{"id":56512,"date":"2020-03-26T19:06:02","date_gmt":"2020-03-26T19:06:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=56512"},"modified":"2022-02-15T00:39:09","modified_gmt":"2022-02-15T00:39:09","slug":"devo-enviar-uma-mensagem-ao-meu-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/devo-enviar-uma-mensagem-ao-meu-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"Devo enviar uma mensagem ao meu ex? 9 regras de ouro: quando enviar mensagens de texto (e quando n\u00e3o enviar)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You&#8217;re looking at your phone, your heart is beating faster than normal, you\u2019re thinking about a million possible case scenarios while asking yourself: <em>Devo ou n\u00e3o enviar mensagens de texto ao meu ex?<\/em>?<\/p>\n<p>Gostava que houvesse um rob\u00f4 virtual que pudesse decidir estas coisas por n\u00f3s e (de prefer\u00eancia) prever o futuro, mas a \u00fanica pessoa que pode dar a resposta certa a esta pergunta \u00e9 VOC\u00ca (com a ajuda da minha assist\u00eancia, claro).<\/p>\n<p>Texting your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend on impulse is by far the worst thing you could do (speaking from experience) and it&#8217;s good that you decided to seek virtual advice first.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56543 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/thoughtful-young-girl-texting.jpg\" alt=\"Jovem rapariga atenciosa a enviar mensagens de texto para o telem\u00f3vel enquanto est\u00e1 sentada numa mesa\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/thoughtful-young-girl-texting.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/thoughtful-young-girl-texting-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/thoughtful-young-girl-texting-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Ent\u00e3o, o que fazer quando o desejo de enviar mensagens de texto ao seu ex-namorado ou ex-namorada se torna forte, ou seja, insuport\u00e1vel?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Antes de mais, deve respirar fundo, guardar o telem\u00f3vel e ler atentamente as seguintes regras de ouro que o ajudar\u00e3o a decidir se <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/pare-de-lhe-enviar-mensagens-e-veja-o-que-acontece-5-razoes-para-ser-uma-boa-escolha\/\">enviar mensagens de texto ao seu ex<\/a> \u00e9 algo que se deve fazer (ou n\u00e3o).<\/p>\n<p>Before we dive into all that, let&#8217;s first talk about the background of this strong urge of texting your ex!<\/p>\n<h2>Porque \u00e9 que sentimos esta forte vontade de enviar mensagens de texto a um ex?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56544 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-texting-on-her-phone.jpg\" alt=\"Jovem triste com cabelo comprido a enviar mensagens de texto para o telem\u00f3vel numa paisagem natural\" width=\"798\" height=\"510\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-texting-on-her-phone.jpg 798w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-texting-on-her-phone-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-texting-on-her-phone-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 798px) 100vw, 798px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Depois de uma rutura, entramos numa nova fase que \u00e9 conhecida como p\u00f3s-rutura.<\/p>\n<p>Esta fase inclui <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-maneiras-de-quebrar-o-palito\/\">lidar com a separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> \u00e0 nossa maneira, o que muitas vezes inclui ver repetidamente as fotografias que temos com o nosso ex, pensar porque \u00e9 que acab\u00e1mos em primeiro lugar, persegui-lo nas redes sociais (se ainda o tivermos na nossa lista de amigos), comer toneladas de gelado enquanto revemos os mesmos programas de televis\u00e3o; o resto \u00e9 consigo.<\/p>\n<p>The main reason why we would ever think about texting our ex is that they&#8217;re no longer here, right?<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s because we got used to spending time with them, we got used to their closeness, way of thinking, habits&#8230; And now, when all that is gone, we&#8217;re left with this void in our heart and we feel like something&#8217;s missing.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>As maiores motiva\u00e7\u00f5es para enviar mensagens de texto a um ex s\u00e3o os sentimentos de solid\u00e3o, car\u00eancia, aborrecimento, nostalgia dos velhos tempos, etc.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-60652 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-looking-at-a-a-phone-on-a-table.jpg\" alt=\"rapariga triste com as m\u00e3os em cima de uma mesa e a cabe\u00e7a apoiada nas m\u00e3os a olhar para um telem\u00f3vel em cima da mesa\" width=\"800\" height=\"501\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-looking-at-a-a-phone-on-a-table.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-looking-at-a-a-phone-on-a-table-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-looking-at-a-a-phone-on-a-table-768x481.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Todos estes sentimentos contribuem para que queiramos a nossa ex-namorada\/ex-namorado de volta e ficamos convencidos de que basta um telefonema ou uma mensagem de texto para mudar tudo, apagar o nosso sofrimento e fazer-nos sentir melhor.<\/p>\n<p>The post-break-up phase is a confusing phase where we&#8217;re not ready for meeting new people or jumping into a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/7-sinais-de-alerta-a-que-deve-estar-atento-numa-nova-relacao\/\">nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>, aka a rebound relationship, yet and we&#8217;re also not ready to let go of the previous one.<\/p>\n<p>In such a situation, it&#8217;s easy to get lost and do things on impulse, which is often followed by regret and awkwardness.<\/p>\n<p>Assim, a quest\u00e3o de saber se <em>Envio mensagens de texto \u00e0 minha ex-namorada\/namorado?<\/em> s\u00f3 pode ser respondida pelas seguintes regras de ouro que nos dir\u00e3o quando \u00e9 correto enviar mensagens de texto e quando n\u00e3o \u00e9!<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong><em>Quando \u00e9 que \u00e9 correto enviar mensagens de texto ao teu ex?<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<h2>1. It&#8217;s okay to text your ex after the no contact period<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56545 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/asian-young-girl-texting-a-message.jpg\" alt=\"Jovem asi\u00e1tica a enviar uma mensagem de texto para o seu telem\u00f3vel enquanto caminha na natureza\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/asian-young-girl-texting-a-message.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/asian-young-girl-texting-a-message-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/asian-young-girl-texting-a-message-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Um dos maiores erros que muitos de n\u00f3s cometemos ou somos culpados de ter cometido no passado \u00e9 enviar mensagens de texto ao nosso ex logo ap\u00f3s uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Isto \u00e9 um grande erro, porque s\u00f3 vai prolongar o vosso sofrimento e deixar-vos ainda mais confusos. Depois de cada separa\u00e7\u00e3o, o tempo e a regra de n\u00e3o contacto tornam-se os nossos melhores amigos.<\/p>\n<p>Porqu\u00ea? Porque tanto voc\u00ea como o seu ex-companheiro precisam de tempo para sarar, para pensar em tudo o que aconteceu, para se desintoxicarem de tudo e para relaxarem.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, apressar-se a enviar uma mensagem de texto ao seu ex logo ap\u00f3s a separa\u00e7\u00e3o ou ap\u00f3s uma semana n\u00e3o \u00e9, definitivamente, uma boa ideia.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-60653 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-looking-at-phone-while-lying-in-bed.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher triste e bonita a olhar para um telem\u00f3vel enquanto est\u00e1 deitada na cama\" width=\"800\" height=\"501\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-looking-at-phone-while-lying-in-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-looking-at-phone-while-lying-in-bed-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-looking-at-phone-while-lying-in-bed-768x481.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s advisable that you first stick with the no contact period for a few weeks and after that, if you still have the urge to text your ex, you should do so.<\/p>\n<p>And even then there&#8217;s no guarantee that they will text you back but still, the chances are certainly much higher.<\/p>\n<p>Quando enviar uma mensagem de texto ao seu ex, lembre-se de a manter leve, porque as mensagens de texto pela primeira vez devem ser descontra\u00eddas e o menos embara\u00e7osas poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n<p>And don&#8217;t overdo it with emojis because less is always more (especially when it comes to ex texts).<\/p>\n<p>Ver tamb\u00e9m: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/8-razoes-pelas-quais-e-importante-seguir-a-regra-do-nao-contacto\/\">8 raz\u00f5es pelas quais \u00e9 importante seguir a regra de n\u00e3o estabelecer contacto<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>2. Em ocasi\u00f5es especiais (se tiverem terminado em boas rela\u00e7\u00f5es)<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-60654 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-birthday-message-on-smartphone.jpg\" alt=\"m\u00e3o de mulher num smartphone com uma mensagem colorida de feliz anivers\u00e1rio no ecr\u00e3\" width=\"800\" height=\"500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-birthday-message-on-smartphone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-birthday-message-on-smartphone-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-birthday-message-on-smartphone-768x480.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Outra ocasi\u00e3o em que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 problema em enviar mensagens de texto \u00e0 sua ex \u00e9 em ocasi\u00f5es especiais como o Natal, a P\u00e1scoa, o seu anivers\u00e1rio e outras semelhantes. Mas a \u00eanfase est\u00e1 na frase:<strong> \u2018if you ended on good terms\u2019<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Nem todas as separa\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o iguais. Algumas separa\u00e7\u00f5es acontecem devido a trai\u00e7\u00e3o, mentira ou uma forma de comportamento abusivo em que duas pessoas terminam a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o abruptamente e sem qualquer desejo de continuar a comunicar.<\/p>\n<p>If that&#8217;s what happened between the two of you, then you should definitely not text your ex on special occasions because it would be totally weird, right? Just think about it.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-56546 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-sitting-on-a-bench-and-texting.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher com len\u00e7o na cabe\u00e7a sentada num banco e a enviar mensagens de texto para o telem\u00f3vel\" width=\"800\" height=\"508\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-sitting-on-a-bench-and-texting.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-sitting-on-a-bench-and-texting-300x191.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-sitting-on-a-bench-and-texting-768x488.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>For example, let&#8217;s say that the last message from them or from you was I don&#8217;t want to see you ever again and now after some time you ask yourself: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/devo-enviar-uma-mensagem-de-parabens-ao-meu-ex\/\">Devo enviar uma mensagem de feliz anivers\u00e1rio ao meu ex<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p>And then you do so, out of the blue\u2014you text them Happy birthday. The transition wouldn&#8217;t be really smooth but instead rather awkward and confusing.<\/p>\n<p>However, if you ended on good terms, then you should text your ex on special occasions (if that&#8217;s what you desire) but keep in mind to do so thoughtfully.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t send the same message on all social networks from WhatsApp to Facebook, but instead just choose one.<\/p>\n<h2>3. When you&#8217;re concerned about them<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56547 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/girl-with-long-hair-texting.jpg\" alt=\"Rapariga com cabelo comprido a enviar mensagens de texto num fundo natural desfocado \" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/girl-with-long-hair-texting.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/girl-with-long-hair-texting-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/girl-with-long-hair-texting-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Aconteceu algo ao seu ex recentemente, preocupa-se com a sua sa\u00fade, os seus h\u00e1bitos t\u00f3xicos ou algo semelhante?<\/p>\n<p>Do you feel like you would get huge relief after you text them and see what&#8217;s going on in their life and that they&#8217;re okay?<\/p>\n<p>A isto chama-se um check-in p\u00f3s-rutura. Passado algum tempo, muitas pessoas chegam a um ponto em que, por alguma raz\u00e3o, est\u00e3o simplesmente preocupadas com o seu ex-companheiro e este sentimento de preocupa\u00e7\u00e3o constante torna-se presente na sua vida quotidiana.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t worry, if you&#8217;re feeling like this, know that it&#8217;s totally normal.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-60655 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-holding-cellphone.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste com telem\u00f3vel na m\u00e3o\" width=\"800\" height=\"500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-holding-cellphone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-holding-cellphone-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-holding-cellphone-768x480.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>It just shows that you&#8217;re a human being made up of flesh and blood, that you&#8217;re empathetic and that you care about other people, no matter whether they&#8217;re your ex or someone else.<\/p>\n<p>In that case, it&#8217;s totally okay to text your ex because if you don&#8217;t, this chronic concern will haunt you and make you feel even more restless.<\/p>\n<p>When texting them, it&#8217;s important to mention that element of you being concerned about them, so that they don&#8217;t get the wrong idea and think you&#8217;re only interested in getting back together (or similar).<\/p>\n<p>You need to let them know that the main reason why you&#8217;re reaching out to them is you being concerned about them and not something else.<\/p>\n<p>And I&#8217;m sure they&#8217;ll be more than happy to text you back and reassure you that everything&#8217;s all right.<\/p>\n<h2>4. Quando se sente arrependido<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56550 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-in-red-dress-texting-on-phone.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher jovem de vestido vermelho a enviar mensagens de texto para o telem\u00f3vel\" width=\"800\" height=\"525\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-in-red-dress-texting-on-phone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-in-red-dress-texting-on-phone-300x197.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-in-red-dress-texting-on-phone-768x504.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>As already said, every break-up experience is unique. Some partners break up due to the cheating history of one partner or both, because they\u2019re no longer in love with each other, because they&#8217;re <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/5-sinais-de-que-esta-preso-a-maus-padroes-de-relacionamento\/\">sentir-se preso na rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>&#8230; you name it.<\/p>\n<p>Alguns parceiros chegam a um acordo m\u00fatuo de que seguir caminhos separados \u00e9 o melhor para eles e outros terminam de uma forma mais agressiva (gritos, discuss\u00f5es, etc.).<\/p>\n<p>If for some reason, you feel like there&#8217;s a burden on your chest due to all the harsh words you said or due to something you did, then it&#8217;s totally okay to text your ex.<\/p>\n<p>Quando sabemos que mago\u00e1mos algu\u00e9m de uma forma ou de outra, o nosso subconsciente n\u00e3o nos deixar\u00e1 em paz t\u00e3o facilmente.<\/p>\n<p>Seremos sempre lembrados do que fizemos porque todas essas palavras e ac\u00e7\u00f5es est\u00e3o enterradas no nosso \u00edntimo.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-60657 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-holding-smartphone-in-one-hand.jpg\" alt=\"Rapariga triste sentada num sof\u00e1 com um smartphone numa m\u00e3o\" width=\"800\" height=\"501\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-holding-smartphone-in-one-hand.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-holding-smartphone-in-one-hand-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-holding-smartphone-in-one-hand-768x481.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Por isso, a \u00fanica forma de lidar com isso \u00e9 pedindo desculpa e procurando o perd\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Given that there&#8217;s no precise time when you&#8217;ll start feeling that way, you shouldn&#8217;t strictly wait to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-que-enviar-ao-seu-ex-depois-de-nao-ter-contacto\/\">enviar-lhe uma mensagem de texto ap\u00f3s o per\u00edodo de aus\u00eancia de contacto<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Deve faz\u00ea-lo quando lhe apetecer, mas apenas isso.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t turn texting you\u2019re sorry into something else, like convincing them to get back with you.<\/p>\n<p>Diga apenas que lamenta, aguarde a resposta e depois continue com o per\u00edodo sem contacto e envie-lhe uma mensagem depois disso (se ainda lhe apetecer).<\/p>\n<p><strong><em><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\">When You Shouldn&#8217;t Text Your Ex<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>1. Nunca deves enviar uma mensagem de texto \u00e0 tua ex imediatamente ap\u00f3s a separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56551 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-crying-with-phone.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher jovem a chorar com a cabe\u00e7a apoiada na sofa e o telem\u00f3vel na m\u00e3o\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-crying-with-phone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-crying-with-phone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-crying-with-phone-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Enviar uma mensagem de texto ao seu ex imediatamente ap\u00f3s a separa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 como saltar para uma piscina cheia de confus\u00e3o, dor e embara\u00e7o em vez de \u00e1gua.<\/p>\n<p>Como j\u00e1 foi dito, o per\u00edodo p\u00f3s-rutura consiste em tirar algum tempo para si pr\u00f3prio, curar-se, encontrar novos passatempos e fazer as coisas de que costumava gostar.<\/p>\n<p>O per\u00edodo p\u00f3s-separa\u00e7\u00e3o n\u00e3o \u00e9, de forma alguma, para se castigar pelo que aconteceu, pensar demasiado, mudar de ideias ou enviar mensagens ao seu ex demasiado cedo.<\/p>\n<p>Em vez disso, volto a repetir que deve esperar algumas semanas para o fazer.<\/p>\n<p>To help you understand it better, I&#8217;ll tell you what happened to one of my best friends when she decided to contact her ex immediately after the break-up.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-60658 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-in-front-of-table.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada com a m\u00e3o na palma da m\u00e3o em frente a uma mesa com um smarthone\" width=\"800\" height=\"501\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-in-front-of-table.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-in-front-of-table-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-in-front-of-table-768x481.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>So, my friend texted him and she didn&#8217;t get a text back. She was convinced that she\u2019d never get a text back, so she started calling her ex, too. And do you know what he did? He blocked her on all social media networks. Yup.<\/p>\n<p>Escusado ser\u00e1 dizer que ela ficou zangada e desiludida, porque as suas inten\u00e7\u00f5es estavam no s\u00edtio certo.<\/p>\n<p>Ela s\u00f3 queria saber como \u00e9 que ele estava, como \u00e9 que ele estava a lidar com esta coisa da separa\u00e7\u00e3o, e em vez de receber uma resposta positiva, acabou por ser bloqueada.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, para evitar que isto aconte\u00e7a, evite enviar mensagens de texto ao seu ex demasiado cedo (e considere esconder o seu telem\u00f3vel de si pr\u00f3prio por enquanto, se necess\u00e1rio).<\/p>\n<h2>2. Quando se sente s\u00f3 e\/ou com tes\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-56554 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/lonely-girl-on-chair-by-the-window.jpg\" alt=\"Rapariga solit\u00e1ria sentada numa cadeira junto \u00e0 janela \" width=\"800\" height=\"500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/lonely-girl-on-chair-by-the-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/lonely-girl-on-chair-by-the-window-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/lonely-girl-on-chair-by-the-window-768x480.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Many people forget that it&#8217;s totally normal to feel lonely after you have broken up with someone because you probably spent lots of time together and now when all that is gone, you feel like something&#8217;s missing.<\/p>\n<p>Sente que nenhuma outra pessoa o pode fazer sentir melhor e que s\u00f3 a sua presen\u00e7a \u00e9 crucial para a sua felicidade.<\/p>\n<p>Quando come\u00e7amos a pensar assim, temos de nos lembrar de que tudo est\u00e1 na nossa cabe\u00e7a.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s important not to confuse <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/romantic-love\/ser-solteiro-2\/6-dicas-para-estar-sozinho-sem-se-tornar-solitario\/\">o sentimento de solid\u00e3o<\/a> com amor.<\/p>\n<p>O sentimento de solid\u00e3o \u00e9 um sentimento de isolamento que surge como consequ\u00eancia da rutura com uma pessoa com quem passava a maior parte do tempo.<\/p>\n<p>E esta sensa\u00e7\u00e3o passa normalmente ao fim de algum tempo. <strong>Portanto, o TEMPO \u00e9 crucial aqui!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-60659 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-laying-in-bed-and-looking-at-phone.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher triste deitada na cama e a olhar para o telem\u00f3vel\" width=\"800\" height=\"502\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-laying-in-bed-and-looking-at-phone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-laying-in-bed-and-looking-at-phone-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-laying-in-bed-and-looking-at-phone-768x482.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You shouldn&#8217;t text your ex just because you&#8217;re feeling lonely because there are many things you could do to distract yourself and to try to exterminate that feeling of loneliness.<\/p>\n<p>Also, you shouldn&#8217;t text your ex if you&#8217;re feeling horny because initiating physical contact after you just broke up is a huge no-no.<\/p>\n<p>Porqu\u00ea? Porque o contacto f\u00edsico interferiria com o seu estado emocional e, quando combinado, criaria uma montanha-russa emocional e prolongaria o seu per\u00edodo de cura.<\/p>\n<p>So, when you&#8217;re feeling lonely and\/or horny, distract yourself with other things, go for a drink with your friends, spend time with your family or cuddle your pet.<\/p>\n<p>Fa\u00e7a o que quiser, mas N\u00c3O mande mensagens ao seu ex, porque se o fizer, pode arrepender-se.<\/p>\n<h2>3. Quando se sente nostalgia<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-56553 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-with-red-hair.jpg\" alt=\"Rapariga asi\u00e1tica triste com cabelo ruivo\" width=\"800\" height=\"523\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-with-red-hair.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-with-red-hair-300x196.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-with-red-hair-768x502.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>O sentimento de nostalgia est\u00e1 intimamente relacionado com o sentimento de solid\u00e3o e estes dois termos surgem frequentemente juntos.<\/p>\n<p>A nostalgia \u00e9 normalmente evocada quando se pensa na rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada e nos seus bons (e maus) dias, quando se persegue o ex nas redes sociais, quando alguns objectos ou presentes em sua casa lhe fazem lembrar o ex, quando v\u00ea todas as fotografias que tiraram juntos e assim por diante.<\/p>\n<p>Now you&#8217;re asking yourself where it all went and why it had to end.<\/p>\n<p>At\u00e9 come\u00e7a a convencer-se de que talvez ainda haja esperan\u00e7a para voc\u00eas os dois e que, se enviar apenas aquela mensagem de texto, tudo ir\u00e1 mudar.<\/p>\n<p>N\u00c3O! <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/12-razoes-pelas-quais-ele-nunca-te-manda-uma-mensagem-primeiro-mas-responde-sempre-quando-tu-lhe-mandas-uma\/\">Don&#8217;t text him<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-60661 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-with-phone-in-one-hand.jpg\" alt=\"Camisa triste sentada com o telem\u00f3vel numa m\u00e3o, ao ar livre, durante o dia\" width=\"800\" height=\"501\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-with-phone-in-one-hand.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-with-phone-in-one-hand-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-girl-with-phone-in-one-hand-768x481.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s important to understand that you&#8217;re feeling nostalgic because you&#8217;re thinking about what you could have become if things were different and you&#8217;re driven by the idea of you two getting together again (even if deep down in your heart you know this is probably not a good idea).<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re feeling nostalgic because you can&#8217;t get over what you had and instead focus on the present.<\/p>\n<p>Nostalgia is a tricky thing; it has the power to make us feel good again just by thinking about that one special kiss but you shouldn&#8217;t fall for it!<\/p>\n<p>Whenever you&#8217;re feeling like that, tell nostalgia to fuck off away from you and focus on something else.<\/p>\n<p>Encontre um programa de televis\u00e3o interessante, v\u00e1 ao gin\u00e1sio, d\u00ea um passeio, aumente as suas endorfinas e passe algum tempo ao ar livre!<\/p>\n<p>Trust me, after a certain period of time, your nostalgia\/heartbroken phase (or whatever phase you&#8217;re in) will end, your self-awareness will kick in and you will feel renewed!<\/p>\n<p>Ver tamb\u00e9m: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/descodificar-o-comportamento-dos-homens-depois-de-uma-separacao-7-sinais-de-que-estao-a-sofrer\/\">Decoding A Guy\u2019s Behavior After A Break-Up (7 Signs He&#8217;s Hurting)<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>4. Quando o seu ex est\u00e1 zangado consigo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56557 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-in-black.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher triste com roupa preta\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-in-black.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-in-black-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-in-black-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I think this one is self-explanatory but we&#8217;ll still explain everything in detail.<\/p>\n<p>So, if your ex is angry at you, there must be a reason for it and perhaps you know it (or perhaps you don&#8217;t).<\/p>\n<p>All in all, texting your ex when you know they&#8217;re angry at you is definitely not a good idea.<\/p>\n<p>Porqu\u00ea? Porque pode tornar as coisas ainda piores do que eram inicialmente.<\/p>\n<p>You shouldn&#8217;t use text messages as a means of figuring out why they&#8217;re mad at you or to make them less angry because you will not succeed in it.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-60662 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-near-window.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher triste sentada perto de uma janela com o telem\u00f3vel numa m\u00e3o\" width=\"800\" height=\"502\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-near-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-near-window-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-near-window-768x482.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Only they know why they&#8217;re mad in the first place and how to deal with it. Only they can help themselves, so there&#8217;s no need to make this harder than it already is.<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s no need to create additional complications. In this case, you shouldn&#8217;t even try to get your ex back either.<\/p>\n<p>Em vez disso, deve esperar pacientemente e talvez contact\u00e1-los ap\u00f3s o per\u00edodo de aus\u00eancia de contacto.<\/p>\n<p>After all, then you&#8217;ll have higher chances of them texting you back.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Se a rela\u00e7\u00e3o era abusiva<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56558 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-blonde-woman-with-long-hair.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher loira triste com cabelo comprido sentada junto a um muro de madeira \" width=\"800\" height=\"521\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-blonde-woman-with-long-hair.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-blonde-woman-with-long-hair-300x195.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-blonde-woman-with-long-hair-768x500.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Nestes tempos de encontros modernos, h\u00e1 cada vez mais pessoas t\u00f3xicas que se tornam parceiros abusivos.<\/p>\n<p>N\u00e3o me refiro apenas aos maus tratos f\u00edsicos, mas tamb\u00e9m aos maus tratos emocionais (que muitas vezes t\u00eam consequ\u00eancias muito mais graves).<\/p>\n<p>Assim, se a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o era abusiva, ou seja, se o seu parceiro a maltratava de uma forma ou de outra (gritava consigo, tratava-a como merda, tinha ataques de ci\u00fames, batia-lhe ou algo semelhante), ent\u00e3o n\u00e3o deve mesmo pensar em enviar-lhe mensagens de texto.<\/p>\n<p>Em vez disso, deve perguntar a si pr\u00f3prio por que raz\u00e3o quereria enviar-lhe uma mensagem de texto quando sabe o que lhe fizeram e como o fizeram sentir.<\/p>\n<p>Acha que o facto de lhe enviar uma mensagem de texto vai fazer com que se sinta arrependido por ter feito isso e que o vai motivar a pedir-lhe desculpa?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-60663 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-with-head-on-knees.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher triste com a cabe\u00e7a apoiada nos joelhos, sentada contra a parede\" width=\"800\" height=\"501\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-with-head-on-knees.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-with-head-on-knees-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-with-head-on-knees-768x481.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ou acha que mudaram e que deve verificar para ter a certeza? Se sim, pense novamente.<\/p>\n<p>Remember that abusers don&#8217;t change overnight. Their abusive personality often stems from their childhood and dealing with it is a serious process that involves lots of time and patience.<\/p>\n<p>So, no, there&#8217;s no need to text them if you know they treated you like shit because they most definitely haven&#8217;t changed and if they were sorry for it, they would have texted you first instead of waiting for you to do so.<\/p>\n<p>Em vez de lhes enviar mensagens de texto, \u00e9 preciso aprender <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/6-dicas-para-aprender-a-ser-solteiro-depois-de-uma-relacao-abusiva\/\">como ser solteiro depois de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2>Considera\u00e7\u00f5es finais<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56562 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-texting-drinking-coffee.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher jovem a enviar mensagens de texto enquanto bebe caf\u00e9 numa cafetaria \" width=\"800\" height=\"523\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-texting-drinking-coffee.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-texting-drinking-coffee-300x196.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-texting-drinking-coffee-768x502.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>After you&#8217;ve checked out the above golden rules about texting, if your answer to the question <em>Devo enviar uma mensagem ao meu ex?<\/em> is yes, then go for it! If your texting reasons are valid, you shouldn&#8217;t think too much about it and just do it (as Nike would say).<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, se a sua resposta \u00e0 quest\u00e3o de saber se deve ou n\u00e3o enviar mensagens de texto ao seu ex \u00e9 \"n\u00e3o\", ent\u00e3o deve abster-se de o fazer.<\/p>\n<p>Se, mesmo assim, decidir faz\u00ea-lo, poder\u00e1 sentir-se ainda mais <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/fases-da-rutura\/\">de cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/a> and confused if you don&#8217;t get a positive response.<\/p>\n<p>Also, you should respect your ex&#8217;s answer or lack of answer because whatever they answered you or not, that&#8217;s obviously what your ex wants and perhaps that&#8217;s exactly how it should be at the moment!<\/p>\n<p>Ver tamb\u00e9m: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/6-textos-que-te-vais-arrepender-de-lhe-ter-enviado-depois-da-separacao\/\">6 Textos que vais arrepender-te de lhe ter enviado depois da separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-56568 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/should-i-text-my-ex-9-golden-rules-when-to-text-and-when-not-to-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Devo enviar uma mensagem ao meu ex? 9 regras de ouro quando enviar mensagens de texto (e quando n\u00e3o enviar) pinterest\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/should-i-text-my-ex-9-golden-rules-when-to-text-and-when-not-to-pinterest.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/should-i-text-my-ex-9-golden-rules-when-to-text-and-when-not-to-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/should-i-text-my-ex-9-golden-rules-when-to-text-and-when-not-to-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You&#8217;re looking at your phone, your heart is beating faster than normal, you\u2019re thinking about a million possible case scenarios while asking yourself: Should I text my ex (or not)? 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