{"id":58711,"date":"2020-04-06T20:49:15","date_gmt":"2020-04-06T20:49:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=58711"},"modified":"2022-02-10T12:12:15","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T12:12:15","slug":"25-dicas-e-truques-pos-separacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/25-dicas-e-truques-pos-separacao\/","title":{"rendered":"Ele acabou comigo, o que devo fazer? 25 dicas e truques p\u00f3s-separa\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

So, your ex boyfriend broke up with you. It doesn’t matter whether this was a rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 dist\u00e2ncia<\/a>O que importa \u00e9 a rela\u00e7\u00e3o de longo prazo ou uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o que durou apenas alguns meses. per\u00edodo de desgosto<\/a> you’re going through.<\/p>\n

After a couple of days, the initial shock still hasn\u2019t passed but you have no time to lose; instead, you have to get the broken pieces of yourself back together and come up with a strategy plan.<\/p>\n

If you catch yourself thinking: \u201cHe broke up with me, what should I do?\u201d, here are the exact steps you should take.<\/p>\n

5 coisas a fazer se o teu ex-namorado acabou contigo<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1. Mant\u00e9m a tua dignidade<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Quando a sua cara-metade decide acabar com tudo e a quer fora da vida dele, o primeiro impulso que tem \u00e9 implorar-lhe que n\u00e3o o fa\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

You want to bargain with him to stay and you\u2019re even ready to emotionally blackmail him just to not leave you.<\/p>\n

At that point, you\u2019re ready to do whatever it takes just to keep him by your side.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t care whether he\u2019ll stay out of pity or out of love, as long as he doesn\u2019t walk away.<\/p>\n

Even though I\u2019m not claiming that pride should come before true emotions, I\u2019m here to beg you not to beg for anyone\u2019s love<\/a> e aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014you\u2019ll be sorry for being so desperate once the initial shock goes away.<\/p>\n

\"fotografia<\/p>\n

Instead, keep your head up and most importantly\u2014don\u2019t ruin your dignity. Don\u2019t cry, scream or make any irrational moves.<\/p>\n

Aceite a decis\u00e3o dele de acabar com a rela\u00e7\u00e3o como um adulto que \u00e9. Diga-lhe que a aceita e deseje-lhe toda a sorte.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, ele tem o direito de acabar consigo a qualquer momento.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter if he swore that he\u2019d love you forever or if he promised you the world; be grateful that he was honest enough to tell you it\u2019s over.<\/p>\n

2. Don\u2019t see it as the end of the world<\/h2>\n

\"Fotografia<\/p>\n

The number one mistake most girls make when they catch themselves thinking \u201cHe broke up with me\u201d is to see the end of the relationship as the end of the world.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, s\u00f3 pode ser uma oportunidade para um novo come\u00e7o.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014being left behind by the person who was the center of your universe is anything but easy.<\/p>\n

E ningu\u00e9m espera que o ultrapasse a ele ou \u00e0 sua separa\u00e7\u00e3o de um dia para o outro, porque isso s\u00f3 significaria que nunca amou a sua cara-metade.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, you shouldn\u2019t sentence yourself to a life of emotional suffering either. Stop with those thoughts that you\u2019ll never move on and that you\u2019ll miss this guy forever and have a little faith in yourself.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Seja otimista e determinada a ultrapass\u00e1-lo.<\/p>\n

Just because one chapter of your life is over, it doesn\u2019t make your entire existence pointless.<\/p>\n

He wasn\u2019t the only source of your happiness and strength\u2014you are.<\/p>\n

Independentemente do que possa pensar agora, vai esquec\u00ea-lo e, independentemente do que sinta neste momento, acabar\u00e1 por se sentir muito melhor.<\/p>\n

D\u00ea ao tempo a oportunidade de curar o seu desgosto<\/a>. Don\u2019t think of this as the worst thing that could ever happen to you because it actually might be the best; you probably just fail to see it right now.<\/p>\n

3. Refletir sobre a raz\u00e3o do sucedido<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Dizem que a pior coisa que pode acontecer depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 n\u00e3o conseguir encerrar o assunto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You have been dumped and you don\u2019t even know why it happened.<\/p>\n

Ele deixou de a amar? Foi algo que tu fizeste?<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 quanto tempo \u00e9 que ele pensa em deixar-vos? H\u00e1 quanto tempo vive numa mentira?<\/p>\n

Ele encontrou algu\u00e9m novo? Havia alguma coisa que pudesse ter feito para evitar que isto acontecesse e para o manter ao seu lado?<\/p>\n

These are all the questions going through your mind. Naturally, you want answers; you want an explanation you didn\u2019t get.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Well, even if you didn\u2019t see your break-up coming, it is clear that it happened for a real reason and that a lot of things went on between you two.<\/p>\n

E, em vez de pedir uma conclus\u00e3o \u00e0 sua ex, utilize este per\u00edodo p\u00f3s-separa\u00e7\u00e3o para refletir sobre toda a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o e sobre as raz\u00f5es que a levaram a chegar ao fim.<\/p>\n

Lembre-se que s\u00e3o precisos dois para dan\u00e7ar o tango e que, provavelmente, ambos fizeram alguma coisa para que o seu romance se desfizesse.<\/p>\n

Think about your mistakes but don\u2019t put all the responsibility on yourself.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, pense em tudo o que ele lhe fez durante toda a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Tente perceber o que o levou a deix\u00e1-la e se as suas raz\u00f5es eram justificadas ou se, na verdade, s\u00f3 precisava de uma desculpa para fugir.<\/p>\n

4. D\u00ea a si pr\u00f3prio algum tempo para refletir<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Em vez de estar constantemente a telefonar e enviar mensagens de texto ao seu ex<\/a>O que s\u00f3 o vai afastar ainda mais, aproveite este per\u00edodo para refletir.<\/p>\n

Think about him and your relationship and most importantly\u2014try some introspection.<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que quer da vida? A sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o estava a faz\u00ea-lo feliz ou n\u00e3o passava de um h\u00e1bito?<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que mudaria entre voc\u00eas os dois, se tivesse oportunidade? Esta separa\u00e7\u00e3o foi um conjunto natural de acontecimentos ou acha que aconteceu do nada, sem qualquer raz\u00e3o real?<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que se v\u00ea daqui a alguns anos? \u00c9 este o homem com quem se imagina a envelhecer ou apenas algu\u00e9m que quer ter ao seu lado neste momento?<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Amava-o? E amas ainda o amo<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Achas que ele te amava de verdade? Na sua opini\u00e3o, todas as emo\u00e7\u00f5es dele desapareceram ou ele ainda tem alguns sentimentos por si?<\/p>\n

Por favor, seja o mais realista poss\u00edvel ao responder a cada uma destas perguntas.<\/p>\n

Disregard what your heart wants to hear for a moment and face the truth, even if it\u2019s painful because it is the only way in which you can get to the bottom of things and see them as they really are.<\/p>\n

5. Decidir se quer o seu ex-namorado de volta<\/h2>\n

\"grande<\/p>\n

Now that you have all of this sorted out in your head, it\u2019s time to make a big decision and answer the most important question of them all: Do you want this man back or not?<\/p>\n

Are you ready to fight for him to return into your life or do you think it\u2019s better to let him go and leave him in the past, where he belongs?<\/p>\n

This is the moment in which, after all this contemplating, you\u2019ll have to decide what the direction of your journey will be from now on, whether you\u2019ll invest your entire energy in trying to make up with this guy or you\u2019ll put all of your energy into doing your best to forget about him.<\/p>\n

Embora as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es sejam um fator importante, existem outros aspectos significativos na balan\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Sim, a primeira pergunta \u00e9 se ainda o amo<\/a> (because obviously, you won\u2019t chase someone you don\u2019t care about anymore) but you need to ask yourself if this relationship is worth fighting for in the first place.<\/p>\n

A raz\u00e3o da vossa separa\u00e7\u00e3o foi algo que os dois puderam ultrapassar objetivamente ou \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que vos assombre para sempre?<\/p>\n

\u00c9 capaz de lhe perdoar o facto de a ter deixado ou tenciona continuar a guardar rancor dele enquanto estiverem juntos?<\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 que o seu romance merece uma segunda oportunidade? Objetivamente falando, pode ser reconstru\u00eddo e vale a pena tentar?<\/p>\n

10 coisas a fazer para ter o seu ex de volta<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Ele acabou comigo ser\u00e1 que vai voltar? O amor da minha vida acabou comigo.<\/p>\n

If these and similar sentences have crossed your mind and you decided you want to try to win this man back, just follow this step by step guide and he\u2019ll be yours in no time.<\/p>\n

1. Dar-lhe tempo e espa\u00e7o<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, acho que o teu primeiro impulso \u00e9 perseguir este homem o mais que puderes.<\/p>\n

Quer que o seu ex-namorado de volta<\/a> e planeia escolher formas de o tornar seu novamente.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re afraid that he\u2019ll forget about you as soon as you move away from his life.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re scared that whatever is left of his feelings for you will vanish if you\u2019re no longer in his sight.<\/p>\n

Therefore, you decide to stalk him. You think that the wisest thing you might do is remain at his feet, making sure he knows you\u2019re still there, patiently waiting, right where he left you.<\/p>\n

Errado! De facto, esta \u00e9 provavelmente a pior coisa que se pode fazer.<\/p>\n

\"grande<\/p>\n

Pelo contr\u00e1rio, \u00e9 preciso dar espa\u00e7o a este homem<\/a> e tempo. Da mesma forma que teve de refletir sobre a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o e a sua rutura, ele tamb\u00e9m tem de o fazer.<\/p>\n

After all, how can you make him be afraid of losing you if you\u2019re constantly there?<\/p>\n

\u00c9 exatamente por isso que deve simplesmente faz\u00ea-lo sentir a sua aus\u00eancia para aprender a apreciar a sua presen\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Em vez de o atacar e pedir-lhe que volte para si imediatamente, d\u00ea-lhe uma oportunidade de sentir a sua falta.<\/p>\n

Give him a chance to see how his life would have looked without you in it and let him realize that he can\u2019t make it without you.<\/p>\n

2. Regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve already heard about the famous regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s actually pretty simple; you cut your ex out of your life completely for a certain period of time (preferably three months but if you can\u2019t last that long, 30 days will work as well).<\/p>\n

The no contact rule literally means what it says\u2014you have absolutely no contact with him for this given period of time.<\/p>\n

No, you\u2019re not allowed to remain good friends, you are not allowed to check up on him, to wish him a happy birthday or a happy Valentine’s Day, to remind him of that doctor appointment you remembered he has scheduled, to tell him you miss him, to give your ex boyfriend back his stuff or to see what he\u2019s been up to.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t phone call him, don\u2019t send him text messages, don’t check his WhatsApp status and don\u2019t show up in the places you hope you might encounter him.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, mesmo que ele a procure, diga-lhe que precisa de tempo para processar as coisas e pe\u00e7a-lhe que volte a contact\u00e1-la passado um m\u00eas.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014doing this is even harder than it sounds. After all, you think you\u2019ll die without this guy in your life and you\u2019re supposed to cut him off completely.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, it has to be done. He has to see that you\u2019re not a puppy who will go running after him and that he can\u2019t have you whenever he pleases.<\/p>\n

3. Don\u2019t freak out if he starts dating<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

The worst thing that can happen when your boyfriend decides to end things with you is that he finds a new girlfriend while you\u2019re still trying to get him back and still haven\u2019t found a way to get over him.<\/p>\n

Well, if something like this occurs, it doesn\u2019t mean you should lose hope.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t think that he\u2019s replaced you just like that. As much as it hurts, do your best to look at things realistically and reconsider the fact that maybe your reaction is exactly what he wants.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a good chance that this is nothing but a rebound relationship he is using to get over you with more ease or to make you jealous.<\/p>\n

Por isso, em vez de fazer uma cena sobre o assunto, aja como uma senhora e finja ser completamente indiferente no que diz respeito a esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Please, don\u2019t become one of those crazy ex-girlfriends who go around ruining their ex\u2019s new relationships and stalking him and whomever new he\u2019s dating.<\/p>\n

Besides appearing to be a desperate lunatic, you\u2019ll also give him another reason to continue with his rebounds because he\u2019ll see that he got the feedback he wanted from you.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014the only way for this guy to stop jumping from one relationship to another is you ignoring it completely.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, voc\u00eas acabaram e ele tem o direito de ter uma nova namorada, por muito que isso a incomode e magoe.<\/p>\n

4. Tentar n\u00e3o ficar obcecada com ele<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

While you\u2019re trying to make up with your ex, he and your relationship are the only things on your mind. Well, that is a huge mistake.<\/p>\n

Em vez de ficar obcecada com este homem, use todo este tempo para trabalhar em si pr\u00f3pria.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that you should make all the changes he\u2019s asked you to but a good piece of advice would be to reconsider your behavior and personality and to turn yourself into the woman you are destined to be.<\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019d like to believe me or not, the truth is that people have a way of sensing each other\u2019s vibe and energy.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Basicamente, pode ir nenhum contacto<\/a> and pretend to be ignoring this guy but if you spend all of your time with him in your thoughts and overanalyzing his every word and move, he\u2019ll feel that and he won\u2019t be drawn to you.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, ficar obcecada com ele n\u00e3o lhe trar\u00e1 qualquer progresso e n\u00e3o a levar\u00e1 a lado nenhum.<\/p>\n

Yes, he might have left your life physically but as long as he is still the first and the last person you think of every single day, you haven\u2019t moved an inch and you\u2019re still practically in a relationship with him.<\/p>\n

5. Deixem-no vir at\u00e9 v\u00f3s<\/a> pela primeira vez<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve let some time pass by, you haven\u2019t rushed things, you processed the sentence \u201cHe broke up with me\u201d and you have thought everything through.<\/p>\n

Por isso, chegou o momento de tomar algumas medidas concretas em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao regresso deste homem \u00e0 sua vida.<\/p>\n

O melhor cen\u00e1rio poss\u00edvel seria deixar que o seu ex o contactasse pela primeira vez, em vez de o fazer ao contr\u00e1rio.<\/p>\n

Therefore, at this stage, it would be great if you could do something to provoke his reaction and to make him be the one who\u2019ll call or text you.<\/p>\n

Por exemplo, pode certificar-se de que os dois come\u00e7am a esbarrar um no outro.<\/p>\n

Dress your best and \u2018accidentally\u2019 show up somewhere you know you\u2019ll see him.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re still friends on social media networks, post something that would make him send you a DM.<\/p>\n

Of course, you won\u2019t be posting sad and pathetic status updates.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, pode tentar uma piada interna ou outra coisa que saiba que o vai provocar.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

However, the trick is to send him mixed signals, so he won\u2019t know whether this is all a coincidence and he is imagining things or you\u2019re really aiming it directly at him.<\/p>\n

Another way to provoke this man\u2019s reaction is to try and fazer-lhe ci\u00fames<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to actually find a rebound relationship but you can ask a friend to help you send this guy hints that there is someone new in your life.<\/p>\n

Tenha cuidado com isto e tenha sempre em mente que o seu objetivo final \u00e9 recuperar a sua antiga rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Therefore, you don\u2019t want your ex to think that you\u2019re fully over him and that you\u2019re in love with someone new because this could present a problem if you two get back together.<\/p>\n

Instead, make him wonder what\u2019s going on. Do something which will keep you in his head and put him in a situation where he won\u2019t be able to resist but to contact you in one way or another.<\/p>\n

6. V\u00ea-lo pessoalmente<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Assim que o seu ex se aproxima e voc\u00eas dois come\u00e7am mensagens de texto<\/a> ou a falar ao telefone, sugira-lhe que se encontrem cara a cara.<\/p>\n

First and foremost, when he sees you, he won\u2019t have the strength to act indifferent and he won\u2019t have space for his mind games he\u2019s trying to play through texting.<\/p>\n

Secondly, you\u2019ll be able to read through this man\u2019s sinais de linguagem corporal<\/a> s\u00f3 quando o vires pessoalmente.<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que ele olha para si? H\u00e1 alguma paix\u00e3o ou amor nos seus olhos?<\/p>\n

Ele senta-se ao seu lado? Abra\u00e7a-a e beija-a na face (mas perigosamente perto dos l\u00e1bios) quando se encontram?<\/p>\n

Is he trying to accidentally touch you? Does he smile when you\u2019re talking?<\/p>\n

\"fotografia<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry if he\u2019s angry or resentful\u2014it means he still has feelings for you.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, maybe he is scared to show his true emotions and acts like he couldn\u2019t care less but don\u2019t let that discourage you either.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re the one who knows this guy best so it’s your job to read between the lines and through his body language signs.<\/p>\n

Be honest with yourself and see whether he\u2019s playing you or if he is still into you.<\/p>\n

7. Mostre-lhe os seus progressos<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Don’t just hangout, see this as a chance to show this man how far you\u2019ve gotten without him.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de estar no seu melhor; vista-se como ele gosta e fa\u00e7a o mesmo com o seu cabelo e maquilhagem.<\/p>\n

No entanto, para al\u00e9m da sua apar\u00eancia, o que \u00e9 ainda mais importante \u00e9 o seu progresso intelectual e emocional.<\/p>\n

Be calm and don\u2019t make any drama if that is the thing that bothered him while you were together.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t brag but casually mention all the things you\u2019ve done regarding your self-improvement.<\/p>\n

If you traveled, accidentally mention the places you visited (but remain vague about your travel companions) or tell him about a new language you\u2019ve been learning or a hobby you\u2019ve taken up, for example.<\/p>\n

Help him realize that you\u2019re perfectly able to get along without him and make him medo de te perder<\/a> completamente.<\/p>\n

8. Assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus erros<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/h2>\n

After you\u2019re done with updating him and the small talk, it\u2019s time to start talking about your failed relationship.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry if he doesn\u2019t start the subject first and find a way to subtly bring up the past.<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t ask him to get back together with you right away but you can begin the conversation by showing him how mature you have become during this whole time you weren\u2019t together.<\/p>\n

Para come\u00e7ar, assuma os erros que cometeu na rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t lie and pretend that everything was your fault (when it clearly wasn\u2019t) just to make him feel better and to get him back to you.<\/p>\n

No entanto, mostra-lhe que tens consci\u00eancia porque \u00e9 que se foi embora<\/a> you and make sure he understands you don\u2019t plan on repeating the same wrong moves which partly led to your break-up.<\/p>\n

9. Chamar-lhe a aten\u00e7\u00e3o para as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

The next step is to call your ex out on his actions as well. Nevertheless, while you\u2019re doing this, don\u2019t let the conversation turn into an argument or a blame game.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let him sense your resentment and don\u2019t show him that you hold grudges for some things from the past.<\/p>\n

However, show him that you took some time to reflect on your entire relationship and that you\u2019re deeply hurt and broken-hearted by his actions.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014make this man realize that you\u2019re ready to forgive him this time but that it doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019ll keep on doing so if he plans on continuing with his bad behavior.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let him see this as a green light to keep on leaving you and coming back the way he pleases.<\/p>\n

I know that your ego might not allow you to express the intensity of the pain you felt during this break-up and your ex doesn\u2019t need to know all about your sleepless nights or about each tear you cried for him.<\/p>\n

However, if you don\u2019t point out at the damage he caused and if he gets the impression that you were completely unharmed by him afastar-se<\/a> from you, he\u2019ll have no trouble doing it all over again at the first sign of inconvenience.<\/p>\n

10. Criar um plano de a\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Agora que j\u00e1 resolveram tudo, podem avan\u00e7ar para um plano de a\u00e7\u00e3o concreto relativo \u00e0 vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o que, claramente, ambos desejam que seja renovada.<\/p>\n

It is more than obvious that things weren\u2019t working out in the past and your break-up is more than enough of a sign that it\u2019s time for some new ground rules.<\/p>\n

Sejam honestos um com o outro e com as coisas que vos incomodam.<\/p>\n

Decida o que quer mudar e quais as melhorias que espera alcan\u00e7ar.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014do your best to reach a compromise. Meet each other halfway and make sure this new arrangement suits you both the best.<\/p>\n

10 coisas para a ajudar a esquecer o seu ex<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Por outro lado, se decidiu deixar este homem e a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o anterior para tr\u00e1s, h\u00e1 algumas dicas e truques que a podem ajudar a esquec\u00ea-lo com mais facilidade.<\/p>\n

1. Accept that it\u2019s over<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

The worst thing that you can do when you\u2019re in the process of deixar ir<\/a> de algu\u00e9m est\u00e1 a ficar em nega\u00e7\u00e3o sobre isso.<\/p>\n

Sei que preferias n\u00e3o viver toda esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o e que queres que tudo isto seja um pesadelo do qual acordar\u00e1s na manh\u00e3 seguinte.<\/p>\n

However, as much as you hate to admit it, this is the harsh reality. And you\u2019ll just have to deal with it, sooner or later.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Por conseguinte, \u00e9 muito melhor faz\u00ea-lo agora do que passar semanas ou meses \u00e0 espera que as coisas voltem a ser como eram antes.<\/p>\n

You decided that you don\u2019t want to fight to get your ex back, which means that you\u2019re perfectly aware that you\u2019re better off without him.<\/p>\n

Por isso, mantenha-se firme na sua decis\u00e3o correcta. Pare de esperar que ele volte e pare de esperar por um milagre que nunca vir\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Accept that it\u2019s over and focus on your present and future instead of the past that you can\u2019t change, as much as you would like to.<\/p>\n

2. Give yourself enough time to grieve…<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, facing the awful reality doesn\u2019t equal magically getting over this man.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t push yourself forward and don\u2019t expect to be okay the very next day after he left your life; remember that you’re just a human being made of flesh and blood.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, tratava-se de algu\u00e9m que amava profundamente e com quem mantinha uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura.<\/p>\n

Um homem com quem provavelmente planeou um futuro, o seu amante e seu melhor amigo<\/a>Por isso, n\u00e3o seria natural esquecer que ele existiu num piscar de olhos.<\/p>\n

Therefore, please don\u2019t be ashamed of your pain.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t listen to others telling you that it’s not a big deal and that it’s about time to move on with your life and that you\u2019re taking too long to get over your ex.<\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar, lembre-se que cada um de n\u00f3s tem um ritmo diferente quando se trata de reparar o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, \u00e9 muito melhor curar-se de forma saud\u00e1vel e dar a si pr\u00f3prio tempo suficiente para se curar do que apressar-se e n\u00e3o fazer mais do que enterrar a sua bagagem emocional que, mais cedo ou mais tarde, vir\u00e1 ao seu encontro.<\/p>\n

So, please, don\u2019t repress your emotions. Don\u2019t ignore your sadness and pretend it\u2019s not there, expecting it to disappear that way.
\nEm vez disso, enfrente-a, olhe-a diretamente nos olhos e prometa a si pr\u00f3prio que a vai ultrapassar.<\/p>\n

Show your pain that you\u2019re stronger than it and that you will defeat it, one way or another.<\/p>\n

3. \u2026 but don\u2019t dwell on the pain<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t see this as an excuse to ficar na dor<\/a> forever. Don\u2019t let it define you and make you become nothing more than a dumped girlfriend.<\/p>\n

Yes, you\u2019re brokenhearted and nobody is trying to minimize your emotions.<\/p>\n

However, besides being this guy\u2019s ex-girlfriend, you\u2019re still a daughter, a sister, a friend and most importantly, a woman who has a range of other feelings besides this all-consuming pain.<\/p>\n

Nesta fase, o melhor que pode fazer por si \u00e9 marcar um encontro.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Up until this day, you\u2019re allowed to cry, scream and do nothing but think about your ex.<\/p>\n

No entanto, quando esse dia chega, ele est\u00e1 fora dos vossos pensamentos.<\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t stop thinking about him completely, at least gradually reduce the time he\u2019s allowed to have in your mind.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014you\u2019re stronger than your heart and mind. You\u2019re in charge, not the other way around.<\/p>\n

4. Aprender a perdoar<\/h2>\n

\"close<\/p>\n

Quando a pessoa a quem pens\u00e1vamos que pod\u00edamos confiar a nossa vida nos deixa pendurados, sem pensar duas vezes nas consequ\u00eancias que isso nos pode deixar, n\u00e3o ficamos apenas de cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido, sentimo-nos tamb\u00e9m tra\u00eddos e abandonados.<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 especialmente o caso se esta rutura foi precedida de casos, abusos ou uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica em geral.<\/p>\n

Naturally, you can\u2019t have positive emotions toward a man who caused you this much harm.<\/p>\n

Embora ainda possa gostar dele, o amor que sente est\u00e1 misturado com \u00f3dio, raiva e ressentimento.<\/p>\n

De facto, \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que queira vingar-se. Parte do princ\u00edpio de que tudo se resolveria se tivesse a oportunidade de se vingar deste tipo e de lhe dar a provar o seu pr\u00f3prio rem\u00e9dio.<\/p>\n

\"grande<\/p>\n

E ningu\u00e9m o culpa por isso.<\/p>\n

However, I\u2019m begging you to do your best to forgive him. Find the strength to accept your ex\u2019s apology, even if you didn\u2019t get one.<\/p>\n

Instead of stooping down to his level, be the better person and rise above him. Besides, don\u2019t forget that the best revenge is to keep on going, without ever looking back.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t do it for him\u2014do it for your own sake. Do it because it\u2019s the only way to set yourself free from the chains of everything he\u2019s done and the only way to move on for real.<\/p>\n

5. Cortar-lhe completamente o caminho<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

The next step in trying to get over your ex is kicking him out of your life for good. Cut ties with this man and make sure he realizes he\u2019ll never be welcome in your world again, not even as your good friend.<\/p>\n

A diferen\u00e7a entre quebrar todas as liga\u00e7\u00f5es e ficar sem contacto reside nos diferentes objectivos destes movimentos.<\/p>\n

When you go no contact, you\u2019re trying to win your ex back and when you cut all ties, you\u2019re doing it to make your recovery easier.<\/p>\n

Therefore, have in mind that you\u2019re not doing this to prove a point to him or to make him run back to you; you\u2019re doing it to keep him out of your sight, mind and heart.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

For starters, unfriend all of this guy’s social media profiles. The last thing you need now is to spend your days stalking him on social media and keeping yourself updated about his love life.<\/p>\n

If necessary, change your number and block him on WhatsApp. If you think that he\u2019ll be calling you, don\u2019t leave that option open.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, livre-se de tudo o que lhe possa fazer lembrar o seu ex.<\/p>\n

If you think you\u2019ll regret throwing away all of your memories, such as his clothes or gifts, ask a friend to hold on to them for you until you\u2019re ready to wear them or have them in front of you without them serving you as a painful reminder of your failed past relationship.<\/p>\n

Deixar de ouvir as can\u00e7\u00f5es que lhe est\u00e3o associadas, deixar de olhar para os actores que se parecem com ele e deixar de dar meia volta sempre que vir um carro semelhante ao dele.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, se tiverem amigos em comum, afaste-se deles tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

Sei que gosta dessas pessoas independentemente do seu ex, mas todo o seu processo de recupera\u00e7\u00e3o ser\u00e1 in\u00fatil se passar tempo com os amigos \u00edntimos ou a fam\u00edlia dele.<\/p>\n

6. Trabalhar sobre si pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

After you\u2019re done with that step, the next one is dedicated to you and your self-esteem only. Instead of wasting all of your time obsessing over your ex, use this opportunity to work on yourself.<\/p>\n

Do whatever you can to become the best possible version of yourself and to improve your self-esteem\u2014not in spite of this guy and not to prove a point to him; do it because you want to.<\/p>\n

Do it to prove to yourself that you can and will make it without him and that you don\u2019t need him to push you forward.<\/p>\n

7. Manter-se ocupado<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Most importantly, keep yourself as busy as possible. Don\u2019t hide your pain in work or study but at least in the beginning, don\u2019t leave yourself too much free time.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re bored, it is more likely that you\u2019ll start remembering your ex and start thinking about your past relationship.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, neste caso, h\u00e1 uma maior probabilidade de cometer o erro da sua vida e de se aproximar dele.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Por isso, a melhor coisa a fazer \u00e9 encontrar um novo passatempo, come\u00e7ar a aprender coisas novas ou at\u00e9 fazer horas extra no trabalho.<\/p>\n

It wouldn\u2019t be bad if you start exercising as well because that will also help you keep a healthier mind and body.<\/p>\n

Se n\u00e3o for poss\u00edvel, chame os seus amigos mais pr\u00f3ximos para sair consigo. Pe\u00e7a-lhes que n\u00e3o mencionem o seu ex e que o entretenham com outros assuntos.<\/p>\n

8. Don\u2019t jump into a new relationship\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Rela\u00e7\u00f5es de ricochete<\/a> nunca trouxe nada de bom para ningu\u00e9m. Afinal de contas, quem \u00e9 que conseguiu combater fogo com fogo?<\/p>\n

Aposto que um dos seus primeiros impulsos \u00e9 arranjar um novo namorado. Para al\u00e9m de querer fazer ci\u00fames ao seu ex, acha que um novo interesse a ajudaria a esquecer as coisas.<\/p>\n

No entanto, deixem-me dizer-vos que isso \u00e9 um erro e n\u00e3o \u00e9 a melhor forma de lidar com o vosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido.<\/p>\n

Remember that moving on is much more than jumping into a new relationship and that forcing yourself to do something you\u2019re not ready for will only deepen your wounds and make you feel even worse.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, porque \u00e9 que queres arrastar algu\u00e9m inocente para a tua confus\u00e3o? Nenhum ser humano merece servir-lhe de instrumento para esquecer o seu ex-namorado ou para o ajudar a aceitar o fim da rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n

So, instead of doing something you\u2019ll probably regret later, stay single for a couple of months and don\u2019t commit to something which might bring you even more headaches.<\/p>\n

9. \u2026 but be open to dating<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, this doesn\u2019t mean that you have to stay off all dating apps or that you are required to shut yourself off completely to the possibility of ever finding someone new.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, encontre um equil\u00edbrio entre estar aberto a encontros e n\u00e3o estar \u00e0 procura de algu\u00e9m espec\u00edfico. Parece dif\u00edcil de conseguir, certo?<\/p>\n

Bem, o truque \u00e9 n\u00e3o o rejeitar se um rapaz de quem gosta aparecer na sua vida.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 n\u00e3o deixar que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o anterior interfira com a sua nova vida e n\u00e3o permitir que a sua bagagem emocional e os traumas do passado o sobrecarreguem e o impe\u00e7am de seguir em frente.<\/p>\n

Apesar do que possa pensar agora, nem toda a gente \u00e9 como o seu ex. Nem todos os homens a v\u00e3o deixar pendurada e magoar o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o j\u00e1 ferido.<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

On the other hand, don\u2019t go actively searching for someone new and don\u2019t make it your only goal to find a new boyfriend and start your new life in a certain period of time.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be desperate for the man of your dreams to show up and don\u2019t force yourself into doing something you actually don\u2019t want to do.<\/p>\n

Para variar, relaxe o mais poss\u00edvel e deixe de pensar demasiado. Deixe-se levar pela corrente e veja at\u00e9 onde ela o leva.<\/p>\n

10. Transform\u00e1-lo numa li\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A \u00faltima coisa, mas certamente n\u00e3o a menos importante, que tem de fazer em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a este assunto \u00e9 aprender com ele. \u00c9 compreender que tudo acontece por uma raz\u00e3o e por uma causa maior.<\/p>\n

This man obviously wasn\u2019t meant to be yours because otherwise, you would have never lost him in the first place.<\/p>\n

Por isso, deve considerar-se sortuda por acabar com ele agora, a tempo, em vez de passar anos ao lado dele, para acabar sem ele.<\/p>\n

Remember that God always has a plan, that you\u2019re not always aware of. So, be thankful for all the closed doors and for all the losses because I promise you that this one will turn out to be the biggest gain of your life.<\/p>\n

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