{"id":5839,"date":"2017-09-29T13:29:08","date_gmt":"2017-09-29T13:29:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=5839"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:00:29","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:00:29","slug":"deixou-de-culpar-a-dor-causada","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/deixou-de-culpar-a-dor-causada\/","title":{"rendered":"Parei de me culpar pela dor que me causaste"},"content":{"rendered":"

O lado feio de ser humano \u00e9 que somos os respons\u00e1veis por decidir quanto valemos. E eu nunca estive preparado para carregar tanta responsabilidade.<\/span><\/p>\n

Culpava-me por tudo. <\/a>I willingly made myself a victim because I kept you on a pedestal. I kept thinking there is no way you could\u2019ve done something wrong to me.<\/span><\/p>\n

I decided I was the one unworthy of being loved and I was the one to decide that I am not worthy enough to be happy. But I was wrong. I was so wrong…<\/span><\/p>\n

Foste tu que me fizeste questionar o meu valor pr\u00f3prio. Estava sempre a perguntar-me se era suficientemente bonita ou se me estava a comportar corretamente. Era sempre t\u00e3o dura comigo mesma e estava sempre a deitar-me abaixo. Sempre que estavas infeliz com alguma coisa, eu culpava-me sempre a mim pr\u00f3pria. Pensava que era sempre algo que eu fazia que te fazia sentir assim. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sabes, nenhuma mulher deveria duvidar tanto de si pr\u00f3pria. No woman should ever feel like she isn\u2019t good enough or that she isn\u2019t worthy.<\/a> Nenhum homem deve permitir que a sua mulher se sinta indigna do seu amor. <\/b><\/p>\n

No woman should ever be blamed for the actions of one man because no matter what happened, everybody should take his fair share of the blame. It took me awhile to get on board with what I knew a long time ago, but when I finally did, I realized I wasn’t guilty of all those things I put on my shoulders. I wasn’t the one that should be blamed for all the pain you caused me. So, I just stopped putting the blame on myself.<\/span><\/p>\n

I stopped questioning what was it that I\u2019ve done. I stopped staring in the mirror and pointing fingers towards my reflection as an answer to why you treat me badly. I stopped questioning why wasn\u2019t I enough and I started realizing that I will never be good enough for the wrong person, but I will always be good enough for someone who truly cares.<\/span><\/p>\n

I stopped comparing myself to your other dolls. I know I could never be like them, but I also got that I shouldn\u2019t. Because in my attempts to be them, I\u2019d lost myself. And I might not be what you want me to be, but one day, I\u2019ll be exactly what somebody else was searching for his whole life. <\/span><\/p>\n

I stopped looking at you as if you were God\u2019s ultimate creation. I stopped thinking you were perfect and I stopped putting you on a pedestal. I stopped being the one always bending the knee and I stopped accepting to be a victim for love. <\/span><\/p>\n

Deixei de confundir o que me deste com amor. <\/b><\/p>\n

Deixei de imaginar o nosso futuro juntos. Deixei de acreditar que tu e eu alguma vez ser\u00edamos n\u00f3s. Deixei de romantizar o meu sofrimento e deixei de confiar no nosso timing. Porque n\u00f3s nunca ir\u00edamos acontecer de verdade.<\/a> Por mais que esperasse, por mais que me iludisse a pensar que o futuro nos traria dias melhores, nunca estiveste verdadeiramente de acordo com isso. Desististe de mim antes mesmo de come\u00e7armos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por isso, eu tamb\u00e9m desisti. E ainda bem que o fiz. <\/b><\/p>\n

I was always the type of girl who believed in love. I was always the type of girl who believed in a better tomorrow and in the idea that human nature is changeable. But it isn\u2019t. You couldn\u2019t be changed. You couldn\u2019t be taught to treat me right. You couldn\u2019t be taught that causing pain is a bad thing when you so enjoyed doing it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tu causaste-me a primeira ferida com a tua incapacidade de me amar, mas eu causei todas as outras ao acreditar que as coisas iam mudar. Tu come\u00e7aste, mas eu continuei. E as coisas foram ficando cada vez piores. <\/span><\/p>\n

Decidi stop investing my love into something that isn’t going to work<\/a> e salvar-me enquanto ainda tinha hip\u00f3tese. <\/span><\/p>\n

Years from now I won\u2019t regret saving myself, but I sure as hell would regret having stayed with somebody who was unable to love.<\/b><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The ugly side of being human is that you\u2019re the one in charge of deciding how much you\u2019re worth. And I wasn\u2019t ever ready to carry that much responsibility. I blamed myself for everything. I willingly made myself a victim because I kept you on a pedestal. I kept thinking there is no way you…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":5842,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5839","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/callie-morgan-139317.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","parent":29627,"count":263,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29628,"category_count":263,"category_description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","cat_name":"dealing with breakup","category_nicename":"dealing-with-breakup","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5839","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5839"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5839\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5842"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5839"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5839"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5839"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}