{"id":58246,"date":"2020-04-10T12:08:17","date_gmt":"2020-04-10T12:08:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=58246"},"modified":"2022-11-29T14:43:04","modified_gmt":"2022-11-29T14:43:04","slug":"amizade-platonica-e-segredos-para-a-fazer-funcionar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amizade-platonica-e-segredos-para-a-fazer-funcionar\/","title":{"rendered":"Amizade plat\u00f3nica: Pr\u00f3s e contras e 10 segredos para a fazer funcionar"},"content":{"rendered":"

You’ve almost most definitely heard about the concept of platonic friendship but like myself, you probably haven’t really understood what it exactly means to be in a platonic relationship with someone and what the rules are of such a relationship.<\/p>\n

Well, today, you’ll learn everything you need to know about the benefits as well as some disadvantages and secrets to making platonic friendship work!<\/p>\n

I must admit that it took me a while to collect all the data of this inspiring platonic love and the results were really fulfilling and eye-opening. So, let’s see!<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 uma amizade plat\u00f3nica?<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Para compreender o conceito de amor plat\u00f3nico, temos de voltar ao passado e \u00e0s suas ra\u00edzes.<\/p>\n

Assim, o primeiro ser humano que inventou o termo foi o famoso fil\u00f3sofo grego Plat\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

(I’m a little bit disappointed in myself because I haven’t connected these two terms before.)<\/p>\n

Plat\u00e3o acreditava que a amizade plat\u00f3nica tem o poder de fazer sobressair o melhor das pessoas e de as aproximar de Deus.<\/p>\n

Para ele, o amor plat\u00f3nico \u00e9 o amor desprovido de lux\u00faria, tens\u00e3o sexual e desejo sexual.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Mesmo que o amor plat\u00f3nico, como amor rom\u00e2ntico<\/a>O amor, que pode ser profundamente intenso, n\u00e3o deixa de ser um tipo de amor n\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntico.<\/p>\n

From Plato\u2019s days, the definition of a platonic friendship has evolved and changed a little bit.<\/p>\n

Today, in modern times, a platonic friendship is still one that brings out the best in people and helps them become the best version of themselves and it is a friendship between a man and woman who are best friends and most importantly, \u2018just friends\u2019.<\/p>\n

(And no, it has nothing to do with \u2018friends with benefits\u2019.)<\/p>\n

Basically, platonic friendship means having a very close friend of the opposite sex and it’s a strictly non-sexual relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

From my personal experience, opposite-sex friendships are real gold and I’ve always had an urge to make friends with guys rather than girls.<\/p>\n

But don’t get me wrong. Female friendships are also priceless but it’s just that I can connect more easily with guy friends than with girl friends.<\/p>\n

I know it’s kind of impossible to imagine a relationship between a man and woman that is totally devoid of any romantic interest but it is possible and it’s one of the most important tipos de amor<\/a> que se pode experimentar durante uma vida!<\/p>\n

\"Jovem<\/p>\n

Tanto as mulheres como os homens t\u00eam esta capacidade de desenvolver uma amizade forte com um elevado n\u00edvel de confian\u00e7a e de serem bons amigos durante anos!<\/p>\n

Mesmo assim, n\u00e3o vos vou mentir.<\/p>\n

Existem tamb\u00e9m algumas desvantagens potenciais que deve ter em conta quando decide ser plat\u00f3nico e n\u00f3s vamos abordar tudo isso para que tenha uma vis\u00e3o clara do que \u00e9 realmente uma amizade plat\u00f3nica!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 10 raz\u00f5es pelas quais os amigos de baixa manuten\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e3o a regra<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Os pr\u00f3s de uma amizade plat\u00f3nica<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

The pros of having a romantic partner or life-partner are innumerable but there are also many benefits of being in a platonic friendship as well and here is a list of some reasons why you should consider being in one (if you aren\u2019t already):<\/p>\n

1. They’re a true friend<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Uma das principais raz\u00f5es pelas quais devemos louvar as amizades plat\u00f3nicas acima de tudo \u00e9 a sua natureza pura e verdadeira.<\/p>\n

Ter um amigo plat\u00f3nico significa ter um verdadeiro amigo, um conselheiro de rela\u00e7\u00f5es, uma pessoa que o acompanha e algu\u00e9m que compreende totalmente os seus h\u00e1bitos estranhos, tudo num s\u00f3.<\/p>\n

That famous statement \u2018men are from Mars, women are from Venus\u2019 doesn’t really apply to platonic friendships.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

It’s true that men and women have different perspectives on things because their mindsets greatly differ but having a platonic friend brings these things into balance.<\/p>\n

And that’s why platonic friendships are the most powerful friendships in the world.<\/p>\n

Todas as diferen\u00e7as que se fundem no compromisso e na aceita\u00e7\u00e3o do sexo oposto tornam-no muito mais especial e digno!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Amigos falsos vs. amigos verdadeiros: 12 maneiras de identificar os falsos<\/a><\/p>\n

2. Melhora as suas capacidades de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Todos sabemos que os homens e as mulheres comunicam de formas diferentes e a um n\u00edvel diferente, o que \u00e9 a principal causa de tantas discuss\u00f5es e brigas (especialmente nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es e nos casamentos).<\/p>\n

Mas ter um amigo muito pr\u00f3ximo do sexo oposto pode ajudar-te com isso! Como?<\/p>\n

Because spending time with your platonic friend improves your communication skills (especially if you’re too anxious when it comes to talking to the opposite sex).<\/p>\n

Sentir-se-\u00e1 mais \u00e0 vontade para partilhar novas ideias e pontos de vista sem receio de ser julgado ou mal interpretado.<\/p>\n

Sentir-se-\u00e1 mais livre e descontra\u00eddo quando se trata de namorar e conhecer novos parceiros potenciais, o que, a longo prazo, pode ter um efeito positivo na sua vida amorosa e na vida em geral!<\/p>\n

3. Tem um conselheiro de confian\u00e7a<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

If you’re in a relationship at the moment or if you’ve ever been in one, then you know the importance of having a trustworthy friend to whom you can say everything that bothers you and seek some helpful advice.<\/p>\n

We usually do that with our friends of the same sex and I’m pretty sure you already know the drill:<\/p>\n

You have an argument with your partner or you’re feeling unhappy in your relationship for some reason and you get together with your melhor amigo<\/a> (do mesmo sexo) e conta-lhes tudo na esperan\u00e7a de obter al\u00edvio e alguns conselhos valiosos sobre o que fazer a seguir.<\/p>\n

And one thing is for sure, you most definitely get relief but often they don’t really help you in the advice department.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

That’s why having a platonic friend is gold! Since they are of the opposite sex, they are a legit, trustworthy relationship counselor.<\/p>\n

Why? Because they understand how the brain of their species works and perhaps they’ve been in the same situation, so they can tell you what’s really going on from their own perspective and experience.<\/p>\n

Eles podem ajud\u00e1-lo a estabelecer uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel, dando-lhe os melhores conselhos que lhe poupar\u00e3o imenso tempo (e paci\u00eancia)!<\/p>\n

4. Ajuda-te a compreender o sexo oposto<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

As already said, the assumption that women and men are from different planets has become deeply rooted in our society and I won’t even try to deny it.<\/p>\n

Embora tudo isto seja verdade, a verdadeira quest\u00e3o \u00e9: o que estamos a fazer em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a este assunto?<\/p>\n

Estamos a tentar compreender-nos uns aos outros ou desistimos do facto de alguma vez sermos capazes de compreender, mesmo que parcialmente, o sexo oposto?<\/p>\n

Since we have accepted the hypothesis that we’re from different planets, we’ve become stagnant without ever questioning it or looking for some potential solutions that might help us understand things better.<\/p>\n

And that’s where platonic friendship comes into it!<\/p>\n

Ter um amigo plat\u00f3nico pode ensinar-lhe muito sobre algu\u00e9m do sexo oposto, como funciona o seu c\u00e9rebro, as suas prefer\u00eancias, como lida com certas coisas e muito mais.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

And you have to admit it, it’s easier to ask some things from your best friend who is of the opposite sex than your romantic partner because the chances are they might misunderstand you.<\/p>\n

Os homens que s\u00e3o amigos de amigas e vice-versa t\u00eam mais hip\u00f3teses de estabelecer rela\u00e7\u00f5es bem sucedidas e saud\u00e1veis!<\/p>\n

Assim, observar o comportamento do seu amigo plat\u00f3nico ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a ligar os pontos entre homens e mulheres e, consequentemente, ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a construir a ponte entre os sexos opostos e a melhorar muito os seus futuros empreendimentos rom\u00e2nticos.<\/p>\n

5. Obt\u00e9m um apoio rec\u00edproco e complementar<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Tanto os homens como as mulheres precisam de apoio na sua vida e a \u00fanica diferen\u00e7a est\u00e1 na forma como d\u00e3o apoio aos outros.<\/p>\n

No departamento de apoio, os homens s\u00e3o conhecidos por procurarem solu\u00e7\u00f5es, enquanto as mulheres s\u00e3o mais orientadas para as emo\u00e7\u00f5es, o que s\u00e3o dois aspectos diferentes mas que, quando combinados, criam um equil\u00edbrio muito necess\u00e1rio.<\/p>\n

For example, let’s say that a woman had an argument with her colleague at work and after that, she goes to her platonic friend to tell him what happened.<\/p>\n

She will expect him to just listen to her but he won’t do just that.<\/p>\n

\"M\u00e3os<\/p>\n

He will also immediately start looking for possible solutions to the problem because men are just wired that way (and sometimes that’s exactly what we need).<\/p>\n

Now, let’s say that a man had an argument with his colleague at work and he goes to his platonic friend to share it with her.<\/p>\n

Nesta situa\u00e7\u00e3o, ele espera que ela lhe d\u00ea uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o para o seu problema, mas, em vez disso, ela vai estar mais envolvida emocionalmente (que \u00e9 exatamente o que ele precisa).<\/p>\n

Uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o plat\u00f3nica funciona com base no princ\u00edpio do apoio rec\u00edproco e complementar, que \u00e9 crucial quando se trata de satisfazer as nossas necessidades de apoio e de nos encorajarmos e ajudarmos uns aos outros a tornarmo-nos as melhores vers\u00f5es de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n

6. You’ll be introduced to new interests and activities<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

While I don’t really support the idea of strictly male and female interests, hobbies and activities, the truth is that some of it can be classified as belonging to the male or female species.<\/p>\n

Also, it’s true that girls and guys are interested in different things, so a platonic friendship is the best medium when it comes to all this!<\/p>\n

Having a friend of the opposite sex means being introduced to new interests and activities that you haven’t tried before, be it because you’ve never thought of trying it or because you haven\u2019t had the chance or someone willing to try it with you.<\/p>\n

Ter um amigo plat\u00f3nico significa viver uma vida sem restri\u00e7\u00f5es baseadas no g\u00e9nero.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

In the platonic world, there’s no space for strictly male or female hobbies or activities.<\/p>\n

Everything becomes universal and the more time you spend with them, the more carefree and in tune with your true self you’ll feel.<\/p>\n

Repeating the same activities with your friends of the same sex can become dull over time and that’s why your platonic friend is the perfect remedy for it.<\/p>\n

You’ll never feel bored because platonic adventures are simply unlimited.<\/p>\n

7. Pode ajud\u00e1-lo a abandonar os seus maus h\u00e1bitos de relacionamento<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Tanto os homens como as mulheres podem ser propensos a desenvolver maus h\u00e1bitos de relacionamento e uma das melhores formas de lidar com isso \u00e9 falar com o seu amigo plat\u00f3nico!<\/p>\n

For example, let’s say that you’re a woman and you’re constantly picking toxic men who are not worthy of being with you.<\/p>\n

Quando menciona isto numa conversa com o seu amigo plat\u00f3nico, ele pode aperceber-se imediatamente do verdadeiro problema e dar-lhe conselhos \u00fateis.<\/p>\n

This can be applied vice versa as well. Let’s say that you’re a man and you have communication problems in your relationship.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

O seu amigo plat\u00f3nico pode ajud\u00e1-lo a detetar este mau h\u00e1bito de relacionamento, a trabalh\u00e1-lo consigo e a ajud\u00e1-lo a melhor\u00e1-lo.<\/p>\n

Seja qual for o problema ou mau h\u00e1bito de relacionamento que possa ter, o seu amigo plat\u00f3nico vai compreend\u00ea-lo porque \u00e9 do sexo oposto!<\/p>\n

They know how their crew functions and that’s why their advice is ten times more valuable than any others.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 7 h\u00e1bitos de relacionamento t\u00f3xicos que n\u00f3s confundimos com o normal<\/a><\/p>\n

8. Podem ajudar-se mutuamente em a piscina de encontros<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"Quatro<\/p>\n

You’ve probably heard about the concept of wing-people but in case you haven’t, being a wingman or wingwoman means supporting and helping someone when it comes to approaching romantic partners.<\/p>\n

Por isso, se tu e o teu amigo plat\u00f3nico quiserem ter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com algu\u00e9m, podem ajudar-se mutuamente na piscina dos encontros!<\/p>\n

If you’re a woman, you can say a few nice words about your platonic friend when you\u2019re in a circle of other women and your friend can do the same for you or he can deal with any unwanted candidates, which will make your life much easier.<\/p>\n

You can have each other’s back when it comes to all kinds of different situations and Lord knows that modern dating abounds in them.<\/p>\n

Assim, ter um amigo plat\u00f3nico significa ter algu\u00e9m que o ajudar\u00e1 a lidar com todos estes desafios do namoro e que estar\u00e1 sempre l\u00e1 para si, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer.<\/p>\n

9. Ajuda a criar confian\u00e7a no g\u00e9nero oposto<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

If you’ve gone through a recent heartbreak or you still carry scars from your past heartbreaks, your levels of trust in the opposite gender are probably very low, which is totally understandable.<\/p>\n

Reconstruir a confian\u00e7a normalmente requer anos e este preconceito em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao sexo oposto pode afetar muito a sua vida amorosa tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

No entanto, sorte a tua! Uma forma de criar confian\u00e7a no sexo oposto \u00e9 sair com o seu amigo plat\u00f3nico.<\/p>\n

\"Blocos<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 o primeiro passo para se abrir novamente a outra pessoa que n\u00e3o seja seu amigo do mesmo sexo, o que \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio quando se trata de curar, seguir em frente e construir confian\u00e7a novamente.<\/p>\n

The more time you spend with your platonic friend, the more you’ll feel connected with them and it will be easier for you to jump into the dating pool again without letting trust issues prevail.<\/p>\n

Mas, como em tudo, reconstruir a confian\u00e7a leva tempo, por isso lembre-se de ser paciente e de aproveitar cada segundo da sua amizade plat\u00f3nica.<\/p>\n

10. They’ll introduce you to new people<\/h2>\n

\"Uma<\/p>\n

Ter um melhor amigo do sexo oposto significa ter a oportunidade de ser apresentado aos seus amigos que tamb\u00e9m s\u00e3o do sexo oposto.<\/p>\n

Os amigos solteiros deles ser\u00e3o os seus novos amigos e, quem sabe, talvez encontre entre eles a pessoa certa para si e acabe por ficar com um rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica<\/a> com um amigo do teu melhor amigo. Parece espetacular, certo?<\/p>\n

Your platonic friendship will get even richer because you’ll have one mutual friend who is both your significant other and your best friend’s friend.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, se por acaso gostar de alguns dos seus amigos solteiros, pode facilmente dizer-lhes isso e eles far\u00e3o quest\u00e3o de dizer algumas palavras simp\u00e1ticas sobre si (sem o tornar \u00f3bvio, claro).<\/p>\n

Platonic friendship makes the dating world more bearable and it’s definitely one of the biggest benefits one can have from nurturing such a friendship!<\/p>\n

11. Podem ajudar-se mutuamente em situa\u00e7\u00f5es embara\u00e7osas<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Platonic friends have each other’s back in every aspect of their lives, including those priceless awkward situations.<\/p>\n

I remember when I was once out with my platonic friend and there was this one guy who wouldn’t leave me alone.<\/p>\n

Mandava-me constantemente mensagens, telefonava-me e pedia-me para sair com ele, apesar de eu lhe ter dito especificamente que n\u00e3o estava realmente interessada.<\/p>\n

Assim, nessa noite, o meu amigo plat\u00f3nico fingiu que era meu namorado e, quando este se aproximou, disse-lhe para me deixar em paz porque tinha uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o comigo.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

The guy instantly backed off and I haven’t heard from him since.<\/p>\n

Provavelmente, existem muitas outras situa\u00e7\u00f5es embara\u00e7osas, mas este foi apenas um exemplo de que ter uma amizade plat\u00f3nica significa sermos capazes de nos ajudarmos mutuamente em situa\u00e7\u00f5es embara\u00e7osas como esta.<\/p>\n

E o Senhor sabe que toda a gente precisa de amigos assim (especialmente as mulheres) porque o mundo dos encontros est\u00e1 a tornar-se realmente cruel e nunca se sabe o que vai acontecer a seguir.<\/p>\n

However, with a platonic friend in your life, you don’t have to worry about such things because you know that you can always count on each other!<\/p>\n

12. Ensina-nos a respeitar os limites<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Ter um melhor amigo do sexo oposto ensina-nos certamente muito sobre limites.<\/p>\n

You’re not romantic partners and you’re neither friends with benefits but you’re on the other spectrum of relationships.<\/p>\n

You’re platonic friends which means that you have to control yourself and set some boundaries, so that you don’t cross them and ruin what you have built so far.<\/p>\n

Estas regras variam de amizade para amizade, mas todas elas ensinam uma li\u00e7\u00e3o sobre a import\u00e2ncia dos limites.<\/p>\n

\"M\u00e3o<\/p>\n

Alguns amigos plat\u00f3nicos n\u00e3o se importam de se verem nus (de uma forma n\u00e3o sexual, claro), enquanto outros nutrem uma privacidade rigorosa.<\/p>\n

And that’s totally okay. As long as you both agree on it, there’s nothing to worry about.<\/p>\n

Setting boundaries and respecting them is a sign of mature thinking and it’s the most important thing when it comes to maintaining a healthy platonic friendship.<\/p>\n

It means that you’re both aware of the fact that what you have might turn into something more but you’re still willing to respect the boundaries because you have a deep appreciation and respect for your platonic relationship.<\/p>\n

E \u00e9 preciso um verdadeiro homem\/mulher para o fazer.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: A lista definitiva de pr\u00f3s e contras de um relacionamento que funciona<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Os potenciais contras de uma amizade plat\u00f3nica<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Como em tudo na vida, uma amizade plat\u00f3nica tamb\u00e9m tem alguns potenciais contras que poder\u00e1 enfrentar a dada altura.<\/p>\n

I intentionally added \u2018potential\u2019 because it means that these cons are not determined or bound to happen but there’s a chance that you and your platonic friend might experience one or a few of them:<\/p>\n

1. Pode desenvolver sentimentos<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Algumas amizades nunca chegam a um ponto em que as duas pessoas querem mais uma da outra.<\/p>\n

They’re perfectly happy with being \u2018just friends\u2019 and they can’t think of being in any type of romantic relationship with their friend.<\/p>\n

Mas, em alguns casos, com o tempo, uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o plat\u00f3nica pode transformar-se numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica.<\/p>\n

Some people enter a platonic friendship with already developed feelings for their platonic friend and hope that this might gradually change, so they don’t do anything about it.<\/p>\n

Ou desenvolvem sentimentos mais tarde, enquanto est\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o plat\u00f3nica.<\/p>\n

The reason why this happens is that it\u2019s easy to develop romantic feelings for your best friend who is of the opposite sex.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Being best friends is one of the stages of every healthy romantic relationship, so there’s a thin line between a platonic friendship and romantic relationship and there are high chances that things might change its course toward the romantic zone.<\/p>\n

If that happens, the best thing to do is give each other some space and time and talk about it to see if you’re both on the same page.<\/p>\n

Desenvolver sentimentos pelo seu amigo plat\u00f3nico pode tornar-se uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o muito complicada, porque cortar o contacto com ele para se afastar dos sentimentos rom\u00e2nticos significaria tamb\u00e9m perder o seu melhor amigo.<\/p>\n

It’s hard to make a wise decision in such a situation but eventually you’ll have to choose between the two!<\/p>\n

2. Everyone thinks you’re a couple<\/h2>\n

\"Duas<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t think there’s anything more annoying in the whole world than the assumption that two individuals of the opposite sex must be a couple if they’re constantly spending time together and enjoying it.<\/p>\n

Aconteceu-me v\u00e1rias vezes.<\/p>\n

Passava muito tempo com o meu amigo plat\u00f3nico a andar de bicicleta, a ir beber um copo, a dar longos passeios, etc. e, no dia seguinte ou em poucos dias, algumas pessoas perguntavam-me se est\u00e1vamos juntos.<\/p>\n

It’s really annoying having to explain to everyone that you’re not a couple but he’s your best friend and that’s the only reason why you spend so much time together.<\/p>\n

\"Dois<\/p>\n

Por isso, se alguma vez se encontrar numa amizade plat\u00f3nica, tem de estar consciente da possibilidade de as outras pessoas pensarem em voc\u00eas como um casal leg\u00edtimo.<\/p>\n

However, as always, you shouldn’t give a damn about what other people say! Why?<\/p>\n

Because no matter what you say or do, people will always talk and that doesn’t mean you should worry about it.<\/p>\n

Just focus on enjoying every moment with your friend and nourishing your platonic relationship and you’ll be just fine!<\/p>\n

3. There\u2019s a possibility of jealousy<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

A possibilidade de ci\u00fames em amizades plat\u00f3nicas \u00e9 muito elevada, mas principalmente se um dos dois j\u00e1 tiver um parceiro e, sobretudo, se esse parceiro tiver problemas de confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Having a platonic friend means spending lots of time with them and keeping them updated on every aspect of your life (including your relationship) and that’s why some partners might become slightly jealous of it.<\/p>\n

Not every single one of us understands the concept of platonic relationship and that’s why your partner might need some time to accept all that and to understand that there’s no need for them to be jealous of your platonic friend.<\/p>\n

And if your partner still doesn’t accept it, then you might have a serious problem.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Jealousy is one of the biggest destroyers of a romantic relationship and it’s hard to exterminate it once it becomes a part of your daily life.<\/p>\n

All this might get you into a situation where you’ll have to choose between your platonic friend and your boyfriend\/girlfriend and when that happens, it’s really hard to stay sane and to know exactly what to do.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 9 maneiras pelas quais o ci\u00fame destr\u00f3i seu relacionamento<\/a><\/p>\n

4. Girls’\/boys’ nights will become much less frequent<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Having a platonic friend means being aware of the fact that your girls’ or boys’ nights might become much less frequent because inviting your best friend of the opposite sex on an exclusive girls’ or boys’ night simply doesn’t work.<\/p>\n

Isto significa passar mais tempo sozinho com o seu melhor amigo plat\u00f3nico ou ter de escolher entre os dois.<\/p>\n

The rest of your friends might support and love your platonic friend like their own but this doesn’t change the fact that they’re still of the opposite sex, so it’s awkward to invite them on nights that are specifically reserved for girls or guys only.<\/p>\n

And if you avoid attending those events just because you don’t want your best friend to feel isolated or alone, the rest of your friends might get offended by it.<\/p>\n

All in all, everything leads to one conclusion and that is: girls\u2019 and boys’ nights will definitely become much less frequent (but you can always compensate for this or compromise)!<\/p>\n

5. They’ll nitpick about every single person you’re interested in<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Quando o seu melhor amigo \u00e9 algu\u00e9m do sexo oposto, a sua vida amorosa \u00e9 inevitavelmente influenciada por ele. Porqu\u00ea?<\/p>\n

Because they know how their species function and they’ll see their every move as a potential threat or flaw.<\/p>\n

Porque eles querem o melhor para si!<\/p>\n

And that’s why they’ll nitpick about literally every single person you’re interested in.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

They won’t do so because they want to ruin your chances of entering into a romantic relationship but because they think that you deserve perfection.<\/p>\n

Por isso, pode haver algumas situa\u00e7\u00f5es embara\u00e7osas em que o seu amigo plat\u00f3nico se insurja com algo sobre o seu potencial parceiro rom\u00e2ntico e, consequentemente, o deixe furioso.<\/p>\n

But you shouldn’t let that happen.<\/p>\n

You should always keep in mind that they’re doing it because they love you a lot and they want to make sure that you’re happy and with someone who is worthy of being with you!<\/p>\n

6. Os seus amigos solteiros v\u00e3o pedir-lhe que os apresente ao seu melhor amigo<\/h2>\n

\"Mulheres<\/h2>\n

Se (como eu) detesta ser um intermedi\u00e1rio ou estar numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que o seu melhor amigo se interessa romanticamente pelo seu outro amigo, o que pode arruinar a possibilidade de serem amigos, ent\u00e3o tem de estar ciente disto.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que os seus amigos solteiros ir\u00e3o provavelmente pedir-lhe que os apresente ao seu amigo plat\u00f3nico.<\/p>\n

Sometimes it’s hard to share your best friend with your other single friends because you know that there’s a chance they’ll become more than just friends.<\/p>\n

E isso significaria perder parcialmente o seu melhor amigo e a possibilidade de estar sozinho com ele.<\/p>\n

Isso significaria partilhar o seu melhor amigo como um potencial parceiro rom\u00e2ntico com os seus amigos solteiros, quando tudo o que quer \u00e9 que todos relaxem e se divirtam como amigos, sem a no\u00e7\u00e3o de um potencial romance a pairar constantemente sobre a sua cabe\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

10 segredos para fazer funcionar uma amizade plat\u00f3nica<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Since we’re done with all the pros and cons of a platonic friendship, it’s time to see how to make it work!<\/p>\n

Lembra-se do filme Quando Harry conheceu Sally<\/em> que sugeria que as mulheres e os homens nunca poder\u00e3o ser amigos, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer, e que, no final, os sentimentos rom\u00e2nticos e a atra\u00e7\u00e3o pelo sexo oposto prevalecer\u00e3o?<\/p>\n

While this might be true in some cases, it still shouldn’t be the norm or something of the sort.<\/p>\n

Cada amizade plat\u00f3nica \u00e9 \u00fanica e tem o mesmo potencial de sucesso se souber todas as dicas e truques para a fazer funcionar.<\/p>\n

Para o ajudar, aqui est\u00e3o algumas regras e segredos que o ajudar\u00e3o a manter a sua amizade plat\u00f3nica como um chefe (e que provar\u00e3o que a hip\u00f3tese anterior est\u00e1 errada)!<\/p>\n

1. Estar consciente do que diz e faz<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

A principal coisa a que deve prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o quando se trata de amizades plat\u00f3nicas \u00e9 a sua pr\u00f3pria escolha de palavras e ac\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso estar atento a tudo o que se diz ou faz porque, se for mal interpretado, pode arruinar a amizade a longo prazo. Como?<\/p>\n

O seu amigo plat\u00f3nico pode come\u00e7ar a pensar que voc\u00ea quer mais dele e, por isso, pode desenvolver sentimentos por si ao longo do tempo sem que voc\u00ea o saiba.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, se um de voc\u00eas tiver ou ambos j\u00e1 tiverem um parceiro, devem respeitar esse facto e, por conseguinte, ter consci\u00eancia das vossas palavras e ac\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

The best way to know whether you’re crossing boundaries with your platonic friend is to ask yourself this question: “Would I act this way if my partner were here?”<\/p>\n

If your answer is yes, then you know you’re not overdoing it or doing anything critical that might give them false hope and ruin your friendship or a relationship.<\/p>\n

No entanto, se a sua resposta for n\u00e3o, ent\u00e3o talvez queira carregar no bot\u00e3o de pausa por um momento e ser mais cuidadoso no futuro.<\/p>\n

Understand that it’s so easy to cross the line when it comes to this kind of friendship and that’s why you need to be especially cautious.<\/p>\n

2. Estabelecer e manter limites saud\u00e1veis<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Every platonic friendship needs to have boundaries because it’s the essence of maintaining such a friendship.<\/p>\n

It’s one of the ground rules of making it work and that’s why you should pay special attention to establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries within your platonic friendship.<\/p>\n

However, you shouldn’t do it on your own.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, deve comunicar com o seu amigo sobre o assunto e chegar a um acordo m\u00fatuo.<\/p>\n

For example, if you both agree that you’re not comfortable with seeing each other naked (even in a non-sexual form), then you should respect that.<\/p>\n

\"Imagem<\/p>\n

Or if you’re not feeling comfortable with determinados temas<\/a>, deve proibi-los.<\/p>\n

Aplique a mesma regra a qualquer outra coisa que possa ser cr\u00edtica para si ou influenciar a sua amizade de uma forma ou de outra.<\/p>\n

Once you’re both familiar with all the things you approve of doing and the things you don’t approve of, it will be easier to maintain a healthy balance without being scared that things will go in a romantic direction.<\/p>\n

Quando define tudo isto, diminui as hip\u00f3teses de a sua amizade se transformar em algo mais ou de prejudicar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Gerir as expectativas na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a><\/p>\n

3. Don\u2019t compare your friend to your partner<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

One thing’s for sure\u2014we all love to compare people, things and whatnot because it’s in our blood to always seek perfection and comparison is one way of doing so.<\/p>\n

Mas comparar o seu amigo plat\u00f3nico com o seu parceiro \u00e9 uma faca de dois gumes e nada de bom resultar\u00e1 disso.<\/p>\n

Se o fizer, a sua mente transformar-se-\u00e1 numa montanha-russa porque pode come\u00e7ar a idealizar demasiado o seu amigo e a querer que o seu parceiro tenha essas qualidades.<\/p>\n

Resumindo, pode ter o desejo de transformar o seu parceiro numa pessoa semelhante ao seu amigo.<\/p>\n

\"Discuss\u00e3o<\/p>\n

And you should never do this. Why? Because these are two separate individuals with their own unique perspectives and flaws and because perfection doesn’t exist.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, se tem um problema com algo relacionado com o seu parceiro, tem de saber que a \u00fanica pessoa que pode mudar isso \u00e9 ele pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Por isso, em vez de os comparar e pensar que o a relva \u00e9 mais verde do outro lado da veda\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>Se o seu parceiro n\u00e3o estiver a fazer nada, aceite as coisas como elas s\u00e3o e d\u00ea-lhe algum tempo e espa\u00e7o para melhorar, se necess\u00e1rio.<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t (constantly) complain about your partner to them<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Constantly complaining about your partner is a sure-fire way to ruin your platonic friendship in record time. But don’t get me wrong.<\/p>\n

Ocasionalmente, queixar-se de certas coisas do seu parceiro e dizer uma ou duas palavras sobre ele \u00e9 perfeitamente aceit\u00e1vel, mas faz\u00ea-lo sempre que se v\u00eaem n\u00e3o \u00e9 aceit\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

There’s not a chance that a friendship can survive like this.<\/p>\n

A base de qualquer amizade deve ser comunica\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a> and not toxic complaining about each other’s partners.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, isto tamb\u00e9m diz muito sobre a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

It means that you’re evidently not happy but you’re not doing anything about it except complaining about it to your friend.<\/p>\n

Por isso, em vez de falar sobre isso apenas com o seu amigo, deve falar sobre isso com o seu parceiro e tentar encontrar uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o para tudo o que o est\u00e1 a incomodar.<\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t do things that are \u2018date-like\u2019<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Fazer coisas semelhantes a um encontro \u00e9 outra forma de arruinar a sua amizade plat\u00f3nica, por isso tenha cuidado com isso!<\/p>\n

Evite fazer coisas que se assemelhem a um encontro, como pedir a um amigo que cozinhe o jantar em casa dele ou mesmo ir jantar juntos se o ambiente for rom\u00e2ntico.<\/p>\n

Porqu\u00ea? Porque estas coisas gritam paix\u00e3o, car\u00edcias, la\u00e7os rom\u00e2nticos e j\u00e1 sabe o resto.<\/p>\n

And if you want to preserve your friendship, you should never let yourself get into a situation where you’ll have to think about your next move.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

You don’t want the pressure to become too much, forcing you to do things you normally wouldn’t.<\/p>\n

And dinner at your friend’s place, a few glasses of wine and a romantic movie is a perfect recipe for that.<\/p>\n

Por isso, esta deve ser definitivamente adicionada \u00e0 lista dos vossos limites, para que nenhum de voc\u00eas sucumba \u00e0 tenta\u00e7\u00e3o de se convidarem um ao outro para um potencial encontro.<\/p>\n

6. Evitar conota\u00e7\u00f5es e conversas de car\u00e1cter sexual<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Outra forma de arruinar a sua amizade plat\u00f3nica \u00e9 introduzir demasiadas conota\u00e7\u00f5es sexuais nas suas conversas ou escolher temas de cariz sexual.<\/p>\n

While you’re probably used to doing it with your friends of the same sex, you should keep in mind that your platonic friendship is a different thing.<\/p>\n

Everything you say or do can reflect on their conscience and influence them to imagine things they normally wouldn’t.<\/p>\n

So, what you should do is avoid any sexual connotations if possible during conversations and focus on regular topics that aren’t solely sexual.<\/p>\n

This will protect you from entering that awkward zone where you don’t know what to say next because you feel too embarrassed about what you just said in front of your friend.<\/p>\n

Also, you don’t want them to get the wrong idea of something or to think that you’re implying something on purpose.<\/p>\n

7. Aceitar a possibilidade de tens\u00e3o sexual<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Many platonic friends get confused about this one but I’ll try to explain it to you, so that you don’t make the mistake of acting impulsively.<\/p>\n

Given that your platonic friend is of the opposite sex, there’s a chance that you’ll feel sexual tension from time to time but this is nothing that you should worry about.<\/p>\n

It’s natural and it’s bound to happen, especially when you’re spending lots of time together chilling, laughing and enjoying different activities.<\/p>\n

So, when that happens, what you need to do is just accept the fact that there’s sexual tension in the air, but you should never act upon it.<\/p>\n

Concentre-se noutras coisas e a tens\u00e3o desaparecer\u00e1 mais depressa do que pensa!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Sexo com amigos? Os 10 maiores segredos que ningu\u00e9m lhe vai contar<\/a><\/p>\n

8. Comunicar com o seu parceiro<\/h2>\n

\"Uma<\/p>\n

Since you’ll be spending lots of your time with your platonic friend, your partner (if you have one) might start feeling neglected and that’s why you should always make sure not to take them for granted.<\/p>\n

Communicate with your partner, make them feel special from time to time and explain to them that they’re still your number one priority.<\/p>\n

Don’t make them feel like they have to fight for your attention or your time.<\/p>\n

Explique-lhes que a vossa amizade significa muito para si, mas que a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o significa ainda mais para si.<\/p>\n

Don’t neglect either one of them. Try to establish a healthy balance between the two!<\/p>\n

9. Don\u2019t get too casual<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Ser demasiado casual noutras amizades n\u00e3o \u00e9 um grande problema, mas \u00e9 melhor evitar faz\u00ea-lo numa amizade plat\u00f3nica.<\/p>\n

Watching movies curled up next to each other may lead to cuddling, cuddling may lead to something more and there you have it\u2014an endless circle of unnecessary complications.<\/p>\n

So, play it safe! Don’t get too casual because if you do, you might regret it big time (of course, that\u2019s if you’re determined to nourish your platonic friendship and make things work).<\/p>\n

10. Evitar ir de f\u00e9rias juntos<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Outra variante de ficar demasiado casual \u00e9 ir de f\u00e9rias juntos. Mas n\u00e3o qualquer tipo de f\u00e9rias.<\/p>\n

Uma escapadela de fim de semana, viagens de carro e similares s\u00e3o totalmente aceit\u00e1veis, mas aquelas f\u00e9rias longas que incluem a partilha de um quarto ou similar s\u00e3o algo totalmente diferente.<\/p>\n

Pense nisso. Voc\u00ea e o seu amigo plat\u00f3nico a dormirem no mesmo quarto de hotel, a partilharem tudo e a evitarem esbarrar um no outro nus \u00e9 certamente uma receita para desenvolverem algo mais significativo de uma forma rom\u00e2ntica ou estritamente sexual.<\/p>\n

Tal como n\u00e3o fazer coisas que se assemelhem a um encontro, esta tamb\u00e9m deve estar na lista dos seus limites, para que a memorize muito bem!<\/p>\n

Seja honesto consigo pr\u00f3prio!<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Uma das regras mais importantes \u00e9 ser honesto consigo pr\u00f3prio!<\/p>\n

If you decide to enter into a platonic friendship, you need to make sure that you’re doing it for the right reasons because if there are any kind of romantic feelings involved, your friendship might end sooner than it even started.<\/p>\n

O segredo para estabelecer e manter uma amizade plat\u00f3nica bem sucedida est\u00e1 em ser genu\u00edno e honesto consigo pr\u00f3prio e com o seu potencial amigo.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, a honestidade \u00e9 a base de qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel, pelo que esta n\u00e3o deve ser exce\u00e7\u00e3o!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: The Top 15 Signs You’re In A Queerplatonic Relationship<\/a><\/p>\n

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