{"id":61061,"date":"2020-04-09T22:30:05","date_gmt":"2020-04-09T22:30:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=61061"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:21:56","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:21:56","slug":"deixar-de-esperar-um-resultado-diferente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/deixar-de-esperar-um-resultado-diferente\/","title":{"rendered":"Deixar de cometer os mesmos erros e esperar um resultado diferente"},"content":{"rendered":"

H\u00e1 uma dura verdade quando se trata de dar segundas oportunidades: Na maioria dos casos, \u00e9 completamente in\u00fatil e em v\u00e3o. Sabe porqu\u00ea?<\/p>\n

Porque por mais que se tente, as coisas acabam por acabar da mesma forma que da primeira vez.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It happens with all relationships and it\u2019s been happening to you since you can remember.<\/p>\n

However, you\u2019ve always been a believer. You had faith that your love can change the people you care for.<\/p>\n

Acreditou nas suas falsas promessas e desculpas vazias<\/a>. Pensou que, ao dar oportunidades \u00e0s pessoas, as estava a inspirar para serem melhores.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

No entanto, nenhuma das suas expectativas se concretizou. Foi o caso, nomeadamente, da sua ex.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re real with yourself, you\u2019ll admit that you\u2019ve given this man more chances than you can count.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sempre que ele estraga tudo, l\u00e1 est\u00e1 ele \u00e0 sua porta, a implorar por mais uma oportunidade.<\/p>\n

He puts effort into convincing you that he\u2019ll improve, start treating you differently, and finally become the man you deserve him to be.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, o que \u00e9 que acontece? Apesar de no fundo saberes que \u00e9 tudo mentira, de alguma forma consegues acreditar nele porque \u00e9 isso que queres.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Subconscientemente, queres ouvi-lo mentir-te. Queres voltar a confiar nele.<\/p>\n

Afinal, que outra desculpa terias para o aceitar de volta na tua vida?<\/p>\n

At first, he acts like he\u2019ll keep his promises. He pretends to be a changed man and you\u2019re relieved by the fact that you haven\u2019t made another mistake.<\/p>\n

No entanto, passado algum tempo, volta aos seus velhos h\u00e1bitos e come\u00e7a a revelar as suas verdadeiras cores.<\/p>\n

Voc\u00eas os dois acabam num c\u00edrculo intermin\u00e1vel de ele ser um idiota, tu acabares com ele, ele pedir desculpa e tu aceit\u00e1-lo de volta.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sounds familiar, right? Well, if this is something you can relate to, it\u2019s time to start worrying for your future.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Mais importante ainda, it\u2019s time to make some crucial changes if you want to save yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You see, every time you give this man another chance, you\u2019re actually giving him an opportunity to keep on ruining your life.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not giving him a shot to become better \u2013 you\u2019re giving him permission to break your heart all over again.<\/p>\n

Therefore, you can\u2019t be mad at him for using it in his favor.<\/p>\n

Yes, he\u2019s a manipulative jerk, but you\u2019re the one who is letting him be one.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019re the one continuously giving him access to your life, even though you know very well it\u2019s the worst mistake you can make. You\u2019re the one allowing him to behave this way.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

You\u2019re sending him a message that this kind of treatment is acceptable. That you\u2019re perfectly fine with him treating you like trash.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re signalling to him that there is nothing he could do to make you stop loving him.<\/p>\n

That no matter how he behaves, you\u2019ll be right there where he left you, the next time he tries coming back.<\/p>\n

Yes, he is playing with you. But you\u2019re the one who chooses to be his toy.<\/strong>  To be honest, I don\u2019t know what you think that will happen.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re making the same mistake over and over again and you\u2019re expecting a different result.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Parar de esperar<\/a> for a miracle. You won\u2019t see it. Stop waiting for this man to start appreciating all of your sacrifices.<\/p>\n

Pare de esperar que ele comece a ter em considera\u00e7\u00e3o as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es. Acima de tudo, pare de esperar que ele mude.<\/p>\n

You see, people rarely change. And even when they do, they do it for themselves \u2013 not for the sake of someone\u2019s love.<\/p>\n

Por isso, em vez de perder mais tempo precioso, tire os \u00f3culos cor-de-rosa e encare a verdade. Por mais que doa, olhe a realidade nos olhos e aceite-a finalmente.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Correndo o risco de parecer brutal, I\u2019m here to tell you to pick up the pieces of your broken dignity and get the hell out. <\/strong>Walk away and never turn back. Do it before it\u2019s too late!<\/p>\n

Because if you don\u2019t, ten years from now, you\u2019ll catch yourself in the exact same situation, still trapped in this repetitive pattern with no sign of progress and no light at the end of the tunnel.<\/p>\n

\"Deixar<\/p>\n

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There is this harsh truth when it comes to giving second chances: In most cases, it is completely pointless and in vain. You know why? Because no matter how much you try, things eventually end up the same way they did the first time. It happens with all relationships and it\u2019s been happening to you…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":61066,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29637],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-61061","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-life-hacks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29637,"label":"life hacks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Stop-Making-The-Same-Mistakes-And-Expecting-A-Different-Result.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29637,"name":"life hacks","slug":"life-hacks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29637,"taxonomy":"category","description":"When life gives you lemons - make lemonade, and allow these life hacks to remind you of your strength, potential, and the right to be happy.","parent":22911,"count":281,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29637,"category_count":281,"category_description":"When life gives you lemons - make lemonade, and allow these life hacks to remind you of your strength, potential, and the right to be happy.","cat_name":"life hacks","category_nicename":"life-hacks","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/61061","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=61061"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/61061\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/61066"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=61061"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=61061"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=61061"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}