{"id":60409,"date":"2020-04-14T20:16:41","date_gmt":"2020-04-14T20:16:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=60409"},"modified":"2022-06-01T20:00:55","modified_gmt":"2022-06-01T20:00:55","slug":"as-raparigas-com-problemas-com-o-pai-gostariam-de-saber-antes-de-julgar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/as-raparigas-com-problemas-com-o-pai-gostariam-de-saber-antes-de-julgar\/","title":{"rendered":"Coisas que as raparigas com problemas com o pai gostariam que soubesses antes de as julgares"},"content":{"rendered":"

Raparigas com problemas com o pai<\/em> \u2013 a phrase we hear so often these days, if I didn’t know better, I’d be convinced it must be some new phenomena that happen to the women in modern society exclusively.<\/p>\n

Felizmente, Eu quero<\/em> saber melhor.<\/p>\n

Raparigas com problemas com o pai<\/em> \u00e9 uma express\u00e3o informal utilizada para descrever as mulheres que t\u00eam tend\u00eancia a gostar e a envolver-se em rela\u00e7\u00f5es com homens mais velhos ou com homens que agem como uma figura paternal, devido a desafios psicol\u00f3gicos resultantes de um pai ausente ou de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o anormal com o pai.<\/p>\n

And it’s existed for a very long time. The longing for a good father has been a recurring theme throughout history.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

And it’s not a surprise if you consider the importance of father figures in the past, starting from religious concepts of fatherly Gods through to the view of the father as the head of a family.<\/p>\n

So, if you thought something\u2019s utterly wrong with you, don\u2019t worry \u2013 it\u2019s something that happens to many women.<\/p>\n

It happened when you were a little girl and it’s happening now.<\/p>\n

You see your friends and their dads have beautiful relationships filled with very vocal love, hugs, and affection, thankful captions on Father’s Day…and feel so ferir<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Nunca tiveste nada disso. Na verdade, teve exatamente o oposto.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Em vez de ter algu\u00e9m que o protegesse e lhe segurasse a m\u00e3o ao longo da vida, tinha de descobrir tudo sozinho.<\/p>\n

That’s a heavy burden for the child you were and the woman you are now. You never had the attention you needed.<\/p>\n

E, no fundo, nunca deixaste de ser essa crian\u00e7a. Uma crian\u00e7a de olhos arregalados que s\u00f3 queria ser amada e cuidada.<\/p>\n

Em vez de ter um porto seguro onde nada o poderia tocar, uma pessoa que poderia ser o seu escudo, foi deixado sozinho e exposto.<\/p>\n

Cresceste sem nunca saber como estabelecer limites, cresceste com medo constante de ser abandonado por apenas ser voc\u00ea mesmo.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

What else could the child you once were have done to make her daddy leave? Your innocent child-mind convinced itself that it was your fault your daddy didn\u2019t want you.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the most painful wound, and one that shows no signs of healing.<\/p>\n

In every relationship, you crave the love you\u2019ve never received.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 queres estar seguro e ser querido por quem \u00e9s. Porque \u00e9 que isso \u00e9 pedir tanto?<\/p>\n

Having someone to have your back and protect you, isn\u2019t that what love\u2019s about?<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Em vez de um pai, tiveste um fracasso que te fez pensar que eras um fracasso.<\/p>\n

Knowing (and feeling) all of this, we can’t ignore the fact that fathers play a huge role in an adult\u2019s life and a kid’s life especialmente<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Why? Let\u2019s look up the facts first.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 provado que ter um pai envolvido que dedica tempo a ouvi-la, aparece em eventos importantes, mostra interesse na sua vida e d\u00e1-lhe apoio emocional faz com que as mulheres tenham menos probabilidades de abandonar a escola, de se envolverem em comportamentos de alto risco e em comportamentos sexuais sem restri\u00e7\u00f5es, e mais probabilidades de serem mais saud\u00e1veis, com empregos mais bem pagos e rela\u00e7\u00f5es est\u00e1veis.<\/p>\n

If you have a father like this, you’re one of the lucky ones.<\/p>\n

If you don’t, keep reading, as I assure you things don’t have to be so doomed once you understand them.<\/p>\n

It’s going to be hard either way, but knowing where you’ve come from makes a difference.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

In psychology, there’s something known as the Complexo de Electra<\/em>, which describes a period in a girl’s life from three to six years old when she subconsciously displays a form of competition with her mother for the possession of her father.<\/p>\n

This is where the tendency to compensate for the lack of a father’s attention comes from.<\/p>\n

Maybe you’ve been called clingy or needy before and you know hearing that doesn’t feel good \u2013 it feels awful.<\/p>\n

The feeling of clinginess is accompanied by a deep sense of feeling flawed and just not feeling whole – like you are missing something that other people have.<\/p>\n

Este sentimento vem muitas vezes acompanhado de uma baixa autoestima, porque se sente constantemente em falta e menos do que os outros.<\/p>\n

It’s true, you need attention, but isn’t that a normal reaction after literally being abandonado<\/em> pelos seus pr\u00f3prios pais?<\/p>\n

\"<\/p>\n

As coisas complicam-se ainda mais quando falamos de formas de chamar a aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Growing up without a father’s attention often translates later in life into an excessive need of male attention.<\/p>\n

That’s where many stereotypes arise and are affirmed and widespread in pop culture nowadays.<\/p>\n

Enquanto problemas com o pap\u00e1<\/em> n\u00e3o s\u00e3o ridicularizados nem romantizados nos livros e nos filmes, problemas da mam\u00e3<\/em><\/a> s\u00e3o muito menos mencionados e falados.<\/p>\n

I guess it’s because women traditionally identify as more vulnerable and are prone to expressing their feelings more openly and therefore admitting when they have issues, and the fact that society in general objectifies and oversexualizes women more than men.<\/p>\n

That’s why we need to break the myth of the girl with so-called grandes problemas com o pap\u00e1<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Decidi enumerar alguns estere\u00f3tipos populares que rodeiam o termo e dar uma explica\u00e7\u00e3o para esse comportamento.<\/p>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Namorar um homem mais velho<\/strong>. A coisa mais \u00f3bvia.<\/p>\n

While this is not a rule, it can happen. When younger women are seen with older men people automatically assume it’s because of some problemas s\u00e9rios com o pap\u00e1<\/em>.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s not a big surprise, honestly. Older men, unlike most younger men, are more experienced in life, and often have their life more assured both materially and emotionally.<\/p>\n

Assim, uma mulher que procura constantemente a seguran\u00e7a e que, inconscientemente, anseia por uma figura paternal, pode sentir-se atra\u00edda por homens mais velhos. Aos seus olhos, eles representam uma sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de seguran\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Inclina\u00e7\u00e3o para um comportamento sexual agressivo.<\/strong> Este \u00e9 outro grande estere\u00f3tipo que tem sido associado ao termo.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Supposedly, an inclination towards rough sex is due to the need to satisfy both her man\u2019s needs and her fear of not being good enough at satisfying a man.<\/p>\n

Para al\u00e9m disso, pode tamb\u00e9m estar relacionado com a cria\u00e7\u00e3o de uma postura defensiva em rela\u00e7\u00e3o aos homens em geral, o que resulta numa nega\u00e7\u00e3o das suas necessidades emocionais e coloca uma \u00eanfase na agressividade no comportamento geral, que tamb\u00e9m se traduz em sexo.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, pode representar um desejo de controlar algo que lhe pertence apenas porque se sente frequentemente fora de controlo noutras \u00e1reas da vida. H\u00e1 muitas raz\u00f5es poss\u00edveis e nem sempre est\u00e3o relacionadas com o quest\u00e3o.<\/em><\/p>\n

Problemas mentais (estere\u00f3tipo da namorada psicopata).<\/strong><\/p>\n

Infelizmente, os meios de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o social popularizaram este estere\u00f3tipo de uma jovem rapariga que tem problemas com o pai e algum tipo de perturba\u00e7\u00e3o da personalidade que a torna incapaz de ter rela\u00e7\u00f5es saud\u00e1veis.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

She\u2019s portrayed as a jealous girl with trust issues that goes crazy even at the slightest sign of her needs being ignored, and unfortunately that portrayal has been trending lately.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s very damaging for any woman going through this type of trauma.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not unusual for a girl with a fear of abandonment to have trust issues.<\/p>\n

Quase todas as pessoas que foram abandonadas, abusadas, enganadas ou a quem mentiram t\u00eam problemas de confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not something you can choose to stop having. It\u2019s an issue that has to be addressed and dealt with, the same way as every other.<\/p>\n

Modifica\u00e7\u00e3o corporal.<\/strong> Some people see tattoos, piercings, and other types of body modification as warning signs that a person has some type of attention problem, and often, if it’s a girl \u2013 problemas com o pap\u00e1.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

That\u2019s according to many articles, comments, forum threads, and even memes.<\/p>\n

These stereotypes are nothing but damaging to a person who\u2019s dealing with these issues.<\/p>\n

Embora seja verdade que uma pessoa tem de enfrentar os seus pr\u00f3prios problemas e medos sozinha, h\u00e1 sempre formas mais saud\u00e1veis de o fazer e as pessoas que gostam dela, como a sua cara-metade, um amigo ou um familiar, podem ajud\u00e1-la.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, como \u00e9 que uma mulher com problemas com o pai deve ser tratada numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s some dating advice for men dating a girl with some of the above described behaviors and emotional profile that could solve any potential relationship issues:<\/p>\n

Prova-lhe que existem homens bons.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Women with this type of issue might have had a few boyfriends that mimicked patterns she had in the relationship with her father and that means they probably weren\u2019t the best example of a caring man.<\/p>\n

Ela precisa de um homem que lhe mostre que pode ser bom, leal, respons\u00e1vel e capaz de compreender com as suas palavras e ac\u00e7\u00f5es. Algu\u00e9m que lhe possa dizer que ela \u00e9 necess\u00e1ria e desejada com frequ\u00eancia.<\/p>\n

D\u00eaem-lhe a aten\u00e7\u00e3o de que ela precisa.<\/strong> It\u2019s no secret she needs attention.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

That shouldn\u2019t be a problem for a man who loves his partner.<\/p>\n

Dar-lhe aten\u00e7\u00e3o e dizer palavras de afirma\u00e7\u00e3o v\u00e3o tranquiliz\u00e1-la e faz\u00ea-la sentir-se calma e segura. Fa\u00e7a por ela coisas que ela costumava fazer sozinha.<\/p>\n

Mostre-lhe que pode contar consigo.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t push her.<\/strong> Ela j\u00e1 passou por muita coisa.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Isso significa que ela pode precisar de mais tempo para come\u00e7ar a fazer coisas ou para decidir se quer fazer algo ou n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Isto inclui compromissos como o casamento.<\/p>\n

If she comes from a broken home, there’s a possibility she\u2019s scared of ending up like her parents.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the last thing she wants – it might even be triggering.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t take advantage of her<\/strong>. Don\u2019t exploit her insecurities or objectify her.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the worst thing you can do.<\/p>\n

Although it\u2019s advisable to compliment her on her looks, make sure she always knows you care for her as a person and your partner.<\/p>\n

Ela precisa de ser constantemente lembrada de que \u00e9 suficientemente boa tal como \u00e9.<\/p>\n

Informe-se sobre o assunto.<\/strong> Ler sobre os antecedentes desta quest\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\"pessoa<\/p>\n

Tente encontrar explica\u00e7\u00f5es e artigos psicol\u00f3gicos que ajudem a resolver e a compreender este tipo de traumas.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a lot to learn about human behavior and it\u2019s beneficial to any relationship out there, not just this type.<\/p>\n

Recognizing your partner’s triggers can provide a lot of understanding and lessen the fights that occur from not knowing about them.<\/p>\n

Ser paciente.<\/strong> Don\u2019t pay much attention to sudden outbursts when you know their background and rather be accepting and calm.<\/p>\n

Lutar contra a rea\u00e7\u00e3o exagerada com um comportamento agressivo \u00e9 um grande n\u00e3o. A rea\u00e7\u00e3o exagerada pode ser redireccionada com um comportamento calmo, uma cabe\u00e7a fria e apoio.<\/p>\n

\"fotografia<\/p>\n

Mostre-lhe o que \u00e9 o amor incondicional. <\/strong>A coisa mais importante de todas.<\/p>\n

Show her enough love \u2013 show her unconditional love, love without motif, without the need to prove anything or the need to fulfill expectation: just pure love.<\/p>\n

Para terminar este tema, gostaria de dizer o seguinte:<\/p>\n

If you identify and recognize yourself as one of the girls with daddy issues you probably know it\u2019s because of your complexity, your undirected passion, and stubbornness, but what you also know is that behind all of that there\u2019s a loving and deeply caring person who is deserving of a healthy partner and a fulfilled life.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Quando as quest\u00f5es s\u00e3o abordadas e a pessoa come\u00e7a a agir em conformidade, muitos dos medos e traumas anteriores come\u00e7am a desaparecer.<\/p>\n

Your condition doesn\u2019t have the power to define you as a person. <\/strong>It\u2019s part of you, but not all of you. There\u2019s much more to you than your quest\u00f5es.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

I encourage you to drop your conviction that tells you you\u2019re somehow the problema<\/em> and welcome a new conviction that tells you \u2013 you’re what you are, with or without man-made labels and that will sempre<\/em> \u00e9 mais do que suficiente.<\/p>\n

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