que a sua valiosa experi\u00eancia pode, sem d\u00favida, servir-lhe de conselho.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m not saying that you should blindly follow their patterns of behavior, since we all heal in a different manner and at a different pace, but what you can do is look up to them. Besides, other people\u2019s stories will make you see that everyone gets over every possible pain, sooner or later.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If this doesn\u2019t help, don\u2019t be embarrassed to look for professional help. Go talk to an expert who will give you the push you need to start rationalizing things and to begin your healing process in a healthy way.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>10. Aprender com a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56491 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-on-swing.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher jovem sentada num baloi\u00e7o de um parque infantil\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-on-swing.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-on-swing-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-on-swing-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Em vez de ver esta separa\u00e7\u00e3o como a pior coisa que lhe poderia ter acontecido, tente observar tudo o que se passou de uma perspetiva diferente.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Antes de mais, o seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o amorosa<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> wasn&#8217;t all <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">coisas m\u00e1s<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">-it had its beautiful moments. Please don\u2019t allow those moments to be wiped from your memory and for all the <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">coisas m\u00e1s<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> que aconteceu ultimamente para os apagar.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Independentemente do seu fim, ainda tinha o seu valor e isso <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">uma pessoa<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> que namoraste durante tanto tempo merece ficar na tua mem\u00f3ria. Sim, acabou, mas foi bom enquanto durou.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Secondly, if you\u2019re wise, you\u2019ll use your failed romance as a tough but valuable lesson. It will help you learn about love, about the opposite sex, about life and relationships, and most importantly-about yourself.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Veja isto como uma oportunidade para observar o seu <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/5-sinais-de-que-esta-preso-a-maus-padroes-de-relacionamento\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">padr\u00f5es de namoro t\u00f3xicos<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Quais foram os vossos erros durante esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What are the things you\u2019re looking for and <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">os<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> you won\u2019t tolerate again? What is your preferable type of partner and what are your deal breakers?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Como \u00e9 que isto o pode ajudar a encontrar o <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">pessoa certa<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Out of all the lessons your break up can teach you, this one is crucial: you don\u2019t need anyone to survive-you just have to <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">convencer-se a si pr\u00f3prio<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of that. After all, for all this time, you were convinced that you couldn\u2019t make it without your partner and that you would die if they left your side.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, there you are, safe and sound. Yes, you&#8217;re going through your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro desgosto<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> but what matters is that you\u2019re still whole and complete.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, I guess you\u2019re way stronger than you assumed.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>11. Don\u2019t rush yourself into a new relationship<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56489 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-holding-hands-1.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher e homem de m\u00e3os dadas numa rua da cidade\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-holding-hands-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-holding-hands-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-holding-hands-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Asking for advice from your loved ones doesn\u2019t mean that you should go against your heart\u2019s desires. This especially applies to the situation when everyone tells you to fight fire with fire and that the best way to forget your ex is to get yourself involved into a new, <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o amorosa<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ASAP &#8211; like that&#8217;s a piece of cake.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even though there is nothing wrong with falling in love again, please don\u2019t force yourself into doing anything you\u2019re not ready for. Don\u2019t rush yourself into a <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> porque isso s\u00f3 far\u00e1 com que se sinta pior do que antes.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Para al\u00e9m de dar a sua bagagem emocional do seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> uma hip\u00f3tese de arruinar a sua <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/a-solteirice-e-a-magia-dos-novos-comecos\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">novo come\u00e7o<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Se a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o for iniciada pelas raz\u00f5es erradas, \u00e9 imposs\u00edvel que seja bem sucedida. Afinal de contas, ningu\u00e9m merece ser o seu ponto - seria injusto arrastar uma terceira pessoa para a sua montanha russa emocional.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It doesn\u2019t matter that you have broken off for good with your ex-you still have some unresolved issues with yourself and that is not fruitful soil for a new healthy romance.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>12. Mas est\u00e1 aberto a um novo amor<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56493 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-on-the-beach.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher e homem sentados em bicicletas de m\u00e3os dadas\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-on-the-beach.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-on-the-beach-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-on-the-beach-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No entanto, h\u00e1 uma diferen\u00e7a entre levantar a guarda e condenar-se a uma vida sem amor e n\u00e3o saltar de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o para outra. N\u00e3o vale a pena fugir de um potencial amor e este tipo de abordagem pode causar-lhe muito mais danos do que pensa.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Therefore, if love knocks on your door, don\u2019t push it away. Be careful but embrace it openly.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don\u2019t get me wrong-I\u2019m not here to promise you that you\u2019ll never get your heart broken again. The truth is that there is no way to protect yourself from that possibility.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sim, o amor \u00e9 sempre um risco. No entanto, \u00e9 um risco que vale a pena correr.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Outra coisa a que deve prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 n\u00e3o comparar as outras pessoas da sua vida com o seu ex.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To be honest: I don\u2019t know which is worse: thinking that they were the best and rejecting potential partners because they\u2019re not your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro namorado<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ou namorada, ou estar convencido de que toda a gente o vai magoar da mesma forma que o seu ex o fez.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Either way, by doing any of these things, you\u2019re only giving them power over you. You\u2019ll sabotage your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/true-love\/coupled-up\/esta-na-altura-de-comecares-um-novo-capitulo-da-tua-vida-comigo\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nova vida<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and future relationships right from the start if you\u2019re looking for your ex\u2019s replacement.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>13. Dar a si pr\u00f3prio tempo para sarar<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56495 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-on-beach.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher de vestido branco a andar nas ondas \" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-on-beach.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-on-beach-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-on-beach-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sim, tudo isto tem a ver com a supera\u00e7\u00e3o da sua <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and moving on. However, in order to know the answer to the question: \u201c<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Como \u00e9 que posso esquecer o meu primeiro amor?<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?\u201d, you have to fix your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Healing is a process which takes time, devotion, and energy. So, please don\u2019t expect it to be done overnight.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No, I\u2019m not saying that you should dedicate your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">vida inteira<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to this person and that you should allow yourself to grieve over them for the rest of eternity. However, you can\u2019t repress your emotions and pretend that everything is in perfect order either.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A good idea would be to set yourself a deadline. Mark a certain date on your calendar and allow yourself to suffer up to then. Then, when that date comes, you\u2019re no longer allowed to think or talk about that person. No, you won\u2019t be completely healed then either, but you will have made significant progress and you&#8217;ll have the answer to the question: &#8220;How do you get over your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeiro amor<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-56537\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-To-Get-Over-Your-First-Love-13-Steps-To-Success-Pinterest.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-To-Get-Over-Your-First-Love-13-Steps-To-Success-Pinterest.png 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-To-Get-Over-Your-First-Love-13-Steps-To-Success-Pinterest-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-To-Get-Over-Your-First-Love-13-Steps-To-Success-Pinterest-683x1024.png 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-To-Get-Over-Your-First-Love-13-Steps-To-Success-Pinterest-768x1152.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How do you get over your first love? This is the question all of us have wanted the answer to at least once in our life.&nbsp; It could be the first person we dated back in high school as 16 year olds, someone we shared our first kiss with, the first person we said &#8220;I&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":56410,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-56301","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-To-Get-Over-Your-First-Love-13-Steps-To-Success.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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