{"id":58111,"date":"2020-03-31T16:53:06","date_gmt":"2020-03-31T16:53:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=58111"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:18:19","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:18:19","slug":"nao-ser-escolhido-vai-doer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-ser-escolhido-vai-doer\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00e3o ser escolhido vai doer como o inferno, n\u00e3o importa o qu\u00e3o grande \u00e9 a sua autoestima"},"content":{"rendered":"

At the end of the day, we are only humans. We need other people in our life. We all want to feel like we belong \u2013 like we are important to someone who is important to us.<\/p>\n

Still, we cannot force other people to be with us and to love us. Sometimes, no matter how much we try, we just can\u2019t keep some people in our lives.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That’s how things are and you should accept it as it is because you can\u2019t change anything. Feelings can\u2019t be forced. Friendships shouldn\u2019t be forced. Love mustn\u2019t be forced.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You must realize that sometimes it\u2019s just not meant to be, no matter how much you want it to happen.<\/p>\n

You should get comfortable with the fact that you\u2019re not going to get everything and everyone that you want in life.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

No one does. That\u2019s enough for consolation, right?<\/p>\n

Love isn\u2019t that simple, nor is friendship. It is something that you can\u2019t manipulate and in order to make it work, you have to fight for it every day.<\/p>\n

That doesn\u2019t mean that you should set some unrealistic expectations for love and friendship. You\u2019ll feel helpless if it doesn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n

Some people won\u2019t choose you no matter what you do for them and that\u2019s their loss, not yours.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll say \u201cThat\u2019s easy to say, but it hurts badly,\u201d<\/em> when it actually happens to you. I know. I\u2019ve been there myself. I was hurt also.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Eu. A mulher mais confiante de sempre. Senti-me magoada, zangada, tra\u00edda e esmagada.<\/p>\n

All those awful emotions were mixed inside me and I couldn\u2019t see the real picture in that situation. All I saw was his rejection.<\/p>\n

Nunca ningu\u00e9m me fez sentir assim. Bem, ningu\u00e9m podia porque eu tinha a melhor opini\u00e3o sobre mim pr\u00f3pria. A minha confian\u00e7a era a minha for\u00e7a<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

It didn\u2019t allow me to give up in any situation no matter how difficult it was.<\/p>\n

Until then. The irony is that his rejection didn\u2019t make me doubt myself, it actually made me curious about the reasons why he turned me down.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que ele p\u00f4de fazer isso? Eu era a rapariga mais perfeita para ele. Na verdade, eu era ainda melhor do que isso.<\/p>\n

Every day I was blaming him for not seeing it. For turning me down when I was all he ever wanted. And I was sure of that, that\u2019s why his rejection was so unclear to me.<\/p>\n

I always considered confidence as one of my best character traits because I thought it\u2019d help me to deal with any bad days and hurtful emotions.<\/p>\n

Sempre pensei que o desgosto \u00e9 a pior coisa que uma rapariga pode sentir. Mas eu estava enganada. O sentimento de uma rejei\u00e7\u00e3o d\u00f3i ainda mais do que isso.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Causa maior dor emocional e pode deixar alguns psychological wounds that don\u2019t heal<\/span><\/a> t\u00e3o facilmente. Infelizmente, aprendi-o da maneira mais dif\u00edcil.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Os psic\u00f3logos dizem que, de todas as feridas emocionais que experimentamos na vida, a rejei\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 a mais comum e dolorosa.<\/p>\n

Being confident couldn\u2019t help me. I was aware of my worth and I knew that I\u2019d find someone else who\u2019d choose me no matter what.<\/p>\n

But still, it hurt. The pain I felt was so unexplainable. All I thought about were his reasons for turning me down, which part of me he didn\u2019t like, and why he didn\u2019t even want to try something with me.<\/p>\n

After some time, I realized that we weren\u2019t meant to be. And that was the only important thing I needed to know from the beginning. It was his choice and I couldn\u2019t do anything about it.<\/p>\n

Exceto deixar ir. E eu deixei. Deixei de lado todos aqueles sentimentos horr\u00edveis.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I hoped for a better future and for a man who\u2019d want my love and be able to reciprocate it in a way I deserve.<\/p>\n

And trust me, this is the best advice you\u2019ll ever get:<\/strong> Quanto mais depressa se avan\u00e7ar,<\/b><\/a> the sooner you\u2019ll forget all about the terrible feeling of being rejected.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But still, your self-esteem and self-love play an important role. If you are not confident, you\u2019ll be more vulnerable to rejection.<\/p>\n

As pessoas t\u00eam todo o direito e liberdade para escolherem quem e o que quiserem. Podemos afetar as suas decis\u00f5es fazendo algumas coisas boas por elas, mas nunca podemos escolher por elas.<\/p>\n

Rejection doesn\u2019t mean that you are not enough. In most cases, the problem is the other person, not you.<\/p>\n

You should never let the rejection get the best of you. Be stronger than that. It will pass and you\u2019ll eventually forget about it as if it never even happened.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"N\u00e3o<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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