{"id":5775,"date":"2017-09-28T12:59:21","date_gmt":"2017-09-28T12:59:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=5775"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:01:33","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:01:33","slug":"6-maneiras-de-curar-o-abuso-oculto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-maneiras-de-curar-o-abuso-oculto\/","title":{"rendered":"6 maneiras de se curar de um abuso oculto"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A relationship with a hidden abuser is like being sucker-punched over and over again but never realizing that you were in a fight for your life until it&#8217;s over.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, we fall so hard for a person, we don\u2019t really have the ability to see how toxic that person is for us. We tend not to notice the bad sides of that person.We disregard all the flaws and we give the best of ourselves, expecting that we can make it work. But with abusers, it\u2019s never that easy. We never get our happy ending while they\u2019re still in our lives. They tend to get more power over us than we care to notice and sometimes, we don\u2019t even realize what the hell happened to us until it\u2019s over.<\/p>\n<p>Because we don\u2019t see we\u2019re part of an abusive relationship, we tend to look like living corpses at the end of the story. This kind of relationship always drains the victim and feeds the abuser, and it\u2019s easy to notice which role belongs to whom from one simple look.<\/p>\n<p>To recover from hidden abuse is something that is never easy because it requires self-awareness, and it\u2019s something most of us fail at. In order to recover, you first need to recognize you are part of an abusive relationship.<\/p>\n<h1><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>1. Refletir sobre o que se sente<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n<p>Being in an abusive relationship means that somebody next to you is taking advantage of you. Somebody next to you has a personality disorder. Somebody next to you is toxic and is actually so good at being toxic that you don\u2019t even notice it.<\/p>\n<p>O que precisa de fazer para perceber qual \u00e9 a sua posi\u00e7\u00e3o na rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 pensar em como essa pessoa o faz sentir. Pense em como \u00e9 feliz e quando foi a \u00faltima vez que teve a liberdade de fazer algo s\u00f3 para si. Pense quando foi a \u00faltima vez que lhe foi permitido dar prioridade a si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p>If you had to ask somebody to allow you to put yourself first\u2014your relationship isn\u2019t healthy. If you haven\u2019t been happy in a long time and your partner seems not to care or is fine with it, there is something wrong going on. If your confidence has lowered while you were in a relationship, if you feel insecure about yourself, if your partner is happy to see you miserable or is emotionally manipulating you into doing something for him and making you give up on yourself, I hate to break it to you, you have been part of an abusive relationship for longer than you\u2019d like to admit.<\/p>\n<h1><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>2. Educar-se<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n<p>Once you\u2019ve cared enough to take care of yourself and you\u2019ve let the reality of being part of an abusive relationship sink in, you\u2019re going to need to have all the information in order to proceed according to your situation.<\/p>\n<p>H\u00e1 diferentes formas de abuso, h\u00e1 diferentes classifica\u00e7\u00f5es de abusadores e h\u00e1 sempre algo que se pode fazer. Utilize todos os recursos dispon\u00edveis para descobrir o m\u00e1ximo que puder sobre o que lhe aconteceu. Saiba com o que est\u00e1 a lidar e aja em conformidade.<\/p>\n<h1><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>3. Acordar<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n<p>Once you know what you\u2019ve been a part of, don\u2019t trick yourself into thinking that you can just continue to have that kind of relationship or that everything is going to be fine if you just give it time. Because it won\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>You need to wake up and for once in life, put yourself first because your abusive partner isn\u2019t going to do that. You need to get your life back into your hands and do whatever you were brought to this world to do\u2014and I can bet it wasn\u2019t to be somebody\u2019s victim or a good soul that some parasite could feed on.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-5782 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/chad-madden-164573.jpg\" alt=\"Rapariga no miradouro a observar a paisagem de cortar a respira\u00e7\u00e3o\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/chad-madden-164573.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/chad-madden-164573-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/chad-madden-164573-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/chad-madden-164573-180x120.jpg 180w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/chad-madden-164573-262x175.jpg 262w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<h1><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>4. Criar limites<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n<p>Putting your walls up is definitely something unhealthy, but having no boundaries at all means you are a well that anybody can drink from, and people will take advantage of it. People will drink your soul dry if you don\u2019t set up some borders.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.yourtango.com\/experts\/julie-orlov\/5-steps-free-yourself-controlling-relationship-expert\" rel=\"noopener\">Afaste-se do seu agressor.<\/a> As much as it may hurt at first, that is as much as it will be a relief once you\u2019re cured. You\u2019re the one in charge of how much power you give your abuser over you, and if you don\u2019t want to have anything to do with that person, that\u2019s more than fine.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t even bother explaining your \u2018no\u2019 because you don\u2019t have to. The only person you owe something to is yourself. Make sure you remember this well.<\/p>\n<h1><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>5. Restaurar o que foi perdido<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n<p>Na rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva, perdemos muitas coisas. Na rela\u00e7\u00e3o que esconde o abuso, perdemos essas coisas t\u00e3o lentamente e t\u00e3o discretamente que at\u00e9 nos esquecemos que as t\u00ednhamos.<\/p>\n<p>Pense no tipo de pessoa que era antes do seu primeiro contacto com o seu agressor. Pense em como era feliz, em como se sentia confiante quando entrava numa sala cheia de estranhos, pense em como se ria e em como acreditava em si pr\u00f3pria.<\/p>\n<p>Pense no quanto acreditava nas outras pessoas. Lembre-se de quantos dos seus amigos cortou por causa do que o seu agressor significava para si. Pense quando foi a \u00faltima vez que teve uma conversa honesta com a sua fam\u00edlia e lembre-se de como eram grandes os planos que tinha para si.<\/p>\n<p>Thinking about how you painted your future, now wake up your ambition to be a better person in a better place. You can do it\u2014it might take time, but after everything you&#8217;ve been through, you owe it to yourself to try and restore everything that has been lost. Because nothing is ever lost permanently.<\/p>\n<h1><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>6. Continua a lutar por ti<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n<p>Don\u2019t give up on trying to make you be better. Don\u2019t stop investing in yourself, in your happiness, in your healing or in your future.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t give up recovering until you\u2019re certain that every sign of abuse is cast out of your system. You\u2019re allowed to put your needs as top priority. You\u2019re allowed to be selfish because you were too generous for far too long.<\/p>\n<p>Do what makes you happy. Pursue what brings a smile to your face and makes you feel better about yourself. And don\u2019t ever stop doing it. Because no matter how much your abuser told you that you were selfish, there is somebody who\u2019ll know the importance of self-love and who won\u2019t ever mistake it for selfishness.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t rush things\u2014don\u2019t make it worse by stressing about why isn\u2019t it over yet. This kind of thing takes time. If you give yourself time, you\u2019ll give yourself enough space to not make the same mistake again.<\/p>\n<p>You went through hell once and you weren\u2019t even aware of it till you were halfway burned out. You deserve to be happy now and you should give yourself time for the right person to walk in your life and walk you through the heavens. Once your storm ends, it\u2019s time for the sun to shine.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ver tamb\u00e9m:<\/strong>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/8-coisas-que-acontecem-quando-se-deixa-uma-relacao-abusiva\/\">8 coisas que acontecem quando se sai de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A relationship with a hidden abuser is like being sucker-punched over and over again but never realizing that you were in a fight for your life until it&#8217;s over. Sometimes, we fall so hard for a person, we don\u2019t really have the ability to see how toxic that person is for us. We tend not&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":5780,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5775","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse &amp; trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/larm-rmah-184441.jpg",800,530,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse &amp; trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse &amp; trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5775","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5775"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5775\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5780"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5775"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5775"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5775"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}