{"id":56642,"date":"2020-03-28T22:49:11","date_gmt":"2020-03-28T22:49:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=56642"},"modified":"2022-08-12T08:14:56","modified_gmt":"2022-08-12T08:14:56","slug":"como-reparar-um-casamento-desfeito","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-reparar-um-casamento-desfeito\/","title":{"rendered":"Como consertar um casamento desfeito: Um plano de resgate em 15 passos"},"content":{"rendered":"

No seu dia do casamento<\/a>, after you\u2019d walked down the aisle and were saying your marital vows, you thought that was it.<\/p>\n

Todos os seus problemas rom\u00e2nticos tinham desaparecido para sempre e estava prestes a viver feliz para sempre ao lado da pessoa amada.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, \u00e9 nesta cena que terminam todos os contos de fadas e filmes rom\u00e2nticos. Os protagonistas conseguiram ultrapassar todos os obst\u00e1culos e partem para a sua vida perfeita.<\/p>\n

No entanto, ningu\u00e9m nos diz o que vem a seguir.<\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m lhe fala dos problemas que o esperam, do facto de que pode facilmente ficar preso num casamento infeliz e ningu\u00e9m o avisa da situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o se est\u00e1 a desmoronar e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada que possa fazer.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

When you were listening to stories about marriage, nobody mentioned that one day, you would be sitting in your room, silently crying and wondering, “How can I save my marriage before it becomes too late?”<\/p>\n

Well, that’s why we’re here\u2014to give you that answer you’re so desperate to find.<\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar e acima de tudo, tem de parar de tentar descobrir como resolver sozinho um casamento desfeito.<\/p>\n

In fact, if you want a healthy marriage, you’ll have to team up with your spouse and you’ll both have to invest your entire selves into making it work.<\/p>\n

E aqui est\u00e1 exatamente como o fazer em 15 passos.<\/p>\n

1. Identifique os problemas do seu casamento<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Antes de resolver qualquer problema que possa ter e de tentar reparar o seu casamento infeliz<\/a>, firstly you have to know what you\u2019re fighting against.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the same with your marital problems; before anything else, you need to identify your problems.<\/p>\n

Veja se voc\u00ea e o seu c\u00f4njuge est\u00e3o na mesma p\u00e1gina. T\u00eam um ponto de vista semelhante sobre o vosso casamento e consideram as mesmas coisas como sendo os vossos problemas conjugais?<\/p>\n

\u00c9 poss\u00edvel que veja algo que ocorreu entre voc\u00eas os dois como uma grande coisa, enquanto a outra pessoa o observa como completamente irrelevante.<\/p>\n

Se isso acontecer, ter\u00e3o de encontrar um meio-termo e chegar a um acordo sobre quais s\u00e3o os vossos problemas mais importantes.<\/p>\n

Was it infidelity and now you’re going through an recupera\u00e7\u00e3o de casos<\/a>? Emocional, sexual, verbal ou abuso f\u00edsico<\/a>?<\/p>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Ou ter\u00e1 sido falta de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o e de aten\u00e7\u00e3o? Foi neglig\u00eancia emocional ou o vosso casamento caiu numa rotina?<\/p>\n

O que vos levou a estar aqui em primeiro lugar? Qual foi a causa inicial e o principal fator desencadeante?<\/p>\n

Be careful when trying to identify your problems and have in mind that in many cases, the ones you\u2019re having now are actually just a consequence of an issue you both thought you managed to leave behind ages ago.<\/p>\n

Pode tratar-se de um trauma profundamente enraizado que reprimiu ou de algo que nunca considerou relevante.<\/p>\n

2. Comunicar honestamente<\/h2>\n

\"Homem
\nSeja como for, a quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que nenhum dos vossos problemas conjugais \u00e9 irrelevante.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be ashamed to tell your partner exactly what\u2019s bothering you just because you think that they\u2019ll think of you as too weak or overly emotional.<\/p>\n

In fact, rebuilding healthy communication is the first step toward rebuilding your marriage and it’s one of the most important pieces of conselhos matrimoniais<\/a>. Esque\u00e7am os rancores, os passivo-agressivo<\/a> comportamento e sobre insultos.<\/p>\n

T\u00eam simplesmente de encontrar uma forma de falarem um com o outro com a maior honestidade poss\u00edvel, sem medo de serem julgados.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Speak your mind and tell one another everything that lies on your heart, everything that\u2019s hurting you and bothering you.<\/p>\n

There is no good marriage without good communication and you can\u2019t expect to make something out of yours until you learn the importance of opening up to your partner and until you realize that not every disagreement has to produce a fight.<\/p>\n

Lembrem-se que os dois podem ter opini\u00f5es diferentes sobre determinados assuntos e cabe-vos a voc\u00eas encontrar um ponto em comum quando isso acontecer, sem permitir que a situa\u00e7\u00e3o se transforme num confronto maior.<\/p>\n

3. Ver se h\u00e1 algo a corrigir<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

After you know what\u2019s mainly wrong with your relationship and after you\u2019ve talked about it directly with your significant other, it\u2019s time to be honest with yourself as well.<\/p>\n

Let me warn you\u2014fixing a failing marriage is hard work; it is a long-lasting process which doesn\u2019t only take a lot of time but it also requires much effort, numerous sacrifices and it can cost you more of your patience than you might think.<\/p>\n

So, is all of this hard work really worth it? Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not implying that it\u2019s not and neither am I advising you to ditch your entire relationship without a fight; I\u2019m just begging you to think things through as thoroughly as possible before making any final decisions.<\/p>\n

Vale a pena salvar o seu casamento?<\/a>? Is it worth the trouble you\u2019re certainly about to go through?<\/p>\n

\"Um<\/p>\n

Can it be fixed? Can you expect to have a happy marriage after you\u2019re done with this crisis or are you fighting in vain?<\/p>\n

Estas s\u00e3o as perguntas que voc\u00ea e o seu parceiro devem fazer a si pr\u00f3prios. Demorem o tempo que precisarem e, por favor, sejam realistas ao darem as respostas.<\/p>\n

Mesmo que os dois ainda se amem profundamente, podem ter a certeza de que o vosso o amor ser\u00e1 suficiente<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Of course, you\u2019ll take your emotions into consideration but don\u2019t disregard your reason either.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Se decidir dizer o \u00faltimo adeus ao seu c\u00f4njuge, concentre-se em fazer do seu div\u00f3rcio uma experi\u00eancia indolor.<\/p>\n

Concentre-se em reconstruir-se a si pr\u00f3prio em vez de se concentrar no seu casamento e em seguir em frente com a sua vida.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you\u2019re certain that both you and your partner have a desire to make this marriage work and that you both believe that it will succeed, go for it.<\/p>\n

Esque\u00e7a o que os outros dizem, siga o seu instinto e tente outra vez!<\/p>\n

4. Lembrem-se porque \u00e9 que se apaixonaram<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

So, your marriage is in big trouble, otherwise, you wouldn\u2019t be here, would you?<\/p>\n

\u00c9 prov\u00e1vel que a pessoa que dorme ao seu lado o tenha irritado durante anos e que tenha havido momentos em que sentiu que a desprezava e em que um simples olhar para a sua cara o deixava doente.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s true\u2014none of these emotions is beautiful but don\u2019t feel guilty for having them from time to time.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that you really hate your spouse or that you would indeed enjoy seeing them miserable.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

However, if you\u2019re trying to rebuild your marriage, it\u2019s time to put all of these negative feelings aside and concentrate on something else.<\/p>\n

Para variar, tente lembrar-se porque \u00e9 que se apaixonou por essa pessoa.<\/p>\n

After all, you two didn\u2019t always have a turbulent relationship. There were times when you got along perfectly, times when you didn\u2019t fight and times when you were convinced you\u2019d live happily ever after.<\/p>\n

Sim, \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que ambos tenham mudado com o tempo, mas a ess\u00eancia da vossa personalidade tinha de permanecer, pelo menos, semelhante.<\/p>\n

Consegue ver algum vest\u00edgio do homem ou da mulher que apaixonei-me tanto<\/a>?<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Lembram-se dos votos que fizeram no dia do vosso casamento? De como prometeram ficar juntos nos dias bons e maus, na doen\u00e7a e na sa\u00fade, na alegria e na tristeza?<\/p>\n

Well, the bad days have come and while I\u2019m not saying that you should put up with someone treating you poorly or giving you less than you deserve.<\/p>\n

If you already decided to try and make this marriage work, stick to your promise and don\u2019t back out at the first sign of trouble!<\/p>\n

5. Walk a mile in your spouse\u2019s shoes<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso ter consci\u00eancia de que, em todos os cen\u00e1rios, h\u00e1 dois lados da medalha.<\/p>\n

Even though you might have a hard time accepting this, you\u2019re not always right and your point of view is not the only true one.<\/p>\n

Na verdade, o seu c\u00f4njuge tem provavelmente a sua pr\u00f3pria vers\u00e3o da hist\u00f3ria e \u00e9 altura de o ouvir.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let them manipul\u00e1-lo<\/a> e mudar a sua opini\u00e3o, mas tente ouvi-los.<\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7a um esfor\u00e7o para se colocar no lugar deles e caminhar um quil\u00f3metro na sua pele.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

See what it is that you\u2019re doing wrong, how your words and actions impact them and how your spouse feels in this entire drama.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re trying to save a romantic relationship which is a two-way street. The goal is not just for you to be okay with the outcome, it is to make you both feel better and more satisfied.<\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t make yourself do this, for a few days pretend that you\u2019re a bystander who observes your marriage objectively.<\/p>\n

Esque\u00e7a as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es e veja o que concluiria se n\u00e3o fizesse parte desta rela\u00e7\u00e3o e se tivesse a oportunidade de a ver de fora.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014this approach will expand your horizons and it will give you a completely new perspective on things.<\/p>\n

6. Arranjar tempo para o outro<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Sei que voc\u00ea e o seu c\u00f4njuge t\u00eam uma vida muito ocupada e que as suas obriga\u00e7\u00f5es quotidianas se interp\u00f5em muitas vezes no caminho do vosso casamento.<\/p>\n

Outside of this broken marriage, you have a job, your friends, parents, hobbies\u2026 and your partner is the same.<\/p>\n

Se tem filhos, as suas obriga\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o ainda maiores. Quer ganhar dinheiro suficiente para ter uma vida melhor para toda a sua fam\u00edlia, quer ser um bom pai ou uma boa m\u00e3e, precisa de manter a casa limpa e em ordem e, claro, precisa de algum tempo para si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Naturalmente, depois de tudo feito, n\u00e3o lhe resta qualquer energia para o seu c\u00f4njuge.<\/p>\n

Be honest\u2014how frequently do you two spend time together, without anyone else and without any disturbances from the outside world?<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

What was the last time you just chilled next to each other, without talking about the mortgage, the kids\u2019 sports practice or what you\u2019ll cook for dinner tomorrow?<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t remember, right? Well, that\u2019s one of the problems and something you have to change ASAP if you want to see some progress in this marriage.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how but you have to find time for the two of you.<\/p>\n

Tire um dia de folga do trabalho (ou espere pelo fim de semana), arranje algu\u00e9m para tomar conta das crian\u00e7as e passe algumas horas com o seu marido ou mulher, sem que ningu\u00e9m ou nada interfira ou se interponha no caminho do vosso casamento.<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t make this a one-time thing. Instead, if you want a successful marriage, make sure you make it a habit and you\u2019ll see how beneficial this time will be for both of you.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t forget that besides being responsible co-pais<\/a> e pessoal da carreira, voc\u00eas os dois ainda s\u00e3o um casal!<\/p>\n

7. Take responsibility\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Quando as coisas v\u00e3o por \u00e1gua abaixo, uma das coisas mais dif\u00edceis para todos \u00e9 assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos.<\/p>\n

We all prefer passing the buck to the next person, thinking that they\u2019re the only one guilty for the failure of our relationship and the mere thought that we also carry a part of the weight kills us.<\/p>\n

Bem, a verdade \u00e9 que ambos s\u00e3o respons\u00e1veis pelo estado da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Claro que, se o seu c\u00f4njuge enganou-o<\/a>, for example, you can\u2019t be to blame but I\u2019m sure that both of you have done some things the other person didn\u2019t like during the course of your marriage.<\/p>\n

Por isso, comecem a comportar-se como dois adultos e assumam a responsabilidade pelos vossos actos.<\/p>\n

Admit that you hurt your spouse in the past (even if it wasn\u2019t deliberately) and accept the fact that you contributed to this situation, one way or another.<\/p>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Stand behind your actions and give your partner the apology they\u2019ve been waiting so long for.<\/p>\n

Claro, diga-lhes que espera o mesmo tratamento em troca.<\/p>\n

Naturally, you can\u2019t change the past and nobody is asking you to do so. You can\u2019t magically erase your mistakes but acknowledging that you made them is much better than pretending to be flawless.<\/p>\n

By avoiding responsibility, you\u2019re deepening your significant other\u2019s wounds.<\/p>\n

J\u00e1 era mais do que suficiente o facto de ter feito algo que os magoou e n\u00e3o ter a dec\u00eancia de admitir que estava errado \u00e9 ainda pior.<\/p>\n

8. \u2026 but avoid the blame game<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t turn this process of taking responsibility into a blame game because it won\u2019t get you anywhere.<\/p>\n

Accusing your spouse of being the only guilty one or putting each other\u2019s mistakes on a scale is pointless and will only make your confrontations nastier.<\/p>\n

Remember\u2014after the two of you own up to your mistakes and after you accept each other\u2019s desculpas<\/a>n\u00e3o h\u00e1 volta a dar.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 ressentimentos, vingan\u00e7a ou esfregar na cara deles.<\/p>\n

Doing something to make the other person suffer even more for their misdeeds is a clear sign that you haven\u2019t managed to forget them, even though you claimed you did.<\/p>\n

9. Mudar o foco<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Quando a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 em crise, s\u00f3 se concentra nas coisas m\u00e1s que est\u00e3o a acontecer.<\/p>\n

You talk to your friends about your spouse\u2019s awful treatment, you can\u2019t help but think of all the bad stuff they\u2019ve done to you and all of a sudden, you see them as the worst person walking on this planet.<\/p>\n

Well, even though I\u2019m not saying that you\u2019re exaggerating, if you want to save the marriage, it is time to change your focus.<\/p>\n

Instead of only seeing the things that are bothering you and giving them an extra thought, put an effort into noticing your partner\u2019s positive behavior.<\/p>\n

You can both get a journal in which you\u2019ll write your significant other\u2019s nice gestures every day.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Escreva como o foram buscar ao trabalho, como o surpreenderam ao aparecerem na sua hora de almo\u00e7o, como lhe compraram exatamente o que queria para o seu anivers\u00e1rio... anivers\u00e1rio<\/a> ou simplesmente como sorriem para si sem qualquer raz\u00e3o espec\u00edfica.<\/p>\n

Yes, all of these things are normal in a relationship and shouldn\u2019t be seen as miracles. However, you and your spouse need to change your views on each other and this is the way to do so.<\/p>\n

You can also write down your partner\u2019s positive qualities every day.<\/p>\n

This advice is effective in more than one way. Firstly, it will help you see that despite what you might have thought, your marriage isn\u2019t as bad as it seems.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll realize that there are still more than a few good things about it and knowing this will without a doubt change your entire mindset and attitude toward your relationship.<\/p>\n

After all, I\u2019m sure you wouldn\u2019t still be next to this person if they were entirely bad.<\/p>\n

Outra vantagem deste di\u00e1rio \u00e9 que pode rel\u00ea-lo sempre que o seu c\u00f4njuge o irritar ou fizer algo que o magoe.<\/p>\n

It will serve you as a reminder that you\u2019re married to a great person and it will help you remember all the good things they have done for you.<\/p>\n

10. Agir sobre os seus problemas<\/h2>\n

\"Fam\u00edlia<\/p>\n

Many people do a lot of talking when they’re trying to figure out como salvar um casamento<\/a> que est\u00e1 avariado.<\/p>\n

They promise both themselves and their spouse that they\u2019ll be better and that they will make all the changes required of them.<\/p>\n

Tudo isto parece \u00f3timo em teoria. No entanto, quando se trata da parte pr\u00e1tica, a maioria desiste depois de perceber que prometeram muito mais do que podiam cumprir.<\/p>\n

Please, don\u2019t be one of those people. Yes, communication is crucial but that doesn\u2019t mean that you should spend days, weeks or even months blabbing about your issues without actually doing anything about it.<\/p>\n

Instead, it is your and your partner\u2019s job to act on your problems and to find a solution to them which will fit both of you.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Para come\u00e7ar, esque\u00e7a promessas v\u00e3s<\/a>; fazer um plano de a\u00e7\u00e3o concreto e cumpri-lo, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer.<\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o as coisas que quer mudar, como \u00e9 que tenciona mud\u00e1-las exatamente e at\u00e9 quando \u00e9 que se deve notar algum tipo de progresso?<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que exige da outra pessoa e o que \u00e9 que promete fazer?<\/p>\n

Parece um acordo de neg\u00f3cios, eu sei. No entanto, por vezes, \u00e9 a \u00fanica forma de sair de um ponto morto e de come\u00e7ar a fazer alguma coisa, em vez de apenas falar sobre isso.<\/p>\n

11. Come\u00e7ar a namorar de novo<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Quando foi a \u00faltima vez que voc\u00ea e a sua cara-metade foram jantar fora ou ao cinema sem qualquer ocasi\u00e3o especial?<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 voc\u00eas os dois, sem os mi\u00fados, os vossos amigos ou os vossos pais?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re one of those people who thinks that married couples shouldn\u2019t go out on dates, please change your mind and consider the option of dating your husband or wife all over again.<\/p>\n

You two can engage in some role-playing and pretend that you don\u2019t even know each other and that this is your first blind date or you can just start dating like two lovebirds who are already in a long-term relationship.<\/p>\n

Determinar um noite de encontro<\/a> todas as semanas e cumpri-lo, exceto em caso de outros planos ou emerg\u00eancias que possam ocorrer.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Dress nicely, pick a fancy place (it doesn\u2019t have to be anything expensive but it is not a date if you stay in your living room) and do everything by the book.<\/p>\n

This is especially great for those couples who already stopped living together but still haven\u2019t filed for divorce and instead decided to give their marriage a second chance.<\/p>\n

Neste caso, podem enviar mensagens de texto um ao outro entre os encontros e agir como duas pessoas que est\u00e3o apenas a conhecer-se.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014this game will freshen up your entire relationship, it will remind you what butterflies feel like and it will help you remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place.<\/p>\n

12. Trabalhar a vossa intimidade<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014sex is an important part of every romantic relationship and its significance can only increase with time.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 claro que n\u00e3o \u00e9 a \u00fanica coisa que pode preservar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o, mas quando as coisas no quarto deixam de funcionar, normalmente reflectem-se tamb\u00e9m em tudo o resto.<\/p>\n

No entanto, apesar de saberem isto, muitos casais ignoram o sexo e, ao fim de algum tempo, at\u00e9 o excluem da sua vida.<\/p>\n

Aborrecem-se um com o outro, cansam-se da vida quotidiana ou t\u00eam qualquer outra raz\u00e3o, mas o facto \u00e9 que a maioria dos casais que est\u00e3o \u00e0 beira do div\u00f3rcio testemunham que a sua vida sexual \u00e9 inexistente h\u00e1 algum tempo.<\/p>\n

And I\u2019m not talking about sex here only. I\u2019m talking about other forms of intimidade f\u00edsica<\/a> you should make a habit of doing as well\u2014about kissing, hugging, cuddling and so on.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Bem, apesar de resolver as suas discuss\u00f5es debaixo dos len\u00e7\u00f3is equivaler a escovar as coisas para debaixo do tapete e ser tudo menos saud\u00e1vel, tenha em mente que trabalhar no seu casamento tamb\u00e9m significa trabalhar na sua intimidade.<\/p>\n

Para come\u00e7ar, seja mais f\u00edsico com o seu c\u00f4njuge. Deixe que os vossos corpos se habituem um ao outro; comece a sentar-se ao lado dele, aproveite todas as oportunidades que tiver para lhe tocar acidentalmente ou para lhe dar um abra\u00e7o ou um beijo na cara, quanto mais n\u00e3o seja quando passa por ele, sem qualquer raz\u00e3o especial.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014each one of these little things is actually huge for your marriage.<\/p>\n

Aproxima-vos mais e aprofunda os vossos la\u00e7os e \u00e9 exatamente disso que precisam num momento de emerg\u00eancia como este.<\/p>\n

13. Aprender com os seus conflitos<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Believe me when I tell you that even the happiest couples fight. In fact, it wouldn\u2019t be normal if you didn\u2019t have some sort of confrontation every now and then with someone you share your life with.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, voc\u00eas s\u00e3o pessoas diferentes e \u00e9 natural que discordem em certos aspectos.<\/p>\n

Also, a married couple should be in love with each other and if you\u2019re never bored with something the other person does, it might be a red flag that you\u2019re completely indifferent toward them and that you can\u2019t be touched by their words or actions.<\/p>\n

Por isso, ningu\u00e9m lhe est\u00e1 a pedir que deixe de discutir se quiser ter um casamento bem sucedido.<\/p>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

No entanto, de acordo com a maioria dos especialistas em casamentos, a principal diferen\u00e7a entre um casamento n\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel e rela\u00e7\u00f5es saud\u00e1veis<\/a> est\u00e1 na forma como estes \u00faltimos aprendem com os seus argumentos.<\/p>\n

Por isso, se pretende salvar o seu casamento, tem de tornar as suas discuss\u00f5es produtivas.<\/p>\n

Utilize-os como uma plataforma para o ajudar a melhorar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o e a perceber algumas coisas novas sobre o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

Remember\u2014calling each other names, insulting each other and saying things below the belt are never acceptable.<\/p>\n

No final do dia, podem sempre concordar que discordam, como dois adultos maduros.<\/p>\n

\"mulher-em-cinza-tank-top-distressed\"<\/p>\n

Also, it is important to know exactly what you\u2019re fighting about. Is the unfolded laundry the real problem or are you keeping your anger about something from before bottled up and you explode at each other about any nonsense?<\/p>\n

Either way, please don\u2019t forget that it should never be you two against each other. In fact, it\u2019s you two against the problem.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter who is right; what is important is to come up with a solution which will be beneficial for both of you and the best option for your relationship. There are no winners or losers here.<\/p>\n

Put aside your ego and join forces even when you\u2019re arguing! Admit if you’re wrong and don’t let your broken self-esteem ruin your chance of having a healthy marriage!<\/p>\n

14. Construir um novo casamento<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

The sad fact that you’re trapped in a failing marriage tells you the painful truth\u2014it obviously isn\u2019t working.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that you and your spouse aren\u2019t meant to be, that you can\u2019t succeed or that you don\u2019t love each other enough; I\u2019m just pointing out the obvious\u2014your relationship, the way it has been up until now, is not a functional one.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t put any effort into reviving it. Don\u2019t try to make things the way they used to be because if everything was in order, you wouldn\u2019t be facing this problem, would you?<\/p>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Accept the fact that your marriage will never be the same. However, that is actually a good thing because it means that if you play your cards right, you probably won\u2019t be in this situation ever again.<\/p>\n

Por isso, em vez de reconstru\u00edrem a vossa antiga rela\u00e7\u00e3o, construam um novo casamento a partir do zero. Virem uma nova p\u00e1gina e comecem de novo, como se se tivessem acabado de conhecer.<\/p>\n

Estabele\u00e7a novas regras, esque\u00e7a o passado e concentre-se no futuro. Deixe o seu bagagem emocional<\/a> e traumas para tr\u00e1s das costas e fingir que se trata de uma outra pessoa com quem se deve tentar viver pela primeira vez.<\/p>\n

15. Visitar um conselheiro matrimonial<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Aconselhamento matrimonial ou recorrer a um terapeuta familiar s\u00e3o coisas que muitos casais evitam por diferentes raz\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

Some are ashamed of their surroundings or are afraid that everyone will know that their marriage is going downhill and some can\u2019t admit that they couldn’t figure out how to fix a broken marriage without counseling and need professional assistance in getting their relationship back on its feet after all.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que existem numerosos cursos matrimoniais certificados, orientados por especialistas em casamento experientes, que podem dar ao seu casamento a ajuda de que necessita e encontrar a melhor solu\u00e7\u00e3o para todos os seus problemas conjugais.<\/p>\n

Bem, deixem-me dizer-vos que procurar ajuda e ir a uma consulta de aconselhamento matrimonial ou visitar um terapeuta familiar \u00e9 a coisa certa a fazer se quiserem resolver os vossos problemas da forma mais saud\u00e1vel poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

No, this step doesn\u2019t mean that you and your spouse are a couple of failures who are not capable of doing everything on your own\u2014it is only a sign that you\u2019re mature enough to know that marriage counselors and family therapists are trained experts who have the capacity and the ability to show you the right path.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014this is a sign that you are both serious in your desire to save the marriage.<\/p>\n

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