{"id":5989,"date":"2020-04-03T07:42:08","date_gmt":"2020-04-03T07:42:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=5989"},"modified":"2021-08-11T09:44:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T09:44:25","slug":"todas-as-raparigas-ja-perderam-um-homem-narcisista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/todas-as-raparigas-ja-perderam-um-homem-narcisista\/","title":{"rendered":"Para todas as raparigas que j\u00e1 se perderam por causa de um homem narcisista"},"content":{"rendered":"

Alguma vez amaste um homem de forma t\u00e3o forte, imensa e ing\u00e9nua que pensaste que eras uma rapariga de sorte que encontrou o seu \u2018happily ever after\u2019<\/a> num s\u00f3 homem? Pois bem, eu vi.<\/p>\n

Has it ever happened to you that you loved the wrong guy and strongly believed that he\u2019s the one? Well, it did to me.<\/p>\n

Depois dele, as coisas continuaram a escapar-me por entre os dedos.<\/p>\n

Depois dele, a felicidade era algo de que s\u00f3 ouvia falar. E a tristeza veio at\u00e9 mim em ondas.<\/p>\n

Memories would just take turns and I\u2019d be overwhelmed by the emotions they\u2019d bring along. For a long time, I wondered if I would be able to grasp the meaning of my life again.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I wondered if I would ever get back to normal or if I\u2019ll ever be capable of loving again. God knows it was something that love was hundreds of miles away from me.<\/p>\n

Deus sabe que eu quase desisti. I wasn\u2019t always like this.<\/b><\/p>\n

Eu era uma daquelas mulheres felizes que estavam sempre gratas pelo que tinham.<\/p>\n

I was one of those who enjoyed her life, smiled and laughed every day, and I was one of those who\u2019d go to sleep with enthusiasm for the new day.<\/p>\n

Mas sair com um narcisista mudou-me.<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t half the person I used to be after he was done with me.<\/p>\n

O mesmo entusiasmo que tinha antes de nos encontrarmos de manh\u00e3 transformou-se agora num medo de sair da cama.<\/p>\n

A minha felicidade foi substitu\u00edda por ansiedade.<\/p>\n

For a long time, I was ashamed of letting him change me. For a long time, I was ashamed of the person I became, but mostly I was ashamed that I allowed him to get the best of me. I should\u2019ve known better.<\/p>\n

Confiei nele<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Ele fez-me confiar nele.<\/i><\/b> He did everything to convince me he\u2019s got my back and that he\u2019s my person.<\/p>\n

He made me feel like I could count on him and that he\u2019d do anything for me. He kept making promises and I always waited for those promises to be kept.<\/p>\n

Mas nunca foram. Porque ele fez-me confiar nele s\u00f3 para me poder trair<\/i><\/b> .<\/p>\n

Ele fez-me sentir segura.<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

For a while, I felt like I could call him for a rescue mission and he\u2019d come any time of the day.<\/p>\n

For a while, I thought he was my safe heaven\u2014but he was far from that. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Ele fez-me sentir segura para que eu baixasse a minha guarda. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Quando baixei a guarda, a sua miss\u00e3o estava cumprida porque eu estava absolutamente desprotegido do seu ataque. Nunca os vi a chegar.<\/p>\n

Eu amava-o.<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Permiti que algu\u00e9m que tinha um historial de rela\u00e7\u00f5es desfeitas fizesse parte da minha vida. Dei o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o, corpo e alma a um homem que n\u00e3o fazia ideia do que era o amor.<\/p>\n

Amei-o com todas as c\u00e9lulas do meu corpo e dei-lhe o meu amor de forma incondicional, irrevog\u00e1vel e desinteressada e perdi-me completamente por ele.<\/p>\n

Mas apenas porque ele convenceu-me que pode ser ensinado a amar.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

But you can\u2019t teach a narcissist to love.<\/a> It\u2019s just not in his system. Love is just an abstract word he\u2019ll never feel.<\/p>\n

Perdi-me por um homem que era incapaz de amar. <\/i><\/p>\n

Ele fez-me prisioneira do meu amor.<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Fiquei com ele porque acreditava que era por amor. Sempre acreditei no amor.<\/p>\n

I believed humans were created from two bodies and one soul and that I had found my other soul, my other half in him. But, he wasn\u2019t my soulmate.<\/p>\n

Ele era algu\u00e9m que tirava o melhor de mim. Ele era algu\u00e9m que se alimentava da minha mis\u00e9ria.<\/p>\n

Ele era algu\u00e9m que precisava que eu estivesse em baixo para se sentir bem consigo pr\u00f3prio. E eu deixei-o fazer isso comigo porque era ing\u00e9nua.<\/p>\n

Romantizei o meu sofrimento e fiz-me acreditar que era um her\u00f3i a lutar contra o amor. Mas tudo o que eu era era est\u00fapido por me ter apaixonado por um narcisista.<\/p>\n

Relacionadas: O guia definitivo para ignorar um narcisista (Spotting and The Aftermath)<\/a><\/p>\n

I lost myself to a narcissistic person…<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I stopped believing I\u2019m worthy and that I deserve to be loved.<\/p>\n

Perdi a minha confian\u00e7a. Perdi o meu valor pr\u00f3prio. Deixei que o ego\u00edsmo dele vencesse e permiti que tudo girasse \u00e0 volta dele.<\/p>\n

Deixei-o manipular-me. Nada disto foi consensual e, no entanto, aconteceu.<\/p>\n

Perdi-me.<\/em><\/p>\n

Relacionadas: Como magoar emocionalmente um homem narcisista<\/a><\/p>\n

Mas tamb\u00e9m voltei a encontrar-me.<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Passei por um inferno por causa de um homem. Eu era a melhor vers\u00e3o de mim pr\u00f3pria. Dei tudo de mim e n\u00e3o escondi nada.<\/p>\n

I wish I could say I didn\u2019t get anything out of it, but that\u2019s not how the story ended. I got a whole new life lesson out of it.<\/p>\n

I might have been a wreck for a while, but I wasn\u2019t going to allow myself to be that for the rest of my life. It\u2019d mean he won and I couldn\u2019t let that happen.<\/p>\n

Por isso, levantei-me e comecei a coser os meus peda\u00e7os rasgados, um a um. Remendei todos os buracos do meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o, um a um.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I patched every hole in my soul as well. I\u2019d leave my house with my head held high as if what he did to me was nothing.<\/p>\n

Passou por cima de mim demasiadas vezes que n\u00e3o tive outra op\u00e7\u00e3o sen\u00e3o mostrar-lhe a porta da minha vida.<\/p>\n

Por causa da forma como ele me tratava, pensei que wasn\u2019t worthy of love<\/a>. <\/b><\/p>\n

It took me a while but I realized that I am more than enough\u2014it was him who didn\u2019t deserve to be loved.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Para<\/p>\n

\"Para<\/p>\n

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