{"id":61991,"date":"2020-04-13T09:53:21","date_gmt":"2020-04-13T09:53:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=61991"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:47:19","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:47:19","slug":"nunca-vais-seguir-em-frente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nunca-vais-seguir-em-frente\/","title":{"rendered":"Podes deix\u00e1-lo, mas sem perd\u00e3o, nunca conseguir\u00e1s seguir em frente"},"content":{"rendered":"

Desde que se separou do seu ex, tem feito tudo o que est\u00e1 ao seu alcance para o expulsar do seu sistema.<\/p>\n

You played by the rules\u2014you went no contact, cut all possible ties with him, blocked him everywhere.<\/p>\n

Not only that\u2014you even stopped talking about him to your friends, you stopped mentioning his name or listening to songs that remind you of him.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

You did everything by the book. You didn\u2019t repress your emotions, you grieved and allowed your heart to heal.<\/p>\n

You followed every piece of advice you could find. You didn\u2019t jump into new rebound relationships but you didn\u2019t put your guard up either.<\/p>\n

Deixou de esperar ele voltar<\/span><\/a>. Mataste todas as esperan\u00e7as de que voc\u00eas os dois pudessem resolver as coisas.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Nem sequer \u00e0 procura de uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/a>. You accepted that it\u2019s the end and don\u2019t obsess over all the could-have- and should-have-beens.<\/p>\n

Parece impressionante, n\u00e3o \u00e9? It seems that you let go of this man and that you\u2019re completely cured<\/strong>. Pelo menos, \u00e9 assim que as coisas devem ser.<\/p>\n

However, somehow, you are not getting the desired result. One thing is for sure\u2014you don\u2019t love him anymore.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, you know what\u2019s the problem?<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Continuas a odi\u00e1-lo<\/strong>. You want to get even and you hope that he\u2019ll suffer the same way you did.<\/p>\n

This hatred is eating you alive. It\u2019s overwhelming you the same way your love for him did.<\/strong>After all, it doesn\u2019t really matter what you feel for this guy; the point is that you\u2019re not indifferent toward him.<\/p>\n

O que importa \u00e9 que am\u00e1-lo e odi\u00e1-lo \u00e9 a mesma coisa e tem o mesmo efeito. Em ambos os casos, ele est\u00e1 presente na sua mente e no seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

In both cases, he still exists inside of you even though he is out of your life physically. Either way, you\u2019re overwhelmed by thoughts of him.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not trying to make you feel guilty about this. Who could blame you for feeling this way, after everything this jerk put you through?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m just here to ask you to forgive him because it\u2019s the only way for you to truly move on<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need to forget everything he\u2019s done but you must find the strength to get rid of this bitterness that\u2019s been killing you.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be real here\u2014you\u2019re not harming your ex in any way by staying angry at him. This man doesn\u2019t have a conscience and he couldn\u2019t care less about the way you feel.<\/p>\n

He is not ashamed of what he\u2019s done to you. In fact, he is probably out there, looking for his next victim whose life he is about to destroy.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Por conseguinte, a \u00fanica pessoa que est\u00e1 a magoar com esse \u00f3dio \u00e9 a si pr\u00f3prio. O \u00fanico que sofre as consequ\u00eancias desse rancor pesado \u00e9 voc\u00ea mesmo.<\/p>\n

Isto significa que indiretamente, este homem ainda controla a sua vida.<\/strong> Significa que ele ainda tem uma forma de a fazer infeliz e miser\u00e1vel, sem mexer um dedo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, basicamente, ele ganhou, certo? He\u2019s proven that he is so powerful that he has the ability to be present in you after so much time that he\u2019s been physically absent from your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why the only way to remove him forever is to forgive him. It\u2019s to deixar ir<\/b><\/a> do \u00f3dio, da raiva e do ressentimento da mesma forma que o deixaste ir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No, forgiving him doesn\u2019t equate to giving him a second chance. It doesn\u2019t mean applauding him for his misdeeds and it\u2019s not the green light for him to come back into your life.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Perdoar a pessoa que o magoou significa libertar-se do seu impacto de uma vez por todas. Significa deixar de lado a negatividade.<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00f3 quando conseguires perdo\u00e1-lo \u00e9 que ser\u00e1s livre. S\u00f3 ent\u00e3o todas as emo\u00e7\u00f5es que tem por ele desaparecer\u00e3o completamente.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 assim te purificar\u00e1s da sua toxicidade. S\u00f3 assim conseguir\u00e1s sair desta jaula em que ele te colocou.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014S\u00f3 quando o perdoar verdadeiramente \u00e9 que poder\u00e1 seguir em frente com a sua vida e deixar o passado para tr\u00e1s.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Podes<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Ever since you and your ex broke up, you have done everything in your power to kick him out of your system. You played by the rules\u2014you went no contact, cut all possible ties with him, blocked him everywhere. Not only that\u2014you even stopped talking about him to your friends, you stopped mentioning his name…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":62005,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-61991","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/You-Can-Let-Go-Of-Him-But-Without-Forgiveness-You\u2019ll-Never-Move-On.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/61991","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=61991"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/61991\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/62005"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=61991"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=61991"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=61991"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}