Love isn\u2019t what you think it is<\/strong>. I\u2019m sorry, but sometimes that\u2019s the truth.<\/p>\nSometimes love isn\u2019t true, unconditional, all-conquering love. Sometimes it\u2019s weak, fake, scared, indecisive, quiet, demanding \u2013 not what they teach you when you\u2019re growing up.<\/p>\n
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Sei que, em \u00faltima an\u00e1lise, nada menos do que incondicional deve ser considerado amor, mas a realidade \u00e9 que aceitamos o amor que achamos que merecemos e fazemos a nossa pr\u00f3pria defini\u00e7\u00e3o de amor com base nisso.<\/p>\n
You can\u2019t predict love<\/strong>. You can\u2019t be sure of anything in life.<\/p>\nNot after abuse. It\u2019s scary to think something that once meant comfort and happiness turned out to be everything but that. It\u2019s hard to relax and not to question every love that comes after that.<\/p>\n
Mant\u00e9m-nos num estado de tens\u00e3o constante.<\/p>\n
O amor torna-nos cegos<\/strong>. You heard this many times but didn\u2019t know what it meant. Now you know.<\/p>\n![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-crying-in-the-field.jpg\")
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Quando estamos apaixonados, fazemos coisas inimagin\u00e1veis. Deixamos que outra pessoa controle completamente as nossas vidas.<\/p>\n
Fazemos compromissos que mais tarde se tornam arrependimentos e perdemo-nos completamente.<\/p>\n
Love shouldn\u2019t be painful<\/strong>. Alguns de n\u00f3s foram educados a pensar que o amor \u00e9 doloroso e cheio de sacrif\u00edcios.<\/p>\nMaybe that\u2019s why some of us attract toxic partners. Maybe we subconsciously search for love as we know it.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s why we need to work on changing our own perception of love.<\/p>\n
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O amor \u00e9 sempre um risco<\/strong>. Por mais medo e m\u00e1goa que tenhamos, continuamos a desejar o amor. Continuamos a querer estar seguros e a ser amados.<\/p>\nIt\u2019s almost contradictory to think of love as something that makes you safe while knowing you can\u2019t predict what will happen when you let it into your life. You\u2019re always taking a risk.<\/p>\n
O risco de ser magoado. O risco de ter o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e a sua vida despeda\u00e7ados.<\/p>\n
There\u2019s no fear in love<\/strong>. If love is as it should be \u2013 there should be no place for fear.<\/p>\nIf someone is making you feel scared, they don\u2019t love you \u2013 they want to control you. Don\u2019t let that happen. Don\u2019t let them win.<\/p>\n
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Amarmo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios \u00e9 o mais importante<\/strong>. Isto \u00e9 fundamental. Quando aprendemos a amar-nos verdadeiramente, tornamo-nos menos propensos a ter medo e a ser controlados.<\/p>\nThe best thing, though, is that you can always decide to start practicing self-love. It\u2019s not always easy, but everyone can do it.<\/p>\n
When you start loving yourself, that\u2019s when you start getting your life back. You start living fully.<\/p>\n
No one who truly loves you will make you feel like you\u2019re not good enough. You are always good enough.<\/p>\n
Sempre que se come\u00e7a a questionar sobre porqu\u00eas<\/em> e ifs<\/em>, remember that your past doesn\u2019t define you. You\u2019re the one who gets to decide.<\/p>\n![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/beautiful-woman-looking-through-the-window.jpg\")
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You\u2019re the one who lived through all of the struggles. You can do it.<\/p>\n
Decidir sair. Decidir come\u00e7ar de novo.<\/p>\n
Decide abra\u00e7ar tudo o que \u00e9s e aprende o que \u00e9 o amor uma e outra vez at\u00e9 encontrares o verdadeiro.<\/p>\n
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