{"id":59357,"date":"2020-04-07T20:16:31","date_gmt":"2020-04-07T20:16:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=59357"},"modified":"2022-03-18T00:25:05","modified_gmt":"2022-03-18T00:25:05","slug":"o-meu-ex-quer-ser-meu-amigo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-meu-ex-quer-ser-meu-amigo\/","title":{"rendered":"O meu ex quer ser meu amigo: Aqui est\u00e3o 9 raz\u00f5es pelas quais isso \u00e9 uma m\u00e1 ideia"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando se trata de um <\/span>ex-namorado<\/span> ou <\/span>ex-namorada<\/span>, it’s difficult to think straight sometimes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Estava numa <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica<\/span> com quem acreditava ser o seu <\/span>melhor amigo<\/span> and as much as you tried, it ultimately didn’t <\/span>exercitar-se<\/span>. E agora, de repente, parece que o vosso <\/span>o ex quer<\/span> de volta.<\/span><\/p>\n

Normalmente, quando o meu <\/span>o ex quer<\/span> to be friends after a failed romance, it’s seldom good news. <\/span><\/p>\n

As raz\u00f5es s\u00e3o quase sempre de natureza ego\u00edsta e s\u00e3o <\/span>apenas amigos<\/span> com o meu <\/span>ex-companheiro(a)<\/span> vem com muita bagagem.<\/span><\/p>\n

Est\u00e3o interessados em <\/span>reavivamento<\/span> a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica<\/span> (e <\/span>vice-versa<\/span>)? <\/span><\/p>\n

Queres mesmo acabar na <\/span>zona de amizade<\/span> de algu\u00e9m que costumava ter um <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o sexual<\/span> com? Se quiser que o seu <\/span>ex voltar<\/span>, sendo <\/span>apenas amigos<\/span> \u00e9 a pior ideia. Voc\u00eas acabaram por uma raz\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

E se o seu <\/span>o ex quer<\/span> to be friends now, it’s only going to end up hurting you all over again.<\/span><\/p>\n

E, sinceramente, ser <\/span>amigos com benef\u00edcios<\/span> nunca dura porque as emo\u00e7\u00f5es voltam a surgir e um dos parceiros apercebe-se sempre que quer <\/span>come\u00e7ar a namorar<\/span> novamente.<\/span><\/p>\n

O que precisa neste momento \u00e9 de <\/span>apoio emocional<\/span> e aderindo ao <\/span>regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/span>porque o conjunto <\/span>let’s be friends<\/span><\/i> as coisas s\u00e3o apenas um estratagema.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>10 diferen\u00e7as cruciais entre amor e paix\u00e3o<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

My Ex Wants To Be Friends \u2013 What Should I Do?<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Plain and simple \u2013 tell them no. Having your <\/span>ex-namorado<\/span> ou <\/span>ex-namorada<\/span> t\u00e3o perto de si depois de mal ter conseguido ultrapass\u00e1-los \u00e9 uma enorme bandeira vermelha.<\/span><\/p>\n

Queres sofrer <\/span>ainda mais<\/span>? O <\/span>primeira vez<\/span> Partiu-o por n\u00e3o estar a drenar o suficiente?<\/span><\/p>\n

Contacto f\u00edsico<\/span> com um <\/span>ex-companheiro(a)<\/span> you’re so desperately trying to get over diminishes your entire effort. It’s even worse if being <\/span>apenas amigos<\/span> \u00e9 a sua forma de obter o seu <\/span>ex de volta para si<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

That way, you’re deluding yourself and prolonging your healing process.<\/span><\/p>\n

O meu conselho \u00e9 que sejam fortes e mantenham a vossa decis\u00e3o. Eles j\u00e1 n\u00e3o s\u00e3o seus <\/span>outra pessoa significativa<\/span> and you don’t owe them anything.<\/span><\/p>\n

Especialistas em rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/span> advertem contra a amizade com um <\/span>ex-namorado<\/span>\/<\/span>ex-namorada<\/span> because it’s detrimental to your mental health for all the <\/span>raz\u00f5es \u00f3bvias<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Troca de casualidade <\/span><\/i>mensagens de texto<\/span><\/i> e brincadeiras giras sobre <\/span><\/i>redes sociais<\/span><\/i> might feel like things are starting to look up, but that’s not the case.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

If you called it quits, you must’ve had your reasons, why else would you\u2019ve ended it in the <\/span><\/i>primeiro lugar<\/span><\/i>? Portanto, n\u00e3o <\/span><\/i>mensagens de texto<\/span><\/i> e n\u00e3o deixar que ele te afecte atrav\u00e9s de <\/span><\/i>amigos comuns<\/span><\/i>!<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Se o seu <\/span>ex ainda<\/span> constantly contacts you, stand your ground. It’s probably just <\/span>dumper<\/span>‘s remorse (if they broke it off). <\/span><\/p>\n

You are trying so hard to move on with your life. Don’t let a past mistake get in the way of that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Portanto, se o seu ex realmente <\/span>quer ser teu amigo<\/span>Isto ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a perceber a sua verdadeira motiva\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s so exhausting constantly wondering ”<\/span>Porqu\u00ea <\/span><\/i>o meu ex quer ser meu amigo<\/span><\/i> after all the pain I went through?” <\/span><\/i>and that’s why I’m going to help you quit them once and for all.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>15 sinais de que voc\u00ea est\u00e1 num relacionamento profundamente infeliz<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

9 raz\u00f5es pelas quais deve dizer n\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Se o seu <\/span>o ex quer<\/span> to be friends, but you’ve been having a rough time getting over them, you should say no.<\/span><\/p>\n

O <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica<\/span> j\u00e1 passou claramente o seu curso e deve seguir em frente, em vez de se deixar ficar pelo passado.<\/span><\/p>\n

Here’s why this is a really bad idea that you should avoid at all costs:<\/span><\/p>\n

1. What’s their motivation?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A primeira coisa que deve perguntar a si pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 porque \u00e9 que o seu <\/span>ex-companheiro(a)<\/span> de repente quer ser amigo. Ser\u00e1 que eles sentem falta a liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/a> que j\u00e1 partilhou?<\/span><\/p>\n

Est\u00e3o arrependidos da forma como as coisas acabaram? O seu <\/span>ex-namorado<\/span>\/<\/span>ex-namorada<\/span> querem envolver-se numa <\/span>amigos com benef\u00edcios<\/span> situa\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s important to get to the bottom of their intentions before letting them back into your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Is it worth undoing the hurt you’ve endured on your way to recovery and reopening the old wounds?<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Certifique-se de que pensa realmente em todas as consequ\u00eancias poss\u00edveis antes de cometer o mesmo erro duas vezes. Ser <\/span>apenas amigos<\/span> is never as easy as you’d like to think.<\/span><\/p>\n

The longer it took you to get over them, the harder it will be to maintain a friendship. Do what’s best for you right now, not what your aching heart is telling you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Parar de pensar <\/span>\u2018\u2019Why does my ex want to be friends?\u2019<\/span><\/i>\u2019 and start taking care of your heart. One day, you’ll be thanking yourself for making this decision.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. There’s a good reason why you called it quits<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Normalmente, se o meu <\/span>o ex quer<\/span> para sermos amigos, pergunto-me o seguinte: Como \u00e9 que ele me tratou enquanto est\u00e1vamos numa <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica<\/span>? <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele era leal, atencioso e carinhoso? Era a pessoa que est\u00e1 a tentar ser agora?<\/span><\/p>\n

If things didn’t <\/span>exercitar-se<\/span> in the past, it’s highly unlikely that it’ll be any different today.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s really easy to be swept off your feet now after some time has passed and you managed to pull through in one piece. But there was also a time when it was unbearable.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Houve uma altura em que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o estava com graves dificuldades e em que se sentia desesperado e sem esperan\u00e7a.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se o seu <\/span>o ex quer ser teu amigo<\/span> now, it’s a sign that they don’t realize how difficult your recovery has been. Put yourself first for once. Do what’s right for your own needs.<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, you miss them, but are they the person you need in your life? Don’t let nostalgia blind you. Believe who they proved themselves to be, not who they are trying to be now.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>Como esquecer algu\u00e9m? O guia definitivo para seguir em frente<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

3. A transi\u00e7\u00e3o de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o para amigos \u00e9 complexa<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

There are so many little things that are going to make the transition really difficult on an emotional level. When you’re in a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica<\/span>, o <\/span>contacto f\u00edsico<\/span> \u00e9 abundante e n\u00e3o conhece limites.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mas como <\/span>apenas amigos<\/span>, you’re going to feel awkward always trying not to cross a line (that you really want to cross).<\/span><\/p>\n

The things you were able to discuss as a partner aren’t going to be the same in your friendship. <\/span><\/p>\n

You wouldn’t feel okay talking about your love life and especially hearing about their love conquests. It would be brutal.<\/span><\/p>\n

But as friends, you’d eventually have to talk about it otherwise you’d both just be avoiding a huge elephant in the room. There are many reasons why this is the ultimate bad idea.<\/span><\/p>\n

But I’m sure you’re starting to see it for yourself now as well.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 por isso que, quando o meu ex quer ser meu amigo, imagino sempre como \u00e9 que eu lidaria com essas coisas. Isso normalmente ajuda-me a tomar a decis\u00e3o certa (por mais dif\u00edcil que seja).<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Don’t tempt yourself<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Estaria a dizer sim simplesmente para obter o seu <\/span>ex voltar<\/span> em algum momento? Claro que o seu ex tem as suas pr\u00f3prias motiva\u00e7\u00f5es, mas quais s\u00e3o as suas?<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t do things that are detrimental to your progress. You’ve come too far to put yourself back in the <\/span>zona de amizade<\/span> do seu <\/span>ex-companheiro(a)<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Besides, how do you know it would be different this time around? It doesn’t really matter who initiated the break-up. The point is that it had to happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Podem ter sido os vossos <\/span>melhor amigo<\/span> e parceiro de crime em tempos, mas agora s\u00e3o um erro do qual \u00e9 preciso recuperar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estar no <\/span>zona de amizade<\/span> do seu ex \u00e9 a \u00faltima coisa que precisa na sua vida neste momento. Olhe \u00e0 sua volta. A vida est\u00e1 cheia de possibilidades e oportunidades para novos come\u00e7os.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t be your own worst enemy when it comes to your happiness. Deep down, you know what your soul needs, and it’s not your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. You’ll never get over them by being close to them<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Se o seu objetivo \u00e9 esquec\u00ea-lo, precisa de colocar o m\u00e1ximo de dist\u00e2ncia poss\u00edvel entre os dois. Nunca se curar\u00e1 completamente se o seu ex continuar a estar sempre perto de si.<\/span><\/p>\n

Being friends is the opposite of what you’re trying to accomplish here.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se o seu ex realmente <\/span>quer ser teu amigo<\/span>Isso significa que ainda se preocupam, at\u00e9 certo ponto. <\/span><\/p>\n

That’s precisely why they should understand that some healthy distance is what you need right now, not their friendship.<\/span><\/p>\n

Who knows, at some point in the distant future, you both might be in a better headspace for the possibility of a friendship. But that’s but a dream right now.<\/span><\/p>\n

Faz o que tens a fazer e mant\u00e9m a dist\u00e2ncia. Neste momento, tu \u00e9s a tua prioridade n\u00famero um.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>12 raz\u00f5es pelas quais o seu segundo amor \u00e9 o maior de todos<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

6. Queres ser amigo com benef\u00edcios?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Uma das poss\u00edveis raz\u00f5es pelas quais o seu <\/span>o ex quer ser teu amigo<\/span> \u00e9 para um <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o sexual<\/span>. Isto significa que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 compromissos nem emo\u00e7\u00f5es envolvidas.<\/span><\/p>\n

Apenas sexo, para fins hedonistas e nada mais. Consegues lidar com isso?<\/span><\/p>\n

Estaria preparada para ser a acompanhante de algu\u00e9m que j\u00e1 foi o seu parceiro amoroso? Estaria bem com o seu ex <\/span>mensagens de texto<\/span> \u00e0 uma da manh\u00e3 para uma rapidinha?<\/span><\/p>\n

I know for a fact that if my ex wants to be friends, it\u2019s highly likely to end with our clothes off.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s hard to separate your emotions and your lust, especially while you’re still fresh from the breakup. My advice is to not do this to your mind, body, and soul.<\/span><\/p>\n

You are still recuperating and you won’t be able to handle this the way you think you would. Heal first. Everything else will come later.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. You’re not a placeholder<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Talvez o seu ex esteja numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o m\u00e1 e esteja \u00e0 procura de uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional para se sentir validado e seguro. Quer mesmo ser um substituto at\u00e9 ele encontrar outra pessoa?<\/span><\/p>\n

O seu ex tem certamente outros amigos com quem pode contar nos momentos de necessidade, em vez de o incomodar. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you said yes, you would merely be filling in for someone else in the future. You’re worth so much more than that.<\/span><\/p>\n

You deserve someone who will value you while they have you. You deserve someone who won’t let you go and then procurar amizade<\/a> as if the breakup wasn’t painful enough. You deserve love in the purest form.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t let your ex take advantage of the bond you once shared. Some things are not to be messed with.<\/span><\/p>\n

8. It’s unhealthy<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

O que precisamos \u00e9 de pessoas que nos fa\u00e7am felizes e descontra\u00eddos. Pessoas que o elevem e o encorajem. <\/span>People who don’t take advantage of you and who love you for who you are.<\/span><\/p>\n

So when I hear that my ex wants to be friends, I know that it\u2019s rarely from the goodness of his heart.<\/span><\/p>\n

A tens\u00e3o da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o j\u00e1 era suficientemente m\u00e1. Mas tentar manter uma amizade com um ex que lhe causou dor n\u00e3o \u00e9 saud\u00e1vel, pura e simplesmente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your brain won’t be able to handle it and your emotions will be all over the place.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You’ll constantly be asking yourself if this is normal and it will drive you crazy.<\/span><\/p>\n

Confie nas pessoas que o apoiaram desde o in\u00edcio. Aqueles que nunca desistiram de si e que continuar\u00e3o a dar-lhe apoio e carinho.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ao ser amigo de um ex, fica a par de todas as suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es. Conseguiria lidar com o facto de o ver com outra pessoa no altar?<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>Uma cole\u00e7\u00e3o de cita\u00e7\u00f5es sobre separa\u00e7\u00f5es para curar um cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

9. You’ll never find a date with your ex always by your side<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Okay, so it’s inevitable that at some point you’ll <\/span>come\u00e7ar a namorar<\/span> again (as should you). But think about how awkward it would be for your prospective date to know you’re still close with your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

Wouldn’t that be difficult to explain? Would you even be able to explain the reasoning behind it?<\/span><\/p>\n

Moreover, your date is likely to feel threatened by your ex, as they don’t really know how serious you were and if you are completely over them in the <\/span>primeiro lugar<\/span>. Queres mesmo faz\u00ea-los passar por tudo isso?<\/span><\/p>\n

Pense no seu futuro. Como \u00e9 que ter um <\/span>ex-companheiro(a)<\/span> sempre por perto o ajudam a conseguir alguma coisa?<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It’s a constant disturbance on an emotional level and a reminder of a love that was once amazing but ended up crashing down.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you truly want to move on and get back into the dating pool, it’s time to get your ex out of the picture.<\/span><\/p>\n

One day, you’ll see how important this was. If your <\/span>ex ainda<\/span> wants to be friends once you’re both in a happy, stable relationship down the line, sure, consider it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mas, neste momento, deixe-se levar por uma nova faceta da vida, sem que o seu ex a impe\u00e7a de o fazer.<\/span><\/p>\n

Considera\u00e7\u00f5es finais<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Getting over my ex was such a complex and draining process. Emotions were overwhelming and I couldn\u2019t trust my mind. And when in the midst of all that I learned that my  <\/span>o ex quer<\/span> para sermos amigos, eu fiquei entorpecido.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 que quero mesmo que o meu  <\/span>ex voltar<\/span>? Ser\u00e1 que j\u00e1 n\u00e3o me magoaram o suficiente? Ser\u00e1 que <\/span>exercitar-se<\/span> desta vez? Porque \u00e9 que ele est\u00e1 t\u00e3o ligado a mim?<\/span><\/p>\n

There are so many questions and not enough time to process them all. One thing’s for sure though.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se o seu objetivo final \u00e9 esquecer o seu ex e seguir em frente com a sua vida, manter-se amigo n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma op\u00e7\u00e3o. Acabou de ganhar uma nova oportunidade de vida, porqu\u00ea estrag\u00e1-la?<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Pensa em todas as raz\u00f5es pelas quais correu mal. Pense em todas as l\u00e1grimas que chorou e em todas as noites que passou a pensar porque \u00e9 que tinha de doer tanto.<\/span><\/p>\n

O seu ex mudou realmente? Ou est\u00e1 apenas a deixar-se levar pela nostalgia?<\/span><\/p>\n

Be strong and stay away from your ex. Keep close to those who make life better and avoid the one you barely managed to get over. Life always works out in the end. If it still hasn’t, it just means it’s not the end!<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>Qual \u00e9 o significado do amor? 12 lados bonitos desta poderosa emo\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

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